I have observed this pattern so many times, in many different sociocultural contexts. All you have to do is sit back, listen carefully, observe carefully. What I am about to say is going to be very unpopular. I don't care.

I have been to places where hot women would get approached by guys, and when these women were welcoming to these guys, I could see that the SAME guys were ogling other women while still interacting with the hot woman they were originally hitting on.

It doesn't matter how attractive a woman is, the minute she shows interest in a man, this man loses at least a percentage of his attraction to her. He will still pursue her, but he will no longer be as attracted to her as when she was unavailable and unattainable. It's almost as if the whole dating thing is an exhausting cat-and-mouse game.

I have dated several guys and when they waited 4 days after the first date or when they weren't very enthusiastic, I would cut them off immediately. And that is when they started becoming obsessed about me and stalking me. I have guys who are still stalking me 4 years after our only date. I block them and they create new burner numbers. Why did I cut them off? Because I saw that they were lackluster. And now they are harassing me and begging me for a second chance. And I bet you ANYTHING that if I were to cave in and give these guys a second chance, they would lose interest in me.

It's all backwards. Men say they want a nice, sweet, loyal girl. That's a lie. Of course, some guys aren't even aware of their own bias, but it's almost as if they were wired to be masochistic.

The ones who say that they get turned off by a woman who is rude to the waiter are lying. Of course, I have never been rude to a waiter, but I have seen that when a man is truly physically attracted to a woman, she can do anything and he won't get turned off. She can act stupid, she can sing and dance, she can talk about weird stuff. He won't get turned off.

I know very sexy girls who get trashed, drunk, they show photos of autopsies, and the guys are still pursuing them because they are very hot. No guy on Earth will reject a super hot woman for being rude to the waiter. Come on.

And all the men whining and crying about how women don't give them a change are hypocrites because they would lose interest if these women would give them a chance. And these "nice" guys also have very high standards.

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