can you call girls that aren't your girlfriend dear or babe?

norwegiandoggo · 2022-03-25T12:11:43+00:00

Risky move unless you're fucking. Can sometimes work but then it should be done playfully (banter). Can quickly backfire. If you're unsure, my recommendation is to default to not doing it

Demonarke · 2022-03-25T13:06:59+00:00

I wouldn't do that unless you are already flirting and there is some pretty clear sexual tension between the two of you.

Although "dear" seems a little bit oldish, babe is probably better in this modern age.

RaspberryCai · 2022-03-25T15:06:00+00:00

You can call them 'dear' if you happen to be a 60 year old Northern English woman, sure.

Spartan_Ace095 · 2022-03-25T12:10:43+00:00

It doesn’t matter. Don’t over analyze

2022-03-25T12:24:27+00:00

I prefer using honey or love when flirting.

odd_personOwO · 2022-03-25T14:57:37+00:00

i had some guy call me baby girl with not even talking for 5 minutes i noped my way out of that conversation

thecopps · 2022-03-25T14:48:55+00:00

It’s creepy and makes you look too cocky unless you all are involved lol. It a guy came up to me and called me babe I’d look for the quickest way out of that conversation

jwaters0122 · 2022-03-25T14:51:22+00:00

If you ever want a chance with them on a romantic level or just a friendly level, No.

They will most likely try to avoid conversating with you

AtTheEnd777 · 2022-03-25T13:07:52+00:00

Dear, maybe. Babe, absolutely not.

rockchawk · 2022-03-25T21:22:31+00:00

Creepy as fuck.

FunDudeJack · 2022-03-25T14:03:36+00:00

No. Next question

vroomvroomski · 2022-03-25T18:00:21+00:00

I call them dude, bro, my guy, homie, etc while also sexually flirting with them to throw them off.

I wanna see you naked my dude

MattRB02 · 2022-03-25T15:00:00+00:00

I would avoid “babe”

Redmrbean · 2022-03-25T12:13:25+00:00

Say darl or darls

MiKasX · 2022-03-25T15:00:34+00:00

Depends if a girl is interested or no, I guess.

TheCuriousBread · 2022-03-25T15:10:25+00:00

Only if you're British, if you're British you can even call them "love" but if you're a filthy American. No.

No-Department6252 · 2022-03-25T16:25:25+00:00

your thinking way too hard about something that doesn't matter

mrrooftops · 2022-03-25T16:42:07+00:00

Don't call anyone 'dear' unless you want to sound like an old grandmother.

Revolutionary_Art831 · 2022-03-25T18:20:34+00:00

How old are you if you don’t mind me asking

Delusical · 2022-03-25T19:53:17+00:00

I've only heard trashy waitresses or baristas call people babe and honey in a public setting.

014654 · 2022-03-25T20:21:03+00:00

If you want me to bitch slap you, sure

2022-03-25T20:23:36+00:00

Only if you're Indian /s

No. Some women interpret it as belittling or condescending, and others will be annoyed that you're being so familiar with them despite not knowing you that well.

faded-pixel · 2022-03-25T21:38:28+00:00

You can but it's kinda a creepy move to begin with

Hot_Farm_9443 · 2022-03-25T15:52:25+00:00

No. It comes off as creepy.

briefbrisket · 2022-03-25T15:14:05+00:00

During banter I would use something like doll, or sweetheart in a joking manner. Never seemed to hurt.

munchingcookies · 2022-03-25T14:57:48+00:00

context is key here. and emphasis. if it's said in a flirty way, it'll look like that. if it's said as a joke, it'll look like that.

personally I'll call girls whatever i dont overthink it. darlin, miss, babes anything. but I'm consistent so they know its me its friendly n nuttin more. u say it w confidence and dont make it the subject of what ur sayin its chill.

still dont b goin up to ur mates and start randomly callin em babygirl tho. match the vibes.

redditor4206903 · 2022-03-25T16:06:45+00:00

I call them slut/wife/gf and they enjoy it.

Idealbug67 · 2022-03-25T17:10:34+00:00

Say love or bae, but only if its clear they’re attracted to you. Also don’t throw it around in every sentence.

PositionCheap4472 · 2022-03-25T18:34:58+00:00

You can but I’d stear away from it. It’s kinda like marmite, some girls like it, the others hate it. Not worth the risk. Although saying that, I used to talk to a girl who hated it and it became an in joke for me to call her babe ironically.

FreeNicky95 · 2022-03-25T19:54:59+00:00

Bro you can call them whatever you want. If it’s the right context they won’t take it as like you professing your love for them.

2022-03-25T20:31:55+00:00

Dear, lovely one and stuff like this is completely okay. Babe is too much though. Culture group : central european (hungary)

JennaTellya70 · 2022-03-25T23:23:51+00:00

Creepy af

Gee-wiliker · 2022-03-25T12:39:52+00:00

If you don’t get told by the person to stop you’re good

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-25T14:15:19+00:00

They are all your girls. Treat them like future girlfriends on a long enough timeline they will all end up in bed with you.

GENTLEYJERKING · 2022-03-25T21:36:54+00:00

my go to is "shawty"

AccomplishedAd196 · 2022-03-25T21:53:53+00:00

Do it and find out. If they react weirdly, don't apologize. As long as you aren't rapey, you did nothing wrong. Some might like it, some might recoil. Who cares? Call her babe and, if she reacts weirdly, just laugh at it. If she has a boyfriend, however, don't go there.

The guys who call them babe are the guys who aren't afraid to start some sexual tension. They're the one a that put their hand on the small of their back when leading them somewhere.

014654 · 2022-03-25T13:38:48+00:00

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Innocenceislost · 2022-03-25T14:22:10+00:00

I sometimes use babe when im in a playful situation. Like "Look babe, i like you, but that was just mean." Etc

Either they get the friendly tone or they overthink it as a flirt. If so they will either react positively, or find themselves in a situation where they have to explain themselves.

2022-03-25T15:09:10+00:00

It depends but like the other guy said...don't think too much..if it comes naturally to you say it if not don't...some people talk like that...personally I don't say babe or dear but I am also not a playboy

senddita · 2022-03-25T15:09:31+00:00

marianoktm · 2022-03-25T15:14:02+00:00

It depends. I call literally everyone (male or female) with cute or wholesome words, so if I do this thing does not seem too much.

Just be playful while saying it and it's fine.

LandscapeClear1630 · 2022-03-25T15:26:47+00:00

I do it all the time lmao

unzMatthia · 2022-03-25T15:27:36+00:00

Maybe if you have a charming British accent

rinseme · 2022-03-25T15:28:17+00:00

Jesus. Honestly if you call a girl ‘babe’ that’s at least semi into you it’s not a dealbreaker AND if it did bother her unless your not a full on dick most women may call you out and cue you not to call her that.

Don’t over analyse this lol.

dwiggs81 · 2022-03-25T15:33:52+00:00

Woman I've been talking to for a bit sometimes calls me "my guy", or "my dude." I call her "sweetie" every once in a while, which is kind of a callback to last Christmas when we did a zoom fan reading of a Dr. Who Christmas special where I was The Dr. and she was River Song. It feels kinda good when she calls me my guy, and it just kinda slips out without my thinking about it when I call her sweetie. Nothing has been awkward about this ever.

I think this may be the key. If you're trying to put emphasis on it or overthink giving her a pet name, it'll be weird. If you've been talking long enough and it just comes out in the moment, all natural and shit, then it'll work out for the positive.

SithLordJediMaster · 2022-03-25T15:45:44+00:00

Girls call me that all the time when we don't even know each other.

I went to get a new tire and the cashier kept calling me love

MomsSpecialFriend · 2022-03-25T16:26:16+00:00

That depends on the established boundaries of your relationship. I would not be okay with that.

RedPillMeBaby · 2022-03-25T16:58:16+00:00

Hmmm if they're your close friends, sure. Otherwise, it can be a bit creepy and you take a risk to turn them down

FlatDistance5 · 2022-03-25T17:03:06+00:00

Of course you can my ex’s male friends used to do that shit until I told her to cut em off.

If she let you get away with it have fun.

But you have to keep the endgame in mind is calling her dear or babe gonna get you any closer to the pussy?

Skizznitt · 2022-03-25T17:26:49+00:00

Babe? Nah, dear maybe depends on the context. "Be a dear and grab me a soda when you're over there please."

BlancheCorbeau · 2022-03-25T17:33:07+00:00

You can do whatever you want, if you’re prepared to accept the consequences.

Why are you here asking us what to do, though? Why not get out in the world and run some experiments? The stuff that “works” changes all the time, and works differently for each person. You’re going to have to find your own way anyway, so why not jump in with both feet?

jjboy91 · 2022-03-25T17:47:21+00:00

Bffs

Blueberry314E-2 · 2022-03-25T18:14:44+00:00

Definitely risky. Every attractive girl has had some creepy old man call her those things on numerous occasions. I'd avoid unless very very confident. The exception is if she calls you those things first.

Joeytrib1985 · 2022-03-25T19:00:02+00:00

I personally believe those are terms of endearment made between established couples, unless otherwise specified. Be careful about their usage. And carry a big gun*

Last suggestion for comedic reasons!

everythingharam · 2022-03-25T19:09:55+00:00

What is she calls me “hun”?

Warden18 · 2022-03-25T19:10:28+00:00

You can, but results may vary.

Kronuk · 2022-03-25T19:30:58+00:00

I use baby if we're already getting into it with flirting and stuff, even if I don't know them that well, but that's how I talk. It's not weird or forced because of my delivery, tonality, and what I'm saying. Usually it's just to get their attention like, "Nah baby, listen".

blkwzrd_lite · 2022-03-25T21:14:22+00:00

Yeah give it a try and see what happens. If she don’t like it she don’t like you

Perfect_Brain_7964 · 2022-03-25T21:51:21+00:00

i say babe sometimes but only if we’re flirting, to start, i’d say i love you or something like that heavily flirting. i also say love too, that’s my british side lmao. i do it when we’re flirting hard tho. for context i’m 18m, so ig me being pretty young also makes a difference.

Rispy_Girl · 2022-03-25T22:39:53+00:00

No. When I'm called this I immediately distance myself from the guy mentally. I get a lot of foreign guys reaching out. Sometimes they want female attention that they don't have to stress over sometimes its a scam. Either way it's not useful to me and I don't have time for that.

Mc_Dickles · 2022-03-25T23:01:09+00:00

Luv is my go to

2022-03-25T23:08:48+00:00

Play dumb, take the a out, and call em bby

2022-03-25T23:20:18+00:00

I don't ever suggest using those lol, im a little younger so maybe it's not my place to give advice but as a dude I see it as desperate and creepy, I only use those ironically. Over time yes you could start using it unironically but tbh I just stay away from those. I only call them " bae". Usually as a joke but over time the girl will start messing wit me more and then I'll call her stuff. I tend to talk to girls about what they like being called " in both ways yk)" so whatever they say I'll center around that. Some girls like being more so praised in their nicknames and some like being kinda jokingly degraded ( loser ) (dummy) etc. I don't think it's a good idea to say something like that without knowing the girl ur talking to well. Because I've had girls who like being called princess unironically and other ones who like being called slut . If you say the wrong thing wit dat it'll be a turn off

rwalsh138 · 2022-03-25T23:31:02+00:00

Hell yea you can, but only if they’re giving you the vibe.

jogmanson00 · 2022-03-25T23:33:41+00:00

Risky but sometimes I will over text if im flirting/teasing, but not in a serious way.

Most of the time I’ll just say “love” like “no love, that’s not how that works” or something like that, def not babe

tysonchen3o3 · 2022-03-25T23:53:17+00:00

whatever she says, you can “usually” say back

014654 · 2022-03-26T00:29:01+00:00

If you feel it in the moment and your trolling, absolutely. If you come across trying to progress a social interaction rapidly into gf zone creepy. Take it slow, and stay busy

MartinPMP · 2022-03-26T00:46:20+00:00

you never hear sweetheart anymore, do we need to bring this back into the modern era?

SassyDeluxe · 2022-03-26T01:27:29+00:00

No. It's presumptuous and creepy af.

Chewbaccafruit · 2022-03-26T11:58:42+00:00

There's been one or two I'll flirt with at work but not really pursue and I'll call her darling or sunshine or something else that's a pet name of sorts but different enough that it's not overt

Title	can you call girls that aren't your girlfriend dear or babe?
Author	014654
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Date	March 25, 2022 11:58 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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