The real side of the Depp/Heard case. Hundreds of men are sharing their stories of their personal abuse.

NextStopMyAss · 2022-04-22T06:54:45+00:00

This is actually crazy.

MensLib is discussing it. That MensLib. The MensLib who gave a platform to a man who said that domestic violence against men doesn't exist. From the article they posted:

73% of men who experienced female-perpetrated violence reported that their partner threatened to make false accusations. Among men who experience female-perpetrated violence, 56% said their female partners actually did make false accusations that he physically or sexually abused her.

Uh oh... discussion of false accusations on MensLib? They'd better be careful not to wander too far on their leash. The feminists holding it might yank them back into line.

Chinny_YT · 2022-04-22T03:23:28+00:00

#hetoo ??

SerenityElixir · 2022-04-22T05:03:09+00:00

Together for 13 years, had three beautiful children who were my entire world. All it took was one call to the police, and my world collapsed. False accusations are the go to for any woman who is either bored or unwilling to do the hard work, how men are still so trustworthy of women who continually show such a savage disregard for men, respect, loyalty or any morals in general is beyond me. Over six months not seeing or hearing from my girls, they are all she has to hurt me and she knows it. I have learned to let it go, my girls will return, and she will receive all the karma she deserves without any involvement from me. Be very careful who you choose as a future co-parent, bitterness changes women in a way you won't understand untill you personally go through it.

Cali249 · 2022-04-22T03:03:09+00:00

I was in a relationship with a woman who would threaten to run me over with the car. I tossed her ass out, recorded everything with my phone. I paid off the months left on my lease with one giant payment and bailed. I didn't want her knowing where I lived.

Juniorsupernova · 2022-04-22T04:33:56+00:00

I cannot take the risk, no cohabitation for me. Depp had plenty of money to afford the best lawyers imagine the average joe with no money and no evidence

Oncefa2 · 2022-04-22T14:19:18+00:00

I remember listening to those audio tapes when they first came out. Some of the words and even the way she said things reminded me so much of my ex. If she had said "I'll kill myself if you leave me" then that would have been her.

I think a lot of guys have seen Amber Heard's behavior and know women who act like her.

Most women are great people who would never want to hurt their boyfriend (just like most men are the other way around) but this kind of thing is a lot more common than people realize. Men have just never had a voice or been able to talk about it before.

TitanicPat · 2022-04-22T06:55:05+00:00

The court system might bestow upon men a Presumtion of Innocence. The court of public opinion, however, bestows upon women an Insistance of Innocence.

dammitmitchell · 2022-04-22T08:16:50+00:00

About time someone cares that men are just as often abused, hurt or raped.

TheGalaSisters · 2022-04-22T01:46:06+00:00

Some of us have been talking about this a lot longer than you’d think! https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNPalKRK8G9RIuYhdA4rXeTZ3Qcvssdva

BoredRedhead24 · 2022-04-22T08:56:11+00:00

Yeah, my dad had awful taste in women, married twice and neither was to my psychotic mother. Both women were awful to me.

Zer0_0ption · 2022-04-23T00:47:17+00:00

Excuse the format. Im on a phone. Ill spare a lot of detail as this is already going to be long. Will give details if this gets any interest.

We met in 07, i was a dumb pvt in the army. Got married in 08, as she was pregnant (shes mine) . I suppose i should have seen the warning signs to start. Her starting little spats with my friends and squad mates. Forcing me to defend her increasingly erratic and psychological abuses. I first chalked it up to hormones because of the extremely difficult pregnancy. I deployed to Afghanistan mid 08 to late spring 09. I got home just in time to see my daughters birth. She spent the next 9 years telling me i was gone too much or that i Spent too much time at home. Never made enough money, i left the army, worked in the oil patch for a bit before being laid off. Worked for the railroad until my disability got too bad to continue that line of work. During this period, she would swing wildly from berating me for working too long from home. To me not making enough money to accommodate the lifestyle she felt entitled to, if i worked close enough to home to be home every night. Being forced to sell my prized possessions to pay the bills because i had to give her entire paychecks so she could attend courses to make additional revenue streams. To which i never saw any benefit from at all. I think the final straw for me was when i had to sell my 3 precision rifles that i bought for myself as a retirement gift from the army to pay the bills she continually racked up. I think at that point i just shut down emotionally. I had been alienated from my entire family and All but 2 of my friends. I spent '17-18 literally just a hollow shell. Constant panic attacks, persistent suicidal thoughts and all she could do was tell me everything i was doing wrong. Everything i wasnt. Every way in which i was a failure as a man, father and husband. She walked out on me in '19. I was clinically depressed and unemployed. Relying on the food bank and donations and help from family (who were super happy to reconnect with me. Especially my sister.) Turned out to be the best thing thats ever happened to me. Im still currently going through a bitter divorce where she took everything from me and is still coming for more. And its hard. Its taken three years of therapy. But theres a silver lining to this story, i reconnected with someone special to me i met when were in the army together.We've been happily together since. Shes been my guiding light, a wonderful step mom to my oldest when she gets to visit us. A wonderful mom to our infant daughter. And the best kind of partner i ever could have asked for. I guess what im saying is hang in there, please. We all deserve a happy ending. We just have to learn how to look for it, recognize it and accept it.

ANUS_CONE · 2022-04-22T19:22:35+00:00

I am so glad to see them all being shared. I watched Depp's deposition, and the part about him being in bed, getting beat up, trying to leave, and her positioning herself between him and his exit is just so chillingly similar to what I went through.

This is the part that feminists and mainstream folks that haven't experienced it don't get or don't want to get. The prescribed answers for what to do when a woman is being violent towards you are usually either "Just leave" or "women aren't violent, I don't believe you". You try to explain to people why "just leave" isn't an actual answer. The woman WANTS you to react, she wants you to hit her back, because then she gets to claim that you were the abuser. They're going to do it in a place where it's just you and her, your word against hers. They aren't going to let you "just leave" without you having to somehow touch them, and whatever you do - that is the only part of anyone's "side" of the story that anyone important is going to pay attention to.

For me, it was in the shower, in the truck on the interstate going 80 mph, or in our house with just the two of us. She did the exact same stuff. You put yourself in a spot where someone is physically abusing you, bloodying your face, and actively preventing your escape: your options are to do something physical to remove yourself, fight back, or sit there and allow yourself to get beat up. When he talks about "I grabbed her by the shoulders and moved her to the bed/out of my way", and knowing that this is HOW SHE ACCUSED HIM OF ABUSE is 100% exactly what I went through.

I still want the answer: what is it that men are expected to do in this situation?

starryknight · 2022-04-22T17:12:18+00:00

One year of being abused daily fucked me up for all the remaining years of my life.

Counseling is helping, but the damage will always be there.

Blinky39 · 2022-04-23T00:31:17+00:00

One of the most painful types of abuse I’ve ever experienced, happened in my marriage, is “cold shoulder” or silent treatment. She would totally shut down on me. No talking, withhold all affection and love. Suddenly I was an enemy and stranger in my own home for as long as it took for me to grovel and beg forgiveness. And I’m not exaggerating.

She demanded I begged for it and repented. Could go on for days, weeks, months over the smallest thing I said or did. While she on the other hand refused any accountability and apparently did nothing wrong ever and never gave any sincere apology. Yeah she’d hit me too but that didn’t really bother me. I’d rather she beat me and yelled at me over the cold shoulder treatment which is emotional abuse.

Algoresball · 2022-04-22T17:10:54+00:00

I’m hoping that this whole thing leads to much more awareness of what happens to so many men

Sehr_Gros_Baum · 2022-04-22T11:33:28+00:00

Sex workers for the win!!

Cheetahboy3000 · 2022-04-22T18:17:09+00:00

My stance on this is the same as MeToo. You should've said something b4. If you were rejected by law officials or family members that's a different story. If you suffered in silence and refused to tell anyone the only person u can blame is urself

kakam0ra · 2022-05-01T11:42:50+00:00

Sign petition to remove Amber Turd from the movie https://www.change.org/p/dc-entertainment-remove-amber-heard-from-aquaman-2?signed=true

The real side of the Depp/Heard case. Hundreds of men are sharing their stories of their personal abuse.

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