Differences between man-woman, woman-woman or man-man friendships?

fakingandnotmakingit · 2023-04-20T03:49:21+00:00

Tbh I treat my man friends like my woman friends

With the exception that I don't talk about my sex life. But I've had the boobs or butt conversation with many a man.

Apparently butt is better than boobs 🤷‍♀️

Ok_Entrepreneur2931 · 2023-04-20T03:45:09+00:00

Personally I've never talked of the man I like with anyone until it's something I believe to be really serious then yes I talk of them 24/7 to my girlfriends and sometimes we talk about if men in our friend group acquittances are hot or not, but generally not in a gross way.

How would you feel if your male acquaintances were having a "hot or not" discussion involving you?

ComfortableOk5003 · 2023-04-20T03:37:21+00:00

If you’re just a fuck I might talk about you.

But the more I like you, the more serious it is the less I talk about our sex life with friends.

I find it super weird and disrespectful when I’m dating someone and they talk about all the details of our sex life with their girlfriends.

Not to mention a lot of women have a nasty habit of talking to their friends (women) instead of talking to their fucking man when they have issues with said man…they wind up getting all kinds of bullshit “advice” that is usually wrong….and just counter to what you should do, put your big girl pants on and have adult conversations with your guy.

Women should def have convos with guys…but family members who don’t wanna fuck them…those guys won’t blow smoke up their ass.

Honestly I’d say majority of serious things I’m not a fan of talking with females (unless I’m dating them) because often there is just either a lack of logic or a big disconnect because of pretty privilege and women privilege.

If I wanna have a based convo with a woman I’ve got a sister, mom, aunties, cousins.

If I just want to discuss entertainment or something not that serious less of a big deal

None0fYour8usiness · 2023-04-20T06:33:07+00:00

Guys may be crass when talking about men, but women are vitriolic when talking about men.

Also not all men are biologically ignorant, a lot of us don't mind you talking about menstruation and whatever other girl problems you have, it's just that we have nothing to offer on the topic.

mackenzie013_02 · 2023-04-20T03:30:17+00:00

Within my friends group we don’t really have any “girly conversations”.

When it comes to dating topics; I find my male friends be a little better with offering advice and problem solving, while my female friends are better at listening (I usually talk to them about why I like someone and how they are, etc.).

“Hot or not” is discussed among the mixed group overall tho. 😅

januaryphilosopher · 2023-04-20T08:20:50+00:00

See, the way you're describing it, and the way I experience it, is that it isn't really different from having anything in common with a group of friends. For example, I have my Irish friends and my English friends. My Irish friends have experiences and characteristics in common with me that my English friends don't, so I can tell them jokes that don't make sense to my English friends or refer to places and people that my English friends have never heard of. But my English friends, of course, have other things in common with me, just not the place we're from, and that doesn't change the fundamental nature of our friendship. Some topics would be weird to talk about with them, but that's okay. The same thing goes about my male and female friends. (Although personally I have about the same level of reticence with each about the topics you mentioned. If there's any difference, it's more in how often things come up. And yep, both kinds keep me about equally informed on the people they're into.)

Stunning_Thing4208 · 2023-04-20T08:45:28+00:00

I don't know where the fuck you guys live but I talk with my female friends about the same stuff I talk about with my male friends.

If I can't treat the girls equally as the boys, we can't be close friends.

kiIlmenow · 2023-04-20T09:48:03+00:00

I talk to men and woman friends the same, tho i never have conversations like hot or not

ChadChasingB · 2023-04-20T10:43:13+00:00

My very best friend happens to be a guy and there is literally nothing that I can't talk to him about. I do have friends that talk about sexual topics, but it's quite rare, even from the men. We have conversations about who we like and traits that we find attractive, but everyone tends to be respectful. I think it has much more to do with your lifestyle and individual values rather than gender. I wouldn't be friends or keep speaking to anyone that made me feel uncomfortable or disrespected.

NockerJoe · 2023-04-20T05:01:14+00:00

So let me get this straight, you can talk about anything with your girls but its nasty how men talk?

This is the actual difference. Women get uncomfortable around men largely when they hold men to standards they don't hold each other to.

RP-MJ · 2023-04-20T04:22:19+00:00

"Some people believe women and can't be friends"

If she's hot and you wanna fuck her, then being friends is the last thing you want to do

Anyways yes there's things you only talk to your male/female friends

Which is why l choose to only have male friends since we can talk about anything without no gender barrier

Substantial_Video560 · 2023-04-20T07:15:11+00:00

I believe men and women can be good friends but it depends on the type of guy.

Personally for me I have good friends of both sexes. As I'm no longer looking for love and relationships (MGTOW) I have no expectations from them, so can put all the rest aside and focus on just being good friends.

I'll admit though I much prefer the company of men to women. From experuence I've found men are much better conversationalists than women.

Dissentient · 2023-04-20T08:15:50+00:00

As a woman you can't trust men with the same secrets you trust your girl friends, you can't talk to them about menstruation or how your body is feeling awful or how you boobs are bloated or how this man you're talking to did that thing because you'd be making them feel emasculated or making you see your body in the way a man looks at a woman in a romantic way.

Maybe it's just me, but as a man, I wouldn't talk about my dick with my male friends any more than female friends. For the same reasons, I don't want to hear about the stuff you listed. It has nothing to do with masculinity (not that I'm particularly masculine anyway). I don't think this should be shared with anyone other than a partner.

This is kinda off topic but I've always been curious, do men talk of the woman they like to their friends or they keep that private and talk only of the women they find hot? Are you all conversations so nasty you'd lose your girl friends if they saw them?

This depends on specific social circles. I personally don't talk about it, and my friends also aren't people who would, but I've heard those kinds of conversations happen.

JNRoberts42 · 2023-04-20T13:07:37+00:00

sexually attractive if they don't do it neutrally or say they'll watch porn or things like that,

That’s cultural, specifically coomer culture. None of my male friends talk about things like that. They will mention women in our vicinity they find attractive and rarely ask me questions about sex or female health/sex issues, but we trust one another and they are seeking advice or how to make life easier or sex better for their partner.

trying to force sexual topics or if they see me as a man which I don't like because I am a woman and I'm supposed to be treated like a woman.

In what ways do they treat you like a man? What does this mean?

MistyMaisel · 2023-04-20T14:49:54+00:00

O_O

My best friend of the last decade is a man. And yes, I have talked to him about menstruation, how my body feels, and romantic shit that was going wrong or right. And he's talked to me about his health issues, body issues, and romantic shit that was going wrong or right. Do we talk all the time about my bloated ass? No. But if that's the new of the week, yes. And yes, he can talk about what girls he likes, why he likes them, porn, or sexual things. Have we very often? No. But that's because most normal people don't generally talk about this stuff all the time.

Neither of us are people who discuss our sex-lives because that's not us. If it was, we would. Do I love that my boyfriend probably talks about ours? No, but I knew it was how he was when we got together, so I don't give a shit in total. Hopefully he says nice things. If not, I hope he'll tell me so we can fix it.

Do men sometimes talk in ways that I find unsavory? Yes. So do women.

Loud_Definition6669 · 2023-04-20T03:16:46+00:00

I forgot who said it, but it was like "men and women can talk of many things, but what they are really talking about is sex"

TurtleDickSlap · 2023-04-20T10:00:11+00:00

I treat my women friends with the same level of regard as my male friends.

Most women cannot handle being treated like men though, so I have very few women I consider friends.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2023-04-20T11:51:28+00:00

i dont talk to anyone about all that, i always had male friends, we talked about politics and ideas, music movies and art etc

jay10033 · 2023-04-20T13:11:03+00:00

So much of this comment does not seem to reflect lived experience.

Women tend to be the most vicious talking about other women - yes even the ones they act like they're friends with.

I myself usually feel disgusted when my guy friends or may I say ex guy friends talk about things they find sexually attractive if they don't do it neutrally or say they'll watch porn or things like that, makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable and as if either they are trying to force sexual topics or if they see me as a man which I don't like because I am a woman and I'm supposed to be treated like a woman.

Do you want to be treated as a woman or a friend? Those are two different things. Being treated like a "woman" seems to be code for - I want men around me to do things a boyfriend would do - like take me out, pay for "not dates", listen to all my issues - while knowing that you don't do much in return. Essentially, you want all the benefits of being a girlfriend with none of the responsibility.

As a woman you can't trust men with the same secrets you trust your girl friends

If you want a secret to be kept, tell a guy. We typically don't care about petty issues. We look to find solutions to problems. Women leak secrets like sieves. They love gossip. You menstruating isn't a secret. It's a normal part of life. What you probably like when talking to women about that stuff is that you like to commiserate around the pain/discomfort.

ThrowawayPurple7163 · 2023-04-20T05:37:26+00:00

Man the pandemic really did a number on young people's social calibration. It used to be common sense what was and wasn't OK to talk about with different groups of people.

Ohmaygahh · 2023-04-20T14:27:15+00:00

man-woman,

if she were 400 lbs, he would not be her friend LOL

SecondEldenLord · 2023-04-20T22:00:28+00:00

Man-woman friendships: most of the time the man wants to have sex with the woman, he just orbits around her hoping for his chance

Man-man friendship: lots of taking the piss out of each other and then complimenting the friend when he is not around

Woman-woman friendship: tell each other white lies to not hurt their feelings and then bitch about them behind their back.

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Title	Differences between man-woman, woman-woman or man-man friendships?
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