I normally do pretty well, but I've recently been breaking some of my rules because kind of fell for a girl I really actually liked. Long story short, she treated me like shit, flaked a lot, showed up late to dates, etc..., and I kept pursuing like a chump.

I finally decided to stop calling and I feel like absolute shit (my body is going through breakup mode, can't eat, sleep, etc...) so I decided to go to a strip club for therapy. Strippers, BTW, are some of the best therapists because its literally their jobs to listen to loser guys talk out their problems all day and they've been through some shit themselves.

So the stripper gave me some advice that should have been obvious to me, but wasn't. It's this: DON'T BE CONVENIENT. And by that I mean don't let her think that you're always available to hang out or do whatever she wants, even if you are. Don't ever say things like "I'm free any day this week" or "Let me know when you're free." You have to act like your schedule is precious and even though you're into her, its going to be hard to find time to do things with her. Unless the girl can somehow tell you're lying or trying to run some kind of game, she has to respect that.

After this revelation, which, I know is Seduction 101, the past year of my dating life made a lot more sense to me. I realized that any time I said "Hey, are you available Wednesday?" or "I can only do next Thursday" shit would happen but no matter how much the chick was into me, I would crash and burn if I said things like "Hey, we should hang out sometime" or "let me know when you're free." I think that no matter how much a girl digs you, if you say something like "I'm free any time next week" she automatically stops giving a shit because there is no reason to expend any effort or thought on you. If you're available any day next week why should she go to the hassle of picking a time to hang out?

By the same token, don't jump at any opportunity she gives you to hang out with her. Always give her at least one alternative date.

I wish I had known this stuff way earlier. Yeah I know its basic, but its helpful.

EDIT: As a lot of people have pointed out, there is nothing wrong with the statement "let me know when you're free" - it's just that it shouldn't be connected to the idea that you are available whenever she is free and you're just waiting for her schedule to open up. That's what I think I meant to say.

EDIT2: Of course, as I expected, this thread is full of alpha-dogs telling me that my problem is that I don't have something going on every fucking second of every fucking day. Uh, no. I am very busy - I am usually dating several girls, I work late often, and I do comedy shows a couple times a week. The whole point I am making with this post is that even if you happen to have a few open days, you should never make open-ended statements about hanging out without a particular day ("hey we should hang out sometime") and you should never make it seem like you're available to her whenever she wants. Of course nobody should be a loser and people should have shit going on all the time. But the reality is nobody has something planned for every single night, especially if you have a job or something.