I've been on FDS for the past 6 months. For me, it has been like taking the pill in the Matrix and being forced to swallow hard truths.

FDS has forced me to open my eyes to painful truths and it hasn't been easy.

When I say painful truths, I am talking about:

1.) Understanding cultural misogyny and women's conditioned passiveness and submissiveness. That is how politeness (not wanting to hurt people's feelings or make them feel uncomfortable) conditions women into submissiveness. I have had to accept that for a long time, I voluntarily exposed myself to abusive people because I wanted to spare the abuser/bully's feelings. I sacrificed myself.

2.) "No tattle-taling" or "no snitching" is the worst rule we are taught as children and benefits the abusers. I never told and by doing so, contributed to my suffering that I pain from now.

3.) Enablers and learning what enablers are has been probably the most painful part. Because I now know that the people who I love and claimed they loved me have been enabling the abuser and have been part of the problem.

4.) Grooming. I never knew what that was until I came to FDS. I've had to come to the realization that I was groomed.

5.) Predators aren't just old men. They are 16 year olds preying on 12 year olds. 14 year olds preying on 10 year olds. Trying to use them for sex, not caring they are taking that person's innocence.

6.) Being a "Disney Princess", blind person looking for Disney movie love can be dangerous and so many men and teenage boys prey on that. I was too young and too naive.

I've cried my eyes out now understanding what was done to me.

FDS queens who also found the awakening to be hard, how did you cope with it?