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RActuary96 · 2022-03-30T19:22:54+00:00

Dating apps: The girl chooses you based on your appearance

Approaching girls: You choose the girl you want to talk to based on her appearance

You tell me

BangaiiWatchman · 2022-03-30T21:35:23+00:00

Actually tinder released some internal data on this showing that the average man only matches with 1% of the women they like. Bumble and hinge probably aren’t much different.

https://twitter.com/stevestuwill/status/1441432248054599683?s=21&t=ZJpRbkUzOvguH5WQRhTGwA

So yeah seems like a bit of a time waster.

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-03-30T19:59:56+00:00

Use it as a supplement to going out irl and meeting people.

BangaiiWatchman · 2022-03-30T18:39:35+00:00

I think if you’re really attractive as a man it will work well for you. If your an average looking guy you’ll just get left swiped into the void.

ThatGuy_Nick9 · 2022-03-30T18:17:44+00:00

Not a waste if you like your time there

Pedalcrunch · 2022-03-30T18:58:55+00:00

Fat girls want all guys to be over 6' with a six pack and face like Brad Pitt.

Markyy47 · 2022-03-30T19:09:36+00:00

Well a lot just advertise their OF and IG and if you think they’re wasting your time just ignore or tell them you’re not interested

steegyy · 2022-03-30T21:01:32+00:00

I am average looking. Hasn't been a full waste of time but mostly. I have pulled for dates and hook ups a few times but way more often at bars or lively places. I get alot more action on hinge and bumble but they usually are.looking for dates or relationships.

Nullroute127 · 2022-03-30T20:40:14+00:00

It mostly depends. I've gotten dates and more from online dating.

However, my primary assets are my intellect, wit, humor, and ability to get into heads that doesn't come across fully in the apps. I'm not tall nor have a six pack, nor can I flex being a doctor/attorney/other high status position that travels the world.

What I've found the apps primarily useful for is training:

Finding out what women do and don't respond to in terms of aesthetic and conversations
How to develop strategies to separate yourself from other men, even within a saturated market where the primary goods are looks and resume-like stats that you may/may not have to offer.
Reading a woman's level of engagement, creating tension, getting her to chase.
Realizing just how many women are out there, avoiding one-itis by carrying on conversations with multiple women
Calibrating yourself to the person, using cues from her photos, bio, etc. to figure out how to engage in a way that resonates.

Basically, don't take online dating too seriously. Use it as a dating sandbox where you're willing to mix things up until they explode, but if you happen to create something cool out of it you're pleasantly surprised.

DoctorForesight · 2022-03-30T22:39:51+00:00

In the past year, I've gotten laid a grand total of 5 times from dating apps. And considering that I'm fairly good looking and was extremely aggressive with it (paying the maximum for Tinder, using an auto-swipe app, accepting any female no matter how unattractive she was), either I'm just really unlucky or they suck.

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2022-03-30T21:25:30+00:00

Try asking them out sooner and base your idea of a date in something they mention in their profile, have in their pictures, or something that comes up in conversation. And of course don’t rely on it. If you rely on it it will fuck with your confidence and have you thinking there’s no one for you. That’s a lie.

homelessfish22 · 2022-03-31T00:03:23+00:00

It’s good for physically attractive dudes. If you’re hot you’re going to have an easier time. But, even then, you still have to deal with playing pen pal with a bunch of disposable faces on the internet. Yours included, even if you are quite attractive. Remember you’re not the only hot guy in the world.

If you aren’t a model, don’t even bother using it.

If your patience threshold is low then I would advise you to redirect your energy elsewhere.

Real life is always better. Whether you’re a chad or McLovin.

wont_give_no_kreddit · 2022-03-31T00:27:41+00:00

I bagged a couple heiffers, not my proudest lays but it was worth the 0.001% success rate!

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-03-30T20:54:23+00:00

ignore anyone saying you have to be be hot to be successful on a dating app. it helps, obviously, but if you have a good profile, with interesting pictures (good lighting, paints you in a positive light, lets her imagine having fun with you) and a confident bio that does the same, you'll do fine.

Derpakiinlol · 2022-03-30T23:45:36+00:00

Idk I'm talking to two really quality girls rn on hinge

If you can be witty with the opener you can have really good success on there

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-03-30T23:45:55+00:00

47% (84) of all my lays are from dating apps, so no, they most definitely aren't a waste of time.

silkPJson · 2022-03-31T00:50:02+00:00

Am a girl. Can confirm.

getyahfuckingyeeted · 2022-03-30T21:24:16+00:00

Yes they are a complete and utter waste of time.

Parstar · 2022-03-30T21:26:15+00:00

im decently attractive and it works pretty well for me

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-03-30T20:11:31+00:00

Great for hookups.

If you have a good profile that is.

stephanienyc108 · 2022-03-30T21:23:09+00:00

For me looking for something serious, huge waste of time.

MudFlaky · 2022-03-30T19:25:47+00:00

I don't think it's totally worthless but definitely don't rely solely on the apps

Consistent-Count-890 · 2022-03-30T20:07:40+00:00

A lot of people use dating apps for an ego boost honestly. Best to use a dating app when you don’t want a relationship.

cass2769 · 2022-03-30T21:06:38+00:00

Some people are looking for attention and some people are looking for real connection. There are ways to maximize your time and not waste time on dating apps but most people don’t do that.

xtaminophen · 2022-03-30T21:17:08+00:00

You need to follow rule number 1 and 2 in the dating app to be successful

Slaysta · 2022-03-30T22:36:52+00:00

It depends what you’re looking for. In my experience, tinder is for hookups, whereas Hinge was better for dates/actually getting to know people. I was on dating apps for about 3 months. I ended up meeting this girl and we’ve been dating about 6 months now. It can work, but it also takes effort. It truly is a numbers game.

originalgainster · 2022-03-30T22:47:00+00:00

Usually but I did get some lays and a couple relationships out of them.

YoMiner · 2022-03-30T22:49:30+00:00

Sure, but most girls at the bar/gym/grocery store/school/wherever else you go aren't available either. You only get a fraction of the population anywhere you go. Being on dating apps only takes as much time as you want it to.

2022-03-30T22:54:59+00:00

Good for ONS, wouldn’t start a serious relationship with a tindergirl

controversial_parrot · 2022-03-30T22:59:51+00:00

If you're well above average in looks you'll do fine on a dating app. If you're average, better in person where you can attract her in other ways.

CRDLEUNDRTHESTR · 2022-03-30T23:12:53+00:00

Depends on where you live but 8/10 times yeah

ReorgAtty · 2022-03-30T23:15:17+00:00

I’ve had pretty good success just using tinder casually. Very low effort. But I’m in nyc, so that’s probably a big factor.

2022-03-30T23:17:19+00:00

Yeah it's just free entertainment / validation

blue_barracuda · 2022-03-30T23:34:21+00:00

It's okay to do passively if you're killing time, but not the basket you want to put all your eggs into.

Scorpnite · 2022-03-31T00:01:53+00:00

Tinder has consistently been cheap lays. Bumble is where I’ve found quality

richsreddit · 2022-03-31T00:06:03+00:00

It isn't a full waste of time because there are potential results depending on your situation but at the same time it is not a method that you want to rely on primarily when it comes to meeting women.

Billyjeanisntmylover · 2022-03-31T00:23:02+00:00

A lot of girls are on there for attention but that's why you need to be cognizant of the matter, and have low investment nor expectations - when I use this approach, I usually get good results from dating apps. However, I am not to fond of dating apps, which is why I prefer meeting women IRL.

elweydereddit · 2022-03-31T00:32:09+00:00

I found my wife through bumble and before her multiple flings

No regrets

Sandvicheater · 2022-03-31T00:47:56+00:00

What gives you better odds? Gambling on a slot machine (dating apps) or approaching irl girls (counting cards on blackjack)

spoonyspadina · 2022-03-31T01:01:39+00:00

as a girl, i will say the attention is nice. but if i feel a connection with the guy through text—i’ll meet him! i met my bf on tinder and i couldn’t be happier!

cormacru999 · 2022-03-31T01:08:55+00:00

Here's the thing, if they were useless, why would they exist? That just doesn't make sense. More importantly, you want us to support your idea that women just want attention, but why would they need a dating app for that? Couldn't they just use their social media? Couldn't they make an Onlyfans & get paid for attention? Of course they could!

So the thing you need to work on is why you think this about women, & perhaps its your attitude & interior belief system that's turning women away from you.

Ecstatic-Factor4712 · 2022-03-31T01:14:42+00:00

Them dating apps are cash cows... They want all this money and you get nothing

yoon1ac · 2022-03-31T01:16:46+00:00

Dont forget these dating apps mostly allow for bots and catfish accounts because they make money on you paying to see matches. So even if you get matches, they are likely fake accounts. That’s not even considering most people want to waste your time. Better to develop skills or hobbies that would help you seek a partner out in person.

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