Whenever you’re wondering what you should text, ask yourself whether she’s wondering the same thing. If not, her value is higher than yours

samsabz · 2020-05-14T10:27:23+00:00

I noticed that texting the girl you don't like romantically is always smoother and better than the girls you actually like but the key is to treat all woman the same, don't put them in rankings if you do that you will screw up with the girl on the top of the ranking because you feel below her.

Sharingan_ · 2020-05-14T09:57:00+00:00

Tldr, abundance mindset

edgeOfTheWorld12 · 2020-05-14T10:47:35+00:00

What do you mean by "her value is higher then mine"?

Sorry, english is not my main language.

TeraTwo · 2020-05-14T11:06:30+00:00

That’s not always the case. Attractive girls usually respond with one or two words which makes it even harder to build a conversation on that. Let alone handling the value differences

daudionut · 2020-05-14T14:52:11+00:00

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PrinceBean · 2020-05-14T10:11:22+00:00

Yeah, no. This never happens OP. A girl has too many options to worry about what she’s texting you, so this doesn’t work. However, that doesn’t mean you should worry about what to text her. Don’t overthink it. If she’s not interested, move on.

misterandosan · 2020-05-14T10:24:52+00:00

this might be a good method to keep your mentality in check.

Nothing wrong with punching above your weight though. You might find out down the line your perceptions of her are completely wrong!

OpeningOut · 2020-05-14T13:22:36+00:00

These girl are people just like you. Don’t worry about this pedestal business. You be yourself when talking to another human you want to be close to, because if you’re not being yourself, what basis are you beginning this relationship on?

Greek-God-Brody · 2020-05-14T12:56:31+00:00

Yes. But don't fake being high value. Actually be.

-BroncosForever- · 2020-05-14T12:32:37+00:00

Wtf no.

Never try to guess what a girl is thinking, you will be completely off. This is the most bone headed primitive cave man advice ever.

What’s next, you gonna ask her why she’s upset??

SpongebogShkworpens · 2020-05-14T16:58:41+00:00

That or you are not practiced at text game and need to improve. If you just text whatever when ever without experience, you will never learn and stagnate.

peak-performance- · 2020-05-14T11:35:01+00:00

I read this like “whenever you’re wondering what you should text next ask yourself to read her mind” Next

Slashgate · 2020-05-14T13:35:17+00:00

I've had dates where I felt I needed to maintain contact and it just felt forced... I didn't want to message her... no pedestal to stop me...

sabucoush · 2020-05-14T10:10:12+00:00

Thank you OP I needed that piece of advise. I usually find myself calculating my replies to a certain someone. I would even try to wait to respond not right away which is a childish game that I should not be playing. I mean, adults reply when they see the message and get the time to do so. Not postponing to keep their Someone waiting.

Killjoys13 · 2020-05-14T11:13:05+00:00

Sometimes I feel like she is wondering the same. She would read my text, which would be a neutral statement which she can just leave without replying anything, and then reply with something, like 7 mins after. What does that mean?

erect_sean · 2020-05-14T14:58:45+00:00

It's a good initial tip to get out of a needy mindset, however you have to be careful because it's only a better version of the same problem. You're still overthinking but this time every time you're texting a girl you're wondering if you about value.

My advice would be not to take texting too seriously. It's not the best form of communication. I've met some girls who respond with a couple of words by text but in person are very chatty and sociable.

LM10JBPE · 2020-05-14T16:21:13+00:00

And how would I know if she's wondering the same thing?

Valvolt · 2020-05-14T16:40:01+00:00

I don't know, I usually do this because I'm a perfectionist and like to say cool and appropriate things.

It's mostly a challenge with myself, a way to learn the art of expressing myself with elegance.

Umbran_scale · 2020-05-14T19:39:48+00:00

As much as I like to encourage this mentality, don't forget that you're just one more candidate in the line of men chasing after her and if you aren't meeting her standards she can and more than likely will drop and ghost you in a moments notice.

SteroidsFreak · 2020-05-14T17:25:19+00:00

This is bad advice, she will think about u when she feels like it. For all we know she could be texting 10 other guys at the same time. Say what u need to say, keep it simple and keep it witty to have the conversation going. Starting a conversation saying "hey" or "how's it going" will not work.

Wander1900 · 2020-05-14T13:25:42+00:00

It's better to give up on dating... You waste too much time and resources for in the end not working....

Sunlitstream264 · 2020-05-14T13:23:18+00:00

I needed this

Ultiran · 2020-05-14T16:09:22+00:00

Exactly this. I used to do this and stopped mainly cause it was causing me a lot of anxiety and grief.

XtremePeace · 2020-05-14T18:37:37+00:00

The most down to earth I read in weeks.

Exciting_Champion · 2020-05-14T18:39:00+00:00

I basically agree with you but i think you are making it a bit to easy. If you have none experience with texting women you will always wonder what to text and you have to go through this process to come in the state that you describe.

relentless_pma · 2020-05-14T19:05:33+00:00

But if you want to improve textgame you have to think about what to sent so....

dimlakalaka · 2020-05-14T19:48:38+00:00

One should take a long view of things that they balance out. You put in more time at places than the other person does. These kinds of strategies just beget more kind of these crappy strategies. Have standards, if someone meets them, chase them.

throwawaymusur · 2020-05-14T20:15:33+00:00

how about just text her when its necessary?

Abouelkhir · 2020-05-14T23:07:28+00:00

Maybe the best advice I read here

notcrazy_justtired · 2020-05-14T23:52:14+00:00

Girls who have interest in you will usually text fast and talk about anything and probably ask when you both will hang out again probably imply as such “damn I’m so bored I want to get ice cream or some thing. Another would be “have you been to so and so place” ask to get together don’t offer to get it for her and drop it off that how you may get a date.

xoVictoriaLopez · 2020-05-15T02:24:57+00:00

😟 I am so traumatized to read this... lol you guys are getting too smart. I kinda don’t like it.... losing control. But like....... I kinda like it. 🙇🏽‍♀️

shanuv12 · 2020-05-15T05:58:12+00:00

Very true

happy-m · 2020-05-15T06:37:26+00:00

Lovely!

woahman0421 · 2020-05-14T14:19:24+00:00

OP i mean you could also just be ok whether she likes u or doesnt like you. like knowing your worth to yourself is important but worrying what other people think of your worth to them is pointless. Lmk if i misunderstood your words

Title	Whenever you’re wondering what you should text, ask yourself whether she’s wondering the same thing. If not, her value is higher than yours
Author	mr_Tobbor
Upvotes	701
Comments	118
Date	May 14, 2020 7:39 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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