Regarding the Dave Ramsey video My Boyfriend Doesn't Think I'm Worth Marrying, particularly what is said by the younger man in the first two minutes...

The young guy makes an utter ridiculous straw man argument against the boyfriend that he is just a selfish prick who was hurt in the past and does not represent the norm for men today. This completely ignores the harsh reality and true and more difficult problem with marriage today.

The boyfriend is entirely justified and rational in his decision to not marry his girlfriend and "baby mama". For the past four generations (Boomers, Gen X, Millennials, and Zoomers), the family court system has systematically screwed over men with the subtlety of a mass shooting. Judges have prevented amicable divorces with 50/50 custody because then the state does not get matching child support funds. Marriage has become indentured servitude for men by any honest interpretation, with men losing their freedom and being thrown in cages for not being able to pay child support through no fault of their own during economic downturns. The state views men as slaves and subhuman, and has zero empathy for them.

As such, the state actively encourages women to divorce their husbands so the state can take the men to the cleaners. Show me the incentives and I will show you the result. So the boyfriend is entirely justified in not trusting his girlfriend. Even if she is the mystical unicorn who would never screw over her husband, there is no way the boyfriend can be assured of that and the state will do everything to make her change her tune should a divorce come.

Put simply, the family court system has made it utterly implausible for men to take the extreme risk and dire consequences of marriage even if they really want to marry more than anything else in the world. Based on the girlfriend's own comments, there is no reason to believe the boyfriend isn't entirely emotionally committed to both the girlfriend and their children, and isn't marrying solely because of the entirely one-sided nature of the family court system, a system he has experienced first hand.

Men have been saying for over a quarter century now that unless the court system and laws change, they absolutely cannot get married for any reason, not even for the children since the family courts will screw over the children in order to get matching child support payments. This marriage strike has been growing since the 1990s and is only going to get larger as more men independently reach the same conclusion for the same reasons. If you want men to start marrying again, you need to have 50 years of men not getting screwed over royally for getting married. Sorry, not sorry, but that is the sad reality.

Instead of acknowledging this sad reality and difficult to solve problem, the hosts just ignore the real problem and paint the boyfriend out to be a fiend, as if that will solve the problem. And in doing so, they give this women terrible advice, other than the bit about her getting a job to secure her finances in case a break does occur. But then they give her more bad advice to relish in breaking up with the boyfriend once she is financially independent even though as far as we can tell the boyfriend has zero intentions of every breaking up with her and just wants to protect himself in case she breaks up with him.

Quite frankly, with everything the girlfriend says the boyfriend does, the only difference between their current situation and getting married is that the latter affords the girlfriend the opportunity and motivation to divorce rape her then husband. This would actually be a far worse situation for the children and the boyfriend, like most men, is painfully aware of this fact.

Additionally, there are two other really dumb things Dave Ramsey says in this video at the 8 minute mark.

"Married people live longer."

And guys who fuck supermodels have net worths in the tens of millions. So if you want to be rich, fuck a lot of supermodels.

Women prefer to marry guys with good genes. Good genes means good health. Good health means long life. That's the causal chain.

"Married people live longer... and their net worth is larger... and their career trajectory is significantly higher, statistically! So that's not like a Dave opinion."

Women prefer to marry financially well-off men. Again these two reverse the cause and the effect. Becoming married does not make a man rich. Being rich increases his opportunities for marriage. Don't believe this? Marry a homeless guy and see if his career and income takes off.

The advice and interpretation of this situation is so divorced from reality that I find it hard to believe this is mere incompetence rather than outright dishonesty. And what is really the point? Do you think you can trick men into marriage? Sorry, not sorry, but those days are over. The Internet has ensured that men are not acutely aware of the reality of marriage in the modern west. That is why men have stopped marrying in the west, and those few desperate enough to still want marriage are becoming "passport bros" and permanently moving to non-Western, less developed nations where the court systems do not actively encourage male indentured servitude through divorce.

Lying to men about how bad marriage has become is not going to work. Silencing men on the Internet who tell other men how bad marriage is, will also not work. Men have been increasingly been coming to the conclusion that marriage is a scam for the past quarter of a century, and it's only going to get worse. You cannot screw over half the population and expect there to be no consequences. Men are rational beings who change their behavior due to incentives, and everything in our society has strongly incentivized men to never, ever marry under any circumstances.

Show me the incentives, and I will show you the outcomes. If you want to change the outcomes, change the incentives.