If men's concern about women's sexual history signals male insecurity, lack of sex appeal & inexperience; why can't you just marry highly experienced, sexually gifted & secure men?

PurplePillDebate-ModTeam · 2025-10-06T03:17:26+00:00

OP got banned.

half_avocado33 · 2025-10-05T23:04:13+00:00

Those are the only guys i dated, also the man i married.

I think it needs to be reminded from time to time that according to the sub survey, most women here are partnered.

Excellent_Badger123 · 2025-10-05T22:36:33+00:00

Those are pretty much the men I seriously dated and married in life 😏

MoreCheesePlease8675 · 2025-10-05T22:41:12+00:00

That's assuming that an LTR is what I'm looking for 😂.

ThatBitchA · 2025-10-05T22:32:31+00:00

I'm not affected by or concerned.

I do participate in a recurring discussion because it's hilarious. But it doesn't mean I'm affected or care that some men out there aren't interested in dating me.

Generally though, women do marry the man who is secure and "sexually gifted".

Skwiish · 2025-10-05T22:42:32+00:00

I don’t concern myself with men who are preoccupied with sexual history to begin with. I don’t know how you can conclude that women who think like me are sexually promiscuous and have been somehow sidelined by “highly sexually experienced, secure, gifted men”, since all of those qualities are extremely uncommon to find together in one man to begin with. Plus I thought the justification for male promiscuity was the “genetic predisposition” to wanting novelty.

Pure-Ad-8175 · 2025-10-05T22:36:25+00:00

Because those aren't the only qualities adults look for in serious partners.

People are looking for someone to vacation with their parents, to buy a house with, raise kids with, retire with, be their best friend and emergency contact. There are a million areas to potentially be compatible or incompatible.

It's weird that you have to ask this question...

Barneysparky · 2025-10-05T22:36:23+00:00

I'm not. I did.

Most women do, hence forever alone guys.

fiftypoundpuppy · 2025-10-05T22:48:36+00:00

The only men I've ever interacted with "concerned" about this have existed exclusively on this sub.

In my real life this hasn't once ever been a concern for any man I've ever interacted with in a romantic capacity. I have no idea why I'd ever have insecure unsexy men in my dating pool to begin with, my pussy ain't a charity

So this whole post is based on an unproven assumption. In real life the neurotic inexperienced men obsessed with women's sexual history aren't the men in the dating pool of high-n women who want experienced sexually secure men in the first place. Most people mate assortatively. So I don't understand why men on this sub keep pushing this narrative that high-n women are constantly dating and pairing up with men on the completely opposite end of sociosexuality. We truly aren't checking for y'all, we are not the boogeyman in your closet, we are not the monsters hiding under your bed. The idea we are as obsessed with you as you are with us is purely projection

Sonia314 · 2025-10-05T22:39:41+00:00

I belong to a community where these kind of quality men are the norm, and they couldn't care less about anyone's sexual history. A lot of these critiques are coming from women in my position who are satisfied with our sex/dating life but believe wider society would be better off if there were more communities like ours.

Itscatpicstime · 2025-10-05T23:05:13+00:00

We literally do marry these men lmao

Doesn’t mean we can’t give our opinion on when other men are being losers.

ATasteofTx214 · 2025-10-06T00:36:57+00:00

Those men are often non-monagamous; that's not desirable for marriage

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-10-06T00:37:49+00:00

i did

ThatBitchA · 2025-10-05T23:56:02+00:00

Really, this boils down to OP being upset that men will have sex with any woman, no matter if she's fat, old, or ugly.

Thus, it's "easy" for women to get sex.

Making women, big meanies, for having standards and only fucking men they attracted to + trust and/or in relationships with.

Novadina · 2025-10-05T23:57:10+00:00

If men's concern about women's sexual history signals male insecurity, lack of sex appeal & inexperience; why can't you just marry highly experienced, sexually gifted & secure men?

We do.

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Lysa_Bell · 2025-10-06T01:51:29+00:00

I am married to a secure man. And he knows about all of my sexual history. I dont even understand why this is a question. Are you assuming women arent marrying these men?

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