How can I (M22) ask her (F21) to shave down there? [recovered]

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Confidenceisbetter · 2022-08-21T10:07:56+00:00

Tell her exactly this, that you don’t mind her having pubes but you’d like to go down on her. If that is something she wants too you’d prefer if she shaved that day as you don’t want hair in your mouth. Then it’s still her decision if getting oral is important enough for her to shave or not.

incognito3107 · 2022-08-21T09:37:13+00:00

"I want to go down on you, can you shave there cleanly for me?"

You can play some word games, but really, we should be able to be straight clear in our relations.

rumblingtummy29 · 2022-08-21T10:54:57+00:00

Just say, I wanna eat you out can you shave so I don’t get hair in my mouth or something

nooshnoosh36 · 2022-08-21T14:00:03+00:00

Think there’s a little more to unwrap here. Seems like you’re asking this question because your girl is sensitive. Also, from your comments it seems like you’re a bit naive.

Don’t be so straightforward about her needing to shave for oral. That’ll explode in your face. To be honest, you’re making an assumption that all women want a man bare down there. That hasn’t been my experience. Some women think it looks weird if it’s bare, and prefer some hair. So instead of your self-centered perspective, take a caring approach and ask your partner how they would prefer your pubes. And actually listen and discuss it for a minute. Keep it light hearted and acknowledge what she says. Hopefully, she will then ask what your preference is and you can tell her that a shaved pussy makes you salivate. If she doesn’t ask, tell her you like a shaved pussy.

Don’t do the whole ultimatum thing where she needs to shave for you to go down on her. Def blow up in your face. Shit, you don’t even know if she wants you to go down on her.

Most_Refrigerator_60 · 2022-08-21T11:28:58+00:00

Grow a beard!

Most_Refrigerator_60 · 2022-08-21T14:04:45+00:00

Am I the only weird motherfucker that grew up watching Dad’s shitty 80s porn on VHS and am now massively turned on by hair down there!

DigLucky3112 · 2022-08-21T09:36:04+00:00

This first bit should be in r/funny i can only imagine the responses you got!

You should be real gentle and say that she doesn't have to but you think it would be really sexy if she shaved down there!

garlopf · 2022-08-21T10:04:04+00:00

How about you suggest to shave together? I can recommend Veet hair removal cream 😁

GeorgeKaplanIsReal · 2022-08-21T11:45:18+00:00

As your about to go down on her, blare ‘welcome to the jungle’

Jay-Ames · 2022-08-21T14:17:14+00:00

"I would find it so hot if you would trim it like this down there".

madcunt2250 · 2022-08-21T11:52:21+00:00

Stop being a bitch and go down on her. Prove to her you don't care either way then it makes it easier to convince her to keep it shaven

Just because you consider trimmed pubes to be the ideal doesn't mean some else feels the same.

Adventurous-Ask-1474 · 2022-08-21T15:04:42+00:00

“Can you cut the grass on the field so we can play”

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-08-21T15:06:20+00:00

modern problems lol im 40 years old when i was 20 almost no girl shaved at all

Pheasantluvr69 · 2022-08-21T15:46:03+00:00

“Could you shave your pussy for me”

meltboro · 2022-08-21T16:42:00+00:00

Toxic responses on reddit? I dont believe it…

Idk hair doesnt bother me, you could approach as something that turns you on and accept it as an occasional nice gesture. Some people have very strong opinions on control over their body hair so this could be a touchy subject

cloudpatterns · 2022-08-21T17:26:43+00:00

I also enjoy giving oral more if she’s shaved, but pubes don’t grow on her clit, so I never have to “lick pubes” even if my GF hasn’t shaved at all. Shaving just gives me more bonus area to lick.

If you really like this girl, I would try to get excited about her pussy as-is. And go down on her as-is. Then you can say, “I love doing this with you. How do you feel about shaving? I think it would be so hot.”

That way it’s all 100% positive. Your wording sounds a little judge-y... I understand it’s a preference of yours (and mine!), but there’s nothing fundamentally unclean about her choosing not to shave. If you come at it from this angle, she’ll feel that and it will feel BAD. That’s a turn-off, which is not what you want.

Find a way to make it positive, and I think the only way to get there is to actually accept her as she is right now.

thedukejck · 2022-08-21T12:54:12+00:00

Don’t, accept the beauty as it is.

Kundalini-Electric · 2022-08-21T15:13:09+00:00

Who'd have thought you'd receive toxic responses from Women of Reddit. Women-oriented subs tend to have a lot of bitter femcels on.

Baggiiii · 2022-08-21T12:00:56+00:00

how i did it was, one day during foreplay i said ‘i just shaved, feel super clean and neat down there and i’m sure you’d like it too, and u don’t have to have hair in your month no more’

mmmxmiaa · 2022-08-21T10:49:26+00:00

I would make it sexy, like tell her you’d like to help her shave then lick her pussy and make her cum. Get some shaving oil or cream and as your shaving her tell her all the things you’re going to do to her pretty pussy once you’re done and how you can hardly wait. It’s not a huge deal to tell her but this way makes it less about hey Pune hair is kind of ick but more like hey wouldn’t this be a nice change and I find you so sexy

AmberWaves80 · 2022-08-21T12:17:23+00:00

Where did anyone say anything toxic on your other posts. You can find a way to ask nicely. I mean, I would dump anyone who did, but maybe she’s open to it.

d_pock_chope_bruh · 2022-08-21T11:15:11+00:00

Ask her if she wouldn't mind at least letting you vacuum or something...or be like "I already flossed this morning". Lighten the mood, and then gently stroke her ego and vagina and then caress her gently, suggesting she shave man

epimpstyle · 2022-08-21T10:50:31+00:00

This is the consequence of watching too many porn videos....

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-08-21T13:01:03+00:00

Proceed with caution If its a virgin.

A hair trimming machine can cut down pubic hair without pain or infections at the hair roots, unlike shaving or waxing.

Well, start oral play, improve your oral game, then playfully propose trimming her soshe can get more pleasure. After a few tries, ass eating should be on menu, which basically puts waxing at the top of priorities.

Not many girls stay virgin after tasting the pleasures of a well trained tongue. Lucky girl found the best kind of partner.

Vinegar_Tits_9 · 2022-08-21T09:37:15+00:00

Her body, her choice. You don’t have to go down on her if you don’t want to either 🤷‍♀️

DeJuanBallard · 2022-08-21T17:33:31+00:00

Say it once, if she refuses, leave

lonelyWalkAlone · 2022-08-21T11:33:33+00:00

Btw they don't shave there, they wax it, it's cleaner and leaves the area soft and healthy

booniedog1 · 2022-08-21T09:26:49+00:00

Sounds like a good problem to have. I just turned 26, am a virgin myself and can’t even find a woman to come back to my $1600/mo apartment, let alone order her to shave her public hairs!!! Lol

Vinegar_Tits_9 · 2022-08-21T09:17:18+00:00

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Most_Refrigerator_60 · 2022-08-21T14:48:24+00:00

Yes this!

roaphaen · 2022-08-21T15:41:36+00:00

I took a girl into the bathroom, clippered her myself, cleaned her up in the shower and then ate that pussy for a good long time.

Sometimes if you want something done right DIY is best. She seemed to enjoy it too. Just make GODDAMN sure to have a guard on that clipper and are as careful and gentle as the area warrants.

sutterbutter · 2022-08-21T17:27:21+00:00

Let me recommend a close trim(~3mm guard)! Its intimidating to take a razor to those areas, but a close trim does nearly the same thing without being as difficult or scary.

2022-08-21T17:29:15+00:00

Offer to pay for her wax 🤷🏽‍♀️ shaving is a pain in the ass I would do it more often for my partners if it wasn’t so tedious

teaofearlgrey · 2022-08-21T17:43:57+00:00

Honestly, coming from a woman who was told by a partner to shave at like 17 when I was super insecure, I don't think there's any way you could phrase it that won't make her feel a little bit bad.

But I think as long as you keep the focus on wanting to pleasure her, she'll end up getting over it. Especially if you say it like the hair is in the way and not that it's gross. I dated a guy with a beard and I had to remind him to trim the mustache, not because I thought it was gross, but because when we were making out the hair would go up my nose and it was a super weird uncomfortable sensation lol

Elbynerual · 2022-08-21T17:47:33+00:00

Wildly off topic.

Title	How can I (M22) ask her (F21) to shave down there? [recovered]
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Date	August 21, 2022 9:02 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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