Very awkward date

Popular_Variation170 · 2021-07-17T13:11:11+00:00

Ditch her bro she seems horrible. You deserve better.

2021-07-17T13:33:42+00:00

What do I think? Unnecessarily high maintenance and not interested in you beyond what she can get out of you. Maybe she's got too much on her plate to focus on being a good date, maybe this is her standard self. Either way sounds like you would've had more fun treating yourself to sonic and a movie than including her.

1keentolearn12 · 2021-07-17T13:25:01+00:00

That was a disastrous date. What exactly are you unsure of?

It’s time to move on. More importantly I hope work isn’t awkward for you now

c-boy123 · 2021-07-17T14:28:43+00:00

She’s more interested in your resources and what you can provide. Think about it, she’s a single mother so her first and only priority will be her child.

In that regard you dodged a bullet my friend.

MistahUndaCova001 · 2021-07-17T15:28:08+00:00

She mistreated you throughout the entire date because you didn't open the car door for her? Yikes. She didn't even give you a chance. As viewers of your post, the majority of us, including myself, agree that she was the issue here but let's take a look at what you could've done better. Before I get into it, I hope you're dodging that bullet that was that woman. She might've dodged a bullet too. I wasn't there so I don't know the whole story.

I highly advise against dating people from your workplace. This is one of those "Don't sh-- where you eat" instances. With how things went with her on that day, can you say for sure that you two will have a professional working relationship? I doubt it. I highly advise against dating women with children too. Trust me. You don't want to deal with that. Her children will always be her priority. If you two were to get married or move in (which clearly you two won't), you won't have a say in much. Heck, you can't even punish her children both verbally and physically. It would be safe to say that the household is already toxic with how her and her daughter were talking on the phone. Heck, she allegedly had an abusive husband too. She needs to seek come counseling.

Movie theatre dates set you up for failure from the get-go. It leaves little to no room for eye contact, conversation, and physical escalation. Those are very important when it comes to dating. You were better off taking her for a glass or two of wine. In a way, you should be content with how this played out because she showed you enough that should put you off from going on another date. Her communication skills are poor, she's toxic, and she's cheap. She expected you to pay for 2 cups, popcorn, other snacks at concessions, and food from sonic? She expected you to pay for food from Sonic after behaving like that towards you? Lol. Collectively, that sounds like a Benjamin. She was using you for your money from the get-go. She didn't even give you a chance.

IamWisdom · 2021-07-17T17:24:04+00:00

What the fuck are you doing spending even an extra second thinking on this. This girl is obviously fucked up and has tons of baggage and sounds like she has narcisistic tendencies which is someone you want to run far away from very quickly.

Ohhhwordddd · 2021-07-17T14:51:08+00:00

What a bitch. Don’t talk to her ever again

Legitimate-Lies · 2021-07-17T17:17:16+00:00

You didn’t dodge a bullet, you dodged a whole firing squad. Imagine you got into a relationship with this girl. What a butch

mrcloso · 2021-07-17T16:34:31+00:00

Now you found out she is garbage. Move on.

sarthak989 · 2021-07-17T17:50:46+00:00

Seems like she is trying to get u act like her husband or blaming u is her defence machanism, people with PTSD tend to do that

meogdon · 2021-07-17T15:42:52+00:00

I'm sorry for you that you wasted this evening with such a useless woman. Just forget her.

Chrisanova_NY · 2021-07-17T17:29:48+00:00

Aside from the rest of the points made... DON'T DATE CO-WORKERS.

Now you've got a potentially bigger issue at your job. If she really wants to make things difficult, she will tell HR that you are a harasser.

LindaTica · 2021-07-17T16:08:57+00:00

Don’t mix work with dating. Definitely not a good idea.

HideyourkidsForreal · 2021-07-17T16:34:25+00:00

You > That

Don't bother with her. While it might have been a shitty date, you now have an amazing story to tell your friends or another date.

"I once went on a date with (your post) - what's your worst date story" etc

curiouzzboutit · 2021-07-17T16:54:34+00:00

She sounds like a bitch with her own problems. You don't need re-assurance from us that she's a bitch if you were there first hand when she acted like one. You'll know the good ones when you find them.

2021-07-17T16:56:11+00:00

"So I dated a woman from work..." is never gonna end well.

-Kast- · 2021-07-17T17:24:10+00:00

1) She thinks higher of herself than she should 2) She already expects things from you 3) She sees you as a source of resources, not as a person

Personally, I'd just ghost someone like this, even if I worked with them. Act like the date never even happened if you have to interact with them.

2021-07-17T17:38:34+00:00

What do I think? I think you dodged a bullet.

sarthak989 · 2021-07-17T17:50:41+00:00

Seems like she is trying to get u act like her husband or blaming u is her defence machanism, people with PTSD tend to do that

UnparliamentaryTea · 2021-07-17T18:08:21+00:00

I wouldn’t overthink it. She sounds like someone who is extremely high maintenance and not particularly fun to be around

Fist0fGuthix · 2021-07-17T18:14:31+00:00

She’s crazy

TheSunshineMan · 2021-07-17T18:14:43+00:00

She sounds like a nightmare - block her and run for the hills.

The date wasn't disastrous, she's disastrous.

Also going to see a movie is a horrible first date choice - you can't talk..

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-07-17T18:16:54+00:00

I hope she gets the help she needs

From a professional not you

No_Ad_9717 · 2021-07-17T18:19:35+00:00

How many red flags do you need. Run for cover!!

tiddiesandnunchucks · 2021-07-17T18:28:59+00:00

You dodged a bullet bro. You should be rejoicing 🙂

2021-07-17T15:28:23+00:00

I don’t think a movie is a good first date bc you don’t get to talk. Not sure if that’s the case here but something to keep in mind

Edit: Also, ditch this bitch

9MaxR9 · 2021-07-17T13:56:04+00:00

Fuck that STUPID BITCH.

UnusualDevelopment95 · 2021-07-17T16:22:48+00:00

From a woman, it sounds like there wasn’t good communication from either party. You weren’t aware enough of what she was feeling and when you did feel off, you didn’t ask what was going on. It’s important in healthy relationships to just cut the BS, don’t walk around issues. Confront them directly so that you can resolve them. Instead, you ignored it and just let her simmer, which definitely built up over the two hour movie period until she felt ready to blow up.

As for the woman, as others have said she sounds really high maintenance and either crazy or just really disillusioned from previous experiences. And obviously if she felt that way, she should have been less passive aggressive about it, but also it’s awkward for her to say what she’s feeling in this case unless directly asked. So I’m glad you asked, and I’m glad she responded honestly and openly.

Sorry this happened to you. Sucks even more since you’re coworkers.

Oh and as others said, don’t think you should continue seeing her. Since you work together, you should find a professional and mature way to break things off easy. Talk it out, don’t just ghost each other, since you’ll have to see each other work and maintain a professional relationship there.

4JoshLiam4d · 2021-07-17T15:26:41+00:00

Yup, she's looking for a provider and a "Dad" for her daughter probably, that's why you should never date mommys, and if her husband was "abusive" he most likely started off as "alpha" "cool" or "exciting" and then he "turned out to be a totally different person" when she comes to her senses and starts thinking. Turn the page, you deserve more.

Neither_Respect3714 · 2021-07-17T13:18:26+00:00

Some guy behaved similar on our first date and it was also our last

HashZer0 · 2021-07-17T17:39:41+00:00

she sounds like someone who's active on r/femaledatingstrategy

RealHumanBeing2021 · 2021-07-17T15:04:26+00:00

Sorry, man. That sounds extremely uncomfortable.

DakiAge · 2021-07-17T15:52:44+00:00

What an awful woman.

You shouldn't have spent your time with her.

PushOrganic · 2021-07-17T16:06:39+00:00

She wants to act like a child then she’ll continue being laughed at like a child. Your good, she’s was just having a bad day or having a bad life. Neither are your problem

nag1878 · 2021-07-17T16:32:57+00:00

Ugh. No thanks...all the best for your next dates :)

jack_of_AllTrades-97 · 2021-07-17T16:55:30+00:00

Chivalry ain't dead but this is just too far man, time to move on !!

GiantSocks · 2021-07-17T17:02:21+00:00

Run.

ddrj · 2021-07-17T17:08:26+00:00

She did you a favor. Imagine having to deal with this type of behavior for an elongated period of time.

wowzers6914 · 2021-07-17T17:14:38+00:00

Please move on and don't talk to her again Too many things went wrong

Disastrous_Adagio_76 · 2021-07-17T17:14:56+00:00

You’re on a date and invested your time. She was rude. You deserve a better human being. It’s not you, it’s her. Can’t wait to see Black Widow. I love superheroes movie. Marvel vs. DC . I love em all!!!!!

Killinger_ · 2021-07-17T17:20:15+00:00

What other people said, also for future reference movies aren’t that great for first dates in terms of conversation.

whocares205 · 2021-07-17T17:24:17+00:00

She seems like she could have abusive ways herself bc she didnt care about how her actions could affect ur feelings/date experience. Just b grateful she showed her ass on the first date.

unpopularpuffin6 · 2021-07-17T18:49:15+00:00

I'd bet dollars t doughnuts she was the abusive one to her husband. People can usually hide their crazy on the first date, she has so much of it, she couldn't hide all of it.

simbuah · 2021-07-17T19:01:59+00:00

Abuse attracts abuse. She is very emotionally abusive, and is manipulating you. Leave before you trauma bond!

Zooooooombie · 2021-07-17T19:07:51+00:00

Holy shit, the fact that you're UNSURE of this makes me worry about your level of insecurity and your mental health.. I think that anyone who respects themselves would not put up with this on a first date, or at least wouldn't consider going on another date with her. This is her at her best man.. I'm gonna recommend the old Reddit "go to therapy" move for you sir. I've been going to therapy for a while now and it's helped me A LOT with my self-esteem and insecurity issues. I still struggle sometimes though so I'm not trying to say my shit doesn't stink..

dreadway90 · 2021-07-17T19:15:20+00:00

Not staying for the credits at a Marvel movie is a major major red flag.

ComedianNo7984 · 2021-07-17T19:18:04+00:00

Text here bye Felicia and watch she is gonna come back for something later.

tanenbaum · 2021-07-17T19:18:40+00:00

There's some crazy bitches out there. Don't waste your time.

RedCafe69 · 2021-07-17T17:56:10+00:00

Man, she must be pretty hot.

Idk, I mean she may have been having a bad day. I don’t really like movie dates partially because you both just sit in silence. If you think she might chill out when you get to know her, might be worth booking another conversation/game date where you can try to have a meeting of the minds.

From how you describe it though, doesn’t sound like she was happy with you, the activity or maybe both.

dwiggs81 · 2021-07-17T19:03:24+00:00

If a woman demands to be treated "like a woman" tell her that she needs to get on her knees and "treat me like a man." Stereotypes cut both ways, and if a woman expects traditional gender norms well then she better live up to her end of the bargain.

mydicksore · 2021-07-17T18:24:23+00:00

babymamas are a nono, u just learned why she’s a single mom

PrimeTone · 2021-07-17T13:17:56+00:00

This is why I stopped dating women

Moikepdx · 2021-07-17T17:52:04+00:00

It's possible that she really is old fashioned. It's also possible that she's using "you didn't open the door for me" as en excuse since she didn't feel a spark and thinks that's an easier way to say it's not going to work out, especially since she's dealing with a co-worker that she'll have to continue to see professionally in the future.

G35guy1994 · 2021-07-17T19:27:01+00:00

Stay away from single mothers

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2021-07-17T17:06:09+00:00

Sounds like you weren't compatible. Not much else to say.

asterysk · 2021-07-17T16:58:20+00:00

Yeesh

sauceyzaddy · 2021-07-17T16:59:25+00:00

Man lmao who gives a fuck. I’m sure she works, she can pay for herself lol.

AJAY_SS · 2021-07-17T18:54:29+00:00

What do we think of this. Bro, what do you think of this?

ForsakenLeopard0 · 2021-07-17T20:00:05+00:00

Was this a first date? If so, never take a girl out to a movie for a first date. No opportunity to flirt and build rapport. Escalate physically? Sure but it’s going to be awkward.

The attitude alone from her would’ve made me leave. Also, if she is upset because she expected you to open the car door for her on a possible first date, you need to run away. These types of women who have high expectations this early on will try and walk all over you and if you let them, you’re fucked.

Thest0rm_99 · 2021-07-17T20:32:53+00:00

Predatory woman. Avoid like the plague. Probably wanna block that number too, she seems unstable...

Also I would say that her being a single mother is a big red flag and her behavior shows me that Im right

Oakland3369 · 2021-07-17T20:33:07+00:00

Hahahaha

random869 · 2021-07-17T20:53:17+00:00

She wanted you to pay for her daughter's meal too?

If you don't see it for what it is. We can't help you!

pman1013000 · 2021-07-18T04:02:00+00:00

She’s testing to see how much of a pussy you are. Judging from you deleting this post, probably are. The moment things like that happen, you leave. No words, just leave.

Title	Very awkward date
Author	meogdon
Upvotes	242
Comments	89
Date	July 17, 2021 1:10 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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