Are We Dating the Same Guy?

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ApprehensiveJuice890 · 2026-08-05T17:51:27+00:00

By not giving a fuck. Lmao.

Uncle2Drew · 2026-08-05T18:11:49+00:00

You don’t want the girls that are in those groups anyway. Trust me

Steameffekt · 2026-08-05T17:56:30+00:00

Approaching in person

Lopsided_Task1213 · 2026-08-05T18:03:13+00:00

This was ten years ago, but two of my friends who were always clearly the best looking when we were in our 30s, most in shape, and with the best hair/beards ended up getting featured in that group. It’s funny how I would talk about how hard it was to get any traction at all with online dating, and they would just clam up and not talk to me about it. They were both kinda geeky too with not very good game or personalities. That was kinda when I gave up on women for a while. Don’t remember how I heard, but another friend somehow mentioned they were featured on that group but both refused to talk about it with me. One guy is still single at 43, the other settled down with a 6 or 7.

Zelanor · 2026-08-05T19:17:51+00:00

I had a girl lie about me saying I drugged her. I received a message from a stranger cussing me out. Reached out to her instantly and she removed it. People are crazy.

Samphilbags · 2026-08-05T19:42:24+00:00

Some girls avoid men who are posted there, and other women will approach men who are posted there.

No loser guy who gets no women will be posted there. If a woman posted you there, not only did she "want" you, but her feelings were invested so much that she took time out of her day to discuss you.

When I found out I was posted there, I shared it with all of my IG followers and laughed about it lol

OneBigBrickOfDust · 2026-08-05T18:26:14+00:00

I had a friend that was posted all over it, with loads of comments.

Literally nobody ever said anything about it, and he continued to move.

His entire business was put on blast and its doing great.

WOWSOWHAT · 2026-08-05T20:31:24+00:00

Dont underestimate The amount of curious women who will still reach out after seeing you posted….

visarmy · 2026-08-05T18:57:43+00:00

Lmao so they have a group where they figure out if the guy is dating? Apparently dating means exclusivity now?

Specific_Delay_460 · 2026-08-05T20:21:57+00:00

Don’t worry about it. If anything, your dating life is improved if you have a reputation as a bit of cad. Obviously if someone accuses you of something awful you should take action to minimize reputational harm but too many men get spooked by the mere existence of these sites.

Novel-Classroom5802 · 2026-08-05T22:31:35+00:00

Those groups are psychotic and should be banned. Every man needs to know they exist

bennie_thejet30 · 2026-08-05T19:12:25+00:00

lol what women don’t understand about themselves is that they don’t care how many women a man dates. They just want to be the ones chosen.

ProFriendZoner · 2026-08-05T21:25:40+00:00

A local Facebook page had someone ask if a local hotel was good for family or a "problem spot". The naysayers came out and said "stay away".

Funny thing about that is that none of them had actually stayed in the hotel.

I have. Numerous times. For various reasons in November, December, January, and February of this year.

Nice, clean, no problems anywhere.

So take it with a grain of salt. Most haven't had experience with whoever the topic d'jour is.

GirthBrooks270 · 2026-08-05T22:30:30+00:00

I was posted in one last year by a FWB, another FWB from the same city sent me screenshots. Continued hooking up with both so it didn't change anything. Had a few middle aged women in the comments saying "run girl, he looks like a douchebag" and hating on my manbun 🤣🤣

Edit: I dealt with it by ignoring it. The girl that posted it never mentioned it to me and the girl that sent it to me didn't even comment on it. Live your life, go after the women you want and don't let the possibility of being posted in the group stop you from using apps.

funguy8892 · 2026-08-05T19:48:39+00:00

These groups are problematic, but thankfully there are sane women out there who see these groups for what they are. 95% of the stuff on them is just bad-mouthing if not outright made up nonsense.

Your best bet is to befriend women who can scout out those groups and warn you if you got posted.

Osiris_Raphious · 2026-08-06T01:17:09+00:00

Do not use the apps... they are a cancer on society and prey on men.... they are not social media for dating, they are a for profit exploitative psychological manipulation using addictive tactics and gamified techniques to try and get men to pay money for services. But the outcome is only guaranteed if the real woman lieks you, not with how much you spent.

You have better success at going out now and beign upfront and respectful then you have the weeks of swiping and chatting with women who are gettign spammed with same attention. Its all very dystopian if you really look into it.

tajbinjohn · 2026-08-05T18:48:24+00:00

From what I've seen a lot of women will straight up dog pile on a crazy poster if she posts for an insane reason. If you don't have multiple baby moms, credible abuse allegations, or have horrible texting behaviors then you're good typically.

Discopotatoz · 2026-08-05T19:22:34+00:00

What I think is being missed in this thread is women's propensity to lie about their experience with you. Women are never going to paint a fair or accurate picture of what occurred and If you ghosted her or did anything resembling a pump and dump , expect to be put on blast in the worst possible way. I've had my work and businesses called out directly and blatant lies told about my character. If you enjoy notoriety this can be good, but overall it's not great if you have a main girl that doesn't want to see all this drama dredged up. This happened to me several times on these groups and I'm not a deadbeat nor deserving of my dating market reputation getting tarnished due to my sexual exploits that were at the time completely consensual.

You have some recourse If you get posted. If you fill out a copyright infringement complaint with Facebook, they may eventually take down the post but by the time they do, the damage will have been done. There are guides out there. Just Google it.

You can also report them on the dating app where they screenshotted your pictures as that is generally not allowed by the terms of service as far as I remember.

Rude_Stretch537 · 2026-08-05T17:54:38+00:00

Huh?

iMagZz · 2026-08-05T18:26:04+00:00

What?

New_Banana3858 · 2026-08-05T20:07:04+00:00

Londonliving007 · 2026-08-06T04:48:09+00:00

If you want to date multiple women tell them. They will either be okay with it or not. Date the ones they are okay with it. You’ll be VERY surprised at is many will be OK with it and appreciate the honesty AND you shouldn’t date the ones who aren’t. Simples.

Ill-Cap-6517 · 2026-08-06T12:09:24+00:00

Not giving a fuck is horrible advice, because women won't listen to you nor listen to reason. Yes, if she goes on a date with you she is very likely to either don't know about the page or ignore it, but your pool of available women noticeably shrinks and you won't be told a reason.... this is it.

Guys here are throwing out the "people will take it seriously if you take it seriously" but that's just dumb. People will take it seriously because they don't know you and based on that information will avoid you.

Today an uninterested party can ruin your reputation without even interacting with you and there is not much you can do. But not reacting to this isn't "alpha" move, It's inaction and cowardice masked behind tough words.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-08-05T19:18:26+00:00

Just treat women well and don't give a fuck about these groups.

ArkhamBureaucrat · 2026-08-05T18:16:49+00:00

Not surprised. This has been going on for years now. If you aren't part of the 1-5% of guys you aren't going anywhere.

WebNew9978 · 2026-08-05T18:03:53+00:00

Luckily that’s something I don’t have to worry about. Cause I’ve never been on a date. ba-dum tss

Bull_Bound_Co · 2026-08-05T20:59:17+00:00

Being on there would just be added social proof unless it’s very damaging and even then women chase guys in prison. There’s a reason all these women are chasing the same guys they like it. I even bet if they look you up and find nothing it’s a bit disappointing.

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-08-05T22:31:54+00:00

So many people out there it’s not gonna matter

Kylearean · 2026-08-06T02:31:19+00:00

Honestly, a lot of women simply don't care. That site is for insecure women who want to lock a man down.

FrozenPie21 · 2026-08-06T04:10:06+00:00

Honestly those pages get dudes more chicks

PsychedelicZebra25 · 2026-08-06T05:14:52+00:00

4 time award winner - I had a post of me about how I had multiple hinge profiles, I would invite girls over for wine, and used AI photos… it had 0 impact on my dating

dkod066 · 2026-08-06T05:51:26+00:00

I know a guy who was on it. It's like free promotion in some senses. Some women yes will be disgusted seeing a guy there but trust me there are women who like bad boys and want to take a bite of the forbidden fruit. As they say "no publicity is bad publicity"

Reeelfantasy · 2026-08-06T06:47:46+00:00

Epstein group

Khower · 2026-08-05T23:10:28+00:00

Oh man I love those groups. Me and my ex would troll for tea. We found out one of my buddies was cheating on his wife on there before anyone else did lol

tilldeathdoiparty · 2026-08-05T18:34:18+00:00

The only guys I know off that have been posted were definitely doing women dirty, playing them and lying.

But if you are vetting them properly, you should be able to weed out someone who is obsessed with others opinions online with some pretty simple questions.

In reality, it actually benefits guys, because then women know others are dating that guy, so there’s an instinct to ‘win’, or they are women way outside what you’re looking for, probably with blue hair, and a nose piercing (iykyk)

minnesota420 · 2026-08-05T18:36:53+00:00

I consider it a badge of honor. If you’re not out there shopping around and comparing plans, then you’re stuck with the same ol rate. If you switch to Geico, you might save a couple hundred.

Pureevil1992 · 2026-08-05T20:26:58+00:00

If you get caught on there just admit to it lol, lucky you. I bet whatever girl catches you will just want you even more.

DankOfThrones · 2026-08-05T17:59:03+00:00

I feel like the only way you end up on the page is if you do something that deserves being posted, like being a creep or doing something similar.

In the seduction community, if you’re learning the right material and applying it correctly, that shouldn’t be an issue.

autodidacticasaurus · 2026-08-05T20:24:38+00:00

Just be a good guy and be honest with those you're dating.

Flaming_S_Word · 2026-08-05T21:25:21+00:00

oorrrrr - you could try TALKing about your intentions and betray the illusion that she's the only girl you're dating. Maybe you don't need to deceive her to get her in your bed. EDIT: pronoun typo.

Title	Are We Dating the Same Guy?
Author	Shabba5K
Upvotes	56
Comments	82
Date	August 5, 2026 5:37 PM UTC (3 days ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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