Starting over

Sea_Purple2104 · 2024-02-18T21:28:51+00:00

31 isn’t old. I had my first child when I was 30.

Rare-Ad-3542 · 2024-02-17T21:46:21+00:00

Women can be deceptive. And your fears and feelings are valid. Time can only tell one’s true intentions. This whole love thing is a gamble. But try by all means to lead with your head and not your heart and peen only

SuperConfused40 · 2024-02-16T00:50:28+00:00

Read no more mr nice guy. Apply it to your life.

Beamformer · 2024-02-14T23:06:55+00:00

I started dating again in my mid 50s after decades of marriage. It took a minute to get my confidence back up. It helped just seeing how many single women are out there. The woman I'm with now is 15 years younger than me. Personally i found much more age difference than that and the culture/gen/life stage stuff starts to be a bigger issue... or they want kids.

Wrong_Okra9736 · 2024-02-14T21:38:49+00:00

Build yourself up. I know what you’re feeling. I was divorced last year and it felt like it was over. 35 and single again. I hit the gym, started a diet and found new hobbies. Tonight I am going out with a wonderful woman that I recently met. It’s our 3rd date in a week. I NEVER thought I’d be here again. Put the effort in. You’ll attract the right people. Build your confidence

DCnative2020 · 2024-02-14T17:26:28+00:00

you are 31. you can still get women in their 20s. You have nothing to worry about. You can easily find another partner and be remarried (if you want) by 35. That is still young.

Flimsy-Ad-1959 · 2024-02-14T14:54:02+00:00

I’m 47 and starting over again for the second time. I have hope that when I heal myself and come back stronger I’ll be able to find the right woman for me out there. Instead of picking the wrong girls I’m not compatible with. Taking this time to find out who you are again. Level yourself up in whatever way makes you happy. You are so young. And got many great years ahead of you. I promise.

dday_throwaway3 · 2024-02-14T12:53:33+00:00

> Im now 31 and potentially divorced thinking to myself by the time I find someone else I’ll be too old.

I have two sons. I've told them both they need to focus on their career and getting their life together before they think about having a family. Mid thirties is when that happens.

> Also Im almost scared of women now

Take this time to reconstruct yourself. Women are not attracted to weak men.

Dramatic-Ad7192 · 2024-02-14T05:00:07+00:00

Bruh you’re younger than I am. You could still get mid 20s women who are childless. I’m left with single moms and broken spirits

slow-motion-pearls · 2024-02-14T02:44:01+00:00

Fuck that be lucky you didn’t have kids at least

Android_1234 · 2024-02-14T02:35:59+00:00

Married for over 10 years and my ex blindsided me with the divorce. I would have never guessed it was coming. I am 33 and have had all the same thoughts you have. I've been doing a lot of soul searching and reflection these last few weeks. With the support of this community and using the recommendations provided here, it does get a little easier each day.

You have a life ahead, whether that's 1 year or 50 years. We have both seen that we can't control or worry too much about the future because it obviously doesn't turn out how we would expect at all. Seize each day and take it for what it is. There is no being too old, we need to seek purpose and happiness each day and the rest will take care of itself.

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2024-02-14T02:33:18+00:00

You’re really young dude. Use your constructive energy to find some new trim

Title	Starting over
Author	fffrdcrrf
Upvotes	19
Comments	24
Date	February 14, 2024 2:24 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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