Turns out my dad was a player.

2020-05-12T19:24:15+00:00

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Nicolas44001 · 2020-05-12T17:59:14+00:00

did you ever ask your dad? He might be a natural but maybe he knows a trick or two. And deep down what do you suspect you're missing?

TwoTinders · 2020-05-12T22:23:22+00:00

I asked my mom what made her want to hookup with him

Damn, Daniel.

ta69999 · 2020-05-12T19:18:11+00:00

I'm sorry for you LeBron James jr

MyThinTragus · 2020-05-12T17:49:24+00:00

You've talked to over ten girls! Damn player

jimmiepop · 2020-05-12T17:59:26+00:00

Gentlemen >< "Nice Guy"

You are not getting results because you a) lack sexual confidence, and b) have not put in the work, not because you are not a "natural" like your dad. Your dad had that confidence from losing his virginity so young. You've got to earn yours.

Good luck!

jawnzoo · 2020-05-12T22:05:26+00:00

too many simps nowadays, harder to get girls when they can get attention wherever.

Also quality over quantity, can 100% guarantee a good amount of the girls your father was with weren't attractive by your standards.

(speaking generally) but most people can get girls if they wanted. they just don't want ugly ones lol.

mr_Tobbor · 2020-05-12T19:24:47+00:00

Focus on yourself not your father. Tell me what do you think prevents you from playing - fucking girls. Does your mind have any clues? Then I will answer you.

Alex_J_Anderson · 2020-05-12T22:13:46+00:00

Did it make him happy and fulfilled? That’s the first question you should ask.

I lost my virginity at 14. Then a bunch of one night stands for the next few years. But as I got older, I just couldn’t sleep with random women. I could have. But I didn’t want to deal with the hurt feelings, drama, sleeping with someone you barely know. And I’m really picky. Most women put me off. Once they speak that is. They’re all great but I just couldn’t relate to most women. I finally met my wife at 28 and I’m so much happier with her. She’s one in a million and sleeping around (if I was single) just wouldn’t compare and I’d be miserable.

I know some guys don’t care. They just want to fuck. I’m affected to enough women but they just don’t do it for me. Having sex with your one and only is way better.

So, if you’re not player, maybe focus on that.

But I’d love to know what he says. How he feels about sleeping with so many random women. I’m not prude by any stretch, but entering another human you don’t feel a real connection with just seems weird to me.

That said, I didn’t feel that way when I was younger. I had sex with a girl in the stall of a bathroom that I’d just met minutes before. Then her newly exed boyfriend came in looking for her.

Now that think about it, that experience effected me.

So, now is your time. Go get laid. But understand that to have sex with that many women, you have really not care about women’s feelings. You have to be a borderline sociopath. Unless you’re 100% sure the woman is just looking for a one night stand and just having fun.

I have a friend that sleeps around a lot. His life is shit. He fucks over women. Burns bridges. He’s lost the respect of not just those women, but both male and female friends. Just some food for thought as you go forward.

Lastly, the emotional damage gets worse as you get older. So, not rush you, but as I said, the time is now. Good luck!

hellayaked · 2020-05-12T23:15:32+00:00

Make more female friends. Make it your goal to have 6 female friends. They give you preselection then you can date their friends friends or approach girls with them, likely people come up to you if you are having a good time and inviting people into your life. It’s a slower game but spruce up your ig for now, maybe hop on the apps if you like. I used to host photoshoots and getting people together. Be a connector

MrMemper · 2020-05-12T22:18:51+00:00

Waaaay different playing field today. Back then women played fair. A charming guy would kill it. Then PUA grew.... Then in 2008 it went mainstream and hit VH1. Then the beast was awoken. The beast knows the game better than most men just naturally bc girls begin to study boy behavior starting at like age 10. Boys on the other hand are studying toys.

Now attractive women run game very well. Now they like “oh, you wanna play? Let’s play”.

Just look at IG and Tinder. They get meals, entertainment, and travel and don’t have to give up the pussy. They have cooks, chauffeurs and the guy to lean on for moving and crying.

This is why traditional PUA game is useless for the most part these days and now you gotta actually be someone of substance.

muff_marauder · 2020-05-12T22:29:11+00:00

People aren't going to tell you face-to-face what really makes them good with the opposite sex, least of all your parents.

Here are just a few reasons your dad may have been a sex god but they are too spicy for your folks to tell you:

1) dad was rumored to have a gigantic cock,

2) dad was rumored to be amazing in bed,

3) dad was rumored to be great at BDSM,

4) dad was rumored to be a misogynistic pig who treated girls like sluts just the way those girls wanted to be abused,

5) dad had some unique quality to him back then that he has since lost with age and is too ashamed in old age to discuss,

6) dad specialized in fucking other people's desperate girlfriends/wives

7) dad is bisexual and many of these hookups were with men or "two guys, one girl"

It doesn't stop with these. Women — such as your mom — like men for many, any, or no reason at all. Maybe your mom's panties were soaked by your dad's cool car or motorcycle. Maybe she was his "strawberry" and fucked him for free drugs. Maybe she loved being treated like shit by him. Maybe she liked him because he was unavailable and she got an ego boost from fucking a "taken man". Maybe she liked him because "everyone else liked him, so he must be valuable".

Reality is ugly. People know that, so they often make their reasons for success sound ambiguous... "he just had a way with words, honey."

grack_slacker · 2020-05-12T22:29:21+00:00

Well you need to start by talking to more than 10 girls

ameenalter · 2020-05-12T17:50:15+00:00

Look like me and you are the same, my dad was massive player and normally anytime I meet one of my father long time friend, they would always say the same thing “are you a player like your father” and I would say “no” then they would say for real.

partialderivatives06 · 2020-05-12T22:25:46+00:00

if you ever find out what is his secret let us know too, please !!! lol

WaitingForTheFire · 2020-05-12T22:27:03+00:00

I don't know if my dad was a player. But I've seen old pictures of him before he met my mother. He definitely had swagger and he was popular with the ladies. I guess it skipped a generation. 😕

meme_machine42O · 2020-05-12T23:12:18+00:00

Yeah dude, mine was too. Such a good one that I never met him lmao

r4ndom2 · 2020-05-12T23:12:55+00:00

Honestly when you read some of this stuff it can sound so complex like you need to be a “thug and gentleman at the same time.” But honestly there’s girls out there that wouldn’t care or would hate if you were one or the other or both. That part is a numbers game. I would honestly summarize every single thing down to one point: if you’re outcome independent, that’s the main thing. If you don’t can’t about getting the girl, like legitimately you don’t care what happens. That will make the biggest difference. That sheds the neediness.

Skynada · 2020-05-12T23:18:03+00:00

So you’ve got a lot of half siblings then?

-BiG_T- · 2020-05-12T23:34:10+00:00

Ugh, mate I'm in the same boat😂. Well it's more like my entire family are full of casanova's and I'm the only one who didn't inherit the family "Charm".

From single girls to married women, some married to gang bosses😂😂 my family has a lot of feats around that.

I've seen my dad in action, when he was still a bit younger and my parents had split. Women just hanging off him🤣🤷‍♂️. Doesn't bother me too much considering I'd rather not go through hassles and just get a girl that I can keep for life. In saying that my body count is pretty low, but it's there haha.

I'm sure you got it in you, don't be shy to talk about it with your old man. I don't, cause I loathe talking to him about anything personal. Considering he didn't really care when I was growing up and going through my teens(I'm 22 now). But ya know you might have a different relationship and I'm sure your dad would be more than happy to help if that's the thing you want to do

eazolan · 2020-05-13T01:15:30+00:00

Your Dad is literally RIGHT THERE.

Ask him!

KingRigved · 2020-05-13T05:24:57+00:00

No one is gonna call out the statutory r@pe? Sex at 12? fr?

-OrionC · 2020-05-12T23:55:50+00:00

Maybe you are adopted :D

i hope i helped

TwoTinders · 2020-05-12T22:15:26+00:00

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manonpoint_com · 2020-05-12T23:19:43+00:00

Just keep going out there and improving yourself and your game -- you most definitely do not have to be a natural to rack up numbers in the 100s, depending how long you are single, and if that's a goal of yours.

miyagikai91 · 2020-05-12T23:25:53+00:00

You’re not him. Don’t try to be him. But a better you.

yzass9 · 2020-05-12T23:38:18+00:00

How old is your dad. My dad was going for 80 women in 1980. He was well over halfway. Then he got my step mom pregnant. I think he was at about 60. It was a different time back then, I guess.

qsejfonv · 2020-05-12T23:58:33+00:00

Act like you’re hot and you become hot I don’t know how to describe it but we females care about how you hold yourself. I liked a guy who I admit was a 6/10 maybe lower, but he was smart, confident, and held himself to a standard.

TheFuckingWriter · 2020-05-13T00:04:17+00:00

Surprised he had enough nut left to make you

JessykaLauren · 2020-05-13T00:23:51+00:00

Girls notice when you have an endgame. Stop having one. Treat a girl like you don’t need her to fufill your sex life (which everyone should aspire to be self-sufficient) and she’ll be curious as to why, and thus be more interested in you. Be interested, but not desperate. That’s what your dad means by the good and bad guy thing. Like it’d be nice to get the girl, but it doesn’t matter if it doesn’t happen

Edit: it seems As though I am unclear, as per another redditor. The overall message I’m trying to say is- people can tell when the other person is just trying to use them. If you go in to it genuinely interested about the other person, they’ll feel seen and heard, and thus more likely to ‘open up’ to you- be it their legs or whatever.

aarasla · 2020-05-13T00:28:02+00:00

User name checks out

bdog2398 · 2020-05-13T01:10:59+00:00

Do you think hookup culture was different back then too? I know people are getting laid less now.

tuxedosmom · 2020-05-13T02:15:48+00:00

Don’t compare yourself to anybody. Everyone goes at their own pace.

But if you’re trying to pick up girls and experience more I would say don’t be shy. If you take a girl out ask to kiss her and show you’re interested in getting to know her. If she likes the way you flirt with her she’s gonna want to take you to bed.

Metron- · 2020-05-13T03:51:14+00:00

How on earth did he manage that many?

Was he going out 3+ times a week/approaching like 50 girls a day or something?

takka1013 · 2020-05-13T03:52:26+00:00

Just because he said 400 doesnt mean 400 , it could be 90 and his over exaggerating

appbummer · 2020-05-13T05:21:28+00:00

Is that 400 really that important? Most of time when I heard guys boasting about sleeping with multiple girls, I find 80% of those girls look meh. What is spectacular about that lol

Ket_om · 2020-05-13T08:04:53+00:00

I struggled too for a while thinking the same as you. My dad was considered quite attractive sleeping with women that were good looking even by today's standards. After much effort to figure it out I did succeed and looks only play part of the role. I've been told im a 7/10 or around that but what really changed everything was my mindset. I decided to let the suave me come through in interactions with women. I like to joke especially with smooth flirty jokes and that has gotten me way further than any looks have. Confidence in yourself with a calm cool demeanor means way more than being a point better in the looks department. The ideal way to meet women and create great experiences is by being dressed attractive(neat and clean), calm, fun, charming and confident.

Teamtoast · 2020-05-13T10:56:38+00:00

Why does this matter? Focus on yourself not him.

Liberaler · 2020-05-13T11:21:18+00:00

Being a player or wanting to be one is not a good thing. It's something immature. It's even in the word itself - he just plays instead of forming meaningful relationships with (a) women.

nameyname3 · 2020-05-13T14:05:53+00:00

Your dad sounds like he’s bragging to you in order to big note himself. Was he in your life as a kid?

BigMezza · 2020-05-13T16:17:58+00:00

I'm in the same kinda boat, I have no idea what my Dads body count is, it would be weird to ask, but I'm guessing it's high. He's nearly 64, and his last girlfriend was a 36 year old married women that left her millionaire husband for my Dad... who's basically a beach bum. I'm 25, my dads 64, and gets laid more than me. Kinda depressing to be honest.

I know I'm good looking, and I can talk to girls. But I've also been depressed and pushed away most girls that come into my life since my teens, everything is an effort and I don't really care enough to try to get laid. I should probably see a therapist or something.

lolking9191 · 2020-05-13T19:12:16+00:00

You’re a lame...... that’s it. You’re clearly not that good with game or women or else you wouldn’t be here asking for help. Drop the ego and actually look at your mistakes and short comings. It’s already a know fact that women praise looks above all else after that it’s a matter of you not saying dumb shit to make them not want to have sex with you.

recyclablebanthas · 2020-05-15T01:57:00+00:00

So am i missing something or am i just unlucky enough to have his charm with girls?

Look, if he raised you, then the infrastructure is there inside you somewhere.

You haven't said how old you are, but I'm betting you're well under 25? Possibly 18 or younger?

There's a lot of shit that's going on when we were younger that can easily suppress the more positive sides of our personality from expressing themselves.

The issue is probably related to confidence. There's probably a lot of wisdom that your dad has given you that you're just not ready to use because lack of confidence can be a barrier to implementing even the best advice.

presobg · 2020-05-12T23:08:27+00:00

No chad but at least a 7/10 Soo.. You have the next best thing to a six pack ,a more than average income ,good looking,smell nice,.

That's a 7/10 at least in Europe don't know about other places. A 10/10 would be millionaire ultra buffed ,beautiful face Basically the guy who plays Thor.

What Im saying is that your not as good looking as you might think if you are not getting girls..

TheMailmanic · 2020-05-12T21:14:37+00:00

You know how if you ask a girl how many guys she slept with you need to multiply by 3 to get the true number? With older guys you need to divide by 10 lol

i-like-2-sleep · 2020-05-13T15:05:23+00:00

you’ve literally made posts saying you got an sti, you don’t like black people and got in trouble with a drug dealer?? are you really surprised that girls don’t want to do more?

Title	Turns out my dad was a player.
Author	jahjahfuckmedaddy
Upvotes	248
Comments	100
Date	May 12, 2020 5:48 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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