Update on cheating girlfriend

LowTorNot · 2015-12-13T21:50:28+00:00

Congrats man. Might not feel like it now, but this is great for you in the long run.

Chopin_ · 2015-12-13T21:41:06+00:00

If she wants her stuff just send it to her by a courier.

If she wants you to come for your stuff tell her that she can burn it.

She will try and get you to meet her even by "accident". If that fails she will try and manipulate your friends and family to shame you into getting back with her.

Don't listen to anyone shaming you. Don't take a chance and don't meet with her.

Watch out for false rape allegations.

Subtletorious · 2015-12-14T07:00:14+00:00

Textural analysis:

References to we, us, our etc : 4

References to you, your etc: 24

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References to herself: 92

Avicenna1 · 2015-12-14T01:16:38+00:00

Why do all girls do that testing the water shit!? Lol its like they cant keep a secret! She jokes that she cheats on u lmao i swear every girl i know, who has something to say but knows she shouldnt say it, will try to let something slip out in a half assed way.

MattyAnon · 2015-12-14T01:50:28+00:00

This girl lied about going to clubs, parties and whom she's with

This is a clear indication of cheating or at least being about to cheat. Why else would she lie about it? When things like this don't add up, there is a clear reason why not.

She had messaged over 100+ guys ...telling them she wanted to fuck , her profile listed casual sex... While I don't believe based on the evidence that anything materialized from this indiscretion

You don't believe anything materialised from asking 100+ guys for casual sex? You're kidding right?

She started to cry scream and hit me

Wow... today's women. You call her on being a cheating whore, and then she starts to hit you? Jeeeeeez.

Oh dear lord those texts... yeah, she does look BPD. BPD girls are so incredibly apologetic for their fuckups (been there, done that). And when you take them back, they get worse again. The cycles get worse and culminate in violence (for which you'll probably end up in jail for hurting her feminine fists with your man-face).

Glad you got out safe - well done.

50pluspiller · 2015-12-13T23:44:42+00:00

Okay, stop, look in the mirror, breath deep and smile. Tell yourself you are the prize and do not need drama and crazy.

Shave, get dressed, look great and get your ass somewhere you can meet people. Bar, museums, art galleries, gardens. You get the point.

You now have control of your life.

KartagoPill · 2015-12-13T21:54:29+00:00

Good job mate.

Meet up with someone new. It works everytime.

kirbymaster7491 · 2015-12-14T01:09:22+00:00

Is it weird that I fixated on how utterly horrible her spelling is?
It was giving me a headache just to read, never mind the content itself (which is about as utterly pathetic as you can get).

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-12-14T00:39:42+00:00

Document everytime she contacts you.

She will passive aggressively try to make it seem like YOU'RE the one stalking/harassing HER.

gonorealover · 2015-12-14T06:07:22+00:00

Stand your ground .

Keep your frame up.

Do. Not. Text. Her . Back.

She WILL get the law against you . They WILL side with her . DELETE her existence .

WhiteTrashKiller · 2015-12-14T01:01:47+00:00

Find a girl to plate with her name. Easier to disassociate her face with the name....

JK

Dont do this!

Ok do it but tell any of us here.

stonepimpletilists · 2015-12-13T23:16:33+00:00

Indulge me. Why delete? What was the thought process

semondemon24 · 2015-12-14T04:13:43+00:00

dude. This is so similar to what recently happened to me. I made a post about it as well.

What she texted you is sooooo similar to what I was being texted.

It seems like girls probably do feel bad, but only in that moment. Probably through empathy. But as soon as we are out of the picture, and they are back with some other alpha male, they will shift realities and get back to their old ways of being that "horrible person".

Point being...Do not be fooled again by her deceiving you. It is all just a play. Move on.

HoScience · 2015-12-13T22:44:41+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JXRN_LkCa_o

ChaletBoy · 2015-12-13T22:19:01+00:00

What were your motivations for sticking with her? Sounds like she was manipulative and disloyal from the get go and later she went full on crazy.

DailyManliness · 2015-12-14T00:18:17+00:00

Just as a note (which I'm surprised no one is mentioning), you got lucky that she left, most of the time don't kick someone out emotionally..Accept what happened, prepare, and record the kicking out (do not advertise it, check your state's recording laws)

You are extremely lucky, the fact you were angry would have been apparent if you were accused of anything which is also a huge mistake, maintain compsure always when finding out something like this, they can/will try to defend themselves by saying you're abusive instead of accepting she's a cheater

WallyHotvedt · 2015-12-14T06:52:03+00:00

If you were really blocking her you wouldn't be seeing these messages. All the way. 100% RADIO SILENCE in both directions. Your body/mind is going to fuck with you hard being denied its drug of choice. It will pass. Gym gym gym, take this shit out on the weights, channel the anger. Hit up all your friends that you dumped along the way so you could spend time with this bitch, tell them they were right. Stay busy. You got this

ETA: you can't see it yet but in time you'll smile and see that she's actually done you a solid by showing you who she really is.

MyAcctForStupidShit · 2015-12-14T08:42:01+00:00

All I read in the texts was "hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster"

Bye bitch.

Ali_s1987 · 2015-12-14T10:37:50+00:00

" I don't want to block her because her texts are so funny"

Big mistake doode...........fuck her. Block that number and forget the hoe. You dont want that kind of shit in your life.

Claude_Reborn · 2015-12-14T05:49:10+00:00

Yet another case of crazy BPD girl. Block her and protect yourself because if she falls into the wrong mood, she'll fuck your life up for shits n giggles.

Metalaggeddon · 2015-12-14T01:23:09+00:00

Restraining order. Immediately. You have to pull the trigger first, (à lot of experience with borderline disorder).

The very moment you have proof of self harm or threats, restraining order. Just, trust me.

From the text if she is borderline, she's about about to go nuclear.

rebuildingMyself · 2015-12-14T02:57:18+00:00

My god, it's uncanny how cheating crazy bitches all talk the same. My ex from A YEAR AGO is still contacting me with emails full of the same manipulative crap. How she loves me and misses me, etc.

Fortunately, she's blocked on everything. Her emails go to a special folder (just so I can read for the lolz). I'm also a few continents away from her now so if she wants to bring the crazy she'll have to learn I'm no longer in country.

BlazeItReddit · 2015-12-14T00:36:54+00:00

I too dealt with a borderline before and my man, you made the correct decision. It might not feel great at first but you are going to feel great about your decision soon.

RetiredTimeHo · 2015-12-14T05:13:11+00:00

the fact that she honestly believes she can get you back shows how much of a lowly beta chump you are in her eyes. you're literally that lowly and worthless in her eyes that she believes you would take her back.

you're nothing but a beta provider, emotional RAG to her

don't ever fuckin forget that

SupaStud · 2015-12-14T08:09:30+00:00

The best part of those screenshots is that she apologizes 1000 times for not being strong enough not to text you. Doesn't mention the cheating as something she's sorry for, great manipulation tactic.

itsbooming · 2015-12-14T14:13:59+00:00

You need to block her, those texts aren't safe for you to read. Either she is someone you still have some remnant feelings for, in which case you are putting yourself at risk - or You have moved on and reading those messages is counter productive.

But I'd like to also congrats you.

kempff · 2015-12-14T01:30:26+00:00

I miss you so mcuh...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_GIyTFl4Cb4

...incidentally, isn't it great surfing the freedom of the Red Sea in your emotional life? When we were still betas (well, a few of us were born red) this sort of thing would have us penning bittersweet guitar ballads in the dormitory stairwell moaning about oneitis.

Being able to laugh at her is freedom.

Gigandeth · 2015-12-14T01:45:17+00:00

Mate! So happy you got her out of your life. She is batshit crazy and those texts are cringy.

From now on plate girls. If they cheat it won't affect you. After all they are your girl. On the other hand of they become annoying or a possible liability you can get them out of your life.

Make sure you wrap it up. You don't want to be catching STDs as women and their reckless promiscuity are very good at spreading diseases.

DarkuSchneider · 2015-12-14T04:26:46+00:00

The last screenshot in that dog pile of guilt gleaned what shes is looking for. "I hope you can forgive me and remember me in a good way...if that doesn't happen it's fine". Do not respond. She wants acknowledgment and likely use that connection to put in more hooks to pull you back in or to get in the last punch. She knows she fucked up and is busted.

trinitys_dildo · 2015-12-14T04:30:46+00:00

A user suggested that I 'follow my gut'

I received similar advice once from a wise friend: "you're gut is a finely tuned instrument".

He was right

aherne18 · 2015-12-14T06:49:40+00:00

I think she takes you as a thirsty beta. She now ups the "I love you so much" pills by a million times, hoping you will eventually soften up. Her goal is to break you, re-assume dominance in relationship THEN end in her terms.

Mystik277 · 2015-12-14T00:17:16+00:00

Congratulations my friend. Enjoy your new life and remember they are all the same so do not rush into any new relationship.

returnofthemack2 · 2015-12-14T01:30:25+00:00

lol talk about sticking your dick in crazy

AlKanake · 2015-12-14T05:00:29+00:00

She should've invested in 2nd grade grammar

causeandcorrelation · 2015-12-13T22:36:16+00:00

Good luck. I've been told new poon is the best poon.

bleed-red · 2015-12-14T01:25:31+00:00

Stay NC, watch out for rape allegations, do not be alone with her ever.

JohnnySkidmarx · 2015-12-14T01:57:45+00:00

If you take her back, I 100% guarantee she will cheat on you. She will see you as a doormat if you take her back.

mobtek · 2015-12-14T02:00:22+00:00

Cunt gets caught, cunt whines. Never speak to this nutbag again

TheProfessor911 · 2015-12-14T03:42:52+00:00

dated a borderline/aspergers-y person. This text style reminds me of her. Dude, block the number, give it time (idk how emotional you were within this relationship), you will soon feel silly for believing she was worth you.

Once the fog clears you will see all the red flags you missed.

aazav · 2015-12-14T03:57:28+00:00

"Mentally ill" or not, people are responsible for their own actions, even though they don't want to be.

turn30left · 2015-12-14T04:09:51+00:00

Get tested for STDs. Focus on yourself. Read the TRP materials and hit the fucking gym. Next, plate some women.

LordPorker · 2015-12-14T10:37:27+00:00

Be ready for the: 'I'm pregnant' line. 'Ok babe, let's get a court approved paternity test'! ;)

PabloEscoba · 2015-12-14T12:56:53+00:00

She is sorry she got caught. She is sorry she finally lost a real man who will not put up with her horrible behaviour unlike her other spineless orbiters.

WolfenSatyr · 2015-12-14T13:44:43+00:00

Wow.

Do yourself a favor and upload your screenshots to a private Facebook album. Do this for every future text she sends. It's overkill but each upload timestamps on their servers, making it impossible to claim photoshopping.

Sdom1 · 2015-12-14T17:36:44+00:00

JESUS. Just reading those texts should make you never want to see her ever again. I shaved off a couple of IQ points looking at that.

thenemaxofredpill · 2015-12-14T17:59:22+00:00

I don't want to block her because her texts are so funny

Hamstering. Just stop, man. Don't you have something better to do? The bitch is a cheating whore. Why would you even want her text slim on your phone?

IronMeltsinmyHands · 2015-12-14T17:59:29+00:00

I imagine she thought of texting you these things while sucking of some dude's dick.

It really makes me think, when she said, 'I will never never forget you,' that what you want to be, is a unicorn. The one thing she wants but can never have.

We're trying to negotiate terms of peace with these bitches from the moment we lay eyes on them, and they're trying to do nothing but sabotage. This is called guerilla warfare, and betrayal.

Never trust women. Trusting a woman, or even thinking that she will see the 'good in you and run away from that chad,' is you willingly surrendering your own strength.

afroose · 2015-12-14T23:47:56+00:00

Those text are creepy, I had a cold feeling while reading these, watch your back this ain't funny.

Dustin_Bromain · 2015-12-15T07:03:33+00:00

Feel that OP? It's freedom. You're a free man now.

MeatCurtainRod · 2015-12-15T16:54:18+00:00

Funny how all she talks about in her apology text is how SHE FEELS and never actually owning up to anything she did. Or talking about you being the victim, and she being the aggressor. She will never learn. You are much much better off without her. Because if you break and decide to get back together, mark my words, she will blame all her bad actions on you, as her text is already implying.

LateralThinkerer · 2015-12-14T04:39:54+00:00

Read the seminal work on the Dark Triad - pay attention to the figure on page 559. This is what you're really dealing with:

"Despite their diverse origins, the personalities composing this DarkTriad share a number of features. To varying degrees, all three entail asocially malevolent character with behavior tendencies toward self-promotion, emotional coldness, duplicity, and aggressiveness."

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Delroy_Paulhus/publication/222828329_The_Dark_Triad_of_personality_Narcissism_Machiavellianism_and_psychopathy/links/02bfe50d11fcb71305000000.pdf

(Sorry...paging through the .pdf is a bit of a pain, but it's public)

Source: This sounds a lot like my ex.

_nrm · 2015-12-13T22:11:02+00:00

Dang man, proud of you.

swingsroundabouts · 2015-12-13T23:10:39+00:00

Good luck with it all.

richardleosimones · 2015-12-13T23:15:23+00:00

BPD?

Uptonogood · 2015-12-14T00:01:40+00:00

As I said once, Red Pill is nothing more than a set of tools which allows us to deal with these situations to the best way possible.

Don't ever let no one shame you for what you desire. stand up for yourself and be free.

Congrats on doing the right thing, just don't make the mistake of going back now. She WILL try to tempt you, don't give in.

J_AsapGem · 2015-12-14T01:06:04+00:00

save the text messages anything that could give you the open hand just incase she pushes rape accusation, sounds scary bro, stay strong man.

monsunland · 2015-12-14T02:09:12+00:00

Yeah but I bet she was a fantastic lay.

FascistWorldNewsMods · 2015-12-14T02:27:56+00:00

Don't forget to record any interaction you may have with her in the future.

FutureLawyer1989 · 2015-12-14T04:29:58+00:00

Bro, don't make the mistake of meeting up with her if she insists to do so. She'll find a way to make it appear that you're the bad guy.

Baylien2 · 2015-12-14T04:50:44+00:00

Dawg, that's level 100 fucking crazy there.

musclebound92 · 2015-12-14T05:02:57+00:00

Glad to see people aren't giving you shit for going through her phone and following your gut. I posted a similar story and people were up in arms over the fact that my gut proved spot on. And dude... Delete her. As in Block Her. This level of crazy gets you in trouble with the law, and I can tell you firsthand that the court will side with her over you every time. Just run Forrest, run.

thefisherman1961 · 2015-12-14T05:50:35+00:00

Update 2: http://imgur.com/a/FqqjT

Yikes. This chick is definitely crazy dude, she is all over the place. I agree with the others, she might try to pin you with false rape accusations. She did physically abuse you by hitting you so you might be able to get a restraining order.

i_took_two_red_pills · 2015-12-14T06:47:32+00:00

If she wants her stuff just send it to her by a courier.

This. Very much this. It makes your life easier and it actually is a big fuck you to her.

LonaQQ · 2015-12-14T07:45:20+00:00

Before you read this keep in mind that I'm not taking sides so please don't get this the wrong way:

I cheated on my ex 13 times and in hindsight I realized it was a way of me getting back at her for myself feeling like I'm not enough for her and basically I needed to push my ego. It is definitely an ultra wrong thing to do and she's better off without me tho I daresay she was a manipulative slut aswell and to this extent I hadn't really been such a degenerate so part of the blame I give her nevertheless whatever you do stay away from her for good. She is bad for you and I'm sorry you had to learn this the hard way.

MightyTaint · 2015-12-14T09:53:21+00:00

Sorry you got burned OP. Be careful though, a woman that will lie and cheat like that, then try to manipulate and go down the emotional deep end, could very easily try to fuck your life up. She might show up then claim you hit her. She might run your name through the mud. She might claim rape. Hopefully it will all blow over, but prepare for the worst and do not expose yourself to any more fall out than you're already experiencing. Do not ever talk to her again, and particularly do not ever be alone with her again.

Noctis_Cloud · 2015-12-14T14:00:59+00:00

A sure sign of a lying bitch is when they put those stupid ellipsis in a text. Trust me on this one.

bourbonhipster · 2015-12-14T15:09:01+00:00

upvote for the screen captures.

If theres one thing thats even less attractive than pathetic manipulative texts trying to claw back into a place they no longer belong, is the heavy use of broke-ass grammar in the process.

nantucketghost · 2015-12-14T15:16:35+00:00

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libbylibertarian · 2015-12-14T16:51:32+00:00

Be advised, you dodged a cannon ball. She sounds so much like my ex wife I had to stop reading.

Foctopus · 2015-12-14T18:39:20+00:00

I went through something similar recently. Meditate, and start flirting with every girl you deem attractive. You'll stop caring about this bitch real quick, and then it won't be long till you get your first plate. Assuming you're already in decent shape.

luciansolaris · 2015-12-14T18:55:15+00:00

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HeatseekingLogicBomb · 2015-12-14T19:55:26+00:00

This girl has threatened hurting herself in the past and shows signs of Borderline I need to distance myself and create a healthy supportive environment.

Make sure to protect yourself. Don't delete anything where she has threatened you (by proxy of hurting herself) or in any other way. Hamsters, if they cannot rationalize a desired win-back, or do not desire it, will seek other ways of recompense. She may try to ruin your life entirely. She may only just try to ruin your social standing among mutual acquaintances, if you have them. Regardless, she will seek revenge.

Stythe · 2015-12-14T20:13:25+00:00

Are you sure bro? She's so sorry. Lol.

This reminds me if my ex. Not so much with the cheating but with the abuse and excuses of mental illness. What helped me with NC and turning the tabkes was that when I told her not to contact me because I was focusing in myself and that I would contact her when I was ready, she ignored that and did it anyway. That showed me how little she cared about my wants and needs, which helped me to move past it all.

All your ex is doing is being selfish because she lost the stability she had. But shes totally disrespecting your needs right now, so screw her. Now you get to do your thing and improve and if in the future you want to LTR someone else, you'll be able to do it from a much better position.

nalewacz · 2015-12-14T21:04:41+00:00

Regarding your second update:

My ex was sending similiar things when I had broken with her. I did it becasue she was constantly contacting with her ex and was hiding it from me. And you know what ? She stopped and begun being ice cold when she met somebody else. It is all an act. Well I was her nice beta. I'm glad that I opened my eyes.

forevereighty9 · 2015-12-14T22:42:01+00:00

Good for you man. She will go ape shit. Mine did when I kicked her ass out of my house. It's only up from here.

bea5tly · 2015-12-15T00:05:24+00:00

Its really scary how close this girl texts you and how crazy she is to my ex 8 years ago. LOL Just be happy its over and you learned your lesson bro.

shadowz151 · 2015-12-15T01:47:19+00:00

Publish her okcupid account info on every forum

4delicioustreats · 2015-12-15T04:58:00+00:00

is there any possible scenario or set of amends that she could do to restore your trust/relationship. It maybe extreme, but i wonder if there is anything? extreme example: She wins $1M and signs it over to you and has a anal included threesome with her sister. etc etc.

I often read these things that say "never" take her back and look at it from an economic sense, she did -1M points, but what if she could bring +2M to the table somehow?

either way i'm not saying to hold your breath, just curious about the edge cases.

4delicioustreats · 2015-12-15T04:59:04+00:00

is there any possible scenario or set of amends that she could do to restore your trust/relationship. It maybe extreme, but i wonder if there is anything? extreme example: She wins $1M and signs it over to you and has a anal included threesome with her sister. etc etc.

I often read these things that say "never" take her back and look at it from an economic sense, she did -1M points, but what if she could bring +2M to the table somehow?

either way i'm not saying to hold your breath, just curious about the edge cases.

4delicioustreats · 2015-12-15T04:59:28+00:00

is there any possible scenario or set of amends that she could do to restore your trust/relationship. It maybe extreme, but i wonder if there is anything? extreme example: She wins $1M and signs it over to you and has a anal included threesome with her sister. etc etc.

I often read these things that say "never" take her back and look at it from an economic sense, she did -1M points, but what if she could bring +2M to the table somehow?

either way i'm not saying to hold your breath, just curious about the edge cases.

4delicioustreats · 2015-12-15T05:00:17+00:00

is there any possible scenario or set of amends that she could do to restore your trust/relationship. It maybe extreme, but i wonder if there is anything? extreme example: She wins $1M and signs it over to you and has a anal included threesome with her sister. etc etc.

I often read these things that say "never" take her back and look at it from an economic sense, she did -1M points, but what if she could bring +2M to the table somehow?

either way i'm not saying to hold your breath, just curious about the edge cases.

katanin · 2015-12-19T13:30:59+00:00

Save those texts and all her correspondence with you, just in case she pulls some crazy shit or cries foul. You'll have written records to back you up. Borderline type girls are unpredictable and can do insane hurtful stuff when you least expect it. Don't be paranoid about it, but do cover your ass. These are the girls who make false rape accusations and injure themselves and then claim that you did it.

Why? Because you were a fucking man about it and didn't allow yourself to be manipulated. This is probably an unusual experience for her and she might act out accordingly.

katanin · 2015-12-19T13:31:55+00:00

Save those texts and all her correspondence with you, just in case she pulls some crazy shit or cries foul. You'll have written records to back you up. Borderline type girls are unpredictable and can do insane hurtful stuff when you least expect it. Don't be paranoid about it, but do cover your ass. These are the girls who make false rape accusations and injure themselves and then claim that you did it.

Why? Because you were a fucking man about it and didn't allow yourself to be manipulated. This is probably an unusual experience for her and she might act out accordingly.

--SLUT_SLAYER-- · 2016-02-12T23:13:34+00:00

Sounds alot like my ex. The begging is pathetic. It's like watching a snake head writhing after its been cut off.

The silver lining is better than chipotle. You can go stick your Wang in other vaginas!!!

There are hot girls running around today that you are going to fuck but you don't even know they exist yet. That's enough to put a spring in anyone's step. I'm actually excited for you.

sweetleef · 2015-12-14T06:10:35+00:00

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destinypallooker · 2015-12-14T14:21:12+00:00

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What is this?

lobo9474 · 2015-12-14T18:11:38+00:00

i recently did something similar. I got really close with this girl I met over OKC and we've been talking almost everyday since mid June. Last week we both decided to break from all contact so we can move on and live our lives with this desperate fantasy looming over. Its actually a relief. One day she will just be a faded memory.

RedPillDan · 2015-12-15T08:46:47+00:00

You did the right thing brother. You will be fine.

Suravira · 2015-12-13T21:54:59+00:00

her during our breakup and turns out she did in fact cheat

If you are broken up this is not cheating, though breaking up to not feel guilt is a different issue and when you break up with someone this is a great hint that they are not LTR material, thus you should never get back together with someone who breaks up with you.

In regards to your girlfriend maintain NC, go meet people, but ignore any attempts by her to worm her way back into your life, and gl OP.

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drummmmergeorge · 2015-12-15T15:08:31+00:00

Japanese man, stop dating white trash . Japanese girls are loyal

RedDeadlift · 2015-12-13T22:31:45+00:00

chipotle costs $12 again

That's some expensive Chipotle! My go-to meal is a double chicken bowl and I think it's around $10.

drqxx · 2015-12-14T01:10:48+00:00

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(If they hit you they are cancer)

~~Once you moved on and had others: You can go back and make her a plate. However you must bang other girls first.~~

Title	Update on cheating girlfriend
Author	S3aMoo5e
Upvotes	286
Comments	197
Date	December 13, 2015 9:26 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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