[CMV] Men struggle with sex because they pursue women with low/average sociosexuality

the-red_woman · 2022-02-03T11:03:34+00:00

I love sex. But only when there are emotions involved and it’s someone I care about. Sex for me is an emotional exchange. I know for men it can be either purely physical or a mix of both. Think of it like hugging. You enjoy it when you hug someone you care about. But if you knew every person in a crowd of hundreds wanted to hug you, you’d pretty quickly be over it and not want to do it even though you still enjoy hugging theoretically.

NarniaFox · 2022-02-03T12:08:54+00:00

Considering that there are men who don't seem to have much issues with getting sex and/or relationships, I wouldn't claim that the issue is in women having lower libido. If one person can get something and you can't, well, probably you have a lack of certain traits. It isn't necessary your fault and, unfortunately, it isn't always something you can change.

Having lower libido doesn't mean you have no libido or aren't interested in sex though. Women's libido is usually responsive and highly contextual, so it can depend on their partners. Considering that sex is also riskier for women, it makes sense that even women with high sex drive tend not to fuck 100 strangers on a whim. On average sex is also not that great for women. Men usually cum without much issues, but it's harder for a woman and casual sex is generally not a satisfying one. So it makes sense that a lot of women stick to LTRs and avoid fucking strangers or people they barely know.

wtknight · 2022-02-03T13:22:18+00:00

High sociosexuality women don’t have much sexual interest in average men when they can choose to have sex with high value men. Average men mostly have to find sex in relationships, and this means either sex with women in their league of lower sociosexuality, or relationships with former CC riders who might be of high sociosexuality but who might not be particularly attracted to the man and therefore of questionable loyalty.

gimpgirl555 · 2022-02-03T11:08:16+00:00

Numerous studies have shown that women on average desire sex less than men. Anyone can confirm this by asking 100 women to have sex. What this means is that most women are not interested in sex. Or have a very low interest. Ie they have low sociosexuality.

This doesn't prove that women want sex less than men, it proves that women's standards for sex partners are higher.

Men are not getting rejected for sex because they are short, bald, poor, or have bad personalities. Women simply aren't interested.

Women aren't interested in those men BECAUSE they are short, bald, etc.

Show any woman a Chad and she will display sexual behavior that we usually associate with men, without exception. From my experience, no matter how much a woman says she's low libido or doesn't like the stereotypical masculine men, what they say and how they respond are often in direct contradiction.

Creation_Soul · 2022-02-03T11:02:54+00:00

the flaw in your argument is that there is a big subset of women who will not be having consistent casual sex, but will be having sex inside a committed relationship. Out of my social circle, some women have had casual sex, but the amount of casual sex is in the 1-3 range that it not consistent enough for men to rely on this happening with them; the same women have been in years-long relationships and have been having sex in those relationship.

there will never be enough women willing to have casual sex only for the (way larger) amount of men who desire the same thing.

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DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-02-03T11:53:42+00:00

Yeah that's great advice "Just stop trying! You're never going to get it bro!"

And we wonder why men are more pathetic, lazy and feminine than ever.

Feisty-Saturn · 2022-02-03T11:57:10+00:00

Men don’t pursue women with low/average sociasexuality. They are pursuing women that are above average that can easily land a relationship. This woman knows she’s beautiful, she knows there’s stigma with promiscuous women, she’s knows her hands and vibrators work, and she knows if she really misses a dick she can find a guy that will commit relatively easily. So she is not motivated to have sex outside the relationship as their is little incentive for her.

The women who are going after casual sex still want the relationship. But they don’t think they offer enough in physical looks to demand it before having sex. She wants to have the same amount of sex as the first women i described but since she has to do it to get a relationship she sleeps with men casually, trying to kill two birds with one stone.

dreadgamedurmum · 2022-02-03T10:56:28+00:00

No. Most women are deep down total nymphos. Especially when they're ovulating.

A good proportion are provider hunters and won't put out unless they get some investment and security. You can darktriadmaxxx and get sex from them but its tedious.

We thank liberal feminism and the pill though because there's enough that will fuck in the name of sexual liberation. And that gets to the real issue which is that men don't know how to reliably and consistently arouse women. So men rely on blind luck that they meet a girl they naturally have good chemistry with then it's a matter of calibration, escalation and logistics.

Swans-r-cunts · 2022-02-03T12:30:59+00:00

. Men are not getting rejected for sex because they are short, bald, poor, or have bad personalities. Women simply aren't interested

Women aren't interested because they're "short, bald and poor'.

TheTruth221 · 2022-02-03T11:45:37+00:00

females want to fuck

the males arent fucking material so they struggle

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-02-03T13:55:12+00:00

Very typical of men to project their own sexual arousal mechanism onto women. What do most men need to become aroused and ready to have sex?

It's a magic combination of two things: A. Someone who is attractive enough and B. Someone who appears willing. That's all men need!

So we assume that women must work the same way and we think: "Okay, if I am a hot girl, there would be no shortage of people willing to have sex. And at least some portion of these people must be good looking enough to arouse me. That means that any hot girl can get laid literally on the street. All she needs to do is shout at the top of her lungs 'I will fuck anybody who would have me' and hundreds of suitors will come out of the woodwork."

But that's not how things work in reality. Women have a different arousal mechanism and it takes someone who is confident, worthy, self respecting, a leader who she can feel safe with to be her sexual self. That's why asking a 100 women to have sex with you will not result in anything, but that does not mean that women don't like sex. If you went and asked a hundred men to sleep with you, Im sure you will have a few takers, but that's probably not the type of person who would arouse you.

Take it from this perspective. Put yourself in the shoes of a woman. Basically any guy is bigger and stronger than you. If you are a male of average height and weight, the equivalent would be a 6'5" man built like a bodybuilder and weighing 300lbs. Imagine that man walks up to you and basically says in one way or another "I want to fuck your ass right now".

Wow, hold on buddy! you would probably say. Someone wanting to fuck you in the ass without any preparation, lubrication, turning you on and making you feel safe that he is not just going to rip your asshole and make you feel zero pleasure, is probably not something that you would find appealing. Especially if this person can be physically intimidating. You may even have a hard time rejecting him outright because men with erect penises tend to act very irrationally.

If you want to understand what's it like for a woman, just imagine yourself in the above scenario.

afkawayrn · 2022-02-03T15:39:29+00:00

I think MOST women have a sexual deviant side that they don’t talk about at all. Just like Stanley Kubrick portrays in eyes wide shut. Women are just as sexual as men, they have just been trained biologically to hide it for thousands of years. What we are seeing is what happens when the internet takes over and gives women the options that nature never gave them for millennia. That is why the world is in the state is today, atleast in the west sexually

Beansnmilk · 2022-02-03T16:06:31+00:00

I definitely disagree, women are probably hornier than men except it is for select individuals unlike men who have lower standards for women which are usually just looks to sleep with them

tonyghow · 2022-02-03T16:58:11+00:00

It's not black or white.

Women are on a sexual spectrum. Sure, it may lean towards less desire as compared to men, but there are women who enjoy sex that are not promiscuous. There are women who want frequent raunchy sex within a committed relationship. Not all hypersexual women want indiscriminate sex and random gangbangs.

You do sound like you have the sexuality of a man. Maybe you have a lot of testosterone.

nedinator3000 · 2022-02-03T18:05:05+00:00

This is mostly nonsense. I agree that on average women don’t want sex as often as men. There’s a disparity people argue here but I agree men want it more, however this has very little to do if not nothing at all to do with why women reject men.

Furthermore all the advice given is nonsense. “No amount of self improvement will change outcomes” what? Just no idea what you’re talking about. Plenty of men and women would disagree

RandomRedditGuy322 · 2022-02-03T18:17:31+00:00

nope.

AF/BB.

Theres no such thing as a woman who doesnt like sex. She will just only open her legs for Chad. Billy Beta needs to work to get sex from her, which explains his struggle and why she doesn't even like having sex with Billy. Because she misses being with the alpha Chad.

Insidious-Sid · 2022-02-03T18:46:31+00:00

Women are not gonna fuck you. Stop trying and buy a doll.

Er.... or maybe stop pestering "relationship resource vampires" and find women who are actually down to fuck. There is Tinder and there are prostitutes and now forms of sugaring that is basically covert prostitution.

One "trick" that we all know some men use is approach women under the guise of being a Beta Bux Brad seeking a relationship when all he was seeking was sex. When this guy "gets his sex" and then bounces, the woman feels very very duped. After all, you could say he was - at best - not forthcoming with his real intentions.

As for dolls, well, once those become good enough that average men would consider getting them, feminists will have them prohibited on the grounds they "foster misogynistic attitudes about women and girls and cause harm and death to actual women and girls due to perpetuation of beliefs that violence against women and girls is acceptable."

Which is nonsense. But they're going to try.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/andreamorris/2018/09/26/meet-the-activist-fighting-sex-robots/?sh=5108acdb6e79

Fuel_Fine · 2022-02-04T23:12:55+00:00

Most women have low sociosexuality to majority of men, which is the average men.

They have high sociosexuality to the top 20% of men

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szclimber · 2022-02-03T14:09:27+00:00

No. Women I know enjoy sex and are getting sex. She is fucking someone.

Title	[CMV] Men struggle with sex because they pursue women with low/average sociosexuality
Author	gimpgirl555
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Date	February 3, 2022 10:40 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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