Could we all be less attractive than we think?

seduction-ModTeam · 2024-07-27T18:48:35+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

MouseAware809 · 2024-07-26T21:41:04+00:00

All being attractive does, is attract someone to you. Once you open your mouth, that feeling of attraction, can fade.... fast.

ohropax · 2024-07-27T00:49:08+00:00

Most men overrate themselves

MrAnonPoster · 2024-07-27T00:37:09+00:00

Most posters here are delusional about their attractiveness level.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-07-26T22:51:06+00:00

Hell no!, every one of us is MORE attractive than we think because those of us that are heterosexual do not judge men through a woman's lens, hence can't see ourselves objectively. Keep in mind actual reality is different than what the internet says it is.

I have gotten in my own way too many times when I was younger because I didn't understand why a girl "out of my league" would be interested.

JustNefariousness625 · 2024-07-27T01:01:32+00:00

I always say post pic( no homo) but they never do so we really can’t help 🤷‍♂️

ZenoGeno · 2024-07-26T22:25:22+00:00

We're all on the bell curve, it's just that being average these days is not gonna be enough.

James_Cruse · 2024-07-27T09:32:48+00:00

Because being attractive (as a man) //=// Being Seductive.

Most guys don’t have a problem being attractive, many are attractive enough - but they aren’t seductive (usually because they’re too tense/nervous & logical for women to find seductive or charming).

I know plenty of physically handsome, tall & successful guys that struggle with women (because they’re simply too logical and unseductive).

shathecomedian · 2024-07-27T11:06:27+00:00

It’s possible, I recently got a rough comparison when a coworker thought I looked like a new hire that was coming in, this man was like a 3 solid 3 going from the pic

RavenDancer · 2024-07-27T11:44:42+00:00

I mean let’s be real if you’re in here you’re probably mid at most lol (and same)

SharingTaylor · 2024-07-27T03:13:47+00:00

As a Hotwife, I have found almost all of the men I have talked to or met consider themselves attractive. The ones that don’t claim to be attractive are generally the best looking.

Realistic-Song6075 · 2024-07-26T22:09:57+00:00

At 31, I'm having Braces and deem myself visually very unattractive at the moment. However, I felt an urge to approach a girl last week, it went super well, I got addicted, and I'm killing it now 😅 I'm pulling girls that I'd have zero chance of getting matched with on dating apps.

One would imagine that smiling and saying hi with fucking braces and a receding hairline shouldn't be attractive right? Wrong. It has to be all about the confidence and energy you exude.

Feeling-Aspect916 · 2024-07-26T22:09:19+00:00

There are levels to attractiveness. There’s a difference between being cute or handsome, and being sexy

ToxicM1ndfulness · 2024-07-27T07:27:44+00:00

I hope not, i rate myself a 5 out of 10

levelboss · 2024-07-27T09:07:17+00:00

If you are attractive , you know you are attractive.

The confidence that comes from it is what helps me the most! Ofc ig it’s possible for people to have this kind of playful cockyness / confidence without having internalized and knowing that they are attractive but it’s a lot harder without the positive reinforcement that comes from it

AlTiSsS · 2024-07-27T09:44:45+00:00

Everyone is just a different shape, size and color of monkey

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-07-27T11:51:31+00:00

I gauge my attractiveness on how receptive women are to me in daily life and its all good.

New_Rain_5389 · 2024-07-27T03:52:41+00:00

Legit attractive guy here. I don't even like using that word but, basically, if you was attractive, girls would go out of their way to let you know

In my life:

1) been catcalled from cars by groups of girls

2) had women stick their hand between my thighs on multiple occassions

3) had girls straight up tell me sober to take me back to my place or theirs and have sex

4) "we should hook up sometime" so many times Ive forgotten

5) girls bought me things or offer to give me things like a car

6) been stalked and photographed in public, had a girl stand there on the corner and just smile at me like a deer

7) had girls go through 5-6 of my friends to get contact information such as my landline or LinkedIn just to get at me

8) be out with friends and some dude gets up to pee and his girl tells me "i want you to fuck me." similar situation multiple times

9) ive never asked a woman out in my life, nor have i worked a real job

CharmingRejector · 2024-07-27T12:13:42+00:00

I'm constantly being hit on by women far outside what I consider "my league." Also I'm being hit on by women far younger than I thought I'd ever be attractive for. So, you tell me!

Moreover, when I'm in a happy mood, and care free, it instantly becomes way easier to talk to women, get instant make-outs, speak with them on the street, make out with them on the town square, etc. I mean, ridiculous things for most me. Things most men don't think is possible. I have don, and I still do, those things. And I'm trying to tell peeps that it's all about your energy, how you get into that state, where you can just look at a woman innocently, and enjoy her beauty, and she'll just burst out laughing, then come over, and you'll be making out in seconds.

I did this yesterday. I was in a pretty good mood. I'd just gotten a date with someone on the phone, and then I just looked at the dance floor, and caught the eye of some girl dancing with another man. She started looking at me, and I kinda looked at her, and then she burst out laughing, and came right over. Omg. Such a nice moment. I was just enjoying her beauty. And then that.

dobbs1997 · 2024-07-27T00:22:56+00:00

yeah they’re still looking for advice….maaaaaybe cause being physically attractive isn’t a magic pill for all your issues in dating lol contrary to popular belief

Terrible-Winter-8316 · 2024-07-26T21:10:53+00:00

OLD will tell you the truth

Only_Hedgehog6297 · 2024-07-27T07:26:49+00:00

We are 20% more attractive to other ppl than we think we are/see in the mirror — warmth, confidence, personality, charisma are key https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-math-behind-beauty-wh_n_114023

cougomdd · 2024-07-27T08:50:07+00:00

I read an article that explained that we are generally 20% more attractive than we think.

GymBroTRT · 2024-07-27T11:04:09+00:00

I think way more men suffer delusions of inadequacy than delusions of grandeur.

CypherMX · 2024-07-27T12:08:49+00:00

The word "attraction" is misused. When you say you are attractive, you and I will understand that differently. I could think you look good, while you might mean that you are average looking but charming. There's so many things missed in translation.

Good looking is not the same as attractive, also not the same as interesting or seductive. There are more variables at play. When most guys say they are attractive, they mean one of those, and you can't tell unless they elaborate. I think they mean good-looking.

This is plausible because i do see lots of good-looking guys out and about constantly. So much so that i am starting to doubt the % of fat, short men that are thrown around. I'm 5'10'' and half the guys I see outside are taller than me, reasonably well put together.

Being attractive is different, though. It's your charisma and energy. Being interesting means how much you stand out and have a hard to read presence. Women can call this being mysterious, too. Being seductive is all about raw sex-appeal. Women have sexy men stereotypes. We sometimes call them Chads and Tyrones, but it goes far beyond that.

Dramatic_Addition_68 · 2024-07-27T12:30:50+00:00

We’d never know

jjboy91 · 2024-07-27T12:36:09+00:00

I never attracted anyone by being myself so yeah

Reinstateswordduels · 2024-07-27T14:29:29+00:00

I’m definitely good-looking, I get compliments on my looks pretty frequently, but I wasn’t until my mid-to-late 20s when I outgrew the baby face, figured out my personal style and got in shape.

I didn’t develop the confidence that comes with growing up good-looking so it doesn’t help that much🤷‍♂️. Being physically attractive as a guy can help you get in the door but it isn’t the key.

cloudedburst7 · 2024-07-27T18:45:59+00:00

Absolutely. A lot of guys think they’re way cuter than they are. But there’s probably just as many that think they’re uglier than they truly are too. Just work on things you can control like working out and haircuts/nice clothing and work with what you have naturally.

Much-Anywhere-940 · 2024-07-27T04:35:03+00:00

I'd say 3% of males in western countries are physically attractive. So probably? Women it's 15%.

Northern EU it's more like 25% males and 30% females.

Feeling-Aspect916 · 2024-07-26T21:35:44+00:00

I have an easy time attracting women online and at clubs but I fumble most of them

Feeling-Aspect916 · 2024-07-26T21:55:21+00:00

Women are turned off by autism

Feeling-Aspect916 · 2024-07-26T21:57:06+00:00

There’s attractive, and then there’s hot/sexy. Most people asking for help aren’t the latter

Feeling-Aspect916 · 2024-07-26T22:44:38+00:00

There are levels to attractiveness. The guys who coast off their looks are either “sexy” or very masculine

burncushlikewood · 2024-07-27T05:25:08+00:00

So generally humans underestimate their own attractiveness, there's a term used in the bodybuilding community called body dysmorphia, people work out and think their bodies are ugly, we see ourselves everyday in the mirror and get used to our look so it's hard for us to rate attractiveness like a person who just saw us for the first time. Have you ever heard your own voice? We immediately hate it, while others love it

AzizLiIGHT · 2024-07-26T22:39:44+00:00

Personality contributes far more to overall attractiveness than physical features. At the end of the day, we all want to connect with somebody on a deeper level than just ass, tits and cock, (not a rule, but generally true)

for_shopper_army · 2024-07-26T22:50:52+00:00

So, then, must I get a burlap sac for my head?

PrinceDestin · 2024-07-27T01:31:30+00:00

Possibly but I’m still getting my tribe so I’m good

ConjunctEon · 2024-07-27T03:22:17+00:00

I’m handsome as hell!

Title	Could we all be less attractive than we think?
Author	Cramer4President
Upvotes	61
Comments	75
Date	July 26, 2024 8:55 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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