cmv: most/all attractive women have had "a lot of fun in high school & college"

Return_of_Hoppetar · 2022-10-08T00:14:34+00:00

I think you are just more prone to hearing stories like that because they obviously get circulated more than "Been sat at the library for four years, studying." That is less exciting.

saraimarsena · 2022-10-08T00:17:05+00:00

For some reason, guys on here can’t comprehend the idea of a woman turning down available sex.

I grew up in a strict Christian household and literally wasn’t allowed to date until I left to go to college at 18. Whereas my sister wanted to experiment and date around, I’m the exact opposite. I’ve never had a desire to “experience life”, and I got into a long distance LTR soon after getting to college. I’ve never had a vibrant single life or a “hoe phase” and I never wanted to. I was a college athlete and I loved to drink and go out with my friends, so I had ample opportunity to cheat or go crazy if I wanted but I didn’t.

I’m an innocent prude to the general public, but I’d rather be a closet freak for one man. My first relationship didn’t work out but even then, I wasn’t really single in between. So even now at 23, my n count is very low and it’s not a “missed opportunity” to me, it’s something I’ve taken pride in.

2022-10-08T00:18:20+00:00

My college didn't even have greek life. I went to one frat party held by another college, went with friends, and we stayed outside the house smoking weed in a corner watching everything. Saw a guy get punched out the front door for god knows what but that was the most notable thing. It was a bunch of midwestern white kids non ironically singing wonderwall and all star while drunk.

Regular-Loser-569 · 2022-10-08T00:30:18+00:00

If a woman reply saying no that didn't happen with me, OP will respond by:

Are you even attractive? (it may turn into a circular argument like "you aren't attractive if you don't have lots of people wanting to have sex with you" bla bla bla)
Your personal experience/observation is an outlier.

Only way to change OP's mind is for OP to conduct a survey themselves (otherwise we'll have endless debate about surveyor's bias, sample size, geographical bias and how to define attractiveness) But OP choose to post a CMV on reddit instead.

Oh, and what percentage would be considered to be "most"? 80%? 70%? 51%?

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-10-07T23:58:54+00:00

Bro, I think you have been watching too many “college party” movies and porn. A lot of people don’t actually go greek and a lot of people don’t party all the time in college. You actually DO have to turn in all your work and pass classes. And maintain a minimum GPA to stay in you Major.

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2022-10-08T00:21:47+00:00

The women you’re talking about do exist (I personally know plenty of them), but they’re far from the majority. Yes, there are attractive women that snort coke on the daily and rack up body counts in the high double digits, but there are also attractive women who are deeply religious, are in committed relationships, are extremely introverted, or are terrified of intimacy in general.

trippingfingers · 2022-10-07T23:59:13+00:00

Yeah you basically just admitting to having no reason for thinking this other than your imagination and "stories you hear of women just going completely nuts." I doubt I can change your view because you never tried hard to prove it to begin with. Also, the fact that you think having sex="faltering" and virginity="innocence" kind of explains why you sit there and let your imagination run wild. Come back with statistical evidence and less subjective editorializing and maybe there will be something to talk about.

I bet you kinda like those women tho ;)

KombuchaEnema · 2022-10-08T00:07:10+00:00

I was always fine with masturbating.

Plenty of women have an aversion to sex/romance. I was pretty much asexual and aromantic in high school. It’s embarrassing to admit this, but…I was mentally unwell. If you weren’t an anime character I didn’t want you.

A lot of guys asked me out. I had one boyfriend and hated every minute of it.

Eventually I grew out of my asexuality and got married.

chalkandapples · 2022-10-08T00:18:19+00:00

- The woman just isn't interested in having sex for the sake of sex. This pretty much means you will only have sex in a serious relationship, and the standard for having sex is now if this person is good BF or husband material. You're not going to be having orgies or experimenting with this mindset.

- Your friends are all nerds and peer pressure is how high your GPA is and what internships you got, not who you slept with.

- Remember how much money you're paying to be in college? Some of us actually want to learn the stuff we paid so much for. I was constantly like 3 weeks behind in my classes even without any partying.

- Many other fun things you can do in college other than sex. I was in a lot of cool clubs like martial arts, parkour, video game development, hackathons, anime, drawing, paintball, survival this group where we literately plan road trips every month etc. etc. Way too many other fun things to do, meaningless sex feels lame in comparison unless your pure sex drive is super high.

- Religious stuff? I'm not religious so I won't elaborate on stuff I know nothing about.

wtknight · 2022-10-08T00:35:47+00:00

A lot of attractive young women have high value boyfriends. And while they're probably having a lot of monogamous sex with these guys, and while they will never be on the dating market to the average men who like to whine about women, they also aren't having a lot of wild promiscuous sex with many men.

The women who do this kind of thing are the average to somewhat hot women who have self esteem problems. The hottest women don't need to have orgies with multiple men.

2022-10-08T00:00:04+00:00

I'm sorry, but even the most innocent girl will falter in an environment like this

Not drinking alcohol is a good place to start.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2022-10-08T00:34:37+00:00

My HS was this:

Cheerleaders/dance team senior girls were the "hottest" and the least sexually nasty, long term boyfriend or dating an unknown male in college.
Alternative/scene/goth/emo/skater girls - slutty but only with men in the cliche. Sometimes had a group of alternative boys worshipping one funny looking promiscious emo girl with a boyfriend from another school.
Overweight girls were either lesbians that slept with men or had a lot of promiscious sex with boys that didn't go to the school.
Ghetto/extroverted girls with loud, abusive class clowns always in suspension.
Hispanic girls - slutty only with one guy at a time, high PDA or with other Hispanic boys. An older Latino boyfriend in the MS13. All boyfriends played soccer. Fucked a lot.
Band geeks/Anime club nerds, one slutty nerdy girl or the girl that claimed to always have a boyfriend no one ever saw or met before and everyone doubted existed. Males mostly single except for the one male Band Geek that manwhored with shy nerdy women that never got male attention.
Average students without any cliche but always talking to other unknown people somehow, no one knows at all what their dating life was like.

CimZim · 2022-10-08T00:38:27+00:00

u/closerthanyouthinkk you've obviously never met any demisexual women. I don't know what it's like for "normal" women, but we have absolutely zero desire to fuck random strangers. Even if the dude is the hottest thing since Adonis...no arousal is taking place.

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houstongradengineer · 2022-10-08T00:52:38+00:00

Maybe all men aren't super attractive either. Date someone more normal FFS. And not all parents are shitty parents.

Vegetable-Rub3418 · 2022-10-08T00:55:11+00:00

The most attractive woman are less likely to hook up because they usually don't have to compromise. They usually don't have the trade sexual relationships because most guys are willing to just give them a relationships from the jump. But I also depends on what environment you in. If you live in LA and a lot of the girls unique have a history of dating ball players then yeah they probably going to passed around a lot. Because a lot of ball players don't need to wife up a girl for sex.

NorthernTaste · 2022-10-08T01:01:35+00:00

Religious people exist

Also, you appear to have bought the hype

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-10-08T01:02:09+00:00

There's no way to know for sure unless you ask

darkvalleys · 2022-10-08T01:19:57+00:00

Women aren’t men, entertainment is not reality, and boring normalcy garners no attention

And religious/tradcon women exist. There’s entire universities of em

ToberOct · 2022-10-08T01:21:30+00:00

What you don't understand is not everyone likes casual sex. In fact, does anyone? Even the people who have casual sex are having a miserable time with it. Casual sex sucks. You feel dirty, it's stressful, you feel empty, and you just want to be loved.

So no, having the ability to get casual sex (according to you, being attractive*) does not mean whatsoever that you will have casual sex. Attractive people are normal people with emotions who probably don't want to be pumped and dumped.

*Ugly people have a ton of casual sex. Being attractive is not even close to a requirement for being able to get casual sex. I'm just rolling with your argument.

toasterchild · 2022-10-08T01:31:01+00:00

My most attractive friends had the least amount of "fun" because they didn't have anything to prove to anyone.

AstronautLoveShack · 2022-10-08T01:47:39+00:00

Most women of any age are not having orgies and 3somes. Also women do not obsess over sex the way men do. Women are much more likely to obsess over romance than sex.

NockerJoe · 2022-10-08T01:49:17+00:00

A lot of the fun comes immediatley after. Its way way WAY easier to have your fun when you live alone and have no homework. People will say those are your best years but full adults with no kids generally have way more free time and disposable income.

Title	cmv: most/all attractive women have had "a lot of fun in high school & college"
Author	closerthanyouthinkk
Upvotes	5
Comments	67
Date	October 7, 2022 11:55 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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