How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your place

Gibnez · 2022-07-16T10:30:25+00:00

Great advice, so many guys overthink everything and it doesn’t do them any favors.

Kron1138 · 2022-07-16T09:55:05+00:00

This is by far the best advice on this sub. It’s not that complicated. Women want to feel safe and have fun.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-07-16T15:09:42+00:00

Well said. There's a bit more to it such as maximizing your attractiveness to get the date in the first place and making sure your logistics are on point too (your own place that's not too far away and isn't a mess + not scheduling the date too late), but otherwise you hit the nail on the head.

I use that exact strategy on all of my first dates and it works like a charm. And if she doesn't want to come over or if she does, but doesn't want to fuck, just be cool about it and plan for a 2nd date. She will definitely want to fuck on that one.

bigjwappa · 2022-07-16T09:13:35+00:00

I enjoy flirting with women so I'm not always looking for the simplest way possible, if I can tease her a bit first and potentially build her excitement more, I will.

modsRlameIRL · 2022-07-16T10:31:50+00:00

Disclaimer: Be attractive

cloutier85 · 2022-07-16T17:35:04+00:00

Women love food, music, travel and adventure. If you can be knowledgeable and excel in them or have great stories, you will do well.

red__what · 2022-07-16T18:08:10+00:00

don't overthink.

The woman is thinking the same as you 50% of the time

Electric_kundalini · 2022-07-16T20:15:41+00:00

Guys won't like the simplicity on this sub. They prefer an overcomplicated thesis on how to pickup Women.

Great post btw. Too many guys overcomplicate and wonder why they get nowhere with Women.

jjboy91 · 2022-07-17T15:47:41+00:00

The main problem is "decent looking guy"

18cmOfGreatness · 2022-07-20T05:26:19+00:00

None of that push pull, neg, shit testing, Dhv story pick up stuff.

Those are just tools that imitate what high value guys do. Negs are mostly used to open chicks that would simply ignore you otherwise. Shit testing is something that girls do, not you, and they're going to do it either you know about the concept of ST or not. In the same way you don't even need to know about them to pass them, as long as you're a cool guy you'll pass all tests without any effort. Push pull, a real one, is just about playing around with emotions. And DHV is actually bad, really high value guys demonstrate something else - IDGAF attitude, which means that you can make fun both of her and of herself, telling her outrageous stuff that would make you look really bad. That's the opposite of DHV, actually. A really confident guy can say shit like "I escaped my mom's basement just to meet you, so be grateful" or something even more ridiculous. Because he doesn't care.

drakenrijder · 2022-07-16T14:41:50+00:00

What if you don’t drink alcohol? Please help

montanalombardy · 2022-07-16T20:15:48+00:00

Look man if I could have a normal easy going conversation about nice things on command, I wouldn't be searching reddit for advice.

CarsonWentzisnotit · 2022-07-17T18:20:43+00:00

A little more complicated than that… I think. Have a normal conversation yes, but not a bland one. One that’s is flirtatious.

And I say “I think” because I’ve noticed something that I am still wondering if I am seeing exceptions instead of the rule. I see a lot of mediocre guys have bland, boring but long conversations with girls and they seem to have success with it. It’s like as long as they stick with the conversation they are still in it. For me, if I am having a conversation that is bland or even super logical and serious without lots of joking teasing and banter, I don’t feel that the conversation is leading towards sex.

justatouch589 · 2022-07-16T13:39:35+00:00

What the hell is fashion?

anon018274031 · 2022-07-16T10:03:59+00:00

Good advice. Bravo 👏

TheDimLighter · 2022-07-16T17:36:53+00:00

What if you’re short?

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2022-07-16T21:30:43+00:00

Yeah. Once in a decade there will be a desperate horny chick who doesnt give a f how beta you are w no game, and will sleep w you regardless

Little. But still a chance. Ngl

Social_cynicism · 2022-07-22T23:26:20+00:00

Perfect plan. She says no thank you, then what?

coachmelloweyes · 2022-07-16T21:37:31+00:00

This is only going to work if she’s highly attracted to you, friends have loads of nice conversations… if you don’t polarise and make it man to women, fat chance she suddenly sees you as a sexual creature.

NeuroticKnight · 2022-07-16T22:54:56+00:00

So no impersonating Ben Shapiro during the date.

Tough ask, but ill try

SaigonNoseBiter · 2022-07-17T01:13:09+00:00

I've always said that just being normal in conversation puts you ahead of 95% of guys.

Joy_Boy96 · 2022-07-22T03:42:11+00:00

Doesn’t work in reality.

DirtyBeanbag69 · 2022-08-03T16:55:30+00:00

Just be confident bro. And don't forget to lift in the shower and check your macros.

hakunamatata2021 · 2022-08-06T20:45:31+00:00

“If you’re a decent looking guy….blah blah…, then you will get laid…..blah blah”

Simply_Bry · 2022-07-16T14:05:50+00:00

When you're tall and good looking this will work. Not when you're short (165cm) and skinny. Then you need to have exceptional game and spike her emotions constantly (using push/pull method).

biokaizen · 2022-07-16T12:16:11+00:00

Even better:

1/4 tinder girls (with which you can meet to take coffee or whatever) will accept an invitation to go to your home if you ask for it, just ask it on tinder when you were talking about have a date.

Just say "what if we see your favorite movie in my home, I have a popcorn reserved for you, just if you share it".

If she go to your home is 90% chances of fuck her. Avoid stupid and useless plans like take coffee or beers. Reject girls who dont want to go to your home at 1st dates

FishyBricky · 2022-07-17T01:55:04+00:00

Bottle of wine at your place is not safe for her. She doesn’t know you and men should never suggest this for the for a first date. First few dates should be in a public location. If she wants to see your place, she’ll ask.

Commercial_Habit_923 · 2022-07-17T02:58:17+00:00

OP means conversation in person right?

SonOfSatan · 2022-07-17T07:46:06+00:00

You are right, but this isn't really advice, it's more like stating a fact and it offers nothing to men who are socially inept and insecure. This 'advice' is tantamount to the old "just be yourself" line, most people who are looking for help will hear that and think "what the fuck are you talking about?"

Social_cynicism · 2022-07-17T08:13:17+00:00

You failed at giving advice the second you assumed that she actually replied to the conversation

MickIsBlue · 2022-08-04T14:36:38+00:00

I hate posts like these

ohropax · 2022-07-16T15:24:25+00:00

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HoneySquash · 2022-07-16T12:11:48+00:00

Yeah, not that simple, sounds more like you trying to be her friend. If the the girl really likes you and is less reserved then maybe this could work, but usually you need to build rapport and attraction with her.

zenboy_69 · 2022-07-18T07:20:44+00:00

There is much more to seduction than this simplistic nonsense.

big_dong_de_jong · 2022-07-16T10:31:29+00:00

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zystyl · 2022-07-16T12:05:55+00:00

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keepdointhat · 2022-07-17T08:20:38+00:00

Agree, only I replace wine with tea. Prefer for us both to stay fully sober.

deepintoabyss · 2022-08-12T23:46:21+00:00

Thank you for this advice!

tsun_tsun_tsudio · 2022-07-16T13:40:35+00:00

Yes x a million. A great conversation will open more doors than a stupid set of steps.

ReorgAtty · 2022-07-16T14:30:50+00:00

These are the kinds of posts that people here need to see. 100% accurate.

CODLad · 2022-07-16T11:44:01+00:00

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-07-16T15:29:32+00:00

I think most gentlemen struggle with the initial hurdle of breaking the ice.

The eighty /twenty rule.

It's twenty percent what you say, and eighty percent what you do.

Avoid the habit of embellishing yourself through prose. Show your worth on your sleeve.

I wouldn't get tripped up over what is said as much as wearing the right clothes, cologne, grooming etc. It makes a significant difference.

There's not a whole lot of calculation involved; if there was, it wouldn't be engaging and fun.

GalaCad2003 · 2022-07-16T18:02:48+00:00

What if your not old enough to drink

eeoflorida · 2022-07-16T18:29:26+00:00

I agree. Also being funny and confident is important

weredog31 · 2022-07-16T18:49:48+00:00

They generally say no but this is also a way :)

ashwheee · 2022-07-16T19:06:01+00:00

I am a woman and I approve this message. Why do some y’all make it so difficult? This is the #1 way to do it.

Also make sure the house is clean and stocked well (towels, trash cans, snacks and drinks, etc)

ohropax · 2022-07-16T20:29:45+00:00

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testfreak377 · 2022-07-16T21:06:45+00:00

It is cool if I DONT drink but still offer her one ?

heysoundude · 2022-07-16T22:04:49+00:00

This Is The Way.

thelogbook · 2022-07-16T22:25:45+00:00

what can i do as i don’t touch any alcohol?

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-07-16T23:26:50+00:00

haha funny thing is that's how chicks pull me😂 only two have done that so it's a joke but still it's true, if she wants it she wants it

neolithicrevolution · 2022-07-17T00:27:08+00:00

Great advice!

JB_NSA · 2022-07-17T00:41:42+00:00

Dumb question... what about those of us who don't drink? How. An we alter this with the same results?

FennelDefiant9707 · 2022-07-17T01:42:16+00:00

What if they do not drink alcohol ?

infinity-cubed · 2022-07-17T03:34:50+00:00

someone finally said it lol, just be able to hold a conversation and have good hygiene (cologne never hurts imo) ☺️

finallypickup · 2022-07-17T10:45:15+00:00

this is the fucking core of all of it. say hi. say words. wanna come up to my place and see my pet frog? she knows there's no frog bro.

the other stuff is great to improve but you need to be comfy with that basic premise first, of introducing yourself and just having a regular conversation.

runaround_fruitcop · 2022-07-18T06:58:57+00:00

As a woman. Jesus Christ. Thank you. If I know you and we have talked. Invite me over with implications of sex and it might just happen. Lead me on through a maze of bullshit that leaves me confused with anxiety and left upset by the over complicated crap versus everyone being on the same page.

Women fuck casually too. We aren't all slaves to our wittle emotions

isaacnewtonx40 · 2022-07-18T18:16:00+00:00

100% I’ve been doing this for years. Trying to implement new behaviors might be seen as incongruence which can lose attraction. Nature is simple. One sex is attracted to the opposite sex.

2022-07-29T16:34:35+00:00

In Christian tradition, you wait until marriage. In some Jewish traditions, you wait until engagement. Either way, it’s for a solid reason: If you have sex without a plan, & the relationship doesn’t work, you could easily lose friends or be unable to make new ones who know her. If you have sex without a plan, & a baby is on the way, you could be in a real pickle. There are tons of reasons to hold back.

I love how you say no mind games though. So many of us are so scarred by bad experiences with the wrong ones that we accidentally do things to push away the right ones. Mind games are among them.

WWJJF · 2022-07-31T18:08:43+00:00

You don’t have to make up an excuse, just ask her.

Davos7941 · 2022-08-08T20:32:49+00:00

Been there done that 😎

Peanut0423 · 2022-08-10T01:05:25+00:00

I don’t drink

claritynow66 · 2022-08-12T05:41:12+00:00

This is pure gold my friend.

somethinlikeshieva · 2022-08-13T21:51:16+00:00

What if I haven’t been outside of my city in a month, fake it til I make it?

saint_anger_snare · 2022-08-14T04:52:05+00:00

Unfortunately, it's hard to suggest something like that without risking being seen as a creep by the girl. So friendly conversation only stays as that, friendly. Which isn't bad at all, women can be just as good of friends as men. But it also means that nothing more will ever happen

South-Praline5860 · 2022-08-15T00:43:59+00:00

What if she asks: “Why to your place though? We can go somewhere else” I can sense some women shitesting with this. Also, I think that most of them will feel like sluts if they downright accept to crashing at my place. So with that said, one should ask that question after talking to her for a bit of time right?

domdomdom333 · 2022-08-15T11:06:29+00:00

Noted: be rich so u own a place to invite anyone to and not have to share a table with your parents and whoever you invited...

Title	How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your place
Author	ohropax
Upvotes	1302
Comments	331
Date	July 16, 2022 8:40 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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