I wanted to create a post to provide guidance around male gold diggers. Yes, some men financially hang off women and think that shit is OK. Successful queens who have worked on themselves and succeeded in their career, achieved a undergraduate/masters/PhD degree, scored a well paying job, finished vocational skills and training, or completed an apprenticeship need to protect their success and their financial interests. There are men out there who are interested in successful lonely women and are ready to be your boyfriend at a financial cost to you.

This is the list of red flags I have come up with:

- He has no job and has no interest in finding one

- He is up to his eyeballs in debt. In particular he has debt for a tertiary qualification which WILL NOT PAY ITSELF OFF e.g. archaeology

- He uses afterpay and other 'buy now pay later' payment methods for EVERYTHING. This is a dire financial situation here. Think about that - he is getting into debt for dinner, drinks, cinema tickets, and other lifestyle expenses which he cannot afford. This is unsustainable and he will eventually have an appalling credit score.

- He asks questions about your financial background immediately (which side of town did you grow up in? / which school/university did you go to? / what your parents do for a living? / how many siblings do you have?). These questions sound genuine but he is sizing you up and working out what you are worth.

- He moves in with you and does not contribute to the rent, food, utilities, and gas expenses

- He has no ambition (e.g. games in parent's basement) and his parents are trying to palm him off on you because you have your financial shit together

- He has decided that attaining a skill (tertiary qualification or apprenticeship) is too difficult and that he is just GoInG tO BeCoME a FaMOuS actor/singer/radio personality/youtuber/influencer but he does not realize that these people work very very hard to become successful. While he is fantasizing about becoming famous you will be feeding him and putting a roof over his head.

- You find yourself paying for luxuries that you both participate in e.g. holidays, hotels, entertainment

- He has a history of dating women wealthier/more successful that himself

In the comments discuss red flags which you use to identify male gold diggers in the dating scene.