Why is there so much hate and negativity here and on MRP sub?

UEMcGill · 2021-09-07T11:55:20+00:00

Why is this not one big fucking concern troll?

ragnar_Daneskjold · 2021-09-07T19:56:49+00:00

I don't completely understand why, but it has absolutely helped me since I've been here.

All of these are just words on the internet. None of it is real. If it's hurtful to someone, that all in their own imagination.

If a man does feel hurt by it, it's probably valuable for that guy to learn to cope with the existence of those bad mean words until they don't hurt him anymore.

BigBoiBahmani · 2021-09-08T03:30:22+00:00

When I was a newfag, and when I started learning about this I did what everyone with a braincell should do, that is, go read the Sidebar like everyone told you to before putting up your origin story like we are some therapist.

A year and half ago I was told by Rian and weakandsensitive that I was retard. And I told them that I am a new guy, I give myself permission to be a retard in the process of unbrainwashing myself. They banned me until I showed them I did the work.

Most of the time guys come here with their panties up their assholes asking for validation of their choices or non-choices. They need to be ridiculed.

All the knowledge anyone needs is in the Sidebar already. Yes all of it.

There is no reason to come here being a frilly frolly chick being a damsel in distress if you cant help yourself. That is the first lesson anyone here should learn before they start rambling about "hypergamy".

i-am-the-prize · 2021-09-08T20:20:05+00:00

i remember working along side some linux admins 25 yrs ago. an intern (female) was hired as a favor to some exec at the company (his neice) because "she like computers". when she asked, via all-group email blast an inconsequential typical noob question and was told via email reply all "RTFM" she cried. and complained. an almost got the lead sysadmin canned. 'hurtful words won't be tolerated' was the edict from on high. regardless of their utility it seems.

OP: are you a 19 yr old girl playing in a mans world?

there is rightful frustration in the EC and OG's seeing the same question over and over and by all for the dudes looking for shortcuts.

most importantly - the language is useful, as ragnar points out.

threekindsoflucky · 2021-09-07T05:55:29+00:00

Often the right advice for new players to the game is 'lift, sidebar, STFU'.

When you've been here a while, you see the same type of people post the same sort of things. The answers are there, but they think they are somehow unique, and their story is different.

Otherwise it's all just a test of frame. If you let some internet retard upset you, then what chance do you have of coping with people in your life?

This isn't a safe space to coddle men. You're going to get all types of people. It's up to you to take the value and leave the rest.

Taipanshimshon · 2021-09-07T04:55:05+00:00

Sometimes it's the ugly stuff that gets through to people when they are in the right place for it.

Also.

Men thrive in conflict. Even on line

God_I_Love_Men · 2021-09-07T05:58:23+00:00

The only time I've really seen guys give other people shit is when they are clearly not doing the readings, lifting, and expecting cheat codes to get their wife to bang them.

Honestly, it is kinda refreshing to have someone tell you that that you aren't owning your shit and that you're being a pussy or in someone else's frame, etc.

Praexology · 2021-09-07T17:29:17+00:00

Do you know what the purpose of STFU is?

It isn't to literally talk less, or to not upset people.

STFU is to prevent the new guys (and the old guys, honestly) from saying something that either

1) Gets them into a situation they don't want to be in.

Or

2) To prevent them from word vomiting to the point of betraying their frame, and/or D.E.E.Ring.

Are you scared of fitness tests? Why do you want to prevent the new guys the opportunity to pass the first fitness tests they may ever pass. It's CBT.

I know someone will try to clown this post and make a joke out of it just further proving the point.

Just because you can predict someone clowning on your bad opinion, doesn't mean you're right. It means you're setting yourself up to ego protect like a little kid.

PutABabyInThat · 2021-09-07T16:43:04+00:00

It just makes the sub look bad

To whom?

Or practice what you preach and STFU and not waste your precious time. You can’t tell me taking the time to comment “faggot pussy” under someone’s post isn’t a waste of your time and theirs.

What do you think this place is? Do you think we're doing this for you?

man_in_the_world · 2021-09-07T10:07:46+00:00

The purpose is to drive away those who don't have the grit to succeed here, so as not to waste our time and effort (or theirs).

muzzy_W0e · 2021-09-07T09:08:00+00:00

Getting the flaws pointed out on your Bill Burr post triggered you enough to make this, huh?

oobertas · 2021-09-07T14:44:44+00:00

WHY THE FUCK DO YOU CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OR DO?

Is there a lesson in any of this?

business_-_travel · 2021-09-07T06:31:39+00:00

Your post is flawed.

Take a look through all of the posts on this sub over the last 6~ months. The guys that get good, solid advice provide the reader with important info on their situation, read more here. When you read a post that has good feedback, it usually stems from guys showing us what they have been working on (i.e. sidebar material) and their personal stats (i.e. height, weight, bf%, lifts). These guys get better advice compared to a guy like this.

If you are new around the MRP area and you haven't bothered to actually read through the rules, posting guidelines, and the general FAQ in the sidebar, you deserve to get shit on. What you don't understand about MRP is that it is completely different from TRP. MRP is about doing work on yourself, while TRP is generally around whining about women and why life is unfair. If a guy can't show us that he is attempting to unfuck his life, the regulars around him will shit on him until he actually provides us with info to give constructed feedback on.

Nodeal_reddit · 2021-09-08T12:15:30+00:00

Most of these faggot comments seem like they come from guys play-acting how they think “real men” talk and act, but I suspect these people have never had real men in their lives to model off of. This sub wasn’t like this 6-7 years ago when I first stumbled across it. There were standards (e.g. read the side bar!), accountability, and “tough love”, but not the autistic knee-jerk and low effort “faggot pussy” comments posts are flooded with today.

Just look at your own life experiences. I bet you know from experience that the biggest loud-mouth shit talkers are always the least competent try-hards just desperately trying to fit in with a group. I assume the same here. If it’s not the case, then a lot of people appear to go out of their way to make it seem so.

Ephriel · 2021-09-07T12:53:31+00:00

A lot of guys here are larping as the chad jocko who was fucking their crush in highschool because they have unresolved issues. You have to remember that naturals and chads never needed this type of thing. Between that and the whole anger phase, a lot of guys over correct.

There’s tons of good to be had in these communities, tons of knowledge to be had and lessons to learn. At the end of the day, be happy in who you are, but not where you are. Always keep reaching for the next step and improving.

pikapikachiu · 2021-09-08T02:41:43+00:00

While it started out with good intentions (i.e. read up what is already there and work on the basics before anything else), I agree it has become quite a toxic "let's beatdown on the new guy"/"demonstrate superiority" most of the time these days.

Really successful men I've met in real life have never sought conflict out when there is nothing to gain or to defend. They're usually polite and if they're not willing to help, they're just unavailable. Picking fights is usually reserved for those who feel like they still need to prove themselves.

oooKenshiooo · 2021-09-07T14:19:35+00:00

The point about MRP is that respect is not freely given. It is earned.

This is done to provide you with an accurate measure of how much you actually suck. Because let's face it - you do. And the more seasoned users on this board can tell from your writing alone.

We don't hand out the emotional equivalent of painkillers to make you feel less awfull. We tell you what works and then leave it to you to actually do it. And if you do anything but putting in the work, you will get shat on.

nantucketghost · 2021-09-08T03:13:26+00:00

I see it as tough love. Your best bud will just tell you like it is.

Amazing women aren’t born, they’re made by you. If you’re having trouble it is because you’re not in charge.

mrpthrowa · 2021-09-09T08:00:59+00:00

Then reality is that if you cannot deal with some hurtful words on the internet, you have no business dealing with the world, much less a shrewd woman.

Plus all the tough words you see are just cutting through the bullshit, bullshit like this concern troll.

The world is a big lonely place for men. There is no place for feefees. Nobody gives a fuck about you. Deal with it.

ilove702 · 2021-09-07T15:34:07+00:00

I went through basic training. It makes sense to me if you think internet words are mean you have not seen shit. You gotta break someone down before you can build em up. My internal critic calls myself a f***t when I step up to the bar and consider bitching out.

Tyred_Biggums · 2021-09-07T16:26:20+00:00

I'm a little teapot short and stout

Here is my handle; here is my spout

When I get all steamed up

Hear me shout

"Tip me over

and pour me out!"

HornsOfApathy · 2021-09-07T12:03:11+00:00

Everyone wasn't meant to suceed here. Some say the success rate is about 5-10% at best. Its been that way since the beginning of man. Only the strongest make it, and only a few percentage of men can be great.

If we spent our time trying to save the pussies with hurt feelings, we would be distracted from the ones who can butch up and do the work... Instead of whining, like this post.

InChargeMan · 2021-09-07T15:05:04+00:00

Teapot

bob--the--man · 2021-09-07T06:42:49+00:00

I can't agree with you at all... MRP is not a safe space for men to cry into each other's arms. This space is made for men that want to fix their shitty lives, but in order to do so, they have to do the work. I came to MRP over four years back and was told something along the lines like this; "STFU, sidebar, and lift heavy. Once you get the basics down and have done some work, you can then ask a question on your journey" - overall scope. If you don't like it? Cool. Leave.

For me? Once I started unfucking my life and getting things done on my end, was when I started to get good feedback from the guys around MRP. That's the overall point of OYS. As you start down your journey of owning your shit, others will see flaws, have opinions, or suggestions on your MAP. There is a ton of value around AskMRP & MRP, but you have to do the work on yourself before you get any of it from others who feel worthy that you deserve it. Hell, even just mentioning your age, weight, and height will give you more credibility on this sub compared to a long-ass post about some post-wall cunt and how harpy she is. Do you get it?

mr4kino · 2021-09-08T12:00:46+00:00

Because lots of them are passive-agressive or cluster Bs and they use this subreddit as a way to "help" others.

AlohaMaui808 · 2021-09-07T16:36:13+00:00

Because if you make a shitty post that I bother to read (God only knows why, I was hoping for value if it was in the main sub, hoping for entertainment if it's here) and then when I find out it was shit and I wasted my time, I'm going to shit on you for making a shitty post.

Shit rolls downhill, as they say in the military.

What threekindsoflucky said is on point.

If you can't take a little pounding without your pussy getting all achy, maybe you'd best keep your pussy off the internet instead of scheduling a 24/7 digital train to be run on it by retards

thisisme0007 · 2021-09-07T11:59:32+00:00

People have handed you the keys to the universe and you have been here over two years and you consider yourself new to the material and are still "working on " your ego.

The only way left for you to be helped is to be slapped senseless and until technology advances words on reddit are the only way to do that.

SBIII · 2021-09-08T17:31:20+00:00

If you walk into a prison shower room, dressed as one of the Village People, with a sign on your back saying "rape me", what do you think is going to happen?

BLACKMUSLIMCHAD · 2021-09-07T11:15:16+00:00

i like that these guys are straight forward, no time wasting and dont GAF

slaphappy77 · 2021-09-27T06:53:46+00:00

Basically you are a whinny baby and need to stop whining and do the work . Read stuff . Change yourself for the better.

Perhaps if you STFU (stop whining like a baby) and read the sidebar you could help yourself?

I'm no expert but I found this place . Read everything I could find and I'm now happy with my sex life in my marriage.

My wife is also happier .

I do agree that this place has gone down hill a bit lately though.

Im not sure if it's because the old guard has moved on or if I'm just over it now because I got what I needed from it .

Part of me keeps wanting to come here and drop my 2 cents to help the gents ... Lest I can do.

But usually I read the top question and leave...

Anyway if you read this far congratulations you have won a STFU and read the SIDEBAR .

WAAITT · 2021-10-01T18:42:43+00:00

I was just banned from /r/marriedredpill . The side bar is where the value is, (which they say) the rest of the content posts are weak. The red pill is the truth, it's for everybody. MRP the subreddit is not for everyone. Sounds like it's not for you. I myself was invited out. Maybe I'll get lucky and they'll ban me from here. Fuck'em.

Title	Why is there so much hate and negativity here and on MRP sub?
Author	TrenGod37
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Date	September 7, 2021 4:39 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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