"Kiss and fuck"

toothfairyelf · 2022-05-26T06:18:00+00:00

You should be honest about your intentions with her. If you have an interest in her, make sure that she knows that you acted out of respect for her. If you don’t have an interest in her, pretend like it never happened and move on with your life.

boxmail2800 · 2022-05-26T05:35:27+00:00

You did the right thing. Approach her when sober..

theosamabahama · 2022-05-26T06:17:23+00:00

Alcohol losses our inhibitions but it doesn't create desires that weren't there. If she was asking to fuck while drunk, she already wanted to fuck you before. So maybe she is still interested.

Next time you see her, make casual conversation. Don't be awkward, don't bring up what happened and just talk normal. Then ask her if she wants to share a drink at your place.

SEJ1970 · 2022-05-26T06:52:07+00:00

Think I read about two comments telling you that you should have had sex with the drunken girl... 😩 DON'T listen to them... A drunk person can't really give consent to have sex... Too many cases out there with guys ending up on a rape charge because the girl was drunk and didn't remember the encounter... 🤔

Lust9897 · 2022-05-26T11:06:46+00:00

Duuuuude! Total bro moment right there. You handled it swimmingly. Congrats! Just be yourself around her... she obviously likes you.

francescoli · 2022-05-26T08:02:13+00:00

Call over to her apartment ,the next evening you are free.

Tell her she has nothing to be embarrassed about and that you would like to take her out sometime.

It's that straight forward.

Neo-Rio · 2022-05-26T06:41:29+00:00

I think you did the right thing in this circumstance.
She was drunk. You don't have sex with people when they are drunk.

I can't really type anything else on a forum like this.
Yes, there are women who will only have sex while drunk, and that drunk sex isn't really fun anyway (I tried it when I was drunk, partner was not. It was not good!).

Trust me... your life is better without the drama.

TaskCurrent · 2022-05-26T06:35:23+00:00

When you see her next, you should be upfront about what you did that night.

Tell her that because she was drunk you felt it was not right to engage in sexual activity with her despite her asking. And all you did was tuck her in bed.

If you're interested, then it's now your time to tell when she's sober.

QuelaansBlade · 2022-05-26T06:49:03+00:00

Regardless of this experience if she likes you it should be obvious after you make your intentions clear. If she was just drunk and horny then thats that. Dont read too deep into it make a pass and if it fails move on

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-05-26T11:26:17+00:00

You always want to immediately remove yourself from any situation where a girl is drunk and is offering sex and you’re sober. Your freedom is on the line in those situations. If she does that again, don’t fucking “tuck her in” at your place. Help guide her back to her place and go back home.

Alecstocker · 2022-05-26T13:02:49+00:00

Man you're a good dude. I have younger sisters and I would be proud to have someone like you date them. You didn't take advantage of a hot willing female and that certainly is rare in this day and age. As for how to act. She's prob embarrassed and should be. Just act like it never happened. Be friendly and nice. Don't bring it up unless she does. And just act like it was nothing. Just say oh don't worry about it.

Remarkable-Cat1337 · 2022-05-26T13:18:03+00:00

get drunk, go to her apartment and ask for a kiss and fuck session

AdriaN_46 · 2022-05-26T09:18:40+00:00

OP, kindly keep us updated !! 😅 What happened?

legohead0099 · 2022-05-26T10:52:35+00:00

Bro, well done.!!!! Thats all im gna say!

BalancedLif3 · 2022-05-26T11:42:50+00:00

You did the right thing my dude. You were respectful and also safe as in this could’ve been a rape charge if you went ahead since she’s drunk and impaired and not in the right frame of mind to consent

MrBlack__ · 2022-05-26T11:56:52+00:00

So. You did the right thing because sex with a drunk girl can be on the line of non consensual… HOWEVER, the side they don’t show is that SOMETIMES women want to have sex but don’t want accountability of initiating so they get drunk so someone can… in a nutshell… take advantage of them.

Sounds ridiculous but I’ve done the same thing a few times only to be met with at worst resentment and or asking if I’m gay… or they think I’m not attracted to them and see it as a rejection. I’ve never tucked a girl in that’s been in my room and had sex with them later… never.

Never has a woman said “oh thank you for not taking advantage of me… let’s do it again but not get so drunk” the polite ones say thanks then fuck someone drunk next week

… you did the right thing lol

MoOsT1cK · 2022-05-26T13:52:38+00:00

Congratulations.

You respected her. You did not took a chance to loose your virginity with a girl you weren't sure would have been willing to have sex with you if she would have been sober. That's remarkable in terms of personal ethics. thumbs up !
Now that she's sober, she may be a bit embarassed but she would'nt have asked you for sex if she had'nt been intersted in you in the first place. So if you manage to have a talk with her and ease her embarassment, she may does'nt quite remember what happened and will feel relieved to know that you did'nt take advantage of the situation... that may build confidence to try again one more time with the consentment of both -if you're into her of course !

tuffman007 · 2022-05-26T14:13:49+00:00

Good job op everyone is proud of you for tucking her in like a real man

marianoktm · 2022-05-26T10:19:40+00:00

You did the right thing. She was not sober and she couldn't give you consent because of that.

You're a 22yo Virgin, but you're a real Man.

But you can use this episode to approach her when sober. Try to invite her to your place, maybe joking like "but this time come sober", and joke around about what happened that night. If she gives you hints that she's willing to do that "kiss and fuck" even when sober, then escalate.

If the situation gets awkward, just steer the conversation away and do something fun together. Cooking a new, hard and delicious dish is a great one.

cronasminate · 2022-05-26T08:10:09+00:00

Ignore everything as if it never happened. Engage her in a positive way them bring it up and say what happened, ask more out of concern. Say you’ve had friends who did something similar because they are going through things and let her know that you are here if she needs anyone.

Don’t be fake. Don’t be typical. This seems like her way of reaching out for something, albeit dysfunctional. Some girls just never learned how to get emotional support without sex because they were sexually abused growing up.

You already decided that you didn’t want to take advantage of her. Every guy will try to use this to find a way to lay her. Be different. Your virginity means nothing. Just be a better person. That being said, if something happens, it happens. Don’t gf her because this is sign of deep emotional issues. But still try to be the guy who actually tries to help her, be open to “other” things if she initiates it and but have your own boundaries.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-05-26T08:49:33+00:00

You dodged a bullet. Drunk sluts are not worth it in this day and age. Maybe she has a thing for you but she also got a thing for the six other dudes she's rawdogging. Reggie, Jamaal, Tyruss, Chad and the gang, they live upstairs... you'll be hearing all about them soon enough. Your kids might even share some features by a strange coincidence...

You're the only one that never took advantage of her but don't go saving hoes. It's now a reminder of the time you were the man, took pity on a damaged woman and did the right thing. Seek better, classier women and avoid this scenario in the future.

Thin_Protection5616 · 2022-05-26T05:29:56+00:00

In short, you shouldn't.

You had a chance and basically rejected her. Now, in the backwards logic of women, she'll rationalize herself into believing you aren't shit.

Don't get me wrong, you did the smart thing (how many other dudes has she banged, probably without a condom, on a drunken whim?). But that doesn't mean you'll be rewarded for it.

hildegardpep · 2022-05-26T11:05:23+00:00

My brother always tells me - “A drunk man’s words are a sober man’s thoughts”

EnvironmentalRule525 · 2022-05-26T12:00:51+00:00

You’re a good dude for not fucking an obviously hammered chick.

You have your shoe in the door now tho, just ask her to grab a drink sometime next time you see her or text her to set it up if you have her #.

biggun1998 · 2022-05-26T12:48:40+00:00

“Kiss and fuck” + drunk girl = rape accusations if you are in California. Even if you didn’t do anything. Watch out!

Collacks · 2022-05-26T13:42:50+00:00

If you are going to ask her to hangout, I’d be conscious her ego is likely quite hurt because you rejected her outward display.

Good news is you are in.

Honestly if I were in your shoes and you want to lose your virginity to her, I’d keep it simple. The next time I see her I would walk up, say hi, and apologize for the night. Then I would tell her I’m a virgin but “feeling her pussy on my dick is how I dream of losing my virginity 😉.” Something to that effect… apologize, be honest and make it dirty. You’re already in. Plus taking a dudes virginity is a massive turn on for a lot of girls.

unlockwren · 2022-05-26T13:52:21+00:00

Better to be safe then get me too’d with the girl who knows where you live and sees you regularly

Own-Masterpiece5102 · 2022-05-26T14:00:45+00:00

Just be chill and friendly but not overly nice. Say that you have been drunk yourself and have made some decisions you have regretted and that nothing happened. Then try to ask her out.

YoBeaverBoy · 2022-05-26T14:42:17+00:00

For some reason I can't stop thinking about the reactions my parents would have to such a story.

My mom would be proud above heavens, but my dad would call me the biggest idiot in the world and he'd probably wheeze because of ''purposefuly missing a great opportunity'' as he'd call it.

gillmanblacklagooner · 2022-05-26T06:37:37+00:00

Man… you did the right thing. You just avoided a ton of possible problems to you and your image…

redditgotnoobs · 2022-05-26T07:16:41+00:00

Explain what happened and ask her out

Bingo_is_the_man · 2022-05-26T08:41:55+00:00

Shoulda banged her bro. You’re cooked now / stuck in a nice guy category. Gonna have to chase her for months while a bunch of dumb gorillas plow her repeatedly

SadBox4529 · 2022-05-26T05:58:01+00:00

Lol dude you should have smashed coz that’s what she’s been thinking about. I mean she was able to come all the way to your place so????

rofnacla · 2022-05-26T08:18:08+00:00

She’ll come again. Next time smash her

Thin_Protection5616 · 2022-05-26T05:31:24+00:00

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Ou-tis · 2022-05-26T11:34:53+00:00

she is a slut,tr to escalate again. And remember you can't wife a hoe.

Reasonable_Ad9646 · 2022-05-26T08:09:33+00:00

This chick owes you a BJ.... MAN up

Disastrous-Row434 · 2022-05-26T09:49:43+00:00

We'd love to hear what happened next

WagerGoat · 2022-05-26T12:16:57+00:00

Yea right move don’t risk doing it while she drunk

wickedlobstah · 2022-05-26T13:40:05+00:00

Oh. My fucking. God. Dooooooooooooood. Right thing was obviously done but damn.

cyrusol · 2022-05-26T13:47:43+00:00

You could know at her door and ask for a mild kiss and fuck session. Without drinking.

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-05-26T15:03:33+00:00

U get drunk too... even the playing field

Title	"Kiss and fuck"
Author	playing_VScode
Upvotes	321
Comments	97
Date	May 26, 2022 5:22 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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