How to build a social circle post college, especially one that will help me meet women?

Therocksays2020 · 2021-05-01T23:44:14+00:00

Hobbies. I’ve gotten back into outdoor sports and met women that way.

You are post college so co workers is a great place to start.

yuckyuck13 · 2021-05-02T02:09:57+00:00

It's so much harder make friends after graduation, the hardest part is also living in a college town and being older the average age for college. Be more social at work. I got super lucky with my job. I work with a very tight knit small unit at a large university. I'm the only one not in a relationship. I met their significant others and over time the majority of if not all their friends. Also started doing stand up, most of the workshop group are women. Granted theres hobbies where women are more likely to dominate but simply trying to grow your friend group makes a big difference. You make friends, you meet their friends, you make more opportunities.

unsuccessfulfuji · 2021-05-02T07:11:21+00:00

I expect this to get buried but I'm drunk. So let's do this!!

The usual advice: hobbies, meets up, etc they're fiiine. But that's just setting up opportunities. After you have the opportunity, you need follow through. What is that? Rsd Max has a great video he does with his friend who does purely social circle game. He explains it perfectly. If you want a social circle, you need to be the reason it exists.

Phase one: meet people. Doesn't matter where or how. Literally I go out on the weekends, walk around, and anyone that catches my eye (maybe they have a cool style, maybe they seem fun), I approach and talk. Guys and girls both (although generally you want to avoid large groups of ONLY guys, they're not interested in making another guy friend haha)

Phase two: get contact info. After chatting for a bit, if you're both vibbing, say "hey let's hang out" let's do X that you were already talking about. Let's get exchange info. Get their number/insta/whatever

Phase three: make a plan and hit up all new your contacts a weekend later. Imma be honest. Most of your contacts will ghost. Like 1/10. That's expected. People are busy. But anyone that's shows up, that's fantastic.

Phase four: rinse repeat. This is when the magic starts to happen. You start seeing who really likes you. Those people become your core group. You start introducing people to each other. You become the reason everyone knows each other.

No lie, it's a lot of work. It's a lot of effort and a lot of times people will be people. But that's why we're here right? To achieve something we never thought possible. Good luck and feel free to DM 🤘

CreepyHermit489 · 2021-05-02T03:58:35+00:00

For me it's clubs. Join a martial arts gym, dance group, board game meet up or whatever you are into.

hegelcum · 2021-05-02T04:21:49+00:00

in my experience the gym and going to local shows of music you actually like helped a ton

Snoo5902 · 2021-05-02T02:38:22+00:00

Become a bartender at a night club

NoOutlandishness9892 · 2021-05-02T02:19:01+00:00

Man the life after college sounds ass

king_of_nothing0 · 2021-05-02T03:16:56+00:00

As much as I loathe CrossFit culture... CrossFit seems like a solid place to meet men and women. Otherwise I’d recommend volunteering at a humane society or local animal rescue.

Obviously it goes without saying you shouldn’t have the mindset of “I want to meet women!” Doing these things. Do them so they give you a more well rounded life/quality of life and meeting people will come naturally with it and won’t make people uncomfortable by being to forceful meeting them.

ggggggggzzzz · 2021-05-02T08:33:55+00:00

Are everyone post pandemic here ? In Europe we are still in lockdown with public places closed

Liprubber · 2021-05-02T07:40:21+00:00

I walk the park every day and see minimum 20 attractive women in 1 hour. At the mall probably 100.

jgutierrez1994 · 2021-05-02T07:02:25+00:00

Hobbies/work (depending on the environment you are in and your coworkers [as with any job])

KitaiTravels · 2021-05-02T08:18:54+00:00

I wrote an extensive post on the topic. Take a look: https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/comments/n2kysa/the_ultimate_social_circle_guide_how_to_meet/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

recyclablebanthas · 2021-05-02T10:26:58+00:00

How do I build a proper social circle post college especially in a pandemic that shut down many places in my area?

The reality is that under pandemic conditions, a lot of social groups are going to be shut down or turtled up and not accepting outsiders.

Game won't be going back to anything resembling normalcy until after the pandemic calms down. So while it's good to have a plan for what you'll do when things come back, right now it might be healthier to have other things to focus on than game.

I don’t know how to meet and talk to women (or people in general), beyond superficial relationships in class.

If you have class with people regularly, this is ample opportunity to practice social skills that are pretty foundational. Actually, this is useful anytime you are talking to someone.

Active listening is an important one. You can use this to make small talk more interesting. Pretty straight forward: when someone is talking, devote 100% of your brain to listening. When they are done talking, think for a second, take one aspect of what they said, and follow up on that.

Following up with an eye for why they did something or how they felt about it, is good.

So like if someone says, "I didn't get much sleep last night....." An easy follow-up would be to ask why they didn't.

The friend groups I did join were by chance, and they adopted me into it. Now after college, most of them moved away or are too busy to see me

If you are done with college, then a lot of opportunities aren't going to be there until people get vaccinated and things open up again. You just have to work with what you've got.

Search Facebook groups in your area for something to do. If anyone is open and accepting of new people, they'll be posting their events publicly.

bandsupjay · 2021-05-02T02:25:46+00:00

Why do you want a group to help u meet women your group should be helping u get money and advance forward in life. Stop making women seem so important dawg, you can meet a girl literally anywhere.

bridgetthebanker · 2021-05-02T03:12:15+00:00

Hobbies,sports,outside activities. Facebook has tons of fun hiking groups. All my friends are meeting really good dudes this way!

rickmackdaddy · 2021-05-02T12:13:33+00:00

Yoga. 90% women. Good for your health even if you don’t meet anyone. Join a local studio ... or three.

yallapapi · 2021-05-02T14:01:02+00:00

Take up photography. Almost all beautiful women want to have professional pictures taken. Definitely a plus if you have a camera and know how to use it. Also you can organize group photo shoots with businesses if you want.

MentalCelOmega · 2021-05-02T03:40:33+00:00

You don't.

TTV-DontEvnTrip · 2021-05-02T07:25:05+00:00

“I haven’t seen many women at my golf or trap shooting ranges” get out of your bubble , accept some rejection, and stop thinking women will be interested in the same things you are as if your perfect girl should like golf and shoot guns. You are more likely to meet a women in a grocery store than those two spots and if you can’t talk to a girl alone in a grocery store that’s your problem not finding a group. Learn to break the ice with anyone you feel attractive at anytime. Groups have nothing to do with seduction

Filipino_Canadian · 2021-05-02T03:27:34+00:00

At work? I’m close with the other guys at work (all 3 of us) and pretty good with the ladies (23 of them)

OkIssue5589 · 2021-05-02T06:35:12+00:00

Er... building a social circle to help you meet women sounds an awful lot like you want to build a harem. How about you just build a social circle that you hang out with for no other reason that they are a good bunch to hang out with. I'd be super bummed if someone I was hanging out with was only in it so he could meet women vs actually wanting to hang out with me.

irishthunder222 · 2021-05-02T05:32:36+00:00

Dope 🤙

TTV-DontEvnTrip · 2021-05-02T07:17:20+00:00

If you can’t talk to women by yourself, you have zero chance of success. I’m being honest, if you think you need a group to help you, or find a women in a group event is proof you need to learn real seduction. This subreddit is getting soft and actually so far from the key points of seduction. Learn to be confident in yourself by yourself and talk to women while they are alone or in groups but by yourself, learn to be a one man show. Thinking a group is key to any success is not only wrong but will hold you back from ever being a real alpha a women can follow.

mathdrug · 2021-05-02T02:34:17+00:00

Meet women online my guy.

You can also try Meetup (the app / website). Join clubs you like and meet people that way.

ZeroTwoAnythingForU · 2021-05-02T04:05:13+00:00

Same dude

I want to increase my social circle more with Outdoor sports.

MmA, boxing, squash,tennis.

snipe4fun · 2021-05-02T04:41:49+00:00

Look for community sandboxes. Small community theaters are constantly looking for help to include actors and constantly have a pretty wide range of people involved and they come and go with each show so there’s lots of different people. Municipal softball league requires less effort and skill but also has lots of people rotating through with the different teams you’ll meet. Volunteer for neighborhood cleanup or something like that. Take a dance class or join a yoga studio lol.

oliverjohansson · 2021-05-02T07:37:35+00:00

A colleague of mine subscribed to some spiritual online classes

thur0806 · 2021-05-02T13:01:07+00:00

4 years ago I considered myself someone who strongly disliked playing sports. But then I got loosely involved with a group that plays a lot of different sports through a local league. You don’t have to be a superstar to play. They’re beginner leagues for a reason. Pick one or two sports that you enjoy and sign up. Lots of people to meet, and you get great exercise. As a dude tho I’d suggest picking sports that women tend to enjoy too volleyball is my muse.

Le_Iguana · 2021-05-02T14:55:02+00:00

Don’t know if someone already mentioned downloading Bumble. The app has an interface for meeting friends, Bumble BFF. It’s been life saving for me. I live in a city for reference.

AlucardxMaria · 2021-05-02T16:32:27+00:00

Yup join a whole slew of different gatherings from whatever your interests are..hobby groups or go to maybe a seminar that has a cocktail hour or meet and greet after. You have to put yourself out there and be willing to go up to people and say hi. See if.your work offers training events outside work or if there's things like conventions or other gatherings you can go to. Some may be one offs but others may meet more frequently..its the best way to meet people..and even if your looking for women but only end up making friends with other guys don't be deterred bc through hanging out with them and their group you could possibly meet their single lady friends..its all about getting out there and not being afraid to make small talk, however silly you think you might sound. Goodluck!

Bigpervert01 · 2021-05-02T18:34:45+00:00

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