Hooking up ok?

Dangerous_Item_6879 · 2023-05-20T04:24:04+00:00

You are a man with needs. Who cares about the promises. That chapter is done.

wisstinks4 · 2023-05-20T03:25:30+00:00

If it were me, and it’s not, I would not do it. I know finding intimacy, connection and physical touch from a woman who desires you versus your wife, who is trying to get rid of you, would be a great thing.

For me it wouldn’t feel right, I would wait until the dust settles. You will get a wide range of responses here. It’s a matter of principle. I have had many opportunities to wander around the corner and enjoy a beautiful women. I cannot. My vows mean more.

You do you and sort out the details later.

OkFig8717 · 2023-05-20T02:58:43+00:00

Right or wrong, I think it's ok. You've told her the marriage is over, you're just waiting for the state to catch up.

TBH, my view may be a little skewed because I hadn't had sex in years, but damn that itch needed to be scratched.

Just make sure it's nobody you have a friendship or any other relationship with. You don't want any more issues right now, you know how easy it is for a woman to bring drama into your life.

ijustdontcare74 · 2023-05-20T04:27:51+00:00

Personally I wouldn’t, and didn’t. You need to concentrate and focus without distractions. At this critical stage you don’t need any possibility of unwanted pregnancy, emotional entanglement etc. Give yourself a break from women completely and work on just having fun for you. Find new hobbies, friends and just enjoy not having to put anyone else’s feelings above your own.

Feinixaway · 2023-05-20T04:39:22+00:00

I hooked up and I feel it helped me move on. In all cases they were divorcing or recently divorced so they were looking for the same. I had a lot (and I mean a lot) of sex. Don't become emotionally attached and don't let them become attached. Women are needy sometimes.

Once I got it out of my system I was able to focus more on improving myself, having a good social life, hobbies, etc.

whatamoniker1 · 2023-05-20T13:44:59+00:00

Hooking up helped me move on. You know the old saying, the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody. Or something like that.

Just dont get into a relationship or let them control you in any way whatsoever. You're a man, go forth, and smash

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2023-05-20T14:11:22+00:00

In your mind state, wait until the divorce is over with.

You got one bitch to deal with, why juggle two? Besides, channel that energy into some sweet self-improvement and enjoy the moments of peace.

YouPeopleAreGarbage · 2023-05-20T16:29:29+00:00

Thinking with your dick is what got you in the marriage predicament in the first place, no?

MrFelixHasGoals · 2023-05-20T23:37:00+00:00

It is not going to help you process your emotions if you bury the emotions in sex and relationship chasing. Serotonin is lovely. But it can master you and rob you.

Work out. Be friends. Goto counseling. Get to know yourself.

I_Touched_Grass · 2023-05-20T07:55:16+00:00

Get a vasectomy

Competitive_Drop_908 · 2023-05-20T05:25:34+00:00

Not wrong. It may or may not be best for you. Just be protective of your mental health and be very honest upfront with your partner should you choose to do it.

I felt guilty about it at first. But it was actually really healing for me to experience someone new and special again for the first time. Just don’t stick your dick in crazy.

captainchippsixx · 2023-05-20T21:10:13+00:00

Are you living somewhere else?

ciscokid12345 · 2023-05-20T14:40:18+00:00

DO: get a nice young hooker. use protection. have fun for an hour. pay her $200.

DONT: hook up with the young nurse from work and have another baby before your divorce is finalized like my old neighbor Kurtis. sell the new mustang gt you bought for your midlife crisis and get a new family wagon for your 4 kids with two different moms. kurtis is an idiot.

Kenuven · 2023-05-20T03:27:37+00:00

It's more like guidelines than actual rules.

As long as your STBXW knows you are getting divorced, live your life the way you want.

For some, hook ups help the transition and, for others, it hinders their progress. You won't know until you get in the situation and see how it affects you.

FunkyTownMascot · 2023-05-20T04:45:47+00:00

Hooking up is fine if you know the divorce is irreversible. She's probably doing it.

mrk177 · 2023-05-20T04:53:49+00:00

Get your rocks off, use it to move on it a very meaningless way. If you feel guilty it’s probably because you’re not over your STBXW. If that the case work on your self and don’t fuck with distractions.

Theedon · 2023-05-20T04:58:49+00:00

Just don't turn into the EX that knocks up a girl 2 months out of a marriage.

cykazuc · 2023-05-20T11:49:49+00:00

I wouldn’t want to.. sure the feelings might feel right during the time, but most times than not, all it is a bit of rebound. You would be better off spending your energy elsewhere to improve on yourself or to simply get things in place in your head.

Flimsy_Ad4990 · 2023-05-20T11:51:41+00:00

You are getting a divorce and you don't owe her anything. Hook up if you want to

BurnDownTheMission68 · 2023-05-20T12:10:35+00:00

Just don’t “Catch feelings.”

Which can be difficult not to do, depending on your situation.

Timbers-creek · 2023-05-20T13:08:19+00:00

You do what you want to do, not what others think you should do.

Infinite_Ad_4765 · 2023-05-23T23:46:41+00:00

I wouldn’t worry about it. You’re not going to get any tail by surfing Reddit while eating a pizza and drinking Coors until you pass out. If you’ve been married for some time, the chance of a virus will freak the shit out of you.

Title	Hooking up ok?
Author	CornNugget986
Upvotes	7
Comments	39
Date	May 20, 2023 2:48 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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