So 8 days ago a random girl approached me and said something….interesting to me. What did she mean? What should I have done?

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CareerAdviceThrowMe · 2022-09-11T03:16:56+00:00

Definitely hitting on you dude

Butter-85 · 2022-09-11T03:32:50+00:00

Yes they were hitting on you! I don’t think you fucked it up in any way - you were just in shock lol. You could have said - thanks, I like your face too - and smiled. Let things go from there. Just be open to it going forward.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-09-11T03:47:40+00:00

What tragedy happened in your life that created such low self-esteem and this persecution complex?

autmed · 2022-09-11T06:31:35+00:00

Flirting actions

Remember the “Hot Ape” Acronym.

Humor: Use humor or is using humor and laugh.

Open Body posture: Watch for open arms

Touch: shoulder < upper back < forearm < hand

Attention: is putting extra attention

Personal Space: it’s closer than normal

Eye Contact: #1 sign of liking someone.

Think_History_5682 · 2022-09-11T05:30:28+00:00

This means they want to engage you in a Kung fu battle.

What you should've done is Kame-Hame-Haaaa'd her right through the cafeteria wall.

This exact scenario happened 2 weeks ago at Costco in the frozen food section... I drop kicked a bag of frozen chicken wings to her face.

Stop being a dum dum please.

rudedesign4899 · 2022-09-11T08:43:56+00:00

Since the other girl mentioned the "..and your face" part the girl who complimented your outfit have liked you enough to talk with her friends about it. It's a compliment and maybe she could have a crush on you or just find you interesting. Definately someone I'd reccommend you trying to talk with again if she seemed allright. And there you go, your dad is correct. This is your time from now & forwards. Just be yourself and look open enough to be talked with and smile sometimes. A smile is golden in my opinion and who would not like to talk with someone who seems like a happy person.

incognito3107 · 2022-09-11T07:21:47+00:00

Yeah, it was typical casual approach by girls. It's ok to be shocked in such situations, it's not like it was destined to escalate immediately anyways. If you like the girl back, next time you can say something like "Thanks, yours are not bad either. Wanna eat with me?"

HanEyeAm · 2022-09-11T05:45:37+00:00

Look, we don't know and you'll probably never know. She may have been crushing on you from afar, but since you don't know them, it seems unlikely.

They could have been mean-girl pranking you to get off on your confusion.

They could have been just practicing lines on you, a hapless and random guy. No harm intended, and what they said may be genuine. Hard to tell.

So all that to say, don't get too wrapped up in it. Maybe take it as a compliment, but I'd be more inclined to take it as a random unknown. If you see the woman again, respond to her in a way that a teen idol might react to a complementary fan. "Hey, that was a really nice thing you said the other day" or similar. And leave it at that. I wouldn't even say thanks, because you don't know if it was actually a compliment. Just comment on what she said, and see if it leads to a conversation. And it might not, and it's okay, because you are not thirsty for that gal and know there are other options.

Also, I suggest that your therapist should stop commenting on your looks. If you've been here for any amount of time, you know that a mediocre-looking guy can come across as attractive and attract women if they do all the things like dressing well, having good hygiene, have some confidence, and all the other stuff.

creativedave73 · 2022-09-11T07:54:37+00:00

Definitely hitting on you. I was just like you in high school. Had a lot of insecurities and fears. Worked with the best looking girl in school and hardly said a word to her. So many missed opportunities in my younger years.

When a girl approaches you with a compliment, look her directly in the eye and have a conversation with her. You could have said anything. What was on your shirt? If it was a band, you could have asked her, "Do you like --?" Or if it was a polo shirt, "it's the buttons, am I right?"

Regarding your face. "So, you're saying I look okay? I should cancel the appointment with the plastic surgeon?"

Don't be afraid to talk to girls. The more you do it, the better you get. You might not think you're attractive, but you are. You're automatically attractive because you're a guy.

Do you have friends or siblings who are really good with girls? You should ask them for advice. I didn't think any girl would want to go out with me, so I never asked my friends for advice.

As a Dad to a teenage daughter, I can tell you that high school girls are just as insecure. You think in high school that the girls are so above you and unapproachable, but really they are easy to talk to and win over.

Amikatey · 2022-09-11T11:16:48+00:00

(I was just wearing a boring blue and black shirt, no logos or designs or anything special.) I know it's ok to suck at first with the opposite sex and be as weirdly innocent as possible but the truth is that. It wasn't the shirt that look good. It was you that look good. To be clear here they were just trying to say "hey we want you to talk to us Incase you were doubhting or think we will reject you we wount," which was why the freind though it would be cool to brashly tell you " and your face too" as you get to understand women better you begin to know how to push stuff forward but Incase this happens next time, don't be scared to carry the Convo and be warm. And give your own quota and then escalate on them . If need be. Most girls wount do all the work, they have done alot already by that bold move. You'll get better with practice man.

lonelyassfemale · 2022-09-11T12:34:29+00:00

Either they do think you’re cute and really like you or they’re just fucking with you. No I’m between really.

Quantum_Mind · 2022-09-11T12:52:06+00:00

Girls just want to have fun 😊 have fun with them! It doesn't mean you will always get lucky, but it is the best way to their heart ❤️

lifecitizen · 2022-09-11T14:08:34+00:00

Are you waiting for girls to say “I love you” for you to register a hint?

Talktomeifyouneed2 · 2022-09-11T05:28:48+00:00

High schoolers

Snoo-50214 · 2022-09-11T08:12:09+00:00

They were just playing around, but also probably do think you’re cute. You didn’t do anything wrong, just find a way to follow up and throw some little flirty energy back their way.

Citizen_Graves · 2022-09-11T08:41:05+00:00

Yes. Yes, they were hitting on you. Get your confidence together and start enjoying all those girls who appreciate your cute face.

Bret_Abderahmen · 2022-09-11T11:29:27+00:00

Shit how the tables turned

BullyBumble · 2022-09-11T18:28:20+00:00

Lmao wtfffffffffff

In chick language she said “I’m really into you. Like, for real.”

She’s prob still interested.

rwalsh138 · 2022-09-12T00:11:33+00:00

When a woman says she likes your shirt, she’s really saying, “ I like how you look. You look good.”

Last time a women gave me an aggressive comment like that, I put my arm right around her neck and took her inside the concert venue, and we spend the rest of the night together. Ended up sleeping together.

If a women is aggressive with you, she is basically telling you that it’s ok to be aggressive with her too.

Sweetcorncakes · 2022-09-12T08:35:08+00:00

Bro next time be wittier and tease them back. Smh you got lead by the nose.

SwimComfortable7465 · 2022-09-11T04:18:36+00:00

Honestly it sounds like they were just playing games and nothing much could happen. Enjoy it and don't think to much about it.

Air-mech · 2022-09-11T13:58:54+00:00

“Thank you, my name is _______. What’s your name?” Always show appreciation for compliments and more will come. They were wanting to get to know you. Reach back

nocomply001 · 2022-09-11T07:31:44+00:00

Yes, they’ve been stalking you. Get their socials, connect and DM. Wish I had that back in the day

animal-mother · 2022-09-11T06:12:36+00:00

Raises the question, not begs.

puma085 · 2022-09-11T07:45:34+00:00

Could be either hitting on you or playing games. I was never able to find that out when I was a young man many years ago.

I had many weird encounters in my youth that did not made any sense at all to me at all. Once random girl on the street approached me and that her friend wants something from me. That is the literal translation of what she said in German and in german this slang word is used to signalise possible intrest in a person.

Another time a random girl asked me on the street if I want to f**k

In both cases I just walked away without saying anything. It just felt too weird at the moment and I do not wanted to say anything.

I can just say if this happens again to me do not make my mistake. Use this instances as chance to practise to talk to girls.

Just do not take it serious what they are saying because you never know what this is about. Just talk to them and see how they react.

No matter if what if they are just pranking you or if they are serious it is a good practise for talking to girls.

OriginalPostrSociety · 2022-09-11T08:57:54+00:00

If that’s not hitting on you then what is? Are you expecting them to strip naked and start morning your name seductively before you know if they are hitting on you ?

CaterpillarThriller · 2022-09-11T12:21:29+00:00

get their number dude.

ShaidarHaran2 · 2022-09-11T14:07:13+00:00

It takes a while to realize you're worth a damn to the opposite gender. It's just part of growing up. And looks aren't everything, especially in person and not on apps, there's energy, vibes, pheromones, being around friends etc.

SDdude81 · 2022-09-11T15:19:51+00:00

Hey, I've had a few girls say they liked my shirt a few times in my life. Then they said I had a face like an ogre.

sparklingwinepapi92 · 2022-09-11T16:23:36+00:00

It could either be them hitting on you, or it could have been a dare from one of her friends (y'all are still in high school, that kinda shit is more common during that time).

IkoIkonoclast · 2022-09-11T17:47:30+00:00

I've had this happen to me several times recently, I have been approached by a woman in her 20's who complimented my shirt and general looks. I'm 65+, I doubt they were hitting on me. I just accepted the compliment and felt pretty good about it.

bandsupjay · 2022-09-11T22:07:56+00:00

Nah u aint fuck up the interaction dude thats normal. Its okay to be awkward like that cause u literally didnt know. Its not like you can never talk to them again lol, you literally can. To me it looks like they actually do like you so ur straight. Maybe next time you see them again start up a convo. We’re our worst critics though. Try accepting and loving the way you look no matter what cause you’re the only person u got. Good luck bro

MStafford2056 · 2022-09-11T22:30:12+00:00

Go find her and tell her you like her shirt and face too

depressing_user_name · 2022-09-11T18:57:01+00:00

At least you didn't do what I did in a similar situation, which is say nothing and walk away, then continue to pretend they don't exist every time I saw them.

Title	So 8 days ago a random girl approached me and said something….interesting to me. What did she mean? What should I have done?
Author	SwaggyAkula
Upvotes	186
Comments	97
Date	September 11, 2022 3:12 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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