Have you ever met that average-looking guy who’s insanely successful with women?

WetBigSlap · 2025-08-05T22:09:57+00:00

I think we’ve all met that one guy that looks average but is great with women, they’re definitely out there. That being said, I think you’re also overestimating them. No guy with a body count over 50 has slept with only drop dead gorgeous women. The 9s and 10s are hard to come by, even for men that are successful. The only men who can have any women they want based on looks are people with extreme high status (celebrities, billionaires, etc.) and even then it’s usually only for short term stuff. These men at the “top” struggle finding actual long term love as well if they go for the 9s and 10s. Just look at how many divorces these men have gotten. It’s the norm.

Vox_Dissidens · 2025-08-06T00:11:15+00:00

Most of the guys I’ve known who were insanely good with beautiful women were average looking dudes with a quick wit and balls of steel.

One that stands out is a guy I knew in high school. He wasn’t just average, he was under-average, with early balding, a weak frame, a slight hunch and a nasally voice. He used to cheat on all his partners and it was well known, but they all just seemed to love him anyway. He always seemed to land the hottest girl in the room, and the girls always seemed to go “I don’t know, he’s just a nice guy” when asked about him. He continued to live this way into his 20’s and I assume he’s probably the same way now.

I asked him once how he lands these beautiful girls and he seemed confused by the question. It was like he’d never even considered that a girl wouldn’t like him, he just went in assuming he was as good as any other guy she’d met.

Not a great guy with all the cheating and whatnot, but that’s an absolutely killer mindset to have.

pendragon2290 · 2025-08-06T00:36:04+00:00

My dude, I met a guy in college named specs. He was a solid 3. Very solid. Ginger curly hair, freckles for days, one eye was off center, 5'4. That man could pull anyone he wanted. On a dare one night our 9/10 fraternity brother dared him to talk to this solid 9 woman. She turned him down so he assumed she ould turn specs down too. Not only did specs land her that night, they ended up dating for 6 months. Average men can pull anyone with the right attitude I've learned.

Winter-Confidence689 · 2025-08-05T22:45:19+00:00

yes. He's just confident, takes rejection extremely well, flirts a lot but gives girls outs, etc etc. Invites girls on dates boldly.

eacc69420 · 2025-08-05T22:06:56+00:00

I mean if you look at RSD Tyler, Todd V (they prob don't want to be used in the same sentence due to their legal dispute), realistically they're average looking guys

I've actually bumped into RSD Tyler in person, and it's really the charisma. I told him I watched his stuff and the way he can carry a conversation is incredible. He's a balding ginger of average height but there's no doubt he can easily charm a woman

CupHour8145 · 2025-08-05T22:57:35+00:00

I probably know more "average" guys who are good with woman than the "good looking" ones.

Zypherzor · 2025-08-05T22:59:04+00:00

Depends on what you mean by success (like getting numbers/socials? actually hooking up with them?) but by and large no, never met a guy like this ESPECIALLY if you’re talking about beatiful women. I worked in night life, been around different major cities, different countries, never seen an average LOOKING man have this unless he had good money/social status/clout.

Johnny_Kilroy · 2025-08-06T03:13:10+00:00

Funny chatty cheerful guys tend to do extremely well.

LickLickLigma · 2025-08-06T06:14:28+00:00

Had a chubby friend. But well spoken, has a deep voice, 6ft tall. One of his ex girlfriend 10 yrs ago was crying over the phone and told me she needs his sperm. Her words. Almost all women fall for him.

DrRonnieJamesDO · 2025-08-06T11:09:09+00:00

My best friend in college was 5'3", balding and pulled bc he was confident AF*, funny, and could carry on a conversation with anyone for hours. He also always had a plan - for his day, his evening, his life - so I think a lot of girls were intrigued by "this guy is going somewhere he's excited by and won't get stuck in a rut or expect me to figure things out."

not cocky - he knew what he liked and disliked, and genuinely liked himself, even with his "flaws," which he openly acknowledged and didn't try to hide. I think this type of confidence resonates with many women bc they are conditioned to dislike their looks, etc. so being with someone who is happy just as they are seems like a nice break and st that might even rub off on them.

FoggyDanto · 2025-08-06T04:22:38+00:00

That's me nigg

Quatr0 · 2025-08-06T15:24:24+00:00

They sure as fuck aren’t on reddit

Green_Field1019 · 2025-08-06T03:53:28+00:00

I have a friend who isn’t ugly but also isn’t anything special to look at, and his body count was well above 100 before he got married, and many of the women he hooked up with were hotter than you would think he could get (including his wife). His secret was his sense of humor, he always had something funny to say and could figure out what made a girl laugh pretty quickly

thecage2122 · 2025-08-06T12:48:24+00:00

Yeah Italian short dude. Nothing special about him he’s just a master at talking he has bagged the best girls over and over it’s incredible to be honest

Neat-Egg5659 · 2025-08-06T08:51:24+00:00

yeah definitely. confidence and actually listening to what women say matters way more than looks. most attractive women are used to men just staring at them but not really engaging. the ones who do well just treat them like normal people and have genuine conversations

Level-Bread5827 · 2025-08-06T13:17:16+00:00

Great thread and motivation for guys on here to see what's possible with good game and a great mindset. The bottom line is that if you follow society's rules of standards of believing you need to be good looking or have material to get laid with certain women then that will be your reality. The other reality is what you see in this thread.

jupiter_and_mars · 2025-08-05T23:47:28+00:00

Yes, a lot, it’s all about taking action and confidence.

Think_Reporter_8179 · 2025-08-06T01:02:58+00:00

Yeah. Me. Lol

maprunzel · 2025-08-06T01:08:25+00:00

Yes. My ex.

wheatnathan · 2025-08-06T07:01:08+00:00

you're gonna get a lot of made up fictional answers lol.

rockdude625 · 2025-08-06T18:50:34+00:00

Yeah, he’s rich as shit

KeenActual · 2025-08-06T22:21:36+00:00

Everyday in the mirror, my friend.

PeterLamb87 · 2025-08-07T08:23:33+00:00

Yep one, a bit on the ugly side actually, but great salsa dancer.

2kokuoyabun · 2025-08-12T03:25:16+00:00

i dont know the guy but he made me laugh. He was always in clubs, poorly dressed but he didn't care. He was always approaching girls and law of averages kicked in. I liked him immediately despite never chatting with him cos of his fearlessness and yes I do see him with lots of girls.

In fact I always point him out when i see him and encourage my mates to be like him. i mean dude is poorly dressed, not good looking and he did not allow it to stymie his game🤣

spartanken115 · 2025-08-06T00:11:42+00:00

Pick two: Sane, Rich, Good-Looking, Nice Body

ashleyriot31 · 2025-08-06T14:41:02+00:00

My cousin. He currently has another wife who is working while he plays videogames and watches netflix at home, his ex wife left him but still loves him. He is average or maybe below average, not tall, not rich, he's a deadbeat dad, but he is just really smooth with women and he's a bad boy which some/a lot of women love. He would talk to other women and they would just fall for him. He's also friends with all the guys but once they become too close with him, they become enemies lol. He's fun to hang out with but i try not to become close with him.

Perfect_Reception864 · 2025-08-06T04:02:49+00:00

I had a bald, pasty white friend who pulled like crazy. He was 6'4" though so don't know if that counts as average.

DistributionOdd6914 · 2025-08-06T14:45:21+00:00

The thing is all of these arguments fall apart when you realize women aren't blind and like hot guys just as much as guys like hot girls.

ArmitageShanks69 · 2025-08-07T11:12:56+00:00

As a below-average guy I am unable to discern between average and above-average. What would shock me would be if I saw a guy of my level with an attractive woman. If I did perhaps that would possibly give me a glimmer of hope but aside from rich and famous people like the Micks Jagger & Hucknall, 2 ugly bastards in my opinion, I've never seen this in every day life.

Ampboy97 · 2025-08-09T04:17:31+00:00

babachamatkari · 2025-08-09T15:10:24+00:00

Unfortunately, yes. What I have realised that, conversation skills matter more than looks.

PUA19124 · 2025-08-10T14:08:25+00:00

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-08-06T13:15:44+00:00

Tbh, if you just start cold approaching instead of thinking about it, you'll naturally want to improve your looks so that you present yourselves with more confidence. Conclusion? Do something about your cicumstances and you'll subconsciously make the adjustments.

NCreature · 2025-08-05T23:11:57+00:00

Depends on how you define average. But i know several guys who based on appearance and vibe alone you wouldn’t think had the body count they did. Once you got to know them though you realized they had a take no prisoners approach and probably had a bunch of failures and rejections mixed in. But if he sensed an ‘in’ he kind of didn’t give up until he got a hard no and I don’t remember that happening at least in front of me all that often. The crazy thing is that it was all so subtle. You had no idea anything was even happening unless you were really paying attention. But next thing you know him and a girl would be making out and I’d be standing there like “wait…what?” And he had no like PUA training or anything like that just a savant at it and not afraid to take an L.

I also found that while one of the guys was good at getting women to sleep with him he couldn’t maintain a relationship to save his life. Even married now he’s on rocky ground. But he definitely slept with every single one of our mutual female friends (by their admission not his). I got to the point where I couldn’t bring a female friend around him.

Matter_Still · 2025-08-06T05:27:49+00:00

I see one every time I look in the mirror. Strike out the word “insanely”, however, and replace it with “surprisingly”. Keep in mind, too, that my definition of “successful” is in all likelihood, much different than that of others.

Still, when I was single, “insanely” described one thing: I was insanely selective and all the tumblers had to be in place—the moment, the situation, the nature of the opportunity, and, of course, enough circumstantial evidence, often provided by a third party, that I was in with a shot, i.e., “You didn’t here it from me, but my sister was asking if you had a girlfriend.”

In essence, the deck, somehow, had been skimmed in my favor.

Again, my “body count” was far from impressive, but that selectivity had more than one person say, “I don’t know another guy who went out with so many beautiful women.”

smind893 · 2025-08-08T11:04:28+00:00

The problem is YOU think he's average, which means you think you're better than him . Meanwhile, he's not thinking about you. he's thinking about women. And talking to them. Learning what works and doesn't.

Not on reddit rating mens looks.

Title	Have you ever met that average-looking guy who’s insanely successful with women?
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Date	August 5, 2025 9:59 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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