I thought having same taste in music indicated compatibility and was always so flattered and proud when guys were impressed by the genres/bands I like... facepalm

haggis_rising · 2021-11-21T11:50:11+00:00

My friend has an amazing t-shirt that says "Nirvana" with a picture of the Hanson lads underneath. Male music fans are shook.

ConstantNurse · 2021-11-21T10:08:03+00:00

Anytime any woman has slight interest in anything, we apparently have to be as hyperfixated on it as any guy.

You see it in everything that guys consider remotely masculine because their ego rides on the fact that they have to know more than any woman, otherwise they aren't a REEEAAAALLL FAN

Mcccy · 2021-11-21T11:21:33+00:00

True story: I was waiting for my brother at the airport at 3am wearing a Yu-Gi-Oh t-shirt. Not one but FOUR grown ass men stopped and asked if I even know what Yu-Gi-Oh is about, one even started asking questions about the manga and the old series.

At 3am. Grown ass men on their 30s. Tf.

Daydreamingon · 2021-11-21T09:54:45+00:00

Girlllllllll I’m the same!! But then on dating apps I’d be negged for not being the typical “big tiddy goth girl” who wears lingerie and collars in her pics (eye roll/yawnnnnn)

Antique_Fortune6974 · 2021-11-21T13:29:36+00:00

I remembered being in school wearing my AFI shirt walking through the hall. Then I overheard some boy say " What does a black girl know about AFI?" I didn't say anything, just kept walking.

ricesnot · 2021-11-21T14:09:31+00:00

Still remember saying nice shirt to a guy wearing a resident evil shirt, I verbatim said "Nice shirt, resident evil is fun." He said to me "Oh thanks its a game called resident evil its about..."

I stared at him and replied deadpan "I know I just said it was resident evil" 💁‍♀️

Walked away outta the store with my groceries.

bleda_princezna · 2021-11-21T09:55:22+00:00

I didn't know it was this common. That's so pathetic, who cares if she knows the songs or not? Scrotes have too much time on their hands.

lolmemberberries · 2021-11-21T14:36:44+00:00

We're never allowed to like what we like. It all comes down to men not seeing us as people.

Angeli_33 · 2021-11-21T13:12:38+00:00

Oof. I grew up on Dragon Ball Z when I was around 10 I used to binge watch that show. A guy I went on a date with was wearing a Goku shirt on all his social media and I asked him where he'd got that (I think Uniqlo). Then he asked me about it and I said "yeah that was my childhood show, I grew up on that". Then he proceeds to quiz me about it and I barely remember stuff about that show because fucking newsflash, It's been fucking 15 years already. I don't remember everything and I'm not going to watch that show again just to be prepared for another quiz from another scrote because I have a life. He got really bitter and angry and was acting as if I was pretending to like that show. I've also seen episodes of Carebears and My Little Pony. I don't remember much from those either. Also, if a guy claimed to have grown up on Powerpuff Girls, I wouldn't fucking quiz him and question him on every little thing then claim he was lying about it. WTF.

Also, same as if a guy was listening to Ariana Grande music or Celine Dion. Why wouldn't I believe him? We're all individuals here with different tastes. Let people live in peace, GOD. I think this is just the mysoginist slipping.

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-11-21T11:46:12+00:00

Metal dudes are NEVER hot. Some have the cakey foundation they wear - and bad eyeliner. Oh and the stringy black dyed hair.....yuck.

The only hot metal dude is Nathan Explosion from Dethklok - and he is a cartoon character.

While we are discussing metal in FDS ( honestly didn't think I ever would be) i just want to leave a few tracks dear to my heart.

Fucking Hostile by Pantera

Black Hole Sun by Soundgarden ( technically not metal - but ayyyy that huge guitar sound)

Thunderhorse by Dethklok ( although Murmaider is way heavier and fun)

The entire NiN album The Fragile

All pretty mainstream metal - and fun as heck. Metal is musical male aggression and a safe place for men to release their collective frustration and pain. But alas, I was a pretty angry young woman too.

I think the fun of metal is the fantasy element of it. Where Vikings roamed with ravens on their shoulder, brandishing daggers specifically for beheadings. Death and destruction to your enemies ... ah good times.

Even more fun when you imagine the above as a female.

Metal concerts were no fun for a girl. Too many stinky aggressive men. So I enjoyed playing it super loud in my car when I went for long drives as a way to blow off steam.

Enter Sandman by Metallica with 1.5 million people in the crowd ( 1991, Moscow) is a fucking epic watch, simply because concerts like that will never exist again. Not an iphone to be seen. Everyone hyper focused on the music. Even the military men who were meant to control the crowd said 'fuck that' and joined in on the collective reverie.

I am a hippy/dumb looking woman, and if - and when - I am in the company of scrotes I can drop metal facts and their minds are blown. It's always funny to watch their eyes shift from 'dumb chick' to 'is she real?'

chainsawbobcat · 2021-11-21T15:16:53+00:00

This one is close to my heart. I'm an avid music listener and have many many male friends who are serious discographers. These friends are wonderful high value people who never ever gave a fuck that I couldn't spit out names of producers on one obscure B side from '94 bc, wow simply, they valued me as a human friend 😂. I was one female in a group of dudes where we all hung out bc of music and I was always shown respect. Outside them though, it was a shit show.

I heard a woman talk about herself several years ago and described that she was a process person, that she wasn't the person that could take about every fact or detail but that she was really good at the system and impact. I wish I could find it but it really allowed me to investigate this. I know a million bands and songs, I forget names often but I can tell you where I was when I first heard it, I can talk about the cultural impacts of a genre as a whole.

I've always been someone who is a jack off all trades master of none and it was honestly a point of identity crisis for a long time in a sea of men who are very good at ONE THING.

Well now I'm a project manager and I get paid to understand what the fuck everyone is doing at a detailed but higher level to keep the micro connected to the macro, and I leave the details to the experts. I'm really good at my job precisely because I don't big myself down with all the minute details (otherwise, I'd be better suited for that specialization). As I got older it became so very apparent that I was under some impression that I had to be a certain way (like a man) to be successful. This world LIES to us constantly about what attributes are actually valuable in the real world.

I love metallic, I can name a ton of albums and songs because I'm a fan of their music. Don't fucking test me about it though bc I'm not a computer and I don't care if I pass your fan test. Judgemental behavior in any form is Big red flag.

The_Cat_Empress · 2021-11-21T15:17:19+00:00

I have a dope Blind Guardian shirt and I only like 2 songs but I like the songs so much I got the shirt.

Don't know any Nirvana songs besides the obvious but I feel bad for women Nirvana fans...that and other bands like Iron Maiden and Metallica...these men are such gatekeepers.

Same with the gamer dudes. "wOmEn rUiN eVeRYThInG, AlL ThEy PlAy Is CaNdY CrUsH"

kansascitydream · 2021-11-21T14:59:18+00:00

Doom metal queen here 👑 this happened a lot when I was younger. Now I just give them the ice glare and tell them to respect their elders 😂

xfelugirlx · 2021-11-21T14:25:54+00:00

They just don’t enjoy simple things like music, they will be so full of themselves and have the audacity to mansplain simple things to women even things they dont know. Scrotes

Title	I thought having same taste in music indicated compatibility and was always so flattered and proud when guys were impressed by the genres/bands I like... facepalm
Author	thrway01010
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Date	November 21, 2021 9:45 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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