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I've just realized that this is what I do without even thinking about it! Giggle sarcasm.
/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 05:07 PM
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Pretty much this. I don't often ask for advice but when I have, I haven't used a throw away. We are real people and none of us are perfect.
/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 05:02 PM
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My SO does the t-shirt thing for me too! I love it.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/16 02:34 AM
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I'm seriously loving the strawberry Kenra smell. I wish it were stronger, I can only smell it if I sniff my hair. I asked my boyfriend how my hair smelled and he said "fruity", close enough haha. Ok so my results: I ended up using the John Frieda gloss with cool red in it since Ulta was basically out of every other gloss/glaze and I am impatient. I followed the instructions, which were to use 3-5 pumps (I used 6 for bra-strap length hair) and massage through hair from root to tip after shampooin…
/r/RedPillWives24/08/16 02:21 PM
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Um, me too. I'm in the Ulta parking lot right now lol. The Kenra gloss smells aaaaaamaaazing. Already put it in my hair. Oh yeah, they were giving away sample hairspray with it too. So now my hair smells awesome and it feels softer. It is shinier too without looking slick or heavy like what happens when you use too much oil.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 10:39 PM
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I think that confused me too. Looks like I have to buy both now, twist me arm!
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 09:43 PM
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omg that it too cute! it must be magic music for men or something :) it sounds magical to me, anyway. I'm so happy you have an awesome memory to go with it too! what he said was so sweet, I'd be melting for sure!
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 09:41 PM
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Yep I believe so! :) I think I was telling the story of how SO and I were dancing in the kitchen and he kissed me just as the lyrics were singing about kissing (he hadn't heard the song before). Ah thanks for reminding me <3
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 07:38 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 07:22 PM
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Kenra Silkening Gloss Would you recommend that gloss or Ulta's Red Color Enhance Glaze for someone with dyed red hair?
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 07:20 PM
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I'm going to make an Ulta run after work and grab a red-hair glaze to try in the shower tonight! Much excite!
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 07:16 PM
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Time seems to be running together end to end and the past month has been a blur. SO's house is close to being done with the renovations (he's doing most of the work himself) and the plan still is to move in together mid-October! I'm both excited and nervous at the same time. You learn a lot about someone when you live with them! It's funny, one of the things he says he's looking forward to the most is my cooking, and oddly enough I'm looking forward to having someone else to cook for regularly t…
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 03:16 PM
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Hahaha I love that.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 03:05 PM
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I love Stranger Things too! I need to get SO to watch it.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 02:57 PM
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Ladies - I just watched some Sex and the City since I had never seen it before and let me tell you, it is a riot. Basically everything we advise girls NOT to do is done there. Carrie is crazy and I felt bad for Mr. Big. Their "Where have all the good men gone" had me LOLing. If you need an example of how NOT to be, watch it.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 02:55 PM
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I realized that Men will abandon their wives if disaster strikes. They do not add value, they are just mouths to feed. Make your own Plans - separate the food. Be Independent. I felt devalued, I made laptop pouch for my husband and he goes and buys another. I will not make anything again - not for him um what?
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 02:47 PM
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Yes I can't stress avoiding social media enough, particularly during a political season! Also, if you can't get rid of your TV, at least get rid of cable and stick to netflix/youtube/hbo go. Whenever I'm at a friend's house and they have cable on, the advertisements are an assault on my senses and the overt manipulation/marketing is really agitating and to me, gross.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 02:45 PM
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Ooh I've never done a gloss/glaze before! When I want shiny I usually use oils.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 02:41 PM
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Awesome, I'm glad you posted :) I view my SO and I as equals as well, through the dynamic of the relationship is more what we call captain/first-mate, or as I like to call Picard/Riker :p Is Picard a better person than Riker? Nope. Is he even a better captain than Riker could be? It was mentioned in a few eps how Riker could have his own ship but chose not to. Why? Because he wanted to be with Picard. No one was better than any other. Here's hoping you get the TNG reference haha. And yes, equal …
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 02:39 PM
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Yes, I feel this way too! My SO is a compliment of me, he can do the things I cannot and he does them very well. Likewise I can do the things he cannot and I do them very well (or at least try to!). He is very motivated, action-driven, gets things done, and takes things head-on. I am more laid back, and like to think things through first. But I can over-analyze and be indecisive, and he helps balance that out. He can act a little rash, or with too narrow a scope, and I help to balance that. We a…
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 02:34 PM
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I love it too! I have often called myself a "Jane of all trades, master of none". I have many skills, and are quite good at certain things and get paid to exercise said skills. But I do not have a laser-focus on one thing. Perhaps I haven't found my passion yet, I cannot say. But I definitely don't have that... drive to be the Very Best. I am a perfectionist, but I am not competitive. I like challenges, and love learning new things. My mindset is "I bet I could do that if I wanted to" and not "I…
/r/RedPillWives19/08/16 03:55 PM
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Hmm, I'm not sure. I've never really felt a need for drama, usually I actively avoid it. There's so much of it already around me and in the world, I make a point to ignore it/block it out. I detest reality tv and most of what is on facebook.
/r/RedPillWives19/08/16 03:50 PM
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Well, remember that the whole Alpha/Beta concept it pretty much confined to reddit/blogs and your average joe isn't going to know anything about them. My SO has no experience with them, and is barely aware that there is such a thing as reddit. Also, a lot of us here actually prefer to be with higher betas/lower alphas, they typically make the best partners for feminine women. So, try to open your mind up a little and don't think in terms of alpha or beta, focus more on individual qualities. Read…
/r/RedPillWives19/08/16 03:28 PM
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OP just curious, which martial art do you practice? I do aikido and it's where I met my SO.
/r/RedPillWives19/08/16 03:07 PM
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My score: 11 Physical Touch 7 Quality Time 6 Receiving Gifts 5 Acts of Service 1 Words of Affirmation I need to get my SO to try this :) It would be interesting to see what his results were.. though I suspect Physical Touch would be high on his list as well.
/r/RedPillWives09/08/16 02:12 PM
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That's awesome! I haven't played laser tag since I was a kid. I should definitely add that to my list.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 07:35 PM
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yes! I'm excited about this thread. I'm awful at coming up with ideas for things to do! Usually I'm stumped and look on Facebook's "events" or browse Living Social to get some ideas.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 07:32 PM
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Thank goodness for wife goggles ;) But, I do think we do a little discredit to men here. If you have married a GOOD man, and have been his loyal supporter and first-mate, have tried your best to be reasonably in-shape and attractive and flirty and GOLF - I think there is quite a low chance of infidelity. Of course men will find other, younger women attractive, but it's a whole other thing to do something about it. Nothing is certain, but I wouldn't surrender to this worry completely.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/16 06:34 PM
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Even if he has -- if your RMV is high enough, I don't think it will be a dealbreaker. You can develop a healthy sex life together and communicate what you want to do, things you're open to, things you're unsure about and things you have a hard 'no' towards. When you get married/committed you'll have plenty of time to get as creative as you like :)
/r/RedPillWives01/08/16 05:29 PM
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When I first started dating SO and were getting serious we absolutely went over n-count stuff. Not in a "tell me how many!" way but more in a "I want to know more about your past relationships" sort of way and we both learned more about each other's history. If he was counting I'm sure he could do the math. We asked about each other's first times, the craziest things we've ever done, etec etc. It was nice, actually.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/16 04:27 PM
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Well, the tip of the iceberg for me is incredibly poor judgement and narcissism. What type of woman would actively encourage being seen as a slut, even if she isn't one? She enjoys attention that much? And a very specific type of attention(sexual) at that. Not attention for accomplishments or positive qualities. Perhaps she might clean up her act in order to find a husband but her desire for attention can easily find another way out in some other form. Or it may pop up again later once she's bor…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/16 04:20 PM
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This past week kinda sucked because I developed a chest cold/bronchitis and it totally wiped me out. My SO was also away all weekend at a bachelor party for his sister's fiance (white water rafting and paintball) so I got a proper lonely mope on while catching up on the first 5 seasons of True Blood.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/16 02:54 PM
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Congrats on the exclusivity! :) I think, one of the truest tests is not how people act when everything's fine and dandy but how they handle problems together. How they "fight". How they handle unpleasant feelings like anger, jealousy, hurt feelings. My SO and I are the type that talk things through, and I am big on truthfulness and transparency, upfront! I'd rather sound stupid and silly than have a bigger misunderstanding down the road.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/16 02:50 PM
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Well it depends on who is going to see me lol. If I'm housebound and no one is around then it's just whatever is comfy and snuggly and smells like my boyfriend and hair in a messy bun. If my boyfriend is coming over to take care of me, then I'll do minimal makeup like concealer and blush so I don't look like death, and a comfy jersey dress from Old Navy. Typically I shower even when sick because it makes me feel better. I'll usually also have some aromatherapy oils going on in my diffuser which …
/r/RedPillWives01/08/16 12:37 AM
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Oh that sounds like some heavy hinting to me! :D
/r/RedPillWives31/07/16 08:14 PM
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I'm not a wife yet either, welcome!
/r/RedPillWives31/07/16 02:36 AM
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That's super cute! Here are some of my melty moments: Despite not liking to sing or dance, my bf will sometimes indulge me He's given me a love song to add to my playlist every week we've been together Whenever he's hinted at marriage He has a special smile he gives me that's hard to explain.. a combination of pride, mischievousness, and love Whenever I wake up and catch him watching me sleep Every time he invites me in for cuddles. It's pretty much standard now.. he lifts his arm up, raises his…
/r/RedPillWives31/07/16 01:43 AM
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oh god, and I was just about to eat lunch
/r/RedPillWives29/07/16 06:36 PM
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I would probably live with your dad. It's very short term, and saving up that money is going to feel oh so good.
/r/RedPillWives29/07/16 05:50 PM
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One thing that helps me get motivated to clean and organize is watching shows about it: How Clean Is Your House and Hoarders -- there is power in this visual trauma.. god nothing has made me want to throw crap out than the one episode in Hoarders where a woman was literally crapping in plastic grocery bags because her toilet was too nasty and broken.* shudder* Hoarders is more on the horror side, How Clean Is Your House is more on the cheeky british side. Clean House is another reality show but …
/r/RedPillWives29/07/16 04:46 PM
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I don't wear lipstick either, rarely eyeliner. Honestly I think a lot of the makeup pics on MUA or youtube are more show-off type stuff that I wouldn't wear every day. I think it's just a matter of finding a more natural look that works for you.
/r/RedPillWives29/07/16 04:27 PM
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What about mineral makeup or going for a more natural look? I use Bare Minerals and it doesn't really look like I'm wearing makeup at all. Or tinted moisturizers with spf. :) I used to just wear concealer on certain areas, blush (as I'm very pale) and mascara.
/r/RedPillWives29/07/16 04:10 PM
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Confession: I sleep nude. I love it. It's just so comfortable. SO likes it, too ;) I do get cold, but I like feeling cooler at night and will often be unable to sleep if I am very warm. Also, with SO around, his job is to warm me up, he's like my space heater haha. Sleeping nude definitely makes initiation a tad easier.
/r/RedPillWives26/07/16 06:21 PM
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I'd love a follow-up post with your progress! This looks neato. I'm not religious but I'd probably still check it out when the time comes (probably when I get married and am starting a family. Unless you think it'd be useful beforehand?)
/r/RedPillWives22/07/16 06:18 PM
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I really like this. I think for the majority of my life I got kinda stuck in the more passive mindset of "Life is what happens to me" rather than "this is the life I'm creating for myself". Not very empowering, that's for sure.
/r/RedPillWives22/07/16 06:16 PM
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haha sounds about right
/r/RedPillWives22/07/16 04:02 PM
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Hehee that sounds cute! I've done something similiar when I couldn't find my car in the parking lot (as usual!). SO always knows where the car is, somehow. More GOLF for everyone! :D
/r/RedPillWives22/07/16 02:50 PM
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How do you know how to not over-do it? I'm a bit of a umm perfectionist and if I plan to have people over, then I'm going to go all-out and find the perfect recipe and have drinks and snacks and coffee/tea ready and candles going and maybe even some decorations depending on the theme, perhaps flowers. Meanwhile, usually when I go to other people's homes, I'm lucky if there's a bag of doritos out haha. How do you know what's appropriate for which audience and what won't put people off?
/r/RedPillWives22/07/16 02:43 PM
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Girl One: I am thinking about losing a few lbs. Girl Two: What are you talking about? You look great how you are right now! Now this interaction outwardly seems like 2 is being supportive of her friend by telling her that she looks great how she is. This is what friends are supposed to do. Yet, this does fall into the crabs in a bucket mentality. She neither, supported her friends choice, nor her friends vision for her life. Under the guise of support, she wasn’t really being supportive. Another…
/r/RedPillWives22/07/16 02:19 PM
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Thank you! I'm not glad to be back though, haha! Coming back to work was not fun.
/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 06:56 PM
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Nothing really bad to say for the past week as I was on vacation with the SO :) We had lots of relaxing time, moonlit beach walks (we even climbed up to sit on a lifeguard tower thing to watch the full moon), exploring and lighthouse climbing, boating, fishing, great views, fresh air, great sex, lots of "i love you"s, it was awesome! Especially seeing him so relaxed. His demeanor driving up compared to driving back was so different. And I loved getting to see him and sleep next to him every day.…
/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 06:50 PM
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Yeah, people often forget that freedom of speech does not equal freedom from consequences.
/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 06:40 PM
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dafuq No one is getting laid with these cards
/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 06:35 PM
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I like a no-makeup look too. Lately I've been trying bare minerals foundation (but before I just did concealer in trouble spots), blush (I'm very pale), eyebrows and mascara. That's pretty much it. If I want to do more and have the time I might try some eyeliner.
/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 06:29 PM
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Great attitude :) We've always stressed that it's not the wedding but the marriage that's important. Most people don't even remember the ceremony, it's just a blur - a very expensive blur.
/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 04:36 PM
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Welcome back :) I also found RPW right before my current relationship and it's been quite helpful and a contributor to my present easygoing happiness, so I'm feeling quite optimistic for you! I'm also very glad you've found someone who's into your love language -- I had no idea I was so into Touch until my SO. My previous relationship was not very touchy/feely at all and now that I have it.. me likey. Me likey lots! It's like food to me. Especially the butt grabs ;) Enjoy!
/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 04:12 PM
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Hehee that's cute :)
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 03:50 PM
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The sentiment behind these are great. I like being more specific though so it comes across as more genuine. So instead of just saying "I really appreciate you!" which also seems weird with the exclamation point, I'll specify what particular thing I appreciate that he did or said.
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 03:30 PM
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Haha I'm much more direct. "I'm horny, come over :)"
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 03:27 PM
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Bad: Work was so crappy the past couple of weeks that I think I had some sort of breaking point and I've found myself mentally checked out while I'm there this week. I just haven't been caring about my work. Hoping it will pass! Good: Bf and I made official plans to move in together in October, after we're done with the first wave of renovations on his house:) Yay! I'll get to see him every day! We're both so busy that it's really been a struggle to get enough time in. Usually we're only able to…
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 03:24 PM
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I'm 32 too and bf and I want children someday :) I also didn't realize I wanted them (and marriage) until later. But the timing feels right, even if it is later. My SO now is definitely the right father material and our relationship is far more ideal than my previous ones. I don't really want more than 2 either, and have always been open to adoption (a tradition in my family). I don't think it's completely "too late" for either of us. Fertility does go down, but it's not a sharp drop-off. It's m…
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 03:02 PM
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I looove cooking/providing for my boyfriend. Truly. It's such a simple joy for me and so uncomplicated in a world where so many things are. You do A (cook) to get results B (he's happy and full and feels cared for). Even if it's not perfect he enjoys it and I feel satisfied. Meanwhile at work I bust my ladyballs doing things much more complicated for far less satisfaction, recognition, and impact.
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 02:37 PM
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I try to do this too. I get so.. fatigued by all the negativity. The trouble is, I'm the sort of person people confide in and feel safe talking to, so even if I don't complain I get to hear plenty of it :P
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 02:34 PM
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Women are woefully uneducated on their own bodies. Never was fertility mentioned to me or anyone I know unless something was wrong and they had to see a doctor about it. Growing up, I just always had this vague impression that you couldn't have kids once you hit menopause, somewhere in your 40s, and that was about it.
/r/RedPillWives14/07/16 09:53 PM
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This is gross. Poor kid has no idea what he's being puppeted for. It also makes me queasy that he'd being used in a sexual context.
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 08:54 PM
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I'd probably just keep it light and cheery, "Only if you want to baby, I thought a walk would be relaxing." No pressure to go, no resentment implied if he stays. I'd put on a sweet lil summer dress too and give him an easy, big smile on my way out. Win/win - he either gets a nice walk with his girl or some quiet time to do whatever he wants.
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 08:51 PM
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I love this! She seems to radiate joy and sexuality in a perfectly balanced way. Not trashy or slutty. She looks like she loves what she is doing and looks very open, and like she wants you to join her in having fun. Now I want to try it!
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 06:29 PM
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I do think her comments are coming out of a place of concern -- she's seen you change, a lot, do a seeming 180 on your position regarding having children because of the New Guy (from her perspective). I think that's a pretty normal reaction. She hasn't seen you in a year, she doesn't get to see your new happy everyday self :)
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 06:11 PM
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Hot: jasmine tea with honey and almond milk Cold: iced passion tea
/r/RedPillWives10/07/16 03:12 PM
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Here is an article I've read before that was very interesting: https://hbr.org/2014/06/why-women-dont-negotiate-their-job-offers/ In repeated studies, the social cost of negotiating for higher pay has been found to be greater for women than it is for men. Men can certainly overplay their hand and alienate negotiating counterparts. However, in most published studies, the social cost of negotiating for pay is not significant for men, while it is significant for women. The results of this research …
/r/RedPillWives07/07/16 08:50 PM
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Atheism can be just as religious as the others, a religion of the ego. It's takes a blind faith to truly believe that there is NO god and nothing out there beyond our puny brain's comprehension. (I'm Agnostic.) I don't believe ADD/ADHD is an actual "condition" that needs to be treated with pills. I think it's a pharma moneymaker. I have read several studies that link it mostly to diet. Not all mothers are trying their best. There are lots of shitty ones out there who are selfish and shouldn't be…
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 08:06 PM
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Hmm. I'm going to take a shot in the dark here. I had all typical pre-natal tests, then the bottom dropped out when we found out the baby was a girl. His entire attitude changed, he barely participated at all after that. He told me that he wanted a son, not a daughter. Has he ever been affected, or had a female sibling/relative affected by some sort of sexual abuse or trauma? Sometimes men who have been through that either personally or via their wife/sister/etc have a hard time with having a da…
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 07:23 PM
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I enjoy cooking much more than cleaning, especially baking! It's so relaxing to me and I love giving away the goods ;) it gives me personal satisfaction when I can cook for my bf.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/16 12:04 PM
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Woooo you indeed! That's awesome!
/r/RedPillWives23/06/16 05:29 PM
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How would you compare Ulta vs. Sephora?
/r/RedPillWives23/06/16 05:26 PM
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Bad: I've been in a sour mood from work the past week or so. It's basically a straw that broke the camel's back situation, and I'm struggling to remain positive and optimistic that things will get better even though my manager says they will. Ugly Basically just work - I told my manager that the part of me that cared about doing great work and putting in 150% was dead now, haha. A little dramatic though not completely untrue. Good: Wonderful After about 6 months of dating, bf told me he loved me…
/r/RedPillWives23/06/16 05:19 PM
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Personal goals are doing well! Since doing keto I've dropped about 4lbs in ~2weeks. I know it's probably water weight but it's still encouraging and it hasn't been as awful as my first experience. I'm just doing my own thing and not following a meal plan. I'm also a "lazy" keto-er I think. I go <50g instead of <25, and let myself have like a drop of honey in my tea for the honey flavor (maybe .5tsp) and I've eaten 3-4 pieces of pineapple, had small lattes, etc before and have been able to stay w…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/16 05:09 PM
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On top of what everyone else has said -- he's been insinuating relationship stuff but not actually walking the walk. I go by actions and not words. If he's interested in a committed LTR then he should be acting that way, but he is not. He's acting like you're a plate. Why no dates? If you take out all the sex stuff what's left over?
/r/RedPillWives10/06/16 02:58 PM
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How do you choose happiness over being right? How do you foster healthy competition in your relationship? Have you ever “kept score”? How did you overcome that? Ego ego ego. Having a good sense of humor, humility, an open mind and an ease of letting go helps with these sorts of things. The world does not revolve around me. My existence is a mere blip in time. I could be hit by a bus tomorrow. What does being "right" matter. What do you value in the world? What contributions are you making to hum…
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 05:48 PM
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Yeah I've got the feminine + neoteny down. I've always been "cute" but not "sexy" much to my chagrin, though I do appreciate it now that I'm getting older. I hated looking so young when I was in my 20s. I've always struggled with balancing it with sexuality.. I'm pretty modest, though I've been more daring these past few years with wearing shorter dresses/skirts (Above the knee, GASP) and longer maxi dresses with slits in them, etc. I'm such a dork. For valentine's day I wore a garter belt for S…
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 05:10 PM
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Basically this. A lot of their FR's are delusional. The ones that may possibly be true make giant assumptions regarding the woman's thought process (forcing the story to read in the favor of whatever point they are trying to make) and their target demographic is largely contaminated by low-value women by the very fact that they're making observations in environments that feed slutty behavior and poor judgement (like clubs, bars). They're setting themselves up for misery once they get out into th…
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 04:50 PM
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Looking forward to hearing more stories! Personally I am of the mind of having a very small destination wedding ceremony, followed by an actual party a few weeks after :) I really like the idea of keeping it chill, casual, understated, and outdoors. I've read about having flower crown stations (where guest can make flower crowns) and I rather like that idea. Give us introverts something to do ;) or just have fun selfies with it, and great for kids. I'd prob want to create my own music playlist -…
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 04:42 PM
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My SO introduced me to Bamboo Blade (I'm not normally into anime) and I loved it! It's about a girls kendo team :)
/r/RedPillWives31/05/16 10:00 PM
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Nope my SO doesn't, he isn't really into Reddit at all and I'm usually only on it at work since I'm too busy with other stuff in the evenings/weekends. I wouldn't go out of my way to hide anything from him though.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/16 09:59 PM
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I agree! I usually don't pay attention or think too much about this sort of stuff so it will be interesting to see what I can find in the future.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/16 09:53 PM
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I've seen this happen as well! This one boss I used to have, she would ingratiate herself to the new female employees to gain rank. Boss-lady would whisper with her like she was telling secrets, offer the best schedule, ask questions about her life... It was almost like she was bribing the girls for status. She had to be the leader of groups, and would stop at nothing to gain it. Oh! That happened to me, my Director is totally like that, even moreso when I was first hired. I figured it was to sh…
/r/RedPillWives31/05/16 09:42 PM
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I am so happy I DGAF about these sorts of things in social groups. Hey maybe there's a social perk to being an INFJ after all! From my own observations, I think the crab bucket mentality is much more likely to be stronger within a woman's peer group, whether it's a specific age range or job role at work -- as opposed to a 27yo girl in her knitting club with women 10+ yrs older than her. When it's more peer related, there's always this one-upping going on on some level.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/16 09:37 PM
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Strawberry Spinach Salad! Super easy to make and a great way to get people to eat some spinach. I use the recipe on AllRecipes, sans the raw onion.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/16 08:58 PM
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"I only married my husband for his money. I don't love him. It bothers me every night" Well, at least it "bothers her". Good lord. How does she live with herself?
/r/RedPillWives31/05/16 08:39 PM
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I'm kinda jealous that you have fancy birds flying around in the wild ;)
/r/RedPillWives26/05/16 10:33 PM
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I second wanting to see a picture! I wonder what kind of bird it is.
/r/RedPillWives26/05/16 09:22 PM
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He loves dragons His eyes are hazel, they change between brown and green He likes taking pictures of me when I'm sleeping.. and giving me a snapchat filter that he sends to his little sister for amusement >.< His physical learning style is mimic - once he watches something being done he can pretty much replicate it exactly He's very DIY and fix-y. He is remodeling his house, can replace car brakes, and fix the zipper on my pants.
/r/RedPillWives26/05/16 05:22 PM
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That's beautiful :)
/r/RedPillWives26/05/16 03:13 PM
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I really enjoy egg muffins. You can't really go wrong with them, and they're perfect if you're interested in low carb/keto. It's basically 1 dozen eggs + filling of your choice, baked in muffin pans. This week I've done: Baby spinach + turkey bacon + cheddar cheese + green onion :) about 40mins @350, a little over 100cals per.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:53 PM
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I really hope it's this one https://www.etsy.com/listing/199481173/dont-forget-your-sparkle-decorative-door
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:43 PM
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Don't tell me you've forgotten to RPWi-sanctioned, neutral-pink nail polish!
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:30 PM
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I like both the one on the right and the green best! Awesome work :)
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 12:38 PM
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I doormat therefore I am. Ommmmmm
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:48 AM
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Sorry to hear that, that lack of being able to do anything can really suck especially if you're the type to want to fix things. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 10:58 PM
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I hope you're doing ok now re: the really upsetting news. :)
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 10:48 PM
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Yep, pretty much! His decision is for you to figure it out. He is delegating it to you. Why should he have to decide every single little minutiae? By getting frustrated and trying to force him to come up with an idea you are basically trying to captain your captain. He said he doesn't care, end of story. You figure it out. :)
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 10:26 PM
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Great idea! I'm thinking about joining.. only thing is that I recently switched to LiveStrong because the MFP app was stupidly slow on my phone and I like their UI better. I also wanted to second Sunhappy's reminder about internet safety. The profile pictures are public :) edit: ok, decided to give their mobile app another chance. I submitted my request!
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 06:17 PM
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In the beginning it just took some time. Now I mostly de-lurk if I feel like I have some information to share that hasn't already been said, or if I feel like it will serve a supporting purpose or will help someone's day. I still do have times when I get overwhelmed by all the different voices so I just lay low for a while. When the RPWi split happened I made more of an effort to post more often in order to help solidify our new home.
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 05:45 PM
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Where's your favorite place to buy affordable-but-pretty underthings? I find VS to be too expensive for what you get. I tried AdoreMe but their sizes are weird and nothing fit well.
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 05:31 PM
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I just started keto myself! I'm in the middle of day 2. So far so good. Lunch was a Smore's Quest bar:P little concerned about the fiber bomb I just ate though, haha...
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 05:29 PM
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lol glad you liked it!
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 04:02 PM
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I'm a fellow INFJ as well :) Welcome!
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 03:54 PM
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I think so, too. Generally I don't think guys "get" how our environment effects us, especially home ones! It probably never even really registered that it would be emotionally important. My SO understands the difference between "that looks nice" and "that looks outdated and crappy" but he doesn't quite get how much I need my "serene" quiet space where things "go" together unless I clue him in :)
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 03:47 PM
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Sweet! I'm loving this series. I think I'm also a combination of Madonna/Courtesan. I'm still unsure if I'm in a LLL or HLH, though! We haven't really fit any examples yet.. hmm!
/r/RedPillWives19/05/16 04:30 PM
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The end is great!!
/r/RedPillWives19/05/16 03:13 PM
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This is water Clyde Thixton (lame) Before Sunrise/Sunset
/r/RedPillWives17/05/16 06:52 PM
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I don't watch porn.. I have in the past out of curiosity but never really felt inclined to do more beyond that. My SO mentioned watching some when he was younger (low 20s, he is 30 now) but didn't get super into it because of how fake it was. Of course he could be lying but I don't really care if he does or not. As long as it doesn't hurt anything I don't have a problem with it.
/r/RedPillWives17/05/16 05:36 PM
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That's awesome, congrats!
/r/RedPillWives17/05/16 04:43 PM
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This week's been a bit of a blur as he was the best man at a wedding and was helping the groom get through it all, haha. He was on top of everything! :) He even danced with me for a long while even though he doesn't like dancing, and sang along to some of the slow songs even though he hates singing. It was great to see him giving his speech and generally being The Guy everyone came to for the night. All the younger girls had crushes on him too which was rather adorable. :) One of my favorite thi…
/r/RedPillWives16/05/16 09:44 PM
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Yess I love the Tao te Ching, in fact I have a pocket edition that I carry around with me. I think this will be perfect, thank you :)
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 03:58 PM
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That's true.. I'd probably be spending more money too if I could play with all the different colors :) Also, less storage space needed :p
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 03:42 PM
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Which book are you using? I really like the idea of having a mantra for every day.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 03:30 PM
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Sonicare <3
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 03:04 PM
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missmai27 Oh I'll have to check her out. Yeah, a lot of other youtubers will show you their hooded eye "look" but they won't have hooded eyes. Eyeshadow completely disappears on me when my eyes are open :/ Thanks for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 02:53 PM
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If anyone knows how to do a nice winged eyeliner on hooded eyes let me know, haha. I've tried youtube tutorials and they always just come out wonky.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 02:46 PM
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Ooh that mask looks interesting.. I might have to try that!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 02:44 PM
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Oh wow, that's pretty insane about the forks! I'm glad you've found inspiration in his aunt and uncle though, that's awesome! :)
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 02:39 PM
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The reason I posted was to figure out how I could deal with it, lol, not try and change anyone else. I even suggested I stop "feeling sorry for myself" haha. I think you may be projecting the tone you're reading into my text onto what you think they may be receiving in the real world. But, tone is very hard to read online as well all know, and when I'm in troubleshooting-mode I tend to be cut-and-dry in text, especially if I am feeling emotional/sad/withdrawn. But I will be sure to keep an eye o…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 11:06 PM
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I've always been a big fan of picking your battles. Some things just aren't worth it. A lot of things just aren't worth it. Yay for your victory this morning :) And how lovely that he made you breakfast!
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:22 PM
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Death by a thousand cuts!
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:17 PM
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I will, thank you :) I feel better already just talking about it.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:14 PM
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Trust me you won't be too distracted if an emergency happens. Your emergency brain will take over and whatever little distraction trick you were using will fly right out of your head.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:13 PM
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When I'm afraid or worrying, I tell myself over and over that worrying doesn't do anything to change reality other than make me feel like crap. Eventually it helps.. a little. If I'm feeling cheeky I might say "“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer." which is from the Dune series and then chuckle at myself for how silly I am being. Otherwise I might just try to recognize that I'm worried or afraid, and it's okay to feel that way, and then distract myself with a book, tv, yoga/meditation or c…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 08:18 PM
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We are so far past all of that now it's a distant memory. You will have to adjust to them when you are in their home, that's what I have to do every time I go there. Their house is not where I talk about fat gay rights (that autocorrect...I had to leave it hahaha) or transgender bathroom usage, that's for sure. But they know my inner-character and I know theirs, so these things stop being concious efforts in any way. We all genuinely love each other and overlook our differences and just enjoy th…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 08:11 PM
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Well, that was just one example of a group dynamic in order to provide some clarity. I enjoy many types of people and different topics, like cooking, gardening, video board and card games, health and fitness, graphic design and web development, astronomy, religions, archaeology, etc etc. I'm going to try introducing these topics more and see if they bite. I have tried talking about work, but it is difficult to explain the specifics in a satisfactory way so I tend to just generalize with office p…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 07:29 PM
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Gah, that thread has such horrible advice. Instead, show her dissatisfaction through action. These're all effective ways of condition her to act or speak a certain way and all serve to get your point across: Be distant. Don't answer her calls and texts. When she asks what's wrong tell her everything's fine. Give her attention only after sex. Barely look in her direction. Take longer-than-average glances at prettier women. Speak monotone to her and with a natural inflection with other people. Use…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 05:25 PM
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Hmm that might be right, I'm more used to being around groups of introverts or groups of people with an interest that is engaging to me, like my martial arts group. There is a mix of introverts and extroverts, but we all have core topics we can talk about, and can get into interesting philosophical discussions about the history and spirit of what we practice (the balance of mind, body, and spirit is central to what we do). We can talk about our strengths and weaknesses, and explore our ability t…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 05:09 PM
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I struggle with this too. I'm a big worrier! And my SO is a very DIY type of guy (which I love, and he's actually good at it.) It is so hard to not say "be careful" but I don't think he minds. I'm hoping that he takes it more as "I care about you". But still I have to bite my tongue sometimes. He's managed to stay alive this long. Plus I think the more often I might say it, the less impact it has and just starts to become noise/nagging.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 04:49 PM
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it's just that they might not be subjects appropriate for family gatherings. I hadn't thought of that, good point! Maybe I need one-on-one time. So far 99% of my experiences have been in group settings. Plus, I am also just thinking of this now - they are all verrry extroverted. I am an introvert. Even at trying my hardest to be temporarily extroverted is still probably low key to them, so maybe that is a factor as well.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 03:38 PM
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I'll try to CTFO method for this and give it some time, thank you :)
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 03:34 PM
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You've really stood by your man, that's awesome :) I'll keep my head up, thank you.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 03:33 PM
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My mother's mum died a few years ago, and my dad's mum came around with a potted rose and held my mother and told her "remember, you still have me." Aww, how sweet! That must have been very moving for her :) All I am trying to say is that you may never have a lot in common with your SO's family. But I strongly believe you will develop a family-like bond over time anyway. Hmm I think you're right. Maybe I'm just looking at this the wrong way. Maybe the bond is what matters. Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 03:31 PM
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If I came across that way in real life I'd probably agree with you.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 03:23 PM
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If I went much more out of my way it would come across as creepy. Also, I never said that I wanted to change who they are. This is not about me not feeling close to them, or wanting them to reach out to me for me to feel closer or wanting a relationship to be handed to me. We are very friendly with each other, huggy, and so on. It's more about me just feeling "different" from them, which is not a matter of how much we like each other or how close we are.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 03:21 PM
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Of course I do. I figured that was obvious, but yes I engage them, laugh with them, compliment them, ask questions etc etc.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 03:16 PM
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I can try initiating conversations more, that's a good idea. It'll be tricky introducing a topic totally unrelated to what they've currently got going on but I can try to figure it out.
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 08:50 PM
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Yeah, I guess I didn't make that clear enough in my original post. Oh well! I'm still holding out a little hope that there's some hidden depth or super interesting hobbies that I just don't know about yet. I can try cooking.. they're not very adventurous when it comes to food though. They're very much mac n' cheese, hamburgers, applebees, etc type people. They don't much like healthy food or anything not traditionally american. But I can always keep trying! :) I could use them as an excuse to ma…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 08:33 PM
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You may never truly belong to a close-knit family unless it is one you create - the one you and your SO may one day have. You can befriend older ladies to have good role models, and form a family of friendship. Your SO's family may one day embrace you wholeheartedly, but don't expect it. Visit his family with the intent of enjoying watching how fun a close-knit family can be. Ask him about the gossips and inside jokes later when you are alone, so that you can hear all the stories in ways you und…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 08:10 PM
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I think you understand what I'm talking about, the socioeconomic compatibility. It's not really about their behavior towards me but how they are in general. It does matter to me, because it's just something I always wanted. But we don't always get what we want. Maybe the onus is on me to just find a way to create my own "family" of people that I want. It just seems so daunting.
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 08:05 PM
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It's all in the fact that women rip men from their families away constantly, and there is a real fear in the mother that they are meeting the person that will try to do exactly that. That's the thing though. I don't want to rip him away from his family to come over to my family because I have NO family, really. This is the crux of why I am having a hard time -- because I had always dreamed of a SO's family being a natural fit for me and I feel like his, so far, are not, on a social-cultural leve…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 07:59 PM
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Yeah I can see that. He definitely likes my lack of crazy, I think he's still getting used to that actually. It's hard to describe but I think he braces himself expecting an emotional, verbal hurricane and I'm all "laa dee daa, today was fine, material attachments are foolish, ohh time for a cup of tea!"
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 07:54 PM
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Not terribly big - they're not into healthy stuff like I am. Her freezer is packed with ice cream lol. She has tons of candy out and unhealthy snacky food. His family is not really adventurous when it comes to food. They like stuff like bologne sandwiches and mac n' cheese and find sushi to be very exotic and suspect.
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 07:52 PM
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It's not really that I feel like his mother is wary of me, is closed off, trying to push my buttons, or anything of that sort. We've both made each other tasty treats before, I've never ever felt tension from anyone in his family. I've spent Easter with them, a couple birthdays, the superbowl, sporting events where his sister was playing, or just popping over for a visit on a random weeknight. It is hard to estimate the amount of time together with them.. maybe 100 hours? It's more about what ti…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 07:49 PM
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Yeah I should know better than to compare, you're right. We've been together for about 5.5 months now. I think it's more their personality types than them holding back.. but more could be revealed in time. For lack of a better description.. they've got a jersey/italian reality show vibe going on plus yelling at each other over stupid stuff. I'd probably prefer to talk about books, music, news in psychology/biology/space. They're not interested in that stuff. But it could definitely be worse. The…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 05:15 PM
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Here's where I need help. I'm terrible at making decisions for other people-- what if she doesn't feel like eating what I've picked for the week? How can I better prepare a weekly meal plan for us both and be better about sticking to it-- from planning to shopping to cooking, packing, and eating? How do I feel more comfortable in the role of executive kitchen decision maker? How do I plan ahead for the inevitable night where we both just want brownies? Have you looked at GatheredTable? They have…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 04:06 PM
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This just makes me so sad, mostly because I can relate to lacking deep female friendships. But getting married young doesn't have much to do with it. In fact, it should actually help! At least in my social circles.. wives tend to stick together and avoid single women. I hope she snaps out of this mindset and doesn't give up on making friends.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 03:49 PM
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What did you improve from last week? Write down any achievements or progress you’ve made! I lost about .8lbs! Also, another successful week of lowering my starbucks calories. No more grande soy chais. When workfriend and I go out for our break I've been sticking to black/green iced/hot teas and then friday I get a small chai as my reward, soon to be phased out altogether. I also started running again on my treadmill which my sore calves can attest to. I have been tracking cals more consistently …
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 03:26 PM
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Yeah I've run into situations that are kind of like that. If people get weird I usually turn it into something more general, or more about me and my preferences. Such as: "I don't like making people wait" "I don't like it when I have to wait, so why should I make him?" or "I just think it's bad manners to make someone wait shrug". People get strange when you exhibit any sort of deferential behavior to your man.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/16 09:29 PM
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Not really, nope. She was a crappy mother and I never regret leaving.
/r/RedPillWives05/05/16 05:23 PM
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Me three. Haven't seen/heard from her in 15 years. It's for the best though.
/r/RedPillWives05/05/16 04:50 PM
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I love articles like these. So much good sense. The language of it can easily be seen as offensive by people who choose to take it that way, or it can be empowering. Like this: Submissive wives, we do not deserve the men we have. I don’t care if this statement is true or not (meaning, don’t bother debating this with me- it’s irrelevant) this is what we are to believe. We are not worthy and we must always seek to be worthy. She's right, the accuracy of that statement is not important. It's the fr…
/r/RedPillWives05/05/16 04:43 PM
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Worst kiss: ugh... I had this guy once lick my teeth. YIKES. ugh barf
/r/RedPillWives05/05/16 04:25 PM
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I also think it's a little weird that he brought up his intentions to kiss you before even meeting you. To me, kissing doesn't create a spark but is the result of a spark being there already. I also have never kissed on the mouth on the first date. Even though you've been talking with him he is still essentially a stranger. You don't know what he's really like yet. I had always assumed that a kiss was best after a couple of dates. However he has called me out on my "overthinking" I don't see how…
/r/RedPillWives05/05/16 04:15 PM
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I think TRP doles out some bad advice, particularly to unattractive young men. The notion a young man who cannot attract women will suddenly become in demand at 35, and will start dating attractive 20 year olds who are not single mothers resembles nothing I've seen in real life. Haha too true! A friend of mine is single and is 37. He's very attractive and quite tall.. I wanna say 6'5" or so. He tries to go for younger (low 20s, because he isn't ready for kids any time soon he says) women but the…
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 10:55 PM
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How did you find the red pill originally? My first encounter with RP theory was last year on the TRP subreddit. It was not a pleasant experience though not nearly as bad as it is now. Luckily I was able to find a link to RPW somewhere, probably on their sidebar. Did it resonate with you from the start? Did it cause you aversion? Most of it did resonate with me, at least the core ideas, not necessarily the threads and comments from the subscriber base. The original information on red pilll websit…
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 10:47 PM
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This is the first Mother's day I've been with my SO for. I'm not sure what I should do for her (his mom).. I'm thinking maybe some gourmet cupcakes from a local bakery?
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 08:29 PM
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Me too!
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 08:19 PM
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Get rid of makeup with micellar water vitamin c serum brush teeth snail gel moisturizer get naked and into bed snuggle/flirt with SO sexytimes
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 07:39 PM
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This is one of the things that I value learning the most from RPWi. I really had no clue about the importance of sex for men -- not just that it "feels good" for them, but that they truly need it just like we need emotional support and comforting physical touch. I've never said "no" to my SO. However I have been so obviously ill that I needn't have said anything at all. Because he knows that sex is in plentiful supply it's not a big deal to him if I'm out of commission for a day or two because I…
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 07:32 PM
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Oooh yeah, self-sufficiency and self-care are very important. I love that you have your daily review routine. I think that will instill a very good habit in her, even as she grows older and moves away, she may find great benefit in reviewing the day on her own and being in touch with her personal development :)
/r/RedPillWives29/04/16 08:43 PM
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I would include the 3 you mentioned, and add: Protector - keep them safe from harm (though not on a crazy level). This would probably be shared with the father as well. Memory maker - I want to help create lots of awesome childhood memories for them, something they can always look back on with warm fuzzies I want to inspire curiosity and a desire to learn more about whatever interests them. Question things. Personal chef - I want to be the primary source of nutrition for them, not just for comfo…
/r/RedPillWives29/04/16 04:31 PM
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Oh ok, whew! I was worried I had offended your review with my "Meh it's crap!" response, haha. I probably just read the tone wrong :P
/r/RedPillWives29/04/16 04:21 PM
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Oh yes, I didn't mean to undermine your review in any way! I was just adding in my experience. I thought your review was very well done, actually!
/r/RedPillWives29/04/16 04:13 PM
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On the way home, I gently touched his arm and back while he was driving. I know this sounds like such a little act, but it took courage just to do that. I totally get this. Touchyness is a very new thing for me for various reasons, and my SO is the touchy/cuddly sort. What comes with ease to him is a dedicated, conscious effort for me. But every day it gets easier and I enjoy it more, and it will for you, too. It’s an awful feeling to realize that you provide no value to your SO and thus you’re …
/r/RedPillWives29/04/16 04:10 PM
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I have tried StitchFix before and was unsuccessful with it. I gave it two tries and both times either I didn't like the majority of the items or thought they were overpriced for what they were and knew where I could get a better deal. I felt like I had wasted money after the two tries so I didn't go for a third :( I had even taken the time to curate a pinterest board to show them what I liked, and write very detailed descriptions in their initial setup process. I just wasn't that impressed and f…
/r/RedPillWives29/04/16 03:34 PM
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I had such horrible examples of marriage that for the longest time I didn't want to be married at all! It's only been the past few years that I've been more open to it, and now definitely with my SO. I've been a decent girlfriend I think, good enough that I'm still on good terms with the one ex I'm still in contact with. I loved him, cared for him, was a great listener, kind, tried to make his family happy, etc. We hardly ever fought. I was never bossy or dominant or naggy. My main problem was j…
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 10:41 PM
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I also think that we often don't have very many positive relationship role models in our lives to show us what a successful dynamic could be. We don't have solid, strong, happy families. At least I don't, and my peer group doesn't. We don't have the gift of wisdom from our elders when they're ignored, either :/ Our relationship advice and guidance comes from Cosmo, women's studies in college, girlfriends on the CC, Sex in the City, 50 Shades of Grey, etc etc.
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 08:14 PM
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I was just thinking of you this morning and wondering how things were going! Thank you for updating us. I'm so glad the worst is over.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 08:46 PM
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There are ways to remove objects without becoming violent, here are some things I might try: Offering them something they want in exchange like a toy or snack "Ooh do you want some apple and peanut butter? Let me have the knife so you can have some" Distracting them with another activity, removing the focus of attention from the knife and onto something else. "Knives aren't for playing with, but these race-cars are! zooom zoom" "Let's go play catch with daddy!" etc while nonchalantly removing kn…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 04:34 PM
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If one can't think of any other way to discipline or "control" their child other than physically hurting them then that's on them. They need to educate themselves. Figure out the root of the problem. Don't add to it with violence.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 03:56 PM
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Lovely FR! Very sweet and I love how you were able to combine kindness and sweetness with setting firm boundaries. I too never dated casually, never quite saw the point in it. My SO and I established early on that we were exclusive and it was great for us. Men do respect women who respect themselves. I still remember my SO talking about how he liked how essentially non-slutty I was, especially compared to some mutual friends we have. Let me state: this was not about manipulation. It was never ov…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 03:35 PM
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Sounds like a good topic idea to me! But yeah, it resonated with me from the start, though that's not to say it was 100%. Some things felt off, but I've learned that the details come down to personality and that not everything applies as heavily to me (Like the STFU method). I found RPW through trp originally, that place definitely put me off to say the least. My SO has no idea about any pills.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 10:48 PM
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Aww thanks stevie :) I didn't figure it out on my own though, a lot of it just all came together from belonging to this sub. It's been such a relief.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 10:15 PM
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Nope I've never done that sort of thing. It's too manipulative to me. I haven't really read or applied any "rules" stuff before. If you truly want to go, then just say so. Hinting around it would probably just annoy him.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 10:07 PM
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Yeah, I don't think she's in the right place right now to be forcefed rpw information. She'll just resist, her shields are already up. I think, as has been suggested before, it would be best for you to simply drop the RP topic and lead by example. Let her own curiosity grow. The change will be deeper and more authentic if she does it of her own volition and desire to learn more. Who knows, maybe just knowing about RPWives is enough to get her curious one day and start lurking here. What about RP…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 09:54 PM
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Ok. If you don't feel like doing ANYTHING and nothing brings you joy then I do think seeking professional help is the thing to do. Stop feeling bad for yourself and take action. I am 32, and met my SO at this age. You're not doomed to eternal loneliness. It's never too late for companionship and it's not too late to have a family. Even if it takes 10 more years, you still have some chance, and you most definitely do if you choose to adopt. Here would be my advice: For the next week you have 3 go…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 01:32 AM
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Awwwwwwwwwwww:)
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 08:10 PM
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Ah last week during the week SO and I didn't get to spend as much time together as we're used to, so we made up for it this weekend :) I met some more of his friends and we all played Superfight into the wee hours of the morning which was fun, and Sunday we went hiking together. We also had a good talk about what we want in 10 years and discussed our ideas for kids. He really want to have a boy to carry on the family name since he's basically the last of the line. I am fine with either. We both …
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 07:57 PM
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Yes, this exactly! I'm glad you're here too stevie:)
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 07:02 PM
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The gym is good. Go to the gym more, on a routine schedule, so that any interested guys will know when to expect you. Don't be afraid to make eye contact and smile. But don't necessarily expect anything either. Fitness is why you're there, but you're also open to people, too. That's all.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 05:33 PM
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Don't do something where meeting men is the main goal then. Find something that you would find fun or enriching, that could possibly have the off-chance of introducing you to men (so no knitting clubs!) but that's not something you show up all the time for.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 05:28 PM
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Do you like martial arts at all? Rock climbing? Could you join a hiking club? Volunteering in a soup kitchen? Habitat for Humanity (mm sweaty guys building stuff). What's something you could do for fun that would also happen to have guys there too?
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 05:22 PM
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I don't think you have to compromise on either. Breaking up with someone because you're sexually incompatible is a good enough reason. This doesn't mean you can't be exclusive before that though. You also can give it an honest shot. Don't dump a guy the morning after lol.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 05:16 PM
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So, my SO and I had a rather cute beginning. Before we were dating, we were eating lunch with our group of friends and he heard me say something like "Oh I don't hook up on the first, second or third date, like ever". Now, up until then, I always thought "hook up" meant having sex. But apparently it means kissing/making out. Our first date rolls around, and he just gives me a hug at the end. Ok, I thought that was cute. Second date, another hug. Third date, it was New Years Eve, I figured surely…
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 05:08 PM
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Lol I've never heard it called tootle time before! Hmm we don't usually deliberately fart in front of each other, which I appreciate. Generally I try to keep a healthy diet so if I'm gassy I know something's amiss. BTW chewing up a tsp of fennel seeds with a chaser of water can help with gas. I'll usually just go to the bathroom or find a way to leave his area if I need to relieve myself. Definitely no shared bathroom time. Just no. I think some things should be kept a mystery.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 04:57 PM
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I like this idea too! I also like the idea of it being a regular thing. Maybe a "The best thing I made this month" thread with pics and recipes, or even a weekly "What we're cooking this week".
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 03:07 PM
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With the sorority example I mentioned earlier (should an obvious male, not even attempting to pass as a female be allowed to join/audition for a sorority?) - the question can be altered to "should a sorority be charged with transphobia or discrimination if a man trying to pass as female (but, despite his best efforts, is still clearly male in presence/behavior etc) if they decide not to allow them into the sorority? I'd say no, because this doesn't sound like they're trans or identifying as that…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 07:30 PM
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It was a tv show in the late 90s that revolved around lawyers and their relationships and drama, typical stuff. Their workplace had a giant unisex bathroom that they all shared and often had conversations in. I always thought it was weird :p
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 07:04 PM
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Boooo I hate it when shark week pops up at THE worst time and you get to awkwardly explain things to SO. I get the period poops too. It sucks. Ah don't you just love the surprise dancing? All the little magical moments. I'm so happy you got to experience that, it sounded wonderful! It reminds me of when my SO and I were kitchen-dancing together for the first time, which moved to kissing, just as this song came on, it was so perfect https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2UJRkB5QNfg
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:57 PM
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Remember the bathrooms on Ally McBeal? Egh I don't think I'd like that at work. I know the guys get stanky.
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:43 PM
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Haha thanks! With your talk of circles and squares I couldn't resist ;) But that kinda proves my point.. that particular perspective is very 2 dimensional when the subject is more complex than being only a circle or only a square. Does this also mean that if if the shape looks circle-y enough, that if it passes for a circle, that it's fine? So if a trans woman who at a glance looks womanly enough for you at some restaurant bathroom you have no problem? It comes down to how well they pass for eit…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:39 PM
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This also applies to people who are born with both sex organs, or a variety of other complications (Miss Michigan 2013 born without a uterus, etc). Gender is not so cut and dry, as uncomfortable as it may be to think about, and it doesn't always match up 1 to 1 with the parts we have.
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:27 PM
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http://i.imgur.com/YIS9f.jpg
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:12 PM
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I pretty much feel the same way. I am aware my personal opinion is probably in the minority here, but having known transgender men and women, and what they've gone through (including hormonal treatments and surgery, a process that takes years (and often includes therapy to help them deal with family/friends/social rejection) I have 0 problem with them using the bathroom that they feel more safe in. If someone want to barge into a ladies' restroom to harass someone they will regardless of any rul…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:06 PM
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Oh no, that doesn't sound fun at all to me either! I don't know anyone who talks about passion like that.
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 04:05 PM
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I'm not a big snacker, either. I am a HUGE tea drinker, though :) I have personally found that there are two types of "hunger" -- a real true hunger that is more like a whole body experience, more than just a growling tummy. It doesn't go away if you try to ignore it, water/tea doesn't help, and eventually you start feeling tired and generally.. empty. If it goes too far then you get stomach cramps and yuckiness. The second type of "hunger" is just my stomach being "gurgle I'm not happy because …
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 04:03 PM
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Why do you think that society favors uncertain and unstable relationships over steady and comfortable ones? Because those are more entertaining to watch/read/hear about. It makes people money. And people are influenced by movies/books/stories and are prone to daydream about how things could be better or more like what they saw on TV. Is it wise for women to favor passion over comfort in relationships, or vice versa? What do you prefer in your own relationships: passion or comfort? I don't really…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 03:15 PM
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This should be it's own post! :)
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 04:25 PM
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Glad you're safe and sound Camille! Let us know if there's anything we can do.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 03:51 PM
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Eh I think it's both depending on the woman. I have physical symptoms than can create emotional ones (I get really tired/lethargic and some acne so end up feeling antisocial and just want to veg, cramps make me feel more grumpy at being in pain) but I've never felt irrational because of it. Also, just because I'm feeling this way doesn't mean other people are subject to it. Usually people can't tell when I am PMSing.
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 05:10 PM
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hahaha
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 04:59 PM
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Me too!
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 04:36 PM
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INFJ here :)
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 04:29 PM
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20% basic! Probably thanks to my candle addiction. You Got: 72% grandma You're very grandma. You like cooking, buying scented candles, and reading in the bath, and you don't like noisy, crowded places. You always dress for comfort, and you can't imagine anything worse than having to wear heels to work every day. Hey.. dresses are comfy!
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 04:28 PM
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I've yet to find one I like! I really just want an online version because I "think" better while typing rather than writing. Also my handwriting is crap and I don't want to have to carry around a bulky planner.
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 04:14 PM
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I've been holding off! I've wanted to say it to him for months now and actually caught myself before saying it as he was leaving one night. But advice I received here said to not say it first because it might scare him off.
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 03:46 PM
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My SO and I have been texting pretty much every day since we started dating, which is a bit over 4 months now. Usually we text each other good morning, then maybe a few throughout the middle of the work day to see how things are going, what's bothering us about work, that we miss each other, etc. Around quitting time we will connect again with what our plans are for that night and there is always goodnight texts too :) Some days there's more, some days there's less. It's pretty low key though, w…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 03:42 PM
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I kept in loose touch with mine. Mostly just facebook friends. My last breakup was pretty smooth and there was no drama.
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 03:30 PM
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Dude I don't know what you're talking about either. Nothing to do with shit testing.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 05:43 PM
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yessssss
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 04:41 PM
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This trend is most seen on television commercials featuring the smart woman and the bumbling man, which seems to be the norm these days. Ugh, reminds me of the show Everyone Loves Raymond. I could not STAND it. There are many other sitcoms that exhibit the same type of dynamic -- nagging "overwhelmed" smart wife who is too good for her dumb idiot man-child husband. I watched maybe 1-2 episodes of that before I noped out.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 03:37 PM
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Here's a list of some legal benefits of marrige: http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/marriage-rights-benefits-30190.html There are social benefits to marriage for men as well, especially with employers. They view married men, especially ones with children, as more stable and dedicated and thus they will take that into consideration during the hiring/promotion process.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 03:25 PM
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Yep. Pretty much 95% of the high-value guys I know have always wanted to be married, are married, or are planning to get married. I've had several older women caution me, "If he's past his 30s and has never been married, something's wrong with him". So far this has held out to be true in my observations.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 03:02 PM
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I've started reading SW but haven't finished it yet! It's good to know that's in there, too. He might review expenses though.. I know I do. I use Mint to look at spending trends over time and review purchases, I can see an exact breakdown of money. I dunno. I guess I'll have to cross that bridge when I get there.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 10:35 PM
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Personally I think that's smart. I, too, have seen women kicked to the curb, or having to leave abusive relationships, with only what they could carry and whatever amount of money they were able to save up which usually amounted to little. Divorces are expensive and don't happen overnight, either - what do you live off of until then? Anything can happen.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 10:00 PM
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This is something that I know will be a worrying spot for me once I'm married and hopefully a SAHM (until the kids are in school, at the very least). If my SO is making all the money and is in charge of the finances, how comfortable am I going to be asking for money? Especially for things that are just for me, like clothes, makeup, lotions, etc. I think I'd be okay with using his money for groceries and the like.. but I would feel so guilty buying non-essential stuff that's just for me.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 09:53 PM
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Ah thanks for posting this. I especially like the AWiT reference, I always loved that series. Reading TRP stuff used to have me down on myself, so I've had to block myself from them. That, on top of feminism degrading and mocking the feminine, made for a rather unhappy emotional stew. It reminds me of Arya and Sansa stark. Viewers loves Arya because she is seen as strong, going her own way, fighting and being hardened by what's going on around her. Masculine traits. Sansa has a different sort of…
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 07:08 PM
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To me she is using "triggered" when she really just means she's upset. This kinda stuff annoys the heck out of me and insults people who actually suffer from things like ptsd.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 01:16 AM
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My SO and I talked about this a month or so ago and we both concluded that each other was #1, martial arts was #2, work #3. It wasn't a "big conversation" but more like a side convo that happened as we were naturally complaining about work to each other.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 03:43 PM
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Thanks Camille, it was delish! my results
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 12:47 AM
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Mmm. I remember my grandma basically using this method to make apple butter and it was soooo delicious.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 04:14 PM
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LOL. I tried to click on the link in the OP and my work filtered it out and labeled it as "Pornography".
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 03:12 PM
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That's it?! That seems too easy. I'll have to try this too. I have some green onions that might work in it...
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 03:07 PM
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You had me at "bacon" ;)
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 03:00 PM
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Haha I felt silly asking friends to photograph me!
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 12:16 AM
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Well if you really want to generalize then yes every human has the ability to target aggression. But that is a separate topic.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 12:10 AM
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Again, I'm not talking about general aggression but rather targeted physical hostility against the woman a man loves as is the context of this thread. I am very aware of my SO's ability to be aggressive and physical, he has a 2nd degree black belt among other things lol. He definitely has his rage moments but he knows how to channel it into something else or deal with it another way. But it is not against me.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 11:43 PM
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I disagree, I don't believe that a man's protective tendencies are directly proportional to violent tendencies against his SO. My SO is not The Hulk, his secret isn't that he's Always Angry.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 10:24 PM
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I was speaking to the context of this thread, which is "How to Avoid Physical Aggression in your Relationship". Using aggression to hurt me is different than wanting to protect/defend me from the harm of others.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 10:15 PM
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Recipe. Want!
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 10:01 PM
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Haha I know :)
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 10:01 PM
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Um.. no I would not o.O That shit's crazy. I DID kick my SO a couple nights ago though, but he was literally asking for it lol. He said "I bet you can't kick me out of bed!". He lost that bet.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 09:39 PM
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I think ideally I'd like to wear fancy retro gowns like Melinda wore in Ghost Whisperer :P They're probably stupid expensive though. Right now, for sleeping, I go commando. For lounging, I have a stretchy cotton dress from H&M that I wear sometimes though I wish it wasn't so rectangular. I have a couple jersey type dresses I got from Ross for cheap too. I still haven't found something I'm 100% happy with though.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 08:09 PM
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I would never commit to a man who would allow his anger to get the better of him to the point of physical violence. This is why observing his behavior when he's angry or upset is one of the most important parts of my vetting process. I wish more women did this.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 07:37 PM
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Pic tip: Back when I tried online dating, I bought a cheapo tripod for my phone and a remote control that worked with my camera app. Then I'd set it up in different locations (like across the room in a coffee shop, in a tree outside, etc) and then just take pics via my remote. That way it would look more candid and be more interesting than bathroom selfies. Oooh here's me taking a sip of my latte. Ooh here I am near this tree because I like nature.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 04:43 PM
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Same :)
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 04:30 PM
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To me vetting is not as much about, "does he check these things I like off my list" and more about.. observing his behavior in different situations. How is he around children? How does he express anger? What are the social influences in his life like (his friends, family, etc) Is his behavior consistent? How does he handle conflict? How does he treat strangers? How do other people I know and trust speak of him? What are their non-love-goggle opinions? How does he handle change? Does he follow th…
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 07:35 PM
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Lol yeah, it's a lot of info! And I agree I think charting is great for pretty much all women. You can learn a lot and can accomplish both pregnancy avoidance and achievement, plus you can catch things you might not otherwise notice, like anovulatory months or strange bleeding patterns.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 07:13 PM
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FAM user here! I use a combination of FAM and condoms when I am fertile and it has been working out well so far. I use the app OvuView to track all my symptoms. Just a couple notes: With FAM/NFP it's always better to be safe than sorry. If you're not sure about where are in your cycle then just use some other method. This method is great for people with regular cycles but may have more of a learning curve for people with irregular ones. In general I think the more symptoms you track, the better.…
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 06:25 PM
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D'awww :)
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 04:06 PM
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I use OvuView, which I think is Android-only.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 04:05 PM
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Dairy + Sugar are pimple fuel for me, too!
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 03:59 PM
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This is what I do too :) Your story's pretty identical to mine.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 11:01 PM
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I use a combination of condoms and NFP/FAM, which means we use condoms when I'm fertile and nothing when I'm not (I am VERY good at tracking fertility symptoms). Maybe even just learning more about your fertility could ease your SO's mind a bit. Try reading the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Though I think you would be a prime candidate for IUD. There's a copper one, that's non-hormonal. I would probably be using that if I was younger and didn't have a nickel allergy (I've read that the c…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 10:58 PM
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They even sell little bundles.. https://stampington.com/holiday-gift-bundles-and-kits/bella-grace-inspiration-bundle eep
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 06:50 PM
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No, no balcony :( SO has a front/back yard at his house though, which he's asked my help with, but it's for flipping purposes so will mostly be basic look-pretty landscaping stuff and not my dream veg/flower/butterfly/herb garden.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 05:18 PM
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Congrats on the weight loss, that's awesome!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 04:42 PM
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It's never too late to work on being better! Trust me, we all aren't 21yo virgins free from mistakes and complications.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 04:40 PM
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Metalworking seems really cool! That's something I'd probably look into if I had more time.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 04:35 PM
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I watched my first anime a couple weeks ago called "Bamboo Blade". It was pretty cool! It's about kendo :) Looking forward to reading your FR.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 04:33 PM
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Nice, I like the idea of an intro post! We should do these for newbies more! :) I'm 32, in a new-ish relationship of almost 4 months. I was extremely fortunate that I found RPW before then so I feel like I have a great advantage now. For the first time in my life I feel like I actually understand men, at least a little bit. SO's awesome - we met in martial arts class, he is a 2nd degree black belt and I'm a newbie there. We both work in tech. He owns his home and we're both working on flipping i…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 04:25 PM
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Buddhist, too! ""Monks, a statement endowed with five factors is well-spoken, not ill-spoken. It is blameless and unfaulted by knowledgeable people. Which five? "It is spoken at the right time. It is spoken in truth. It is spoken affectionately. It is spoken beneficially. It is spoken with a mind of good-will. "A statement endowed with these five factors is well-spoken, not ill-spoken. It is blameless & unfaulted by knowledgeable people."" When religions agree on something you know it can't be h…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 04:05 PM
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Buddhist Geeks (buddhist stuff) Explain Things To Me (every podcast is an interview about a person's job, really interesting) Good Night (helps me fall asleep. Target audience is prob older, but I don't care.) Latest in Paleo (health stuff) NPR: Wait Wait, Don't Tell Me! (funny quiz/game show) StarTalk Radio (Astronomy) The Simple Sophisticate (lifestyle) Welcome to Night Vale (Creepy humor) Audiobooks: How to Win Friends and Influence People (great old timey narration) Dune (great voice acting …
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 03:49 PM
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Haha that's funny. Are most women like that? I guess they'd have to be for a video to be made about it. I've never been the "I don't want you to fix it" type. I'm so introverted that odds are, if I have a problem, I internalize it and try to figure it out on my own and then if I can't, I go to him when I want a solution and not just for him to "listen". Though listening is always nice, of course :)
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 03:44 PM
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Marriage/kids was never a dream of mine until recently. I was actually against marriage for a long time after seeing so many crappy ones growing up. I never dreamed about my wedding day, what dress I would wear, etc. As I got older, I realized that I did want these things (though I'd still rather elope than have all the fuss of a big wedding). Also, in my past relationships, the man was always the one more eager to commit. So the assumptions made here don't apply so much to me, personally, but m…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:41 PM
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I just thought it was funny ;)
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:32 PM
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Well that was depressing. Everything the girl was doing and saying indicated that she had no respect for her husband. I didn't think it was possible to look frumpy while wearing a dress o.o
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:22 PM
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Out of my way.. nope not really. The only time I really put up a defense is when he tickles me, and it's an automatic reaction from my body to squirm away and hide, but I do giggle and say "No, stop, no". He does eventually stop and switch to snuggles instead. He loves to tickle me. :P
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:35 PM
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Consider joining an Americorps program (like a domestic peace corps) or similiar volunteer organization. I did that. I did a year of service, you get a monthly stipend (it's very little) and at the end you can choose to either receive a small cash award or money for college tuition/loans. http://www.nationalservice.gov/focus-areas
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:29 PM
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Congrats on the proposal! :)
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:14 PM
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I think they were referencing this article: http://therationalmale.com/2011/12/02/the-myth-of-the-biological-clock/ I think the title doesn't really clearly summarize the point he is trying to make there. There IS a biological clock, but we're interpreting it wrong. There are real hormonal changes as you get older, but these aren't indicators that "now is the prime time I SHOULD be getting pregnant" but more that "now's my last chance! all systems go, go go go!"
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:02 PM
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Did you copy and paste all those over? Good lord. Thank you so much for this list, I have reading tingles now.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 08:49 PM
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Yeah I wasn't sure about it -- I know it could be potentially a good way to connect with others but the risks of "officially" encouraging it may be too great. The people on twitter too may want to have a separate space where they don't have to worry about tweets being posted here and so on.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 07:57 PM
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google hangouts come to mine for virtual groups if people would be into that.. but it's hard to do something like that since doxxing is a very real threat and we definitely don't want the community getting harassed IRL because of our red pill affiliation. Plus some people just aren't comfortable on camera. Have you tried popping into the IRC channel? It's not face-to-face but there's usually always someone there, at least during the day.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 06:09 PM
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Here's a question: I know some of us are on twitter. Any interest in collecting that info or should we shy away from that and stick with IRC?
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 06:04 PM
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I think it would actually be great if there was a whole series about personal finances and budgeting, considering they teach us zilch about it in high school. Especially now with our show-and-tell social media culture on top of a highly consumerist society. I doubt any man would want to seriously commit to a woman with a wrecked credit score, and no woman (imo) should feel like she can't survive in the world without a man because of money reasons (this is just asking for trouble, getting into re…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 06:00 PM
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Hah love it! It's interesting how she just sorts of shuts down after realizing what she had done, but then when confronted about it quickly goes to "Why didn't he tell me then?". Very defensive and a distraction tactic, I think. I'm sure being on camera added fuel to that, though. Perhaps after the crew left she was able to really internalize the lesson.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:45 PM
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Can confirm, this has been true for me!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:38 PM
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Haha that is funny! Resistance is futile...
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:35 PM
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I'm an introvert too, and it can be hard! My SO is the opposite - he can just walk up to anyone at a crowded party and talk about anything with complete ease. He has so many friends, and a huge family. Me, I have few friends, and most of them don't live near where I do since I have moved often since childhood. For instance, I've moved away from my college town so now most of my college friends are about 5 hours away. I made friends with my ex's friends and family, but when we broke up we are obv…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:29 PM
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I think it is a good point to not attempt to change your personality to fit some idea of a "strict" rpw lifestyle. I also know that we are heavily influenced by the company we keep, which, too, is important to keep in mind. As I mentioned in the OP, there have been ladies who have felt a little lonely in their social circles because they don't want to participate in husband bashing or CC behavior. Maybe this thread will spark some ideas :)
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 03:58 PM
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I would also look into why things could be hurting. Positioning? Duration of actual thrusting? Intensity? Lubrication problems? Would 2 medium-intensity sessions be better than one high-intensity session per day? Or a high-ish one at night and a super slow/more cuddly/spoony one in the morning? It could be fun to get creative :)
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 03:03 PM
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I think this is one of the most important things this sub has done for me that doesn't exist anywhere else in my little world. Developing good character, having a good relationship being a source of personal pride and having ownership over the ups and the downs. Being a good wife/partner as part of my identity as a person. And you know, I think it's similar with men. The men, the good men I know, take pride in being good providers, protectors, and good husbands. Yet, sadly, our society does not …
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 10:50 PM
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My score was: 9 Physical Touch 7 Acts of Service 7 Quality Time 6 Receiving Gifts 1 Words of Affirmation I'll have to see what C's profile is :) Mine makes sense.. I've always thought that words could be very meaningless.. people can say anything. The proof's in the pudding' and all that.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 07:52 PM
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Thank you :) I'll try.. it's hard!
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 07:34 PM
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me too!
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 07:23 PM
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Me too! it was a revelation and felt like permission to lighten up and not worry about being perfect all the time.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 07:13 PM
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1. something good you did for your partner this week (or family or friend, if you're single) I made him a super yummy dinner yesterday :) 2. a special moment (either in your relationship or in your life) Ah, I love it when he leads. He called before he was supposed to come over Friday night and told me, "Put you're shoes on! We're going exploring. I'll be waiting outside for you." And quick like a bunny I slipped on my shoes and grabbed my purse and had a fun night exploring the town with my SO.…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 07:05 PM
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RedPillWomen is not the place for men to show up and spout nonsense. We have an unofficial rule on /r/theredpill that basically amounts to: don't listen to women about sexual strategy. It's not that we don't like women, it's that women really have a hard time seeing past what they like to understand men have a different palate. The same goes for men, perhaps even worse so.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/16 05:40 PM
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yes, I agree!
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 05:27 PM
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I've been trying to find more cute home loungewear that isn't expensive. So far I have a couple comfy, flattering dresses that I like but they aren't super warm! Today I'm WFH and am actually a little frumpy because I'm wearing his hoodie over my clothes haha. He's not here to see it though ;p
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 05:26 PM
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Yes!! I have little mini-moments like this all the time, especially when I feel like the conversation isn't "flowing" enough or he starts to look off in the distance about something. (Did I say something wrong? Is he not enjoying himself enough? Is he bored? Would he rather be elsewhere? Hamsterhamsterhamsterhamster). Then a minute later he'll say something totally unrelated, "I think I figured out how to repair the blinker on my car". sigh
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 05:21 PM
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You all have done an amazing amount of work over the weekend! Thanks to the whole team for everything you've done in order to maintain the integrity of our community :)
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 05:06 PM
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The post by rps said enough to me: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/4db4ei/the_direction_of_rpw/ and curious, I looked up Whisper's (he was mentioned in a comment as the one who "brought it to his attention") post history https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/4c8kxt/whowhat_are_red_pill_women/d1gmh52 who funnily enough was banned from the sub a while back.. grudge much? yeah 2+2 = 4. Also, most hilariously, rps posted: "Everything I feared in my introduction post ended up coming…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 05:00 PM
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Congratulations! Woohoo.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 03:44 PM
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Dude -- why are you here, posting this? Also, I noticed this same topic was posted a week ago. And you also asked for similiar advice on asktrp as well as multiple other subreddits come up with your own blog material
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 03:38 PM
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I just thought of this: volunteering! You'd still have to weed out people, but it'd be a nice place to start. There are volunteering websites out there where you can find opportunities in your area for things like community gardens, trail maintenance/environmental stuff, soup kitchens, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 08:00 PM
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If asked I am always honest :) Why not? I always get a kick out of their reaction. Maybe I'd feel different if I was much older, though.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 02:45 PM
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Haha love it! I wish I could pull off Sean Connery.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 02:43 PM
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martial arts, games :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 02:40 PM
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Well done!
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 02:27 PM
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I have an idea! Since you love cooking and gardening (I do too :)), what about volunteering in a soup kitchen and/or in environmental efforts like trail maintenance/cleanup or a community garden? You're much more likely to meet decent guys there I think. And even if not, you'll socialize and maybe someone knows someone who has a brother or nephew or something. Plus you'd have fun, and be contributing to your community. https://www.volunteermatch.org/ looks promising.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 02:17 PM
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Could you clarify the question please?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 02:10 PM
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Do you wash your hair every day? You don't need to unless you completely sweat it up. I wash mine 2-3x/week. Dry shampoo on the third day does wonders. Then, I only blow-dry and straighten on one washing day, and the other washing day I let it air dry for a wavier look. Then I'll just wear it long with a side part. If things really get iffy I do a quick side braid. This morning I was so rushed I did it in the car >.> You can also wash your hair at night and then blow it 80% dry so you don't slee…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 05:17 PM
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Ooh yes that sounds fun! I'll have to see if they have something like that around me.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/16 10:46 PM
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How do you tell your SO that you think he's looking particularly awesome that day? I was saying 'handsome' for a bit but then I heard his mother call him that and almost barfed in my mouth. So I need something else! So far I've used "sexy" and "hot" but it's not always sexual.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/16 08:30 PM
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Bad: I've been so busy lately with sparse free time that whenever I've gotten any I just want to veg out on the couch and do nothing! Hence my closet and kitchen cabinets still are a mess and unorganized. I really need to get it together somehow. Also I had way too much sugar on Easter, oops. I've been wanting to take pilates reformer classes but dang, they're at LEAST $30 a pop around here. I've tried videos at home but they always hurt my neck, so I was hoping the machine might help with that.…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/16 04:05 PM
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I love the yoga vibe, so laid back and chill. Yoga with Adrienne is def the sort of feel I'd be into.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/16 03:56 PM
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That's awesome! Looking forward to your fr :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/16 08:15 PM
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You can do it!
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/16 03:27 PM
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Me too!
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/16 08:00 PM
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I think it matters what the girl-friends relationship statuses are and their age ranges. I have found that interactions are very different between single ladies vs. happily married ladies, between young vs. old, and so on. I do think having at least a couple close girl friends is important, especially since we often preach around here "that's what your girlfriends are for, not your husband" and so on. We can't expect a husband to be everything and fulfill every role. I think this is especially i…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/16 07:59 PM
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Be the goddess of light and fun! How sweet of him to get excited on your behalf and take you somewhere he'd thought you'd enjoy. Maybe the fun for him wasn't the activity itself but watching you have a good time and be delighted as a result of his efforts. Lighten up :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/16 03:37 PM
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No No I like him the way he is, I think the basics of RP theory he always knows on some level. Easy, it all made sense as soon as I read it. It was a bit of a relief, actually. The implementation is the harder part, and the un-learning of our societal conditioning. Yes of course. It's beneficial to our species to have hypergamy. Acting upon it is still a choice you make, however. No I don't need to suppress any urges, they have yet to exist.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 09:29 PM
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Not too much to report for last week - I was sick so most of it is a blur! I do need to work on expressing myself, being ok with asking for help, and communicating my emotions. I tend to withdraw when I'm feeling either emotionally or physically ill, which bothers my SO. He's much more talkative than I am, has a large family and social network - so pretty much the opposite of me! I've been so used to taking care of myself (previous SO was fairly detached an unemotional, and not close to family) …
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 09:13 PM
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Right! "Friend" takes off some of the edge, the sexual tension, the being-swept-off-my-feet. "Friend" starts out as someone "safe" and then moves to "settled for".
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 04:15 PM
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How did it go?
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 04:12 PM
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Me too! When truly upset I tend to withdraw. I will communicate very little, hunker down inside myself and the hamster will run wild. Something I can work on, for sure! My SO is the opposite, he's a talker, which is probably a good influence for me.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 04:00 PM
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I love these sorts of field reports that help break down the larger concepts into every day examples :) congrats on your warm fuzzies!
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 03:56 PM
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Umm... well it's not disgusting. It could definitely use a vacuum though, a wipe-down and removal of trash. But now that it's warmer out I should be better about that sort of thing - it's hard to feel like cleaning out the car when it's snowing! ETA: Thanks to this thread I cleaned my car of trash and did a wipe-down with some armorall over my lunch break, woohoo
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 03:23 PM
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This is strange to me! I love sleeping with my bf, even if he's a toaster oven and I have feet made of ice. Usually this just means that I get the blanket and he sticks to just the sheet. I'm a light sleeper too, but usually I'll just fall back asleep when he starts sleep-talking about work. I don't think either one of us cares that much about decor. It's worth it to me to have our snuggles, and best of all, being able to just roll over after sex and not have to move anywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/16 03:05 PM
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"whatever you want to do" and "I don't really know what to tell you." In my experience, men hate these sort of answers. If he wants to surprise you he would have already had something in mind.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 04:30 PM
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Is there an activity you both enjoy? Since you want time together you could base it around that. Like a nice hiking trip - that should be at least a few hour's worth of quality time together (chatting, taking pictures, enjoying nature). If he really would like to buy you something, ask for an insulated water bottle for the hiking trip :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 04:28 PM
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Nah, I don't -- unless you think they're super dirty or something. I just squish them with my fingers and put them in my ears, then they expand (kinda like memory foam).
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 04:19 PM
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I've never really understood women who have male best friends (that aren't gay). If a man is close to you in that way, it is absolutely because he is interested in sex on some level and why would you indulge him of that? I have male acquaintances, as well as male friends that are shared with my BF, but I never "hang out" with a dude alone or do anything that would remotely suggest that I am not 100% taken.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 04:18 PM
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I've used earplugs before to muffle out TV sounds. It works pretty well, and they don't hurt! I like the squishy pink kind that are shaped kind of like a bell :) Much comfier than earbuds.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/16 04:43 PM
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Thanks for reminding me to be happy for what I have. He is a wonderful husband and I think we're both stressed out about the things we can't control. Most of his friends are married, but most of them don't have kids yet, so at least we're not alone in that aspect. However, most of his friends do own instead of rent, and I know it bothers him that we haven't hit that milestone yet. You never know what they might be thinking, either. They might see you two and miss the pre-kid days after cleaning …
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/16 03:15 PM
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Don't ever forget - Insta/Facebook = their highlight reel. It's the image they WANT to project onto the world. It's all posed, polished, and perfectly framed.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 05:50 PM
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I'll try :) Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/16 10:34 PM
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Yeah, our friend (who said that) I think was struggling to figure out exactly where things went wrong and I guess that was one common link he found. I didn't really ask much more about it. I definitely don't want to pressure him. I also don't want him to wonder how I feel or worry about losing some sort of masculinity by saving it first (I have no idea). But maybe for now it is a good idea to just follow his cue.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/16 09:48 PM
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Is it supposed to be the guy who says it first? A mutual friend of ours was just lamenting how he felt like he showed too much vulnerability when he said it first with his last 2 exes (as part of the reason why he feels like it didn't work out, for some reason).
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/16 04:56 PM
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Good: Spent a lovely Sunday at the Flower Show with bf. We were arm-in-arm/handholding the whole time and it just felt so sweet :) I thought it was funny when he made the comment, "Oh, I just realized I've been leading us this whole time when I have no idea what you want to see! You should lead." I giggled and said "But I like following you" though tried leading anyway for a while, though somehow it just defaulted back to him leading again haha. Down 1.5lbs! It's nice to see the scale move final…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 08:11 PM
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Should you continue to work on a relationship with a genuinely good man who adores you, who you do deeply care about but who you are not truly in love with, in the hope that if you both make an effort to encourage each other to be the best possible versions of yourselves that you will fall (back) in love with him? No. Years ago, pre-rpw, I was in a relationship like this. I had no idea why it wasn't working. I loved the guy. We were great together on paper. He loved me. His parents were pushing …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 07:22 PM
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Once an alpha widow, always an alpha widow? How can you just "stop it"? There is power in our thoughts. Make a decision. Are you over him? Choose yes. Move on. The more you believe he was your LOML the harder it will be.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 07:05 PM
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Yes! This is what I've been realizing over the past year or so. Feminism is actually hurting us and it is punishing femininity. It's simply too much for any human, let alone one woman, to do it all and do it all well. It is not fair for the woman or the family she is trying to cultivate and nurture. This is why you need both a captain and a first-mate. The man is born with a natural advantage in some areas, the woman in others, and when both are allowed/encouraged to abide by their nature everyo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/16 04:45 PM
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Yep! I've always gotten comments about how young I look (pale + babyface). I hated it when I was younger, but I sure am appreciating it now! I've always been pale, always avoided the sun or wore spf. Now I do it more religiously, not just for that but also because skin cancer runs in my family.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/16 06:40 PM
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What are your faults? How have you contributed to the creation of these issues? I believe the problems could manifest from our struggle to communicate with each others, we still at time struggle and/or misunderstand. Here you aren't taking ownership over your own actions and are trying to push off some of the blame on him. The question was asking about YOUR faults and how YOU contributed. The answer to this is not "our struggle to communicate with each other" What steps have you already taken to…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/16 09:42 PM
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Hmm I've been thinking lately about the whole "honeymoon stage" thing and how to do my best to keep it going as long as possible. One of the things that truly scares me is being married and ending up like most of the people I know: unhealthy, overworked, too busy, chaotic, messy, merely tolerating their husband for the sake of their kids and for the money (or for the chance of sex for the husband) - no spark is left, no joy, passion, delight in each other's presence. Maybe it's silly of naive of…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/16 04:24 PM
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Hmm maybe I will, I just need to try and put together the proper words for it :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/16 03:58 PM
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He's not that into you, and pursuing him is a waste of time. Nexty next.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 08:37 PM
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Simple Sophisticate podcast Ooh I'm always on the lookout for rpw-themed media. I'll check that podcast out, thanks for mentioning it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 08:29 PM
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I think it would be helpful if you included the details as outlined in our posting rules: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1vto1n/mod_rpw_posting_rules/ When asking a question, please keep the following things in mind: New users, do not use a throwaway account - if you want to post on the RPW sub and be a part of our community then please pick an appropriate name. When you are creating a thread, be sure to consider and address the following questions: What is the problem? (Neutral …
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 08:22 PM
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Ooh I'm going to read this later. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 08:17 PM
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I've seen memes on facebook where people describe the ideal marriage as "being married to your best friend" and for some reason it has always rubbed me the wrong way, but I can't put my finger on why. I feel like we've talked about it here before but can't seem to find topics on it. Does it bother anyone else? I feel like "wife" is something very different from "best friend"
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 05:55 PM
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Hmm I could re-read it again, though I did just re-read it a little over a week ago haha. But the discussion part would be fun :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 04:47 PM
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I've switched my vitamins to gummies and that makes me more compliant. I'm sure they're not as potent though, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 04:45 PM
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I'm sorry to hear about the breakup and all the stress :( It sounds like you know how to move forward, though.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 04:23 PM
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Nope nope nope. I prefer my men with balls.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/16 09:56 PM
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I didn't intend to come across as taking sides, really I just wanted more information because, as you rightly stated, it doesn't make sense.
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/16 08:22 PM
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The good: I suspect that my bf is more traditionally minded than I had originally thought! Just some offhanded comments he's made about how his best friend is "acting like the wife in their relationship" and so on. We haven't really talked about that directly before but I think in his head he does have some pretty clear roles in mind regarding relationships, which I actually like! I think he'd actually put me in my place if I stepped out of line, not that I'm planning to, but I like knowing that…
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/16 05:57 PM
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This has always been one of my fears! Women always talk about having a "Destroyed" body after pregnancies, especially multiples, and they just turn into frumpy lumps.
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/16 05:18 PM
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I'm in a (temporarily long-distance) serious relationship (just over 1 year, and we're both 30) with an incredible man, we see each other twice a month, Has it been a LDR for a year, or you've been together for a year and have been long-distance for a few months? I wasn't communicating often as usual and I replied back to a text message from him two hours late, I admitted I was distracted and apologised. I felt bad for upsetting him and the rest of the week I was attached to my phone, constantly…
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/16 05:07 PM
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It'll be a cold day in hell before I propose to a man.
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/16 04:43 PM
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I've never been paid unfairly based on my gender. It all had to do with experience, responsibilities, and quality of work.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 04:58 PM
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Great article! And we just had related post, too: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/47bu5k/instructions_on_how_to_change_your_mindset/ Now the hard part is that moment between connections are made - stopping it just in time to self-reflect, "Hey why am I thinking this? " I've personally found that the brain trips up when it's thinking about itself. Whenever I've had a troubling thought, I ask my brain "Where is this thought coming from?" and it blanks out for a second. Just enough t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 07:57 PM
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How to help him want it too (he's talked about it a lot and he does but isn't "ready" yet) Ready for marriage or for another child? Or both? Have both of you sat down and talked about it seriously, including your decreasing fertility? It's hard for me to ascertain how he feels based off of what you've said, other than he talks about it "a lot" and doesn't feel "ready". What's prompted him to talk about it "a lot"? Does he bring it up on his own, or it in response to something you've said? Did he…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 04:45 PM
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Ahh love it :) So cute.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 04:08 PM
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I share important things, or things I think he will find interesting and want to talk about. We always ask each other how our days went, and we are in contact throughout the day in some way or another. But I am pretty introverted, and honestly I would like to talk more. He's the more talkative one :) His work is more exciting and involved with people than mine is, he has a huge family and network of people, and he's in the middle of flipping a house, so there's always something for him to talk a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 04:04 PM
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Does it alter the taste any?
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 09:05 PM
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Relevent article: http://lifehacker.com/online-dating-showdown-match-com-vs-tinder-vs-okcupi-1743996603 After using all three services for a while, it’s clear that each service has its own place in the online dating world. According to readers like you, Match.com is a more mature, serious relationship-focused dating platform. Match.com also seems to skew toward a somewhat older crowd (mostly late 20s to mid 40s), and those who are very interested in finding people who share their beliefs. The su…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 06:34 PM
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Oh sweet, that must be new, or my memory is just too fuzzy. It's been a while ;)
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 06:24 PM
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Yes, thanks for pointing that out! That was one of the things I liked about it. Then in your search you can filter based on match %, which makes it easier to see the more traditional guys sooner. There were other questions too, now that I'm trying to remember.. like "Do you want kids" "Do you believe in traditional gender roles" etc that you can answer and mark as Very Important. If both of your answers are the same and flagged as Very Important your match % will be higher :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 06:13 PM
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Right. Why deliberately shoot yourself in the foot by using an app with a bad rep? And even if the man doesn't care/know about the rep, it is still a waste of a rpw's time to use it. Online dating is hard enough on the spirit.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 05:38 PM
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My experiences in online dating: Tindr: guys just want hookups. Never met anyone from there. Coffee Meets Bagel: I liked the concept of only getting to communicate if you both liked each other's info. Never had any good matches, though. OKCupid: The most populated. I received TONS of messages, easily 70% were copy/paste generic stuff that they probably sent out to any profiles whose pictures they thought were half decent. 25% were nasty. Maybe 5% were well thought-out messages that indicated tha…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 04:56 PM
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You're worrying about changing a guy when you should really be focusing on yourself and what you have to offer. It's true that men value a lower n-count. What's done cannot be undone, you learn and move forward with your life. Your age also matters. 8 at 30yo (average-ish to me, maybe a bit higher than average) is different from 8 at 20yo (ruh-roh). I don't think it's good to have the mindset of finding a guy with the intention to change him right out of the gate. That's a crappy way to treat so…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/16 10:32 PM
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Meh I still feel the same way as I responded in the last thread: Lol. The way that post is written clearly indicates that it's fictional. Why give advice on a made-up scenario that is written solely to stir up drama?
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/16 08:11 PM
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This was a pleasure to read, very insightful post abc. Thank you. "Am I good enough to ask her out? Am I good enough for guys to ask me out?" I tried reversing that it my head. As a girl, thinking "Am I good enough to ask him out" just feels.. foreign and wrong. It's very uncomfortable. Wow.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/16 05:54 PM
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Congrats on 3 months! Bf and I are coming up on 2 in a few days. It feels so strange though, like we've been together for years instead of months (in a good way!). Empty time - organizing! This is what I've been trying to do in my sparse spare time. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R64_W9kFpy8 This lady has got me really excited about dollar stores for containers! I've whittled down my tea collection to a mere 4 buckets lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/16 04:26 PM
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Most of the population is afraid of being poor. You can't change anything by being scared and worrying things to death (I do this too). Have faith in your SO, and have faith in yourself that no matter what happens you will be able to figure it out. Even if you do have to work at a minimum wage job, you can make it work somehow. People do it all the time. I think you need to find some sort of hobby that helps you chill out. You're worrying over everything. Not having enough money. Having parents …
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/16 04:21 PM
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ooh thanks, I'll check that list out too :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:38 PM
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Not on Audible, boo, BUT it is $3 on Kindle! I like cheap.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:36 PM
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Deep Water sounds interesting and murdery :) I'll add it to my list!
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:32 PM
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Argh practically all of the discworld series is on Audible EXCEPT for #1! Bugger. I'll have to add it to my physical-reading list.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:29 PM
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omg Allie Brosh! I totally forgot about her. I'll have to get her book asap.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:25 PM
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Added it to my list. Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:23 PM
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ah darn it's not on audible :(
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:18 PM
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Ooh it looks interesting. I'll add it to my list. Thanks!:)
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:17 PM
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Thanks! I've added Time Travelers Wife to my list :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:13 PM
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Wow that book sounds really good. I'm not sure if I'm ready to read something like that though, I lost a family member to brain cancer a couple years ago. I'd probably be sobbing in my car :(
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:10 PM
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Is there much new info in the book that I wouldn't have already gotten from reading Surrendered Single/Wife?
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:08 PM
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I understand hating that he is getting messaged by rando girls but there isn't anything you can do to control their behavior. So why waste the energy on it? How secure do you feel in your relationship? If you have a good man and he has no reason to seek affection elsewhere then he won't.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 06:36 PM
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Pretty much this. This is nothing to get worked up over. This is just dreamy fantasy talk induced by meds. Wanting a harem is a very common male fantasy that is just fun for them to think about.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 06:29 PM
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The Good: Was still glowing after a lovely Valentine's day weekend with my boyfriend. After martial arts class last week one of my classmates had an emotional breakdown from the stress of our upcoming rank test. Sensei was not there so my boyfriend, who was the highest rank present, took charge and was able to lead/guide them through their breakdown and convince them to not give up. A group of us stayed after class to offer support and my bf was in true 'patient, wise counselor' mode, it was rat…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 04:33 PM
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You could try looking for things to do on places like groupon or livingsocial - hiking trips, haunted house tours, ziplining, archery tag, etc. Go with a friend and have the focus be on having fun and being approachable.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 04:18 PM
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Why are you going through his messages? That's an invasion of his privacy. I wouldn't dream of doing that to my boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 03:35 PM
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The other ladies have hit some good points. So to me, it sounds like you're just kinda bored with yourself and SO is content with how things are. Things to do around the house -- get experimental with cooking? Find out what your SO likes and meal plan for every day of the week. Bake him up some snacks for throughout the day (like protein bars). Does he like video games? You could game together. It's hard to make suggestions when I don't know your SO, I don't know what he likes or if he's happy w…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 07:51 PM
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This is something that's been bothering me lately. People saying "Oh you're just in the honeymoon phase. It won't last." Well why not? Why can't we choose that this is just the way it's going to be? Why can't it even be that things get BETTER instead of a gradual, depressive decline.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 07:36 PM
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I've already read it! :) Would they have it at the library? Or you could um, preview it for a couple hours at the bookstore :p
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 05:29 PM
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I would probably like that!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 09:05 PM
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I do OK with tofu as long as it's coated in a yummy sauce of some sort. Though I've yet to meet a man who was like, 'Mmm tofu time!'.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 04:20 PM
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Yeah I love that! Not just that he can fix stuff but that he wants to and feels protective enough of me to want to make sure that I'm taken care of :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 10:22 PM
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The Good: I had a wonderful v-day weekend. It was kind of overwhelming in a good way :) I feel uncomfortable detailing it out though, seems like I'm bragging. Probably because of [see below] The bad-ish I've noticed that people, well mostly women, start to act weird and defensive when you gush about boyfriend things so it's making me really hesitant to talk about the things that bf does for me. Even amongst closer girl friends, they will tend to cut me off before I'm done with my story or change…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 09:33 PM
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Yes, I agree! The little things that skip past the brain and are purely reactionary just feel extra authentic.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 07:12 PM
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Yes this is a great book! I have it on audible :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 07:02 PM
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"You always smell good!" "You always make yummy food" This weekend while he was driving me home, he sang along to Keith Urban's 'Only You Can Love Me This Way' (he's been giving me songs every week to listen to) which lyrics I immediately associated with Be His Soft Place To Land He loves my dresses (well when I'm wearing them, lol) Not sure if this is a compliment, but it felt good. He mentioned how he doesn't like that I live so far away (it's just a 40 minute drive, so it could definitely be …
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 06:47 PM
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Thanks Cooch :) My work bff and the receptionist were gushing all over them and saying how they wished they could clone my bf, so it wasn't all party poopers. Silly crabs!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/16 11:53 PM
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Something to the tune of "Well we began with a really healthy relationship, and I always appreciated his uplifting attitude...but ultimately our differences got the better of us and we ended things when he was unfaithful. It was a very difficult time for me and it makes me nervous talking about it. I'm grateful for the opportunity to talk about my past with you and I hope you understand why I'm feeling a little scared to bring it up." Looks pretty good to me!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/16 11:01 PM
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Annd my boyfriend had the most lovely bouquet of multicolored roses delivered at work today :) They are beautiful! He picked exactly what I would have picked (I'm not a fan of plain red roses. These are coral, white, pink, purple, soft orangeypink). He's so sweet :) ETA: I just had an interesting interaction with a couple coworkers. I can't figure out if they're just jealous or jaded. When I showed them my flowers, instead of them being happy for me, they said "Oh, we don't really do anything fo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/16 09:27 PM
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I have! But I am lazy and wanted a whole meal plan made up for me, haha. I think I've found one, for dinners at least, on skinnytaste though! http://www.skinnytaste.com/p/my-pantry.html
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/16 09:11 PM
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I could try that, though I'm not up to full-blown running yet! I've been doing C25k which alternates walking and running :) I've also been on the hunt for a 1200/day meal plan. I'm just terrible with meal planning. I find recipe hunting, and then shopping for it all, rather tiresome. I really wish I could afford one of those subscriptions like Blue Apron or Home Chef :p
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/16 04:42 PM
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The way I've mostly prevented my razor burn is this: after shaving my legs, I wet a cotton pad with witchhazel plus a couple drops of tea tree oil. Then I wipe the pad all over my legs. I do not use lotion immediately after (for some reason this seemed to make it worse). I just let them air out.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 08:40 PM
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My bf loves Deadpool and dragons (we're both geeks) so when I stumbled upon a deadpool dragon on etsy (https://www.etsy.com/listing/110044969/poseable-deadpool-dragon-plush) I just had to get it for him. That's more of a cutesy/sweet gift. I'm also getting him (well us I guess, technically, lol) a couple's massage at a nearby fancy spa. His back and shoulders have been bothering him lately, probably from doing something at the gym. I also bought some fancy lingerie in his fav color, and I bought…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 04:43 PM
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We're going to see Deadpool too! :) He looooves Deadpool.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 04:10 PM
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I don't think I could ascribe v-day efforts in general to a particular pill. It would depend on the motivations/desires of the man. If he's doing it because he feels bullied into it (like he'll catch hell if he doesn't do something) then that's one thing. If he has genuine desire to plan/buy something and play it up a bit, regardless of outside influences, that's another. I don't think it's wrong to have a dedicated day to celebrate things that you already appreciate. Doing one doesn't negate th…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 04:07 PM
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Me too! Although my mind twisted it into something more naughty >:).
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 03:54 PM
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She wants a romance novel :p
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/16 06:23 PM
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Good: I survived the superbowl! I spent it with my boyfriend and his extended family. It was very overwhelming for me (at least 30 people there). I am a pretty quiet, introverted person and I don't care a lick about sports. But I did my very best to be pleasant and conversational but not too much, laugh and smile and not appear bored lol. I think I did ok! When in doubt I pet the dog that seemed especially fond of me that night. My boyfriend was also sweet and stayed by my side for pretty much a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/16 06:18 PM
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Does waxing hurt less than threading? I have sensitive skin, and have tried threading a few times and each time it hurt like a mofo. Last time I even bled a little :(
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/16 05:12 PM
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To me.. it's less about following rules, or following specific actions (If X then Y). It's more about personal choices, priorities, self-awareness, and what NOT to do. It's about arming ourselves with what we've learned of the RP and using it to the advantage of our relationships. It's un-learning what we've been taught through the media and bad relationship examples. It's playing to our natural, different, strengths as men and women. It's not feeling like crap because we can't do it all and do …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/16 08:12 PM
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Lol, right? And decorator? Is he supposed to be gay?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/16 05:21 PM
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I found your post very moving and inspiring. I think your story has at least one thing in it we can all relate to in some way. Thank you so much for sharing! You have shown so much resilience.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/16 05:05 PM
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Ah good point, I am spoiled by Prime :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/16 05:00 PM
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I think this is more than just having different personality types.. he just doesn't sound that respectful of you. I am having a hard time seeing a positive angle in this. His tone (in your waiter example) would sound mocking to me, which is juvenile and over-reacting. If he was being sincere and was truly worried about being 5 minutes late, that's a whole other ball of wax. I personally think you communicated yourself pretty clearly. If he so easily misunderstands and immaturely reacts this earl…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/16 04:58 PM
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Razors on Amazon are sooooooo much cheaper than in the store! http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00O59NRQ6/ref=s9_hps_bw_g121_i2
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/16 04:37 PM
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What about something like this? http://www.amazon.com/Deluxe-EasyComforts-Shoe-Stretcher/dp/B00O5KUGW8/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1454607517&sr=8-3&keywords=shoe+stretcher
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 05:38 PM
1

Congrats on graduating college!
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 05:20 PM
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I am 32 and understand how you feel! I feel like I'm only just now really understanding men and the differences between men and women. I wish I would have learned this stuff when I was younger too, but we can't change the past. Plus I am very happy with the relationship I'm in now, I may have missed out on a very good man if things were too different :) It sounds like you're headed in the right direction. Keep it up!
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 05:18 PM
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I have some food sensitivities too. Congrats on feeling better and the bonus weight loss!
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 05:02 PM
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The good: Still in the honeymoon stage with my boyfriend. No complaints here! I'm doing my best to be patient this week while he's been preoccupied with work. This is kinda both good and bad: There was a bit of an incident and there's political drama going down at his office and he feels really under-appreciated there. People rely on him for so much, and there hasn't been a night that we've been together where someone from work hasn't called him for help with something at all hours of the night …
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 04:45 PM
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Does he know the logistics of when you are in town? If he already knows the date of when you'll be there then I probably wouldn't mention anything.. or possibly get your friend to give him a nudge since she's the one setting you two up. That way you don't appear desperate or over-invested.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/16 06:44 PM
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I am not on the pill currently, however my prior experiences with various pills were weight gain (just about 10lbs), loss of libido, emotional numbness, but also great skin. It's different for everyone though. I'd consider the copper IUD if I didn't have a nickel allergy (I've heard that women with nickel allergies have bad reactions from the copper). OP you really should use something more than pulling out. Even if you trust your partner, and he intends to pull out, all it takes for his timing …
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 05:47 PM
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Abigale - why did she sleep with someone else if she loved Tom? So Sinbad offers her a ride in exchange for sex - that would be a hard NO and gtfo while she figures out a way to make her own damn boat or doggy paddle her way across. Abigale's mom - irresponsible mothering. Sure kid, go whore around to get whatever you want. That's your business. John - Hit his best friend and walked off with his best friend's girl. Douche. Sinbad - creeper but an honest one at least. Didn't do anything violent. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/16 07:11 PM
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All I know is that I've been instructed to take Monday and Tuesday off of work :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 01:46 PM
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I like it. We've been talking recently about how we often deal with girlfriends' bitch sessions. We could make our own weekly cheer sessions :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 10:29 PM
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Wow, I haven't seen this picture before either. What a great ego boost, lol. Though I agree, the lines do get blurry past 7 and some of the 8s I think are 9 and some of the 9s are maybe 7s to me /shrug
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 09:22 PM
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Ohh I'll have to investigate! Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 09:16 PM
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haha mine is a furnace too! It's great because I'm usually always cold.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 09:14 PM
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Yes, come join us!
/r/askTRP28/01/16 08:43 PM
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I've always had a hard time with perfumes. They all tend to smell kind of the same to me, the generic "perfume" smell with the alcohol base. I've tried sniffing my way through Sephora and haven't really found anything I've liked yet :(
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 06:24 PM
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Being with him is so easy. There is no anxiety, he is fairly transparent with his feelings and intentions, it just feels so.. glowy and peaceful. There has never been any stupid "wait 3 days then call her" or "only commit to 1-2 days a week" rules. He knows what he wants and has made it very clear. We want to see each other as much as possible. Usually this means we stay over at each other's place friday night-Sunday and Tuesday night as a minimum, with other times together sprinkled in between.…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 05:57 PM
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Personally, I would enjoy reading a post on etiquette and poise. I've always been jealous of people who always seem to know the right thing to say in the right situations, who seem to just know how to put others at ease. My fantasy job has always been to be an Ambassador which I think those skills lend itself well to.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 09:54 PM
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/u/_wingnut_ is great. She usually says what I'm thinking before I take the time to soften it up haha. She hits the nail on the head.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 05:25 PM
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haha but I love your assholeyness
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 03:27 PM
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Oh good idea! Why didn't I think of that, it seems so obvious :) I might just give him one this weekend for the heck of it. He is the sweetest man. He surprise-visited me at work yesterday too which was awesome.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 03:26 PM
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I don't really like labels in general. I prefer to take on issues individually.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 10:10 PM
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I'm all for more people finding RPW. I'm in the best/easiest relationship of my life right now thanks in part to what I've learned here. Or rather, "unlearned".
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 09:11 PM
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Yeah, it sounds like they're pretty much insulting our gender/sex in one fell swoop. I have a feeling that if you turned it around they'd be grabbing pitchforks.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 09:08 PM
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Why do reddit people think we're dudes?
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 07:29 PM
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Gratitude, appreciation, and happiness come from you and that is what it will take to have your relationship survive. Yes! Prince charming isn't going to come and whisk you away in his private jet to solve all your problems and give you happiness. Happiness, gratitude, appreciation - these are all choices we make.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 03:41 PM
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"Be the change" Thanks to RPW I am very aware of how my friends talk about their SOs. So even though they may say negative things about their SOs I am hoping that as a side-effect of my conscious effort to express gratitude for my boyfriend they will be inspired to think about how they're handling their own relationships. Probably naive of me, right? If they see that I am happy (which I am) and have nothing but positive things to say about my boyfriend and also see that I focus a lot on improvin…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 03:35 PM
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There are all sorts of motivators behind behaviors. That's why I usually try to keep an open mind and assume the best of people. Maybe they had a bad experience being a doormat. Maybe their social programming is making them uncomfortable. We're all subject to our environment and personal experiences :) My friend that I mentioned in a previous post did the "you deserve..." thing too, but I know it's from a place that is both well-meaning and also self-reflecting. She does really want me to have a…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 03:25 PM
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Yes I love her too. She just started another 30 day bootcamp this month :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 03:12 PM
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What's your girl game like? Where are you going to meet men? Do you have any social hobbies? Since you are 28 with a 5 year old son, and use drugs, you may have a harder time finding a decent guy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 10:35 PM
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Good: I have THE best boyfriend. Seriously. Our cars were snowed in this weekend and I didn't have a shovel so he took it upon himself to jog (in the snow) to the nearest Lowe's (maybe a half a mile away, so not too bad) to buy a shovel, made a pit stop at the grocery store for ice cream (he randomly thought I'd like some), jogged back to drop off ice cream and proceeded to dig out both our cars while insisting I stay inside where it was warm. I stayed in for about an hour, cleaning the apt, bef…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 10:04 PM
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I agree, excellent post! I even noticed it today, where the main focus of conversations regarding boyfriends/SOs revolved around what THEY were doing for US. She even said "Well you deserve it!" which is well-meaning of course. But as I started talking about what I wanted to do for HIM it was startling to see how my friend reacted like I had three heads.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 09:52 PM
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I like this idea too. If there are things you really enjoy that he might not be into at all, you could set up something with your girlfriends where you alternate who plans and surprise evening out.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 05:12 PM
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Yes yes yes yes yes!
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 05:06 PM
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From what you've said it sounds like he might like it. Just be sure it's fun for him and not a chore! :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 04:49 PM
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he only brushes his teeth if I complain about bad breath. barf. NEXT. Just no. no no no. Seriously. Don't waste your youth on this guy. He's 28 and still lives at home, has bad hygiene, reassures himself of his manhood by not cutting his hair/beard, stays in bed during his free time. He's not a captain, he is barely rowing a life boat.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 04:27 PM
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You should! And don't feel bad about your practice run ;) I have always been pretty shy, so I understand the nervousness.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 04:00 PM
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I loved going to my local cafe before it closed! It's a great way to socialize but also not socialize. It's a way to be around other people but not feel the pressure of actually having to talk to them, lol. I used to go every Sunday morning.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 03:56 PM
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Hmmmm. If you think he might be afraid of picking the wrong thing, and you get bored always knowing the plan, what about creating a list of things you like to do or places you want to go and tell him that anytime he feels like taking the reigns, just pick from the list? You could set it up in a spreadsheet or do it manually via scraps of paper with activities on it that you randomly draw out of a jar or something. "Thai dinner" + "Ice skating" + "Central park" or w/e ;) That way he would never h…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 03:50 PM
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I was terribly shy as a child. I was considered cute/pretty but not "sexy". I was so clueless about boys though, and was more into books than trying to date or be popular. Boys would be nice to me but I would just think they were being friendly. I remember being asked out to see a movie in college and being completely surprised that the guy assumed it was a date, lol. I only started feeling comfortable showing skin and using makeup once I was in my mid-late 20s. I had boyfriends, but usually lar…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/16 04:31 PM
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Ah, yes! Baby spinach in smoothies is largely undetectable to me at least. It adds a certain "bright" flavor that tastes fresh and not too veggie.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 03:54 PM
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Like this? https://www.pinterest.com/pin/219128338097160704/ I have that pic in my hair inspo board :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 10:42 PM
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I just peeked at his post history and I don't think it's possible to roll my eyes any harder.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 09:02 PM
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There are many shades of red :) I have naturally blonde hair but my bf likes it a reddish color. Mine is more auburny/burgundy, it compliments my blue eyes nicely. If your SO doesn't have a particular shade of red he likes, go for whatever compliments your eyes or skin tone best :) If you want to stand out more from others, you could change up the cut too, or get bangs.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 08:31 PM
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Hmmm I've never really thought about it or was that curious about his N-Count. I guess the main thing I would care about was if he kept it safe. 5/year doesn't seem so strange.. but 8 years of that? 8 years of a different woman every 2-3 months? I dunno. I think I'd prefer the guy to actually want relationships. It'd probably creep me out a bit.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 08:17 PM
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I get wanting physical copies too. I love my kindle, but do miss the smell of books some times. What about the library? Best of both worlds, and last I remember they have magazines. You don't need to feel ashamed :) We all ask for advice. We hamster. One of the reasons why the sub is here, no? Someone else may have gotten something out of your post, too.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/16 04:33 PM
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I think I get where you're coming from there. I can take things too personally, a side effect of growing up in a very passive aggressive environment where everything had a hidden meaning. Here's a trick I do sometimes: take a second after he's said something that feels hurtful and repeat it to yourself in a robot voice, with no emotion, no hidden meaning. Or you can just visualize the words and read them like a page in a book, then check back in with yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/16 01:53 AM
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Hmmm no I wouldn't say he's detached. He isn't clingy or anything but he definitely makes his presence known and he is invested and not shy about letting me know it. I'm looking forward to part 2 too :) I've actually never heard the sigma male term before, I'll have to look it up.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 11:10 PM
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I believe this is the b-complex I use: http://amzn.to/1Qjp40l Zinc is 50mg and Magnesium Citrate is 250mg I don't take these every day though. Maybe 2-3 times a week.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 09:58 PM
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The good: I feel like I'm in the matrix where you suddenly start seeing the code everywhere, with the code being rp. The more I am feminine and submit, the more he is masculine and leads, the easier it all just feels. Keeping bf happy is so easy and uncomplicated, it really all comes down to what we've been saying in RPW (such as giving him food, not turning him down for sex, not being a bitch, thinking before speaking, being his soft place, telling him how much you respect and admire the things…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 09:51 PM
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Maybe try experimenting for one month. Just submit to every request/nag. See what happens. Will he be surprised? Was he really just joking? Will you uncover a real reason behind what he's doing? Will he "nag" more or less"? Are there just a few issues he is sensitive to or is it across the board? Does it matter? Pick your captain, pick your battles.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 09:30 PM
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I dunno, be honest with him? Tell him your relationship isn't appropriate and you're just stringing him along? He might be upset but he'll get over it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 09:23 PM
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I think arousal is mostly in our heads - so the magic key to unlock your tingles lies there. It'll vary with each person or relationship. Personally none of the examples you gave except for the first would turn me on (too childish and I'd worry I'd annoy him) but everyone's different. I guess I'm usually more direct.. he'll do something and I'll encourage the behavior by telling him how much I liked it. He'll get creative and try something else.. etc :) If I'm currently at 0 and I know he's comi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 09:16 PM
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I love being picked up too! My bf loves to show off his gym progress by picking me up and carrying me around lol.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 09:09 PM
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It would weird me out too! My bf plays the pony game with his cousin who is 4.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 09:07 PM
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I've tried various b-complexes before, but the high biotin levels always broke me out. I finally found a b-complex gummy that is really low in the rda % and it seems to be working out. I have noticed my hair growing a bit quicker. Other vitamins I take, depending on the day or time of the month: zinc (acne, and to balance mag), magnesium (better sleep, recovery), calcium chews (few days before period, helps with cramps), gelatinized maca (energy and hormonal balance), vitamin d, vitamin e a week…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 08:44 PM
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2000 mg MSM (sulfur) -- this is good for your joints but it also prolongs your hair growth phase so you shed less I've been wondering about this! I shed a lot but am worried that I'm not growing enough hair back to compensate. It mostly comes out when I'm brushing, but still! How long did you take the MSM before you noticed it working? Would any brand work, like NOW? http://www.amazon.com/NOW-Foods-MSM-1000mg-Capsules/dp/B000Z8ZKW0/ref=sr_1_2?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1453149038&sr=1-2&keywords=msm
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 08:38 PM
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Oh, I know :) But it's kind of fun to play along, like taking one of those online quizzes. As far as I am aware I am giving him what he needs, as he's been fairly direct in telling me how pleased and happy he is with me. My aim is to never let that drop.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 11:22 PM
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Staying on top of my girl game has become increasingly important to me as I'm realizing what kind of future I want. And not just for him, but for me, too! One of my greatest fears is becoming too "settled" into a marriage where we both get fat, stop caring, stop having interests, the passion is gone, we work, go home, eat crap, watch tv, bitch at each other and rinse and repeat. I've seen too many couples fall into this and it horrifies me! I want to be in shape and attractive for him as long as…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 11:11 PM
1

Oh yes :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 11:01 PM
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I've been thinking about this all day and still don't have it figured out! I don't know what my threshold is, I don't think it's ever been tested. If I had to guess, I'd say it's medium-high, as long as it's not abusive and as long as there is trust and respect there. I do despise yelling and big displays of anger, it does not make me feel safe. I'm fairly sure I have a low dominance level myself, as I am more than happy to let him lead and am not controlling at all, and I'll only take charge in…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 10:46 PM
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Agreed! Camille doesn't disappoint!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 04:56 PM
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Yeah, I think you're mostly on the same page, but the binary of high/low is mucking things up a bit for the sake of illustrating the concept as a whole :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 04:52 PM
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You can't go back and change what happened. What would you have preferred to have done, anyway? Wrestle for the gun that you aren't trained for? Tried to be more "macho", possibly getting yourself or others hurt? She needs you now. I doubt she was able to just shoot someone in a highly stressful situation and then come out all honkey dorey. She's taking extra runs because she's still feeling the aftermath. She's probably going to be on edge for a while, especially if she goes inside a bar/casino…
/r/askTRP14/01/16 11:43 PM
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I kind of agree. Something feels a little "off", however, I do think that is a good reminder for some of the younger girls that I've seen post here. It is often said to "Find a good man and defer to him", but I think some in their eagerness, skip or neglect the "find a good man" part. Or they are too afraid of being alone to next a guy who is not a good captain, who all the deference in the world won't make him worthy of it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/16 07:31 PM
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Thanks :) Fortunately for us I think we're both pretty good at communicating with each other, though I could stand to be a little more forthcoming and proactive even if it feels awkward.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 08:38 PM
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Oh good idea about the notebook! I currently have a google note list of activities I think he'd like to do, but I like the idea of keeping a lil portfolio of his interests and such too. I think it might be a liiiitle too early to clean his house and pack his lunch and stuff.. we do not live together and we've only been dating for a few weeks, I don't want him to feel like I'm invading his privacy or anything. Though he has invited me to help him decorate/design/landscape his house since he's wor…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 08:36 PM
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Oh I like the thigh-high sock idea.. I have a couple home loungey dresses that I haven't been wearing because of the cold but socks like those might help. Plus they look cute/sexy! Do they stay up well?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 06:55 PM
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I love simmering soup pots of water in the winter :) not only does it add moisture, but it can smell good too if you add in cinnamon sticks and orange peels!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 06:40 PM
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Good: Met boyfriend's family this past weekend. I was pretty nervous, since we had only been dating for a few weeks, but it went better than I had thought :) Realized how on-point RPW/RP is. Everything just clicks and I can see it now. For example, I've been upping my girl game which he has responded to very well. He loves the feminine things about me (I know because we were talking about the things we like each other/what drew us to each other in the first place. He said how he loved the way I …
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 06:20 PM
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I am friends with my last ex but not in a.. close way, if that makes sense. We will ask how each other is doing, recommend each other books/movies we know the other would like, watch each other's pet if we're out of town and that sort of thing. But we don't have regular meet-ups or anything like that. I'm still very friendly with his family and they are with me, too. He has a new girlfriend now that he lives with (and I have a boyfriend too) and no one seems to have any problem with us being fri…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 05:57 PM
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I have meditated before, but wasn't able to keep it up. I should try to get back into it :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/16 10:24 PM
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Reading Surrendered Wife is a good idea, thank you :) I'll download it on my kindle tonight,
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/16 10:22 PM
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Are you making a mountain out of a mole-hill? Yes
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/16 06:16 PM
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Building upon what the other ladies have said: If he is only just recently divorced, IF he changed his mind, it would likely be some time before he'd even be ready to consider marriage again. Years. In that same amount of time, you could have found someone else. Like Tempy suggested, I think it would be a good to get a clearer picture of his real intentions (did he just say that out of frustration? Does he think he could marry in the future but would need a certain amount of time beforehand?) an…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/16 06:01 PM
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Hmm I'd like to try this. What was your dosage like? Did you take it every day or just during shark week?
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 11:02 PM
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In the past I've done temp and CM tracking via an app on my phone and it's worked out pretty well (OvuView for Android). There are more apps out there too, and I remember that Glow actually let you set up a sharing account so your SO can monitor things too which I always thought was cool :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 09:39 PM
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Super cool! Right now I'm trying to figure out the best way to do this all digitally. I'm a bit geeky like that, plus I would like to be able to access it on-the-go via my phone or tablet. Hmmmm :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 09:35 PM
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Have you tried cutting sugar and dairy? I've definitely noticed worse skin after eating more sugar and dairy... especially the dairy.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 04:11 PM
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Yeah I love the umm libido bump during and around ovulation! Never had it so intense when I was on hormonal BC.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 04:09 PM
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I was put on hormonal BC when I was 16 after I had an ovarian cyst burst painfully. I was on various brands of the pill/patch for about.. 8-9 years. Then I switched to condoms because every single pill I tried really killed my libido and just made me feel more prone to extreme emotion. I've been hormone free for years now. The only thing I really miss are the lighter periods and clearer skin! I have used fertility awareness before, combined with condoms, and that worked out just fine too, but it…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/16 06:11 PM
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Ooh. Do you think Vit E would work for non-IUD related spotting?
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/16 06:06 PM
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I think the general Rule Of The Internet is fueling the fire for this particular topic. You will see a lot more complaints and horror stories than you will read exaltations on how happy people are. Alarmism/crazy is much more entertaining. Just look at the news. Fearmongering everywhere. While I know there are crappy women and crappy marriages, the majority of women that I know truly want to be married out of love and divorce is the last thing on their mind. The only people who really "win" in a…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 10:15 PM
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So the guy I'm currently seeing, we've known each other for about 6 months but have only started dating for the past couple of weeks. He's already suggested doing a double date with his sister and her fiance (one of those Escape Rooms.. looks fun/scary!) and when I made him brownies over the weekend he gave some to his mother to try. I have no idea what that means, but I am assuming it's not bad! I think meeting family is still pretty significant, especially the parents. I think with my last SO …
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 08:56 PM
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Power of Attorney does not cover everything, and the increase in social status is not bogus at all. There's been a lot of research on how married men make more money than unmarried men and how being a husband is seen as more respectable at work than simply being a boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 11:07 PM
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I'm very independently-minded, too. It's hard to break out of that, but just let your mind ease up on it a bit and really think about it more deeply. Ignore mass media. We are human. Is it wrong to need others? No. What does it really mean when you "don't need a man"? What does it prove? Needing a man is only insulting if you let it be! So don't. You have your own goals for happiness and assuming that's marriage and children, you will need a man for that. Or think of it another way: A man doesn'…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 09:10 PM
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Thank you for your answer! I think I understand it now and I'm glad you stand by your principles :) I have my own principles too that I do not cross either, and it's never ever been something I have regretted! I think, for me, cohabitation is ok, and part of the vetting process (I learn a lot about a person from living with them. Not that I've lived with tons of men, haha, just one before) and for me cohabitation doesn't necessarily mean full submission. I think it's like the final testing of th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 08:34 PM
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Lose 15lbs and not stress over it Yoga EVERY day Drink more water Stop reacting out of fear Get better in-tune with my emotions. It's ok to have feelings and to express them. Surrender Read more, even if it's just audiobooks during my commute Pass martial arts test coming up soon Get promoted at work Get better at cleaning up as I go rather than waiting for things to pile up
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 06:32 PM
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Now I'm curious, why don't you cohabitate before marriage? What about moving in together compromises your values and integrity? I'm not trying to be confrontational, I've really never heard of this before and I'd like to know more :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 05:33 PM
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Last week was great despite catching a cold :) I went out to the city with the guy I just started dating and we watched fireworks together for New Years, and spent a lot of time together that weekend snuggling together and watching movies. The cold was annoying but I'm about 80% through it now.. just in time to be back at work, hah. Not so well last week: nothing horrible, but I have noticed that I'm not as open and affectionate as I'd like to be in this new relationship. I think I'm still nervo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 05:21 PM
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What kinds of stuff does he like to do? Maybe let him do his own thing while you handle the shopping and organizing?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 03:26 PM
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Do you have a fireplace? Or maybe you could do a bonfire outside? Hmm what about massages? :) have fun!
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 02:09 PM
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I am shocked at how you would present yourself in a professional environment. Our sense of smell is one of our strongest senses.. It makes a big impression on others and is strongly tied to memory. I would improve your hygiene asap. To answer your question: yes they gossip. I overhear plenty from my male coworkers.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/15 04:37 AM
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Most likely, but I can't help but think that if she had been on her own before, know how much should could live off of, had the experience to know that she could do it and be just fine, that she would have enough courage to try.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 07:57 PM
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I think it's more that.. they think they can't. They never had that experience to give them confidence. At least, from what I have observed over the years. A coworker of mine is in her 50s, married young to a Sailor and had a kid, divorced, went straight from husband's house to sister's, then from boyfriend to boyfriend. She has never lived on her own before and I think she's too scared to make the leap even though she's in a crappy deadbedroom relationship with a guy who is unstable and verball…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 06:58 PM
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Taller than me (5'5"), dark hair, kind eyes, not fat, strong arms, hair that isn't long, good hygiene, short nails (long nails on guys freak me out), confident presence/posture.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 06:28 PM
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I am 5'5". The man I'm currently seeing is.. I'm not sure, a few inches taller maybe? I never asked. I think just "taller than me" is all I've ever cared about in regards to height.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 06:03 PM
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I do think it is important for women to at least know that they CAN take care of themselves, to have at least some work experience, understand a budget, etc. I have known too many woman (older, though, so maybe it's different now?) who stayed in a bad relationship, even abusive ones, because they felt like they just couldn't make it on their own and had no other choice. I also think it's a bit more significant when you are a woman who could easily take care of yourself, or make as much or even m…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 04:47 PM
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Congratulations!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/15 01:26 AM
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This week I am tentatively sticking my toes into the beginning of a possible relationship that I'm a bit nervous about. It's with someone in my martial arts group and I really, really do not want it to effect both of our ability to perform during class or disrupt the group dynamic (our group is fairly tight knit). I keep worrying, "What if it doesn't work out and it makes class awkward?" "I don't want us to become the center of gossip town" etc etc. Yet I do feel appreciative that I can go into …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 04:55 PM
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Pretty much! I like a nice mix of both. Good beta qualities give me heart tingles. Alpha qualities give me panty tingles, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 04:02 PM
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I think this explains it best: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3x4rw4/the_awalt_misconception/
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/15 10:10 PM
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Merely existing is a selfish act. Why should you be alive, consuming oxygen, taking up space, using up natural resources, buying clothes made in sweatshops, buying cheap food that's shipped over from Mexico picked by underpaid workers, and so on and so on. The drive to procreate is natural and build into our DNA. And that is ok. It's up to you to decide what you do with it. Everyone has children for their own reasons, good or bad. I've thought about this before, too. I know how overpopulated the…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 05:50 PM
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yeah, I've had guys come out and tell me that they are pretty clueless about that.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 03:59 PM
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I think with guy friends, there is always some extent of interest. Some fall hard and pretend to be ok as "just friends", others might just think you're hot, and would totally bang you, but aren't actively trying to. I have guy friends, but we aren't super close. The ones that actually put an effort in to being close and knowing my life details etc are wanting more than just friendship.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 03:54 PM
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I'm so glad you were able to find some like-minded girls to hang out with! I'm still looking for mine :) And yeah, guys do like the booty. I've been "blessed" with a decent booty though I definitely need to make sure to keep it in tip-top shape and work on preventing chair butt!
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 03:50 PM
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Ah I see. Maybe denying him the intimacy of sweet sleepy time is confusing him also? Especially if it's after you guys have sex? Just a thought. So sad about you mom :( What about chair yoga? I've seen that before.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 05:40 PM
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I love it, too. It completely takes me out of my head :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 05:35 PM
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All I see is: lie lie lie lie lie lie lie Next. Now.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 04:53 PM
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This makes me want us to start a rpw book club!
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 04:48 PM
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Reading is great advice. Also, what helps me, is taking the time to truly savor and appreciate this stage in the relationship. "It hurts so good" ;) I'm a little confused by "He expects me to go to his place or come to mine and has always looked at me perplexed when I suggested we sleep separately." You guys are sexually active but you don't want to actually sleep next to him? Spending your days with your anxious mother is probably not helping your own anxiety levels. Can you two take a yoga cla…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 04:45 PM
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I think you are making an assumption on how she delivered her messages (tone, body language, context, etc) based on your prior experiences.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 04:35 PM
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Have you met this guy in person? Right now there's too much unknown. You're just basically a penpal and we have no idea about the real tone of his side of the conversation. I like Tempest's suggestion of meeting him when you're home for the holidays. Keep it VERY casual (Hey I'm visiting my folks for Christmas and I'll be in town for a few days, I'd be up for some coffee") or whatever. You'll learn quickly enough whether or not there is any real attraction or chemistry. Until then I wouldn't enc…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/15 05:49 PM
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I know there are women here in this sub who make more than their husbands. Salary is superficial to me. Just like wearing a dress doesn't automatically make you feminine, with a feminine mindset, making less money than your husband doesn't make you more submissive/deferring to him.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 06:45 PM
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Step 1: Develop a relationship with a good man worthy of your deference Step 2: Tell him what you told us. Talk to him about it. I think the odds are high that he will understand. You two can discuss it and work on a plan together where perhaps you both set aside some money for your own personal savings/spending.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 06:31 PM
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I don't think men automatically link salary to feminism. I also don't think there is (or should be) an upper limit to what anyone "should" make. If it makes you uncomfortable, stick half of it in your retirement/emergency plan. When you and your husband are 90 you'll be happy to not have to drain your children's savings to be able to stay in your own home and be able to afford whatever meds/assitance etc you may need. I highly doubt your money is driving men away, look somewhere else. How do the…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 06:19 PM
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B&BW candles are great. My personal favorite is Marshmallow Fireside, but it might not be Christmas-y enough.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 03:10 PM
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Can I visit your house for Christmas? lol
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 09:23 PM
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The logical thing here is that makes the most sense is for him to watch the baby in the long term, since he is at home anyway. To me this is not the best option. He is supposedly working full time at home on his own business. He will not be able to take care and raise a child at home while also doing this. One or both goals will suffer. Then he would have to rush off as soon as she got home from her job, to his second job. He will crash. She will feel overwhelmed from having to catch up on house…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 10:32 PM
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Wanting to stay home and raise her own child until it is school-aged does not seem unreasonable at all to me. It's actually something I would want to do. It is natural for her to want to be with her child, to bond with them, love and nurture them and help them grow. She probably changed her mind about it because she thought about it more and is trying to figure out what is best for the baby. No one gets plans perfect on the first go, especially when it comes to children. The first plan honestly …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 09:11 PM
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I wish I could give 1000000 upvotes for this.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 05:29 PM
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I love Christmas socks! And jammies!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 05:28 PM
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Wow, I would have liked everything on that list. I'm more of a sentimentalist though I guess.. I like gifts not for the gifts but because someone thought to buy/make me something. I have quite a few things that I personally don't like but I just keep around because they were a gift from someone I care about and it reminds me of them :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 05:27 PM
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Agreed. A lot of it has to do with the original phrasing of the OP's post (all the "I" statements, such as "I wanted to find a burlesque show. Although risque, I like the costumes."), but also, having a whole week's worth of nights scheduled. It puts a lot of pressure on him for a whole week to enjoy all the activities she's scheduled for him to do. He expressed interest in tacos and she decided to put up a flyer inviting strangers over for dinner. I dunno, is Taco Night usually done that way?? …
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 06:31 PM
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I'm having trouble understanding the group's distinction of the two. The dictionary defines deference as "humble submission and respect" which would imply that deference is better, because it includes humbleness and respect. This would imply you can submit without respect or humility.. which I suppose is true. Submit seems more cut and dry to me, whereas deference has more.. significance. Deference involves you giving more of yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 05:51 PM
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I've gone to a Paint Nite before and they are total chick parties. Painting + wine with girlfriends.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 04:55 PM
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Yeah.. these all seem like things the OP wants to do, not him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 04:48 PM
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there are very few posts of substance that we can sink our teeth in and discuss one of our main endeavors: embracing the differences and complementary nature of men and women in relationships. Ooh I would love to see more posts like these :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 04:42 PM
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Haha I have noticed the recipe threads, I even made one too. But, tis the season, right? Plus, it can feel reassuring and encouraging when you're able to do the "easy stuff" when the tougher stuff (submitting, surrendering) comes along.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 04:37 PM
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I specifically remember commenting that you CAN'T have it all in this thread.. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/3uvarz/how_do_you_balance_it_all_career_homemaking/ Other's suggestions were to read Surrended Wife, and to prioritize around what HE considered important, "throwing yourself" into "his desires", "You can't have it all. You prioritize what is important, and you do that " "You don't have to be Polly Perfect, you just do your best and prioritize what your husband prioritize…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 04:19 PM
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He might not appear to have a sense of humor because he hates his laugh and doesn't want anyone else to hear it. Just a thought.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 04:12 PM
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That is too cute! I love the fakeouts.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 04:36 AM
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gotta post it on instagram! :/
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 05:38 PM
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Aww love it :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 05:33 PM
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This is great timing for me, I really needed to hear this. I've done a lot of reading into RP stuff, all the sidebar information, looking up blogs and so on and it can be kind of overwhelming. I started to think that I'd never remember all this great advice and excellent examples of how to respond to different situations. But it's really calming to be able to just relax and tell myself, at the end of the day, it's pretty simple. Find a good man, and defer to him. Be a good woman to a good man.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 05:28 PM
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Maybe they have one where you are? http://www.planetfitness.com/
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 09:07 PM
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The other ladies really nailed the balance vs. prioritizing. I just wanted to comment on a few things I picked out: He likes longer hair? I don't know about your hair, but mine is actually more of a pain in the butt when it's shorter - it gets wavier, and harder to put up in a ponytail. What happens when yours grows out? How do you feel about braids (I love a side braid)? There are lots of longer styles that I've personally found to be easier than shorter/mid ones. Gym: Planet fitness is $10/mon…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 05:18 PM
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There's a saying somewhere.. something like "The more you know the more you realize you know nothing". I'm sure I butchered that, but really, only a fool thinks they know everything and are smarter than everyone else. This doesn't sound like a intellect problem, this sounds like a confidence problem. Maybe it doesn't matter if you're right or wrong, maybe what matters is the discussion and exploration of ideas and topics together? It also doesn't sound like they are doing anything wrong, you jus…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 03:26 PM
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Welp now I'm off to Netflix for my fix of J.B. Fletcher
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 03:31 AM
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Probably not very ladylike, heh, but I thought this was funny: https://murdershedrank.wordpress.com/bingo/
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 03:29 AM
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You're not crazy, I love that show! It's so comforting to watch, especially when I'm missing my grandma :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 03:25 AM
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Wow, bubble masks look like fun! I wonder if they actually do anything though.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 02:20 AM
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Wow, microneedling sounds interesting and also scary, haha. I don't really have any wrinkles though.. yet. I wonder if it's preventative as well? I'm a little nervous about trying any sort of peel - my skin is fair and pretty sensitive. I think I'd be more interested in calming/soothing/moisturizing/clarifying facial treatments.. hmm now I want to look up some homemade ideas :) You know, I've never had a professional mani OR pedi. I've always just done my pedis and don't do much with my fingerna…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 02:17 AM
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A way I've gotten out of eating stuff I've brought to a party is with the "Oh believe me, I've had enough already, hahaha!" line. Which is actually not a total lie - when I cook and bake of course I'm tasting as I go. I just exaggerate it a bit. People will usually get that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 05:27 PM
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1200 is plenty for someone 5'1"! I aim for 1200-1300 to slowly lose and I'm 5'5" :) A lot of people are completely clueless when it comes to CICO, and honestly I am not surprised because all we were taught in school about calories was the pyramid had a bunch of carbs at the bottom :/ Labels on food go based on 2,000 cals a day which is hilarious because if I went by that, I'd be obese like the majority of America.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 03:56 PM
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Oh, hahaha. I thought you were just sticking your tongue out at everyone :9
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 06:41 PM
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Love this! So many of the relationships in this sub are aspirational for me and yours is one of them. I just noticed that I got a baby flair recently too, so I'm feeling very group hug-y right now haha :) While I found RPW later than I'd like I also found it early in a way - I'm currently single, so I have at least some material to work with going forward into a future relationship. For the first time in my life I feel like I actually have a clue as to what's going on with men. "It's a decision …
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 07:45 PM
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ya'll crack me up :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 07:37 PM
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For me, a lot of arousal begins in my head. So one thing you could try is simply thinking about it more, and focusing on moments where it felt really good. If he's in the middle of initiating, don't let your mind go "Oh no, I'm not really in the mood right now, I'm so tired, my engine isn't warmed up, etc etc" skip around that and remember, or project, to "Remember that time he ___ and did ____ and it felt awesome, I hope he does that again". Let your mind wander around your body and remember ho…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 04:35 PM
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Ahh that story is pretty cute :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 03:21 PM
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Ahah that is funny. In my mind "Know your place" became more something like.. "know how your work compliments the other, how you contribute to the success of the family"
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 10:10 PM
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Meh I have darkish circles too, depending on the lighting, just based on my bone structure and my pale/thin skin. I always use concealer there. Guys usually notice more the bright colors and dark eyelines, etc. You have to do a LOT to look like a completely different person, or do something very very wrong. Try searching on youtube for 'natural' or 'no makeup makeup' looks, like this one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGpLLWnO3XY that is a very subtle, natural look where she looks like her nor…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 08:13 PM
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It's funny, I feel a little guilty but I actually like the article too. The tone may be a little iffy, especially the last "Know your place" but I choose to interpret it more kindly than I think it could come across to others. The "his topics are more interesting than yours" felt off to me, too, but perhaps they meant "in that moment" -- meaning, in that moment of him stepping through the door, and trying to leave the day of work behind, it is more important (in general) that he can unburden him…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 07:56 PM
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Meetup.com -- maybe look for a hiking group or adventure club? Is there a hub at school with flyers for interest groups? Drama club? Are you interested in politics? Martial arts? You don't HAVE to get wasted after sports, that is a choice. Just have ONE beer (or none). You can be the designated driver. Do you like to dance - tango classes?
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 07:01 PM
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Walking the dog, having the trash out, food, laundry etc etc aren't important to him? This doesn't seem like good captain material to me. He thinks you're "stealing his style" when you enjoy the music he asked you to share with him. He never wants to leave home. Everything's a waste of time. He wants you to hold him responsible for adulting (making money.. what.) He feels like you're his mother.. well yeah, because he's basically asking you to be. This is confusing. This guy needs a kind of help…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 07:25 PM
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You're similar to me in this way. I don't tolerate gossip very well and will either shut down or leave a gossipy situation if I can't steer the topic in another direction. It's hard, I don't know if I have a good answer for this either :/ This effects me at work, too - gossip is a major way work people establish work friendships. Maybe there could be a way you could change the topic, or gently steer it somewhere else? Bring up something positive instead? Or figure out what the group is intereste…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 06:16 PM
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yes!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 04:24 PM
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I tried it once. I made a pinterest board and gave her as much information as I could, but the first box was a bust and I felt like I had thrown away money so I didn't try it again.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 04:20 PM
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" it signifies all that I have failed to achieve before now." You have achieved: Low N count Pursuit of knowledge in a field you enjoy You found RPW early (many of us wish we had) Sticking to your values (no drinking, clubbing) I didn't like that either. There's tons of different interest groups on campus. Are you into environmentalism? politics? amnesty international? volunteering? music? isn't there a hub area with flyers for interest groups? Saving $$ by going to school while living at home. …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 04:14 PM
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That is a good point. I've never heard a guy complaining that he's unhappy that his wife has a new wrinkle, or a stretchmark, or cellulite, or whatever other small signs of aging. It's usually either about sex or her crappy attitude (nagging, harpy, bitchy, etc).
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 04:01 PM
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Yes, great advice! raises hand too There aren't really rpw women in my life either. Especially in my age range! OP you aren't alone. I'm in a similiar boat - I grew up with heavy bp influences, no real fatherly figure, had to take care of myself and be independant. Youtube and fashion bloggers taught me what I know about fashion and makeup and cooking. My natural disposition is fairly feminine but when it comes to relationships there is more to it then that!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 04:34 PM
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I don't really see much value in it. An Ex is part of your past, and you aren't the same person as you were back then. You aren't the same person as you were with your ex. Your dynamic would have been unique. He would have been a different person, too. If you really want some feedback, perhaps asking some close friends who have known you for a long time?
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 04:11 PM
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I need to stop obsessing over this guy I am attracted to in my martial arts class. I'm having a hard time reading him, and I think we both don't want to jeopardize the well-being of our group (we're pretty tight-knit and hang out together often, the last thing I'd want to do is introduce drama. Plus another girl also likes him, but he doesn't like her. AND another guy there likes me, but I don't like him. Typical, eh). If it's going to happen it will happen, in the meantime I need to keep my min…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 07:25 PM
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Blue hair.. and undercuts now. What the heck is up with those. I think they look horrible o.O
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 06:51 PM
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This sort of thing usually has me confused. I'm sure you know your bf well :) But if it happened to me, I'd be wondering if he was annoyed that I was being indecisive! How does one know if you're really just annoying your man vs. just gracefully deferring? I've tried the "I don't care, whatever you want is fine with me" before but they've responded with "I didn't ask what I wanted, I asked what you wanted"...
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 06:49 PM
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Haha, me too. Sometimes even dubstep https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WSeNSzJ2-Jw >.> But consistently with anything harmonic https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fghk49e0Yis and also strings https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2jSotUeV0WI
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 04:49 PM
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Oh I like her videos. She seems really nice, I'd be her friend :) She makes me realize how few people I know IRL that are rpw-ish or very feminine. It's kinda sad.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 04:37 PM
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internalizing the patriarchy I googled it too to see what I'd come up with. A lot of what I found was like a whirling mass of self-hate via linguistic gymnastics. Ironically they say stuff like how people who internalize patriarchy hate themselves, but to me RPW either here or irl (at least the women I've concluded to be rpw-bent) seem the most happy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 09:02 PM
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Well, I believe she was attempting to be balanced by listing the so-called main theories explaining the behavior. First, she says "There are two main theories of why women are competitive in indirectly aggressive ways. Evolutionary psychology, which uses natural selection to explain our modern behaviors, says that women need to protect themselves (read: their wombs) from physical harm, so indirect aggression keeps us safe while lowering the stock of other women.", then counters that with the fem…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 08:53 PM
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Last week I was kind of lazy. I want to really nail down a productive morning routine. I've been wanting to fit in more exercise somewhere but I think mornings are the only consistent, reliable time I have to exercise outside of my martial arts classes. I want to wake up a little earlier and figure out what kind of morning fitness routine I want to do.. yoga, body weight stuff, maybe even running?
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 06:14 PM
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LOL
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/15 08:19 PM
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This is why I wish I had found trp earlier. I think I would have been happier much sooner. In my circles it's not viewed as acceptable to "just" be a housewife. I have a great job, I am good at it and enjoy it and the people I work with. But I certainly don't feel fulfilled. I would be 100% happy being "just" being a SAHM. But if I said that publicly people would not react well, they'd look down at me as someone who just wanted to be lazy and not contribute to society.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/15 04:58 PM
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Women have done this to ourselves, I think. We're told that we're supposed to have it all, do it all. There's no winning. If you're a SAHM then you're "just" a stupid housewife who eats chips and watches Oprah all day. If you work then you obviously don't care about your kids and suck as a mother. You can do both but not do both well. Something's gotta give and if you give everything then you end up losing yourself.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/15 04:40 PM
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I just think it makes them sound like a superficial snob :P "I only date men in the 95th percentile" hair flip
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/15 03:42 PM
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What a good find! Subbed :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/15 03:41 PM
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Hah the title gives a very apt visual! What's with the talk of percentiles? Is that a thing most women think about?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/15 04:10 PM
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I'm not really in charge of anything, I think everyone's just bringing whatever they feel like, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 10:52 PM
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I like this, but the main thing I'm unsure about is that a couple of my friends have digestion issues and I don't want to feed them beans and have us all regret it as the night goes on, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 10:49 PM
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Yeah, I've been on the lookout for something more substantial and slightly healthy that's also easy to transport and easy to eat while watching movies.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 10:48 PM
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Awesome idea!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 10:46 PM
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Ooh I like that idea for the frosting! :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 10:46 PM
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I like fast and easy, haha! It looks like it would transport fairly well too in the right dish. I'll be driving for about 30 mins on an interstate to get there >.> I always have trouble figuring out how to transport food.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 12:50 AM
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I've been going through recipes all day, haha. Most of 'em are for sweets though. That cheese ball pumpkin looks good!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 12:32 AM
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I'm on a dating site and one of the more awkward things for me was getting the right pictures. I don't like selfies/myspace angle, and I don't normally have friends cataloging my every moment in the most flattering angle and light, so I wasn't super pleased with the pictures I already had. I also didn't want to ask someone else to take pictures of me. So, what I did was I bought a remote control and mini tripod for my phone and took tons of selfies over a few weeks or so in different settings (c…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/15 03:44 PM
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This is great. I'm so glad I found this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/15 03:08 PM
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Love the Halloween rice crispy treat idea! I may steal this, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 10:20 PM
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Not sure if this is female only.. but passive aggressive BS and backhanded compliments. Makes me paranoid and feeds the hamster when I feel like I have to always "read between the lines".
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 08:09 PM
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Have you read the book "Surrendered Single"? I should actually re-read it. I catch people's eyes, too, but I am very shy and often look away because I'm nervous. In her book, Laura suggests smiling at every man you meet, which really was kind of a light-bulb moment for me. I'm shy by nature, and have had so many instances of me actively having to discourage attention from men that it just became a habit. Now I'm figuring out how to, if not encourage, at least be open to the attention. It's harde…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 08:08 PM
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Ahahahha that video is awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 05:57 PM
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I'm not sure you would call it a "hobby" but I do about 9-10 hours of martial arts every week. Outside of that, work, adulting (cooking, cleaning, errands, appointments), hmm not sure I have much room for other things aside from reading, light gaming, and non-martial exercise (yoga, walking). I do dream of a day when I can have a garden though.. I know I'd spend a lot of time in one, but right now I just live in an apt.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 05:07 PM
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Welcome :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 10:51 PM
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I've never heard of this before.. that's a very interesting site. I'll have to read more later!
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 07:54 PM
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https://hbr.org/2014/06/why-women-dont-negotiate-their-job-offers/ I read this interesting article on the Harvard Business Review last year. "Research shows that women are more reticent than men to negotiate their salary offers. For instance, one study of graduating MBA students found that half of the men had negotiated their job offers as compared to only one eighth of the women. This general pattern has been replicated in survey studies of working adults and in laboratory experiments. It begs …
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/15 03:24 PM
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Oh yeah. I know people who intentionally take more boring jobs, because they either like the extra money, or because they prefer a lower-stress job so they have the mental energy to focus on other creative projects outside of work. I also know a couple incredibly intelligent people who never got college degrees that make good money (they're in tech), so I'm usually wary of judging people based on what pieces of paper they have. At 24 his life is not set in stone. More than the degree and teachin…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 08:10 PM
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To be honest I don't know the specific requirements for teaching highschool, middle, or elementary and public vs. private. If he isn't currently working on finishing a required degree that he needs in order to pursue his called profession.. then yeah that's another issue. I wonder if he's currently attending classes, or working somewhere else, or doing something else with his time?
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 08:04 PM
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Well, I guess it matters how soon you want to be married, have children, and settled. Where your career path is headed, if you're choosing to go that way. If you're wanting it to be rather soon, then perhaps you should move on and look for a guy who is older with his life together. Re-reading what you wrote.. he cried about his situation to you after the second date. "He spent 2 hours reassuring me that I'll find somebody better than him, which was the saddest thing I heard. He cried a bit." To …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 07:46 PM
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"When I asked him about his plans for the future, he admitted he had no plans of providing well enough for a family." This is kind of ambiguous to me. It's hard for me to tell what he really means when he says that. It could be that he has no desire to provide enough for a family, or it could mean that he feels a special calling to be a teacher that he can't deny, and he worries that teacher salary won't ever be enough to be the main provider for a family. There's a very big difference between t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 07:01 PM
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I agree with the ladies here suggesting you end the relationship. It sounds like you aren't in the right place for a relationship.. you need to work on yourself. I don't believe anyone can't "truly love someone", you just haven't discovered it within yourself, or found the right person for you, or haven't found the right you for that person. Regardless of SMV, 28 isn't ancient or too old to find the right partner.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 04:20 PM
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good gravy I want to make all these things :9
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/15 03:45 PM
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Sadly I am not that crafty.. or at least I haven't found anything interesting yet. Most of my creative juices get sucked out of me at work :( I love the little fox sketch!
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/15 03:12 PM
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I'd probably pick a different color scheme... but http://www.puttingmetogether.com/2013/01/overheating.html or http://www.puttingmetogether.com/2012/02/enlightened.html Layers + belts + tights + ankle boots! I looove dresses. To me, they are MORE comfortable than pants, and take less work to get dressed. I don't have to think about what matches what. Throw on a dress over my head, tights, done! Plus with tights (which I always wear to work) I feel like I can get away with dresses that are a bit …
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 03:02 PM
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Maybe TMI but: After I discovered the power of a vibrator a few years ago, my sex drive kind of exploded. Before that I had never had an orgasm. If you want to try a completely different approach, or do something in addition to the advice the other ladies gave (which seem like they're trying to address the real problem, haha), you could consider getting a fun toy and maybe even asking him to use it on you. It could be enough to get the ball rolling again.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 02:52 PM
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To be fair I would have probably done the same thing! "If he loved me he'd remember! I've known for weeks and have been looking forward to it!" and then "I am upset, and he doesn't even notice. If he loved me he'd be more in tune and he'd just know" etc etc. Silly brain.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 03:39 PM
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That's a good idea! Also, I think popular media (and now social media) doesn't do us much good either. It helps to plant all kinds of unrealistic expectations on others, within all kinds of relationships (huge surprise parties, extravagant valentine's days, etc etc).
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 03:36 PM
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Does this smoothie fill you up until lunchtime?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/15 08:21 PM
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Yeah, I'm not low-carb, and I don't like very fatty tasting things (plus dairy does a number on my skin) so I'm trying to avoid unhealthy additions that might counter any positives. I have tried smoothies before.. for some reason they just don't feel that filling and I don't always like very cold things in the morning. Usually for breakfast I'll have overnight oats with some fruit.. about 250cals.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/15 03:32 PM
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Ooh I DO like kale chips (there is a nacho cheese flavor one that is so good), but they are expensive to buy! I have tried making them at home with not so great success..
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/15 02:37 PM
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Roasted veg are ok.. potatoes I don't count as veg (to me they're starches/carbs) but I do like them. I have tried those steam-in-the-bag veggies but didn't much care for them. I like your soup idea!
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/15 02:34 PM
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Is there a trick to making cauli mash where it doesn't end up watery? I've tried making it a couple times and it always came out kinda gross. I've made zoodles before -I steamed them in the microwave. They ended up all clumping together :o I've got tons of herbs and spices so I should be good there :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/15 02:28 PM
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I've tried making mashed cauli before.. but it tasted really watery. I've also tried roasted cauli but didn't like it :(
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/15 02:27 PM
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How does he feel about sauces? Pulled pork in bbq sauce? Does he like rice? Steak fried rice + vegs he actually likes with some sort of asian sauce? Home-made burrito bowls with steak, rice, beans, lettuce, salsa, etc? He likes cucumbers.. what about tomatoes, avocado, basil? Mix all 3 with some olive oil, maybe some mozzarella, a new side dish :) If he likes carrots, and regular potatoes, he may like sweet potatoes. Do you go out to eat much? That may be a way to observe him liking a new thing,…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 04:41 PM
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My last SO was a year younger than me. But typically I am attracted to older guys.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 05:50 PM
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Welcome! I'm glad you've been seeing some positive changes so far. I've read Surrendered Single and it's really quite good, I bet you'll get a lot out of the wife version :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 05:49 PM
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I think I remember seeing in other reddits that you can leave a message in the comment box. Ah yes, I just randomly went to https://www.reddit.com/r/aww/comments/3jwc3e/rules_updated_rules_for_raww_please_read/ and in the comment text box there's some "reminders" in there. I'm not sure how helpful it would be but maybe we could throw something in there?
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 05:47 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1giney/welcome_to_red_pill_women/
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 03:08 PM
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I like games too :) Lately it's been Hearthstone since it's so easy to fit into my schedule. It sounds like you're making good decisions already! Showing up at the gym is half the battle. I don't wear heels, either. I don't think they're necessary to be feminine - if you don't like 'em I don't see a need. You could try looking for fashion inspiration online. Maybe find some blogs you like, create a pinterest board, and go shopping for similiar items. If that's too much work, find a couple stores…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 02:38 PM
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Thank you for mentioning this website, it's just what I never knew I needed.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 02:32 PM
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I've been rocking this lately and it's super comfy and cute: http://www.target.com/p/women-s-sleep-nightgown-black-gilligan-o-malley/-/A-17436196#prodSlot=medium_1_10&term=gilligan+%26+o%27malley
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 03:08 PM
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Those look deeelicious :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 03:06 PM
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I second u/Kittenkajira's hospice recommendation. They are truly wonderful people. Since they'd be coming to you, perhaps your FIL would still see it as being "in the family". There have also been some good suggestions to hire help for maintenance of your home. Your FIL may be against direct assistance to his mother, but would he be so quick to dismiss help with cleaning, childcare? Is she able to get a wheelchair to help with her mobility? Is seeing a family/grief counselor an option? Are there…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 06:45 PM
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Infp! INFP PERSONALITY (“THE MEDIATOR”) INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 01:44 AM
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I'm sorry, what? If a guy who I wasn't in a relationship with offered me a tampon I'd see a giant CREEPSTER neon sign over his head and I'd want to get as far away from him as possible.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/15 07:52 PM
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Interesting point! I like both the idea of posting appreciation for men in general (I don't currently have a SO), and also posting for your specific man. Maybe we could do both - if you have a SO focus on him, if not, post about general appreciation?
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/15 07:45 PM
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I love it, too. And when you appreciate it, they love it! It's such a simple thing. I don't know why some women have to hate on it. I don't think any guy opening the door for a woman has any intent on implying that she's too stupid or weak to open it for herself. Geez.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/15 07:43 PM
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just okcupid, because it's free.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/15 06:08 PM
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Ooh! We should keep this stickied and update it regularly :) This morning, I was getting coffee at Wawa and a endearing older man went out of his way to open the door for me, and smiled and chuckled when I said thank you. Last night, I stayed late after aikido class talking with everyone and didn't end up leaving until well past midnight. My classmate expressed concern about me being sleepy driving home in a caring, good-natured way and it felt nice to be looked after (in a way) :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/15 02:30 PM
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Oh wow, that article was horrifying and sad. Especially the "sexual rehearsing" he was forced to do with his brother! Ugh I feel nauseous.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/15 06:09 PM
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Reporting in: I made a profile this weekend. Results were meh. Lots of <4 word messages, many "DTF"'s, despite my clear preferences for a LTR and no hookups. Not super happy with the pictures I threw up though, I'll have to purposely go out and try to get some better ones which totally won't be awkward at all... ;)
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/15 02:49 PM
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Wow, those poor kids. There is a difference between accepting someone who is transgender (who fully understands what gender is, has reached puberty, and feels so deeply that they are willing to undergo expensive and invasive medical treatments to match their brain with their body) and another thing to promote confusion. A young child (Storm was 3 in that article) doesn't really grasp the concept of gender and is easily impressionable. A kid who fluctuates between being a girl one day and a boy t…
/r/TheRedPill01/09/15 02:43 PM
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I do martial arts, and walking on the weekends, but I really should do more. I was trying a C25k program for a while, but it's so easy to get discouraged when you lose progress so easily. Sick/busy/tired for a few days and I got bumped back to square 1, and progress was sooo slow.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 03:12 PM
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I love all those modcloth dresses. They need to go on sale!!
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 03:09 PM
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Your vanity looks lovely! Now I want one :) I love the lamp.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 02:41 PM
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Congrats :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 02:00 PM
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I caught that too! Hahaha.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 02:00 PM
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Not my business. However, the Duggar bit is a combination of lulz and sadness for his wife and kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/15 08:26 PM
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Yes, me too! I always felt like I owed it to women everywhere to become an astronaut or surgeon or break some sort of world record. Not that I'm saying that women shouldn't do those things, but the pressure I felt was real. Honestly I would be soo much happier being a housewife right now, and after having/raising children finding a special cause that is close to my heart and working or volunteering there. Not that I don't enjoy my job and my career - I do - but it just doesn't feel as fulfilling…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 08:01 PM
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I have to agree with this. Does the first mate stand by and wait for the captain to wake up from his nap while the ship is sinking?
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 07:49 PM
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It sounds like moving was a huge adjustment for him, and he isn't adjusting very well. No job, friends are gone, new city, new house, and newly married. A lot has changed for him. It sounds to me like he is depressed and is lacking his usual support system. Could you go back to his hometown for a visit? Maybe that would perk him up a bit, and motivate him a little with all his friends asking for updates on his life situation. Life can get a lot harder than this. I am slightly concerned at your w…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 07:26 PM
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Woah that sounds fun! :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 03:47 PM
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Taking better care of my skin and the details of my appearance Watching my humor, thinking before speaking (I have a very sarcastic/ironic sense of humor, and am quick with it, but it doesn't always fly with everyone and can be taken the wrong way if I'm not careful) Improving finances. Keeping a budget, lowering grocery bills (Aldi has helped with that a LOT), building savings (the Acorn app is great for stealth savings) At night I've been listening to the audiobook "The Heart of the Buddha" be…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 03:43 PM
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Thank you Laura :) I love the 6 intimacy skills. A lot of it just seems like basic, natural behaviors on being a decent human being haha. It's also applicable to life in general -- Take care of yourself, respect others, stop trying to control things that are largely out of our hands and give up the frustration that comes with it, accept goodness that comes from others without guilt or debt, vulnerability/honesty is poweful, and be grateful for what you have. I'm amazed that the lady host seemed …
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 03:33 PM
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Most guys I know say they prefer more natural looks and no makeup (at least what they think is no makeup, ha ha). Personally, I go for the natural route. Bonus is that it's also quicker. I spend about 5mins tops in the morning on it. Concealer under eyes, around nose, on chin. Blush to bring me to life (I am very pale). Eyelash curler + mascara. That's about it!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 02:06 PM
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Honestly, I've tried a bunch of things and haven't really found anything that smoothes them out. For me, it's largely dependent on the weather. If it's hot and humid I know I'm in for some poofy hair, and I may just go ahead and straighten it. I've tried leave-in creams and oils and such.. they kind of help.. but it's nothing that drastic.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 08:06 PM
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I'm glad you started this. I've been thinking of starting a profile too. I'm wondering how to hint around the RP stuff without outright saying it, and also without attracting very conservative/religious folk.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 07:44 PM
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Hair: 3x a week I wash it, though I shower usually every day. It's dyed auburn (it's naturally a dark blonde), though I've thought about going a much lighter blonde. I hesitate because I know it would damage my hair. Shampoo & Condish - Dove Dry Oil. It smells lovely. Sometimes I will pre-condition with coconut oil, then wash it out. Usually I will just let it air dry into its natural waves. For the longest time I would straighten it with a flat iron, as I considered that more "neat" and clean l…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 07:13 PM
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I get these comments, too. It usually doesn't bother me.. but there are some times where I wish I had more of a sexy/sensual vibe rather than a "cute" or innocent vibe. I look younger than I am, too, which just adds to it. I've never thought that they meant it as a negative, though. I guess it depends on tone. I could see them seeing it as "weird" in a I'm-not-used-to-this way, but that is not a bad thing either!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 07:22 PM
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This sounds so cool! "Only" 30 women, ha ha. I am currently single so will not be participating, but hope you guys have a blast :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 07:17 PM
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Just listened to this and it made me smile, too! Love it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/15 04:41 PM
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This sounds interesting! I don't know much about DBT. What book would you recommend?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/15 02:31 PM
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I've been reading Surrendered Single and can recommend it as well. It's really good.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/15 01:25 PM
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Congrats! :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/15 01:23 PM
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"My first boyfriend threatened to break up with me when I asked to use lube, saying I was destroying his confidence," -- good lord. I'm glad you're no longer with this guy. He should have cared more about sex being PAINFUL for you than his sad feels because you used lube from a bottle. "I know that no-foreplay sex is best for guys, since that’s when your vagina is tightest" - I have never heard of this. This sounds like some BS line a guy told you because he was feeling lazy. "but it honestly re…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/15 08:20 PM
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Great post! I have struggled with this before. Mostly because I've had men who I have submitted to and trusted, that did not deserve it. Once bitten, twice shy.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 03:50 PM
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If that man has had an interest in you for years, and you are close to him, then he knows you pretty well, right? At this point his attraction is deeper than looks. Appearance can charm a guy for a while but eventually you need more for a deeper connection, and it sounds like you already have that. Just go for it. You are not damaged goods. You aren't "goods", you are a human being with a past like the rest of us. Just the fact that you are more interested in his longterm happiness even if it hu…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 03:41 PM
1

Blue Apron looks really cool. I'm not sure about the expense, though! I wonder how far you could stretch the meals to get a little more value out of their plans.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 05:45 PM
1

Alright, that's it, I definitely need a cast iron pan! :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 05:41 PM
1

Ooh yes, I like this idea. I've been on the lookout for more rpw resources.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 05:40 PM
1

If I may, the book "In the Heart of the Buddha" by Thich Nhat Hanh is quite good. I actually purchased it on Audible and listen to it during my commute.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/15 08:23 PM
1

I'd love to have lots of plants. If only my cat wouldn't eat them! :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/15 03:09 PM
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What men don't get is that for women, everything is an indicator of something else. The winds are always being tested to ensure the ship is running smoothly. This is so true, and so very well said!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/15 03:06 PM
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Thank you for this post. I have posted on trp before, responding to another rpw, and ended up getting downvoted for unknown reasons. It bothered me a little, but now I understand that it's just a place for men to be men, as you say.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/15 01:54 PM
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girl, yes! I am 32, but look MUCH younger. Most people tell me how lucky I am, and while I do appreciate it more now than when I was younger, it comes with it's own set of problems.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/15 06:21 PM
2

I like dressing like a lady, too. Sometimes it's a struggle to look lady-like yet casual at the same time, though. And work appropriate.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 06:09 PM
3

Nail polish!
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 06:07 PM
1

I hope so! I usually can sustain it for a month or so, but the weight loss is sooooooo slowwwww for me that I get discouraged, decide to have a "treat" for having been so good for so long, and then I get stuck in the "treat" mentality for a day or two and poof bye bye progress (most of it, anyway). If I lose a pound a month I feel good, hahaha. I think I really need to figure out macros to help with feeling hungry all the time. I had almost 400cals for breakfast today and I'm already hungry for …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 03:24 PM
2

I think my heart just melted. That's so lovely. I want that!
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 02:54 PM
8

I personally don't care about a guy being super buff. "Not fat" is the minimum. Super huge veiny muscles actually turn me off.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 02:28 PM
1

I do martial arts :) I am not chubby but probably more "average", about 135 at 5'5". I wouldn't mind knocking off about 10lbs or so. I try to eat ~1200/day, though lately I've been thinking of incorporating running. I also do yoga, but that's mostly for flexibility and relaxation.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 02:21 PM
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This is mostly me, too. I lean slightly more Taoist than Buddhist, but a lot of the basics are very similar. A lot of it is about balance (including the masculine and feminine), about yielding and being strong by being flexible (rigidity = more prone to breaking). I self-reflect a lot, and work constantly on bettering myself in ways both big and small. Question my motivations for doing or saying things (Is this really for them, or is this for me? Does this actually improve the situation?) Loving…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 06:42 PM
1

I would probably not know the specific names of strategies and such, but I have a pretty good BS detector can see through a lot of things. Actually, thinking about it, a lot of the "tactics" would probably just turn me off. This is probably why I'm not really a bar/party person...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/15 03:54 PM
1

I love love love this. Thank you for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 02:53 PM
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I agree. This really struck the right cord with me as well. People, at least in US society, tend to look down on this type of strength. But bending isn't easy, and often times the rewards aren't instant and are not as obvious.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 02:17 PM
5

It was not discussed when I was in middle school. It was pretty basic, sperm + egg, period stuff, tampons and pads, "your body is changing" etc. Also, HERPES and AIDS.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 02:08 PM
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Seconding the 'not short'. My last boyfriend was 5'8". I am 5'5". /r/SkincareAddiction/ is a good place for skin info. I'm sure TRP guys will give you more solid advice. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/15 05:53 PM
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For me it would be being with someone where the largest factor lies outside of my own heart. Meaning, I'm not in-love but I don't want to be alone. Personally, I'd rather be alone than with a guy I wasn't in-love with and it didn't feel 'right'.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/15 05:40 PM
1

I don't know whether to laugh or cry.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/15 04:23 PM
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When I hear "you didn't have to buy/do that" or similar as you mention, its trying to be appreciative but the immediate feeling is undermining my judgement. Like undeserving of my affection, and low opinion of herself, this is unattractive. I had no idea guys felt like that! Thank you for sharing. I've said that before, too, but I always figured I was showing him how he didn't need to do/buy xyz because I loved him regardless.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/15 02:49 PM
2

I second comfy shoes! And those blister band-aids just in case. I love those. Nothing can ruin a fun day of exploration like hurty feet. Sun protection, a fun floppy hat, etc :) I wouldn't worry about the no-makeup thing. I don't think guys really notice stuff on our faces as much as we do. We know where our problem spots are and our eyes go right to it. We also stand really close to the mirror when we're inspecting ourselves.. normal interactions with people aren't like that. It'll be fine! :) …
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 05:02 PM
1

I want chocolate, I don't need it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 03:18 PM
10

Wow. To me this just seems like such a sad way to live life. Everything is a battle, a struggle, something to fight against and you're always the victim of something. How horrible.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/15 08:22 PM
6

I think you both have low numbers, and that because of that the difference seems larger than it really is. 2 is half of 4, but if it was 8 and 10 the difference would be perceived differently. I don't see that small difference to really be anything worried about. I think you know this, but are just wanting validation/confirmation. You don't need it! Trust yourself and your guy.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/15 08:15 PM
2

It's looking up so far, I have acquired coffee! :) I hope yours is well.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/15 02:44 PM
7

My experience is similar to yours. I have gotten compliments on my clothes, hair, skin, inquiries about my day, good-natured flirty smalltalk. I've never had anything inappropriate. I don't know if it's just how I carry myself or my location (not NYC, though Philly).
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/15 04:59 PM
1

If we fight, this will be on me and nobody else (he doesn't start fights, but he sure ends them.) This bothered me too. Are you feeling scared to be in a more remote location with your SO without your own support network? Or is there some remaining apprehension from past arguments around money/your drinking? Or is it something else?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/15 03:27 PM
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I agree. January isn't that for off. Think of it like a sabbatical :) Maybe you could pick up some part-time ESL teaching gig while there for extra cash and social interaction. I think going would be emotionally beneficial to not just him, but you also. You said you don't like what you are studying, and cried at the thought of spending more time in a classroom. Maybe a break is just what you need? In the grand scheme of things a semester isn't going to make much of a difference. Plus, if you sta…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/15 03:15 PM
1

Sometimes. I can go through phases where I feel like I'll be forever alone. Other times I feel like I'll be fine regardless. Or sometimes I like to romanticize things/delude myself with a nice little story "He's out there, we could meet at any moment, we just haven't met yet. It could be tomorrow at Starbucks, or the grocery store, or he'll get hired at my work, or show up at my dojo, etc" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1AJmKkU5POA
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/15 02:44 PM
1

I agree. I just read advice recently where a young woman was given advice to leave. The posting guidelines are helpful, I think. They encourage us to break down the problem, not play the blame game, be accountable, and be ready for real solutions and not just an echo chamber of complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/15 05:10 PM
1

That seems to strike a nice balance between the two :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/15 02:25 PM
3

I have a hard time with "Who should pay for the first date?" I have heard so many guys complain about how much it costs for them to date because the woman never pays. How unfair they feel it is, especially if it's a first date and there's a decent chance they won't ever see the woman again. I've heard them say how impressed they are when a woman offers to pay her half, showing she isn't a freeloader or somesuch. Because of this, whenever I've been on dates in the past couple of years, I've alway…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 05:30 PM
1

Is the honey mask just slapping plain ol' honey on your face? I've never tried it! Can you tell much of a difference?
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 04:27 PM
1

Yeah, odds are he asked you to drive because it was just less stressful for him. Something that might help with the 'nagging' might be the realization that even if you aren't verbally backseat driving, in his current mental state I'm pretty confident that he's doing it to himself. Probably beating himself up over it "I got us lost again! I can't do anything right. I bet she's disappointed in me again." Does having conversations while he drives ease his mind, or is it too distracting? What about …
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 04:05 PM
2

Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 01:54 PM
3

I'm about halfway through now. I feel like every woman should read it. I'm at the part where she talks about Gracefully Receiving - this is hard for me! I have a very independent mindset since I've been taking care of myself for so long.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 01:53 PM
1

The 30 days of yoga is awesome! I love her personality, too. She makes me feel so calm and relaxed.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 01:46 PM
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I like aikido! It focuses more on self-defense and "throwing" people to the ground or joint locks and using their own momentum against them. It's less about karate-chops and trying to punch people in the face :) I am open to Mr. Right but I am not as active as I could be - I disabled my online dating profile a while ago and try not to really think about it all that much.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 01:46 PM
2

Run/Yoga at home. I really like Yoga with Adrienne's youtube channel - it's free! Running I do on a treadmill, I just like the way it feels :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/15 09:35 PM
1

I know the advice out there is to not have a list, but I'll play along :) In an ideal world... An Easy Confidence. Not arrogance or cockiness. Not the kind of confidence that yells it from the rooftops, or takes himself too seriously. He can laugh at himself, he can make mistakes, and it's ok. It's part of life. He doesn't need to be right. He is complete unto himself. He doesn't NEED a relationship, but he WANTS one. Needy guys.. ugh. No thank you. Has some sort of moral code/values (doesn't ha…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/15 08:26 PM
2

Late and a bit OT... but do you have the protein bar recipe? :) I love the idea of making those for a SO/BF.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/15 08:11 PM
2

For skin: More water, and cut dairy and as much sugar as you can! For stomach: Ginger (candied, tea, however you can get it) kills nausea better than anything else I've tried. Also, if you're feeling bloated and gassey, chew up 1/2tsp fennel seeds, and swallow with a gulp of water. Works like a charm!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/15 08:00 PM
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