Am I a Sugar Daddy?

Dickbag4206969 · 2022-07-04T11:51:03+00:00

DO NOT CUM INSIDE HER FOR GODS SAKE MAN 🛐 that's all I'd say. Rest, I've got too less of an info to say anything about her.

Hmurie · 2022-07-04T14:40:01+00:00

You’re nutting in her/pulling out? No condom? No birth control? She’s half your age? Begging to be cream-pied? And works at fucking hooters?

Buddy I say this with as much respect as I can and to get it through your head, you’re a fucking moron.

NONE of us AND I MEAN NONE OF US, are going to be surprised when this girl gets pregnant and traps you with alimony for the next 18 years, and when she gets pregnant all that amazing sex you have been having and her “nurturing” quality’s vanish into thin air just like your savings account.

Do yourself a favour and listen to your gut, yes your a sugar daddy, yes she likes you for the free shit, yes she likes you enough to fuck you, and yes your playing with fucking red steaming hot fire.

abhilives · 2022-07-04T12:13:58+00:00

This is a nice temporary relationship to have, she is the perfect side chick. You clearly know that she's not qualified for a long term real relationship. Enjoy it while it lasts

letsgetrandy · 2022-07-04T12:13:18+00:00

Yeah, you’re pretty much a sugar daddy. Don’t knock it… you’re enjoying what you get out of the deal, right?

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-07-04T14:19:25+00:00

She's 100% using you, but if you're enjoying it, then no harm no foul. Just don't expect a committed relationship and always wear a condom.

theosamabahama · 2022-07-04T13:44:18+00:00

Just don't expect her to love you and don't cum inside her (or get a vasectomy). She is a hot fun hooters girl who wants to fuck you. It is exactly as it sounds.

OneWorld87 · 2022-07-04T13:13:49+00:00

Banging a hooters girl, paying for everything and she wants to get pregnant.

Bro...

5_7pickup · 2022-07-04T13:15:17+00:00

I would start the definition of sugar daddy with an allowance, not just paying for dates. Tons of simpy losers pay for dates all the time but at least youre getting sex.

I see no problem paying for dates and even experiences. Thats just a high value trait. However, make sure youre getting what you want out of the relationship or else youre just simping. Now when if you start giving her an allowance, thats questionable territory.

Embarrassed-Bid6576 · 2022-07-04T13:21:50+00:00

Your 39.. dude, go get a vasectomy and stop worrying about your nut.. as long as she is DDF, cum in her all you want. Hell man you don’t even have to tell her your snipped.

WellDressedCaveman · 2022-07-04T14:19:58+00:00

Do what I did. Get a vasectomy and don’t tell the ones that you think are trying to trap you. Let them keep working for that cum.

Silver-Variation8903 · 2022-07-04T13:15:59+00:00

doesn’t contact first

has guy friends

doesn’t pay for anything (or offer)

begs you to cum inside her

Yeah… you’re a sugar daddy, kind of, but you’re also a target to baby trap, which is infinitely times worse than being a sugar daddy. Never cum inside her AND use condoms every time.

Wrap your condom in tissue when you’re finished and flush it down the toilet. (You’d be surprised what women will do with used condoms to impregnate themselves)

Honestly the sensible move is to cut all contact, but I understand how she can be so hot you don’t want to do that. But don’t fuck up your life just because a woman is hot, always use condoms.

She’s trying to baby trap you dude because you’re a provider.

eszibit · 2022-07-04T12:34:23+00:00

Yeap, a lot of red flags here. Keep her as a good fuck but not wife material

Shotgun516 · 2022-07-04T12:55:35+00:00

Why don’t you just date other women and have her around as a side chick?

Ok-Physics5106 · 2022-07-04T14:22:46+00:00

Sounds like she’s your girlfriend and you paying for things is part of the appeal going for an older guy. That’s expected when you’re dating younger. Usually in my experience if there is a huge income gap she’ll still want to pay occasionally just to show you she wants to contribute but it’ll be 98% you in that situation.

Her wanting you cum inside to me means she’s serious long term. People call that baby trapping but you’re pushing 40 now, you’re not a kid in college with his whole life in front of him. I think she wants to be wifey just based on what you wrote.

TechnoGeek423 · 2022-07-04T13:55:30+00:00

Wow. US? What race is she ? I’m thinking she’s absolutely looking to get pregnant so you’re tied to her for LIFE.

MermaidOfScandinavia · 2022-07-04T12:52:24+00:00

The fact that she works at Hooters should already give you a clue.

creamyturtle · 2022-07-04T13:46:34+00:00

some girls never message first, its just how they are. you said she bought you stuff so she is thinking about you. I say just play it by ear and see how it goes. a hooters waittress gets a lot of attention so it comes with the territory. personally I would never date a girl that has guy friends but hey

Electrical-Agency-11 · 2022-07-04T15:17:50+00:00

Dude, cmon man.

This girl is totally lining you up to be her sustain with child support for the next 18 years.

Do this test, back off. Let her text you first and have her come to your place and cook you something.

Wear a freakin condom for christ's sake. She may be fucking other dudes and you can get an STD.

plaaya · 2022-07-04T15:40:58+00:00

Those meals she’s bringing you aren’t being paid for. They’re free. My advice I know it’s all good and fresh right now but she’s very immature for you and not someone you want to be with. She’s not the loving type of girl she doesn’t know love. I would take it as a loss and continue to be yourself and find a better girl for you maybe one that’s at least 28, 29

_je11y_bean · 2022-07-04T15:49:51+00:00

Bullet proof condom when you’re in these

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-07-04T12:01:10+00:00

You have already implicitly agreed to the kind of relationship you are having, so why do you expect her to change now? If you want to change the dynamic of the relationship because you've changed your mind, that's your right. But my feeling is you will let her get away with murder because she is "so hot".

mysterypurplesock · 2022-07-04T13:48:54+00:00

You’re not a sugar daddy. Paying for meals is the bare minimum, lol. If you’re giving her a weekly allowance, sure, you probably are. But paying for dates? Is this the bar for dating nowadays? Lol

wickedoldwood · 2022-07-04T13:17:31+00:00

3 is the biggest red flag

megamorphg · 2022-07-04T14:03:49+00:00

Sounds like a fantasy to me. Enjoy it while it lasts!

Revolutionary_Wind_8 · 2022-07-04T14:19:30+00:00

Qestions: Are you well off, financially? Is it obvious to others?

7GoodVibes · 2022-07-04T14:24:08+00:00

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Sh1td1cc · 2022-07-04T14:26:17+00:00

Get three more an see if she gets jealous or not…

ABUNDANCE MFKA

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-07-04T14:35:10+00:00

You’re getting finessed in real time, sir.

red__what · 2022-07-04T15:26:30+00:00

brags about finessing guys.

Game over son

Flexappeal · 2022-07-04T15:52:31+00:00

"However, she has brought me meals from her work (hooters)" lmao

EleoraHC · 2022-07-04T15:25:42+00:00

You are 39.. cmon be responsible and wear a condom

BouncyShroom · 2022-07-04T13:20:50+00:00

Scarcity at it's finest OP, no offence. If you had a selection of attractive girls in your life, you'd run away from this one in an instant. You know the relationship isn't right, because your on here asking for advice.

Please don't take offence, because I once was like you and oblivious to the red flags because she was hot. I'm assuming your wearing a condom. Have you asked her what would happen if she fell pregnant?

waverunnr · 2022-07-04T14:28:34+00:00

If you’re paying for everything, then you’re a SD. Then you have to decide if you’re OK with everything being transactional. Also have to decide if you’re cool with sharing her with her other clients.

Lamebrain_nz · 2022-07-04T14:58:29+00:00

How did you meet and end up hooking up with her? This sounds like she is trying to trap you into getting her pregnant and paying for her.

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2022-07-04T15:03:39+00:00

Im in a similar situation and its great. I wouldnt call myself a sugar daddy because its not “that” much money I’m spending. I do always pay for dinner and drinks. Thats totally fine for me. I dont buy her gifts, clothing, jewelry, shoes, vacations, etc.

Honestly, shes young and doesnt have that much money. Shes still in medical school, too. So, I get it. I also like taking girls out and picking up the tab. Kinda feels nice and manly from my perspective.

We have really good sex and see each other like once a week, 2 times max. Im totally fine with how we kick it. No drama, No labels, lotta respect and admiration for each other.

fuwbd · 2022-07-04T15:07:24+00:00

You are a sugar daddy. Good luck…

roaphaen · 2022-07-04T15:07:42+00:00

Get a vasectomy dude. You'll be back in business in no time and can blast in her all you want. Dont ever tell anyone.

My good friend had the same situation and was elated after his divorce. I told him have fun but don't get her pregnant. Fast forward 10 years, he's trying to negotiate a daughter and a divorce. She's not that cute any more, just like Amber Heard.

yiggaman · 2022-07-04T15:24:59+00:00

No you're not a sugar daddy. Keep doing what you're doing and when you can't do it anymore, you get the fuck outta there and don't look back. Don't cum in her either

bloodyblob · 2022-07-04T15:46:17+00:00

Yeahhh, there’s quite a few red flags in there… ask her upfront, tell her it makes you uncomfortable and want reassurance.

Nothing needy about wanting someone you’ve dated for 4 months to message first, at least some of the time. It feels nice!

furious6ix · 2022-07-04T16:00:56+00:00

Leave now buddy while you still can.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-07-09T16:23:55+00:00

1

39 m talking to a 24f.

Dating? You've gone well beyond talking. :P

2

We have went on probably 30 dates the last 4 months. Spent multiple days together go out together a lot. Sex for hours, met her friends and sister. It was honestly getting to the point of discussing exclusivity. However, couple red flags.

Sounds like it's getting serious. At least for you.

3

She never pays or even offers to pay anything meals/drinks

This indicates her values with regards to relationships and dating.

She obviously sees dudes as the ones who must pay.

Which is fine if you don't mind being that guy who does it all financially without your significant other doing anything directly.

4

brags about finessing guys.

Huge red flag. She's indicating her values and beliefs again.

She not only uses people but has a need to be seen as someone who has control over the men in her life.

Which means if she ever feels she doesn't have that control over you, there are a million things she can and will do to restore her feeling of control. None of which will be fun for you.

5

However, she has brought me meals from her work (hooters) and a couple bottles of alcohol patron and gifts.

Her using free (or discounted) food or alcohol from work doesn't come close to balancing out the situation. It's so low effort that it's ridiculous.

It's also possible that of she's juggling other dudes that she's just passing around gifts to you that she got from someone else.

6

So I'm pretty sure it's not a sugar daddy things, rides to the airport, she has claimed the age doesn't matter.

Not sure why you're fixated on the terminology. The important thing is: what is this relationship like and is it the kind of thing you want?

Fuck the terminology.

Also, her thoughts on whether age matters to her don't pertain to how balanced the interaction is.

7

She NEVER contacts me first. I don't want to bring this up as if to come across as needy. However I am holiday and we are going 4 days of her not asking me anything.

This is pretty imbalanced. In a healthy situation where you've met her family and friends, you'd probably have more regular contact. And it wouldn't require you always being the first one to reach out.

Considering how much she's talked about finessing dudes, this is probably an aspect of her exerting control over you by making you be the one to have to initiate.

8

Never had a girlfriend

Realize that this indicates you are in a vulnerable position because this is unfamiliar territory for you.

9

Begs for me to cum inside of her and she isn't on birth control.

Dude. Obviously a huge red flag.

She's willing to get pregnant by a guy that she really doesn't seem to care that much for one way or the other.

And she's okay with it because you check off the economic boxes. Which is a terrible basis for anything other than a business transaction.

10

.... only has guy friends.

Under the circumstances, this comes off as a red flag because obviously she's going to have guys in that group that she's grooming to be the next one.

11

This girl is just too hot and has nurturing qualities I didn't mention...

People who are manipulative or abusive have to have ways of keeping people close or no one would put up with their shit.

Title	Am I a Sugar Daddy?
Author	Ok-Physics5106
Upvotes	114
Comments	122
Date	July 4, 2022 11:43 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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3 is the biggest red flag