Therapy lines that are used for manipulation

luna_prismatic · 2022-02-27T12:41:48+00:00

“You have to respect my boundaries and let me do ______________” (insert selfish edict)

Platipus6 · 2022-02-27T12:18:13+00:00

Not giving me sex is emotional abuse

Making me contribute to bills instead of letting me mooch at your place every weekend is financial abuse

When I psychologically abuse you for hours until you're exhausted and you run away from me to get space and peace, that's giving me the silent treatment, and abuse

Not letting me shower with you and watch you get dressed every day is withholding intimacy and affection, and abuse (I shit you not, a dude made a whole post whining about this, and said he was determined to not let a second relationship be ruined like this, how could he make her be more affectionate again. Take a hint, you facehugger)

Geocities_SEO_Expert · 2022-02-27T13:08:39+00:00

🤡 "You can't expect other people to make you happy. You have to be responsible for your own emotions."

Said right after he deliberately did something hurtful.

QueenAlice3 · 2022-02-27T16:32:20+00:00

Honesty.

I think honesty is the most dangerous rhetoric therapy teaches us. “Good relationships are built on honesty.” we’re taught. We hear “Good men are looking for a good, honest woman.” Or the minute you break up with them men shouting “That lying B*tch!!”

Total honesty from women makes us easier to control. It stops us from discussing our men’s bad behavior with other women behind their backs. It stops us from keeping an emergency fund. It gives men the opportunity to see when we’re wavering in a relationship with them so they can manipulate us back.

Teaching us to be honest teaches us to be controllable.

saltandvin3gar · 2022-02-27T13:27:19+00:00

My ex saw a therapist when we were together. One day after therapy he said, "you know, my therapist told me that we are all supposed to be responsible for our own feelings" with a smirk on his face. He was trying to imply that when he emotionally abused me, upset me and made me cry, I should stop blaming him because I was responsible for my own feelings. The worthless, NV, abusive scrote just could not admit he was a POS. You either had to take his abuse and never complain or have a response and be deemed as "crazy".

OhMissFortune · 2022-02-27T15:50:44+00:00

When I got upset at something he did - used the term "microaggression" to refer to my upsetness. Also, just using your tears, unhappiness and boundaries as a way to "prove" that you're aggressive towards him

bellinibabie · 2022-02-27T14:14:47+00:00

“Asking me to unfollow girls I don’t know and thirst-follow on Instagram is controlling behavior.”

“You shouldn’t rely on other people to create your self esteem.” - after being told how insecure it makes me that he interacts with people on twitter’s nsfw posts

“Setting boundaries is emotional abuse.”

I cannot BELIEVE the shit I heard come out of this man’s mouth without leaving him. Never again.

thewineyourewith · 2022-02-27T15:56:37+00:00

Never go to bed angry - as an excuse to keep you awake all night until you agree with him out of pure exhaustion.

Locking me out of our shared bedroom is abuse - when you’re trying to remove yourself from an argument because he’s too drunk/emotional (let’s start calling anger what it is - being emotional) to actually talk or let it go.

Keeping me away from my friends is abuse - when you expect him to keep his word when he says he’ll make dinner, or we have plans, or he’s supposed to fix something around the house that he refuses to let you pay someone to fix, he stays out all night and is a waste the next day when he’s supposed to do stuff, etc.

TheMostOfMe · 2022-02-27T12:41:33+00:00

Ugh YES, my NVX tried to tell me I was “controlling” because I told him if he wanted to sell drugs he needed to fuck off because I will not associate with a drug dealer. I also told him if he was going to keep hanging out with one particular druggie, where he would spend his whole monthly income in one weekend, he had to move out. I was controlling because I didn’t want to have to pay for everything all month.

Suitable_Echo_6380 · 2022-02-27T17:01:06+00:00

This! I’ve been thinking about this a lot because I felt like my former friend would weaponize their therapy. They were unable to accept they could be a toxic person because they are in therapy where as I was the one that had to change or act differently. But spoiler alert: no amount of acting differently or changes in they way I interacted with them helped. I just felt socially violated and gaslighted for the last year and a half of our friendship.

dazedandcofused_ · 2022-02-27T22:12:44+00:00

When he does something wrong then gaslights you when you call him out on it or thinks him acknowledging his mistake somehow makes him this self-aware, righteous being. Pushing toxic positivity and trivializing your feelings about anything. Using him going to therapy as a manipulative tactic to make him seem less threatening. Using therapy jargon to make himself seem like he's grown and developed as a person, when in reality, he just learned how to be a better manipulator. The list goes on

TieDieEye · 2022-02-27T22:32:24+00:00

A guy I dated basically used his therapist to gaslight the shit out of me, can confirm this entire post.

Anytime I had a problem with his awful behavior (AKA politely asked him to stop being a dick) he would go and cry about it to his therapist/play the victim so he could find a way to turn it back around on me.

For example, saying I was controlling/had jealously issues because I told him it wasn't okay to DM/flirt with other women on IG who he KNEW IN REAL LIFE that posted photos of themselves almost completely naked

This is the same person who would verbally abuse me on a daily basis and told me, "You're disgusting, nobody would ever love you." And then after he dumped me to pursue someone else admitted to gaslighting me the whole time about cheating.

But yeah I was the toxic partner apparently :D

thanarealnobody · 2022-02-28T00:23:19+00:00

A guy I dated, who was a therapy veteren at that point, told me that I was “harassing” him because I was trying to get hold of him during a pregnancy scare. Went through the whole thing by myself, and I still turned out to be the bad guy.

Also, the only reason I was having this scare was because he had told me he was going to use a condom but he didn’t. 🤷🏻‍♀️

These guys have the language to make you feel guilty and make you question yourself when they don’t have the slightest bit of guilt about treating you worse than an animal.

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-02-28T01:04:55+00:00

Oh shoot, there was a post recently where some scrote demanded thousands of dollars from his stay in GF because it was financial abuse that she was saving money???

It was blindingly ridiculous…

Title	Therapy lines that are used for manipulation
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Date	February 27, 2022 11:48 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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