Is it even possible to be good with women and have a 9-5 job?

2022-04-14T19:32:12+00:00

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Atibana · 2022-04-14T18:58:29+00:00

Hey bud, everyone is hating on you a bit but I know what you mean. The simple answer is it’s possible but hard like a lot of things in life. You have to make the uncomfortable decision of choosing to grow and go out over time wasted in cold comforts like tv etc. Maybe try and focus on things that give you energy. Things like a half hour nap when you get home or more exercise etc. in regards to corporate world making you have less of a personality this just isn’t true, it’s just harder to have one because you’re tired. Best of luck to you.

Distraughtsugardaddy · 2022-04-14T18:59:32+00:00

I’ll agree with you. I’ve been in the corporate world over 10 years and it’s just been absolutely brutal for meeting women. I’m in a male dominated industry and the 9-5 grind really just beats you down and allows for only friday or Saturday nights.

But it’s not about the free time it’s about the lifestyle. I started bartending on the side and it’s elevated my social life 100x than working corporate.

I’m eventually trying to find a way completely out of the corporate crap. It sucks. But the money is good and comft

creamyturtle · 2022-04-14T19:59:30+00:00

100%. when you work a mentally demanding job, it drains your soul. you don't feel like going out or being energetic, and your brain is full of crap from work to think about. so it's hard to just turn that switch off and go be mr. cool guy for a few hours. then when you bring a girl home and do all the fun stuff, you still gotta wake up at 7am and get back out there. it's hard to have a spontaneous late night adventure with work in the morning

ronopibf · 2022-04-14T21:18:54+00:00

Quit your job!

I'm not joking. I also worked the 9-5 for awhile but I lived frugally and saved a ton. I recently quit and now traveling the world for a few years with my savings. The benefit is twofold: game is easier in different parts of the world and you have more time to practice game or anything now that you freed up 40+ hours in your week. This may sound extreme but extreme results require extreme measures.

Not sure about all the hate you're getting. While it's true that you can still get good at game with a 9-5 job, it's not optimal. You make a valid argument that some people have the unfair advantages of more time (and energy). You can't control being a trust fund baby but you can save drastically and quit the 9-5 to buy back your time with money.

SantoSturmio · 2022-04-14T19:23:56+00:00

That issue doesn't just effect meeting women but life has a whole Modern work culture really is cancer

championshipsorbust · 2022-04-14T19:05:10+00:00

Yeah basically every average person has a 9-5. Getting lots of dates basically relies on looks/prestige/money. Be decent in all 3 and be really stand out in 1.

Zyzz2179 · 2022-04-14T20:28:32+00:00

Damn alot of college dudes or guys that never had a stressful job commenting like it's so damn easy lol.

francescoli · 2022-04-14T19:26:26+00:00

Of course it is.

Ordinary_Yam1866 · 2022-04-14T19:32:59+00:00

XxLogitech98xX · 2022-04-14T18:27:22+00:00

I had the most success with women when I was either in college or out or job. Mainly because I had all the time in the world to approach, was able to work out and had all day to relay.

If you can't be good with women and work at the same time, then you have a bigger issue.

1keentolearn12 · 2022-04-14T18:26:21+00:00

Stop making excuses and get better

REANIMATED-TROOPER · 2022-04-14T19:00:38+00:00

Let’s say you work 9-5, 5 days a week, 6 at the absolute most

If you don’t take work home and your commute isn’t insanely long, you can still have time to workout in the gym and be in good shape

You also mentioned you make good money, so good clothes and a minimum of money, you got those two checked out

Also you can use your spare time during the week to listen to podcasts, gain knowledge in areas you’re interested in, learn an instrument or something you’re interested in and develop an interesting personality

You can still use tinder, go out at night (let’s your work is tight and you need to get some good sleep) so you can only go out friday, Saturday, and maybe sunday

You can approach thousands of women in these three days, if you got the gym and good clothes covered your appearance won’t be a problem

If you use online dating, you can be more efficient and grow your rotation circle efficiently through chats and such, you can get likes and matches while you’re at work, you have good money, you can pay tinder premium

So if you give it your absolute 100% every weekend, (plus any other week day at night you may have free, idk your exact work situation, it’s variable so you may or may not be able to) and use online dating, and ACTUALLY TRY

You can 100% make progress

Shit is 100% possible if you actually want it, if you don’t you’ll find excuses

jmora13 · 2022-04-14T19:32:39+00:00

No. All men who work a 9-5 are incels.

/s

Ginekolog93 · 2022-04-14T18:53:52+00:00

I currently work in the oil field about 50-60 hour weeks. I’m talking to 3 women and managing just fine. I’m also not fit at all. Not all women find money and fitness attractive

Kindawest · 2022-04-14T18:44:42+00:00

You have from 6pm till 12am to go out and do what you want. The only time it’s reasonable to say work gets in the way, is when you work 12+ hours a day everyday. Don’t blame your job, blame yourself.

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Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-04-14T18:41:56+00:00

Look into getting a job that's less stressful if it's affecting your game this much?

MountainGoatSC · 2022-04-14T18:42:45+00:00

The corporate grind def is an obstacle but far from insurmountable

neko9696 · 2022-04-14T19:11:44+00:00

I served in combat 3 times with woman, safe to say that’s a stressful job! I have several female friends and have no problem. Sex life thats another issue

jayfoxpox · 2022-04-14T19:15:53+00:00

Of course lol, you just need to find girls with a similar schedule. If you're a man with decent money and in ok shape its you're set. If you feel like your currentl lifestyle from work is making you too tired to get girls then it may be more of a work-life balance issue. Sometimes money and career takes priority and I personally like to use online dating since not much investment is needed to look for girls and I can have a phone date instead of meeting out for coffee before deciding if I want to invest more time into the girl.

youngmind1906 · 2022-04-14T19:22:06+00:00

Hilao nd so jao

2022-04-14T19:40:48+00:00

Most men who are good with women work in 9 to 5 jobs because that is what most of us do.

GotThaAcid5tab · 2022-04-14T19:43:37+00:00

MASTER your finances and SHAKE it up!

norwegiandoggo · 2022-04-14T18:34:04+00:00

You're in the wrong job. Plain and simple. If you're not excited to go to work, then that's a bad job to be in. You're selling your soul and women can tell.

Elligible_Bachelor · 2022-04-14T19:51:35+00:00

I think you’re getting in your own head. 9-5 is like easy mode for me and I have a high stress job. Maybe learn to relate better to it. Be proud of putting in a days work and it gives you energy.

steegyy · 2022-04-14T19:01:26+00:00

I feel you. I feel like I only have time to do my thing Friday night or Saturday. Used to be able to find time all week. Feel like I'm missing alot of opportunities with no time really after work gym diet sleep during the week.

Nullroute127 · 2022-04-14T19:46:08+00:00

The corporate world can be soul sucking. You feel like a nameless cog in a wheel whose only job is to make money for shareholders.

Men who suffer with crises of purpose suffer with women, it's not necessarily related to the job that they do. Plenty of 9-5 guys that love what they do at large corporations, feeling like their work generates either work inherently (the product of the work is fulfilling directly at a spiritual level) OR they feel like their work enables them to achieve their spiritual goals (Ex. An accountant that doesn't particularly like accounting, but is rewarded by providing for his family that he does find fulfilling).

The 'rich parents' guy and the fitness/lifestyle coach are likely having very different experiences. The former may be getting high quantities of shallow gold diggers, for example. The latter are probably better at seduction because their work and interactions come from a place of competence. I'm not saying every person born into a rich family can't be deep or have genuine connections - but you really have to look to see if they're fulfilled.

RememberToEatDinner · 2022-04-14T19:58:37+00:00

I totally get where you are coming from. The simple answer is it is totally possible, but it is work. Just like staying in shape and maintaining friendships is work. Be lucky you have a 9-5 job I guess? I work like 8-5:30.

n0wmhat · 2022-04-14T20:10:53+00:00

try working a 6 am to 5 buddy you got loads of time

Calamity__Bane · 2022-04-14T20:17:15+00:00

Absolutely, especially if you have a job that involves the use of social skills

TrustNothing · 2022-04-14T20:35:01+00:00

9-5 haha lucky

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-04-14T20:37:08+00:00

Yeah that is true you have less time for it. I work ~50 hours a week and get laid very infrequently (like 2 times a week from one or two of the girls I’m seeing, who I met off bumble). It’s tougher for us, but doable.

RentStillDue · 2022-04-14T20:42:23+00:00

Is this a serious question?

2022-04-14T21:13:25+00:00

And now imagine how students feel about Covid being a thing...:(

HapMeme · 2022-04-14T21:14:26+00:00

Try to make it extreamly early and be like form 6 to 2 and have the rest of the day for lifestyle,and sleep only 7- 8 hours. It's gona feel way better and have more time

Night_Hawk1 · 2022-04-14T21:33:36+00:00

I work 10-12 hour days and have 2-3 girlfirends whom i see regularly. There is time. make it.

HowToStud · 2022-04-14T21:37:07+00:00

Yeah dude you just need an exciting life outside of work. Use that interesting life to take good pics. Use those good pics to maximize options on dating apps and social media. Set up dates for the weekend.

Obviously you have to work on yourself and develop areas you’re lacking. Body, social skills, game and etc.

Depends on age honestly but I’d say this strategy would work for all.

AuremYT · 2022-04-14T21:47:58+00:00

Everyone hating on this guy, you are a bad person. You are the negative, you belittle and conspire against people genuinely asking for advice and are your or others past experiences as justification to insult him. Stop it and grow up, there are assholes in this world and you are it if you insult him or upvote you agree.

mrrooftops · 2022-04-14T21:47:59+00:00

You're crazy. Stop looking for things to hold you back and work with the cards dealt to you.

Hmmkey · 2022-04-14T21:54:05+00:00

Haha i spent the last years getting decent with women and I just got hired for a 9-7 and was quite wondering how the fuck I am going to manage my dating life

Ineedanswers6789 · 2022-04-14T22:05:35+00:00

I’m quitting my soul sucking job in about 2 weeks🤷🏽‍♂️

twizzle08 · 2022-04-14T22:06:08+00:00

No dude, literally not to put you down but the second you start thinking like this you lost. You need to just keep on going. The people you mentioned don't think twice about it affecting their love lives.

The best advice is to not worry about stuff like that. It doesn't matter your just displacing the problem

awakened_celestial · 2022-04-14T22:09:54+00:00

Well with that attitude no it’s not possible. But stay positive in both areas and it’s definitely possible

Sterndaddy13 · 2022-04-14T22:16:58+00:00

Try if you work 12-16 hr shifts and they aren't always the same times or days then see how hard it is :)

jejunum32 · 2022-04-14T22:17:49+00:00

Lose your concern about what women think about you. Then you can game.

Sandvicheater · 2022-04-14T22:22:43+00:00

So you got a 9-5 job that pays well and you're having trouble landing women? Stop being a cheap skate and use that cash. Upgrade your car, your clothes, etc. Take her to fancier dates and expensive concerts. Most women aren't gold diggers but a dude's finances are a VERY big factor and if you could that you can "provide" then dating shouldn't be a problem.

Bay_area_415 · 2022-04-14T22:29:44+00:00

Try shift work and then complain. Get off work at 1am and still getting pussy

Live-Ad-6309 · 2022-04-14T22:44:37+00:00

Obviously yes. If it wasn't then humanity would probably go extinct and no marriage would last longer than 2 years.

Those are just the PUAs you see. Most of the dude pulling are doing it stealthily. They're not advertising it all over social media to build a brand. They're just having fun.

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Flashy-Solution-8983 · 2022-04-14T23:09:37+00:00

My suggestion would be do both

Sleep is the most important thing Take a break from work for a few months Get your health in line Your mindset and habits food etc sleep Travel 2-3 places Find one regular partner

And then get back on the coast

palatine09 · 2022-04-14T23:11:16+00:00

No it’s impossible, just ask the vast majority of couples who work 9-5 and have a relationship. You won’t find a single one pal. Doomed.

2022-04-14T23:19:47+00:00

I agree. Generally they work in lower stress jobs. I don’t know any men who work 60+ hour weeks (that they hate) and regularly pull random women every week. I’m not saying it doesn’t exist ever - I just can’t remember any off the top of my head. Most guys I know who pull women are rich from mom and dad, work low stress jobs, and have a combination of good looks & game & low standards. (Last three being the most important, imo)

It’s important to emphasize the type of work too. I get paid anywhere from $400k-1m/yr (I switch jobs a lot and stock value whiplashes violently). My work is like deepthroating donkey dick and I fucking hate it. Wish I was an ass that loved it but it just ain’t me. Lotta hours either physically or mentally. Leaves ya completely drained. I barely have the energy to go to the gym or make myself a meal on any given day - let alone go out, talk to some vapid 20-somethings with no brains, and try to feel some level of attraction to a brain dead corpse of a person. I had energy for that 10 years ago but after being married - nah.

I’ll just say this to end it - I don’t think most men have the energy for this shit if they deal with toxic corporate hell everyday. (No matter the $$$) And on a more personal note - it just sucks anyway. You should try to just switch into a better job. Truth is - if the job drains you dry - your woman will leave you anyway even if you do grab one and keep her. If your goal is to just hit n quit then whatever but you may as well just work on looks maxxing at that point and give up everything else as room for improvement because that’s all that truly matters for that. (And lowering your standards - for sure)

v3in4 · 2022-04-15T01:49:49+00:00

I worked 70 hours a week. Woke up ass crack of dawn ( 4am) and left around 5pm 6days a week. No, it's not possible. I had to tell my job it was either 5 days a week 10 hour days or I was gonna quit. I'm 32 and want a family. Money ain't everything. Wish i made this decision 3 years ago. Best wishes.

Title	Is it even possible to be good with women and have a 9-5 job?
Author	ohropax
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Date	April 14, 2022 6:24 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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