I (21M) feel like a loser because I'm still a virgin.

playingandrealityxxx · 2021-08-30T14:17:10+00:00

Being a virgin isn't a sign that something is wrong with you.

Placing such a desperate need and emphasis on sex is what is wrong with you though.

Trust me. Eliminate the desire and need for sex and it will come. Stop giving a shit.

You sound like you watch too much porn as well. Cut it down.

As soon as I'm in a really great life mode, improving, making good decisions, working on my body and diet... The women follows suit, naturally. I'm not saying don't seek it out and don't cast a wide net, but stop being inherently desperate.

Women can sense desperation and neediness subconsciously. They want to be wanted, but you need to have the vibe that youre strong and disciplined/motivated without them in your life, which you clearly are not.

So yeah, stop complaining, go work out, eat better, go do some positive hobbies and stop caring about sex.

Zeethos · 2021-08-30T18:33:36+00:00

Daily sex at 16 lmao. Plenty of normal men are virgins into their 20s

IntroMystique · 2021-08-30T14:38:55+00:00

There’s a lot more virgins at your age and older.

People are not willing to admit it so they lie.

Don’t let it bother you or you’ll forever walk around with this chip on your shoulder.

And no, it’s not too late. Learn how to “perk” yourself as much as possible and let go of expectations. Things will unfold before you.

Deadpoolia · 2021-08-30T12:21:31+00:00

Nothing is wrong with you, and there’s nothing wrong with being 21 and inexperienced. You would be surprised how many men out there say they’ve had a lot of sex, yet they still don’t know crap about how to actually satisfy a woman. Your friends may be getting some but who’s to say if they even know what they are doing! Lol Be patient it’ll come to you! I know it’s easier said than done, especially with what we are all going through at the moment. Honestly you aren’t missing much, I had the best times(including sex experiences) later. I would say between being 25-26 are the best young years! Of course we all want to get laid, just focus on yourself, it’ll come to you when you least expect it. Don’t ever ever feel like a loser. You are just moving at a different pace and that’s okay.

RegretsNothing1 · 2021-08-30T14:31:42+00:00

The comments are funny.

OP, it's not simply "mindset". There's is so much more to it. And I won't downplay the importance of sex and bonding like these reddit idiots always do. It's unhealthy for people to feel rejected and lonely for reasons you don't understand.

I lost mine at 25. The biggest reason was because I didn't go out at all. I had to bar hop for 6 months before I finally got lucky.

dreameater42 · 2021-08-30T16:58:04+00:00

women despise inexperienced men and I have no chance against experienced men.

The average person starts having sex daily at 16 or something so I think my inexperience is a death sentence

jesus christ lmao

fondlemysausage · 2021-08-30T14:24:47+00:00

Dude, I was 27. I then had a different girl every month for a year. Your mindset is what's wrong.

Possibility-Puzzled · 2021-08-30T14:03:24+00:00

Lol people are virgins at 30 or until they marry whichever is early in India

bonix · 2021-08-30T12:37:15+00:00

This post is what's wrong with you. You are whining and complaining about stuff that does not matter. This negative energy you are spewing out will definitely be felt by anyone you interact with. Stop comparing yourself to others. There is no rule about when people have sex, when it happens it happens. You should stop wasting time worrying about having sex and work on improving yourself.

kettlebell_workout · 2021-08-30T12:14:42+00:00

What a fucking cry baby.

I lost my virginity at 25 who cares.

2021-08-30T12:56:12+00:00

The best way to get women, when you don’t get women is to act like you already have a lot. That confidence is what gets you laid. That plus fixing up your appearance with well fitting clothes, a good haircut & a good body (i.e. Not fat, not skinny & if you have muscles it helps).

nokenito · 2021-08-30T14:24:55+00:00

Okay dude. Stop! I know of plenty of people who lost their virginity at your age or their late 20’s. And no, people don’t lose their virginity at 16 and have sex “daily”. Sure, they may tell you they are having sex daily, but it’s not true. Lose it when you are ready. No rush man, trust me. Chilllllllllll.

Docarky · 2021-08-30T18:06:15+00:00

Simple advice: you need some experience. The world always put pressure on you, to meet those standards, but what is important is just to listen yourself. When your mind tells you is time to face your fear…then you go! Success is part of this, you will never achieve something if you dont put yourself into it, it can be sex for the moment, you are young, but it can be even for work, friendship or even for greater goals. Once you get the motivation for change, you have already won! Enjoy life.

2021-08-30T18:16:18+00:00

If you’re a habitual coomer, like most virgins, you probably won’t be able to coom during the act of sex without the use of your hand. So you’ll actually seem very experienced due to the fact that you’ll be able to last 2 + hours.

TheBurningStag13 · 2021-08-30T21:19:29+00:00

Absolutely not, you’re 21 mate. To be completely honest with you, I’m a little envious..as there are Loads of women who love the idea of having someone inexperienced, and blowing their mind.

Lead with it, don’t ever hide it.

IfImhappyyourehappy · 2021-08-30T15:14:50+00:00

I was a virgin up until 25. Started going on dates for the first time at 25. I was expecting 15 to 20 rejections before getting a gf. First girl I dated was into me and I had to let her down. Second girl was also into me,b we ended up dating, then starting a one year relationship. After we broke up, I was able to get another gf a year later, who ended up becoming my wife. Just keep focusing on improving yourself and you'll be fine!

ProperDefinition6668 · 2021-08-30T16:07:17+00:00

Are you from India?

__thegodfather · 2021-08-30T18:19:45+00:00

Bro, I'll be 32 after two months and a virgin.

axe122 · 2021-08-30T20:59:32+00:00

From what I’ve seen The average person starts having sex between 17-19 and lies about it at 16.

Also don’t tell anyone else your a virgin just keep it to yourself.

Rugbyplayer123 · 2021-08-30T21:09:42+00:00

Dude you are taking this way too serious. Sex is not that special. Just book a holiday somewhere and go to some parties to get laid there or book an escort.

Get it over with and move on.

Focus on building your best self (and life) in your 20s. You will notice this pays of 20x later in your life

Yujir0Hanma · 2021-08-30T22:52:36+00:00

Why are there people in comments with exact same problem as OP giving advice? Let the ones who actually have been with multiple woman and discovered key to it answer, and maybe learn from them as well

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-08-30T23:27:49+00:00

Sup, OP,

If you follow these steps below, YOU WILL GET LOTS OF FEMALE ATTENTION, RECEPTIVENESS, AND OPPORTUNITIES.**

1) haircut for your face shape, homie. Fades are a trendy go-to staple in the looks game.

2) grow some stubble(4-6mm is sweet spot for aesthetics and attraction), keep it trimmed to that length, and keep the sideburnlines, cheeklines, and neckline edged up.

3) fix your posture (you'll feel confident), walk with masculine swagger (think Thor, gosling, Elba, the Rock).

4) strong eye contact and a smirk when interacting with ppl.

WHEN YOU SEE A CHICK YOU LIKE:

1) think of the best case scenario. She is receptive, she's cooperative, and the interaction leads to a great time(and sexual shxt).

2) count to 5 seconds, then just spring into action.

3) be confident, fix your posture, be masculine, be charismatic, just introduce yourself and compliment her(hair, eyes, or smile). Now ask how her day is going.

4) focus on anything interesting she says and ask her about it to keep the convo going for a few minutes before getting her number and bouncing.

5) hit her up later to set a date.

ON THE DATE(CHILL SESSION):

1) be confident, be amused mastery, be abundance mindset, behave the same way you did that got you her number in the first way. Just ask more questions about her or her day(so she can talk more...they LOVE to talk). Also flirt, kino, isolate, and Escalate.

BIG PROTIP: As long as:

1) you meet her minimum Physical standard.

2) stimulate her clit, tits, and/or her butthole.

3) stimulate her mind.

She WILL orgasm(and squirt, quiver, etc) 99% of the time...sometimes twice.

this a complete guide from transforming your look, to approaching, gaming, getting her number, setting the date(chill session), how to behave/what to do when you Meetup, and how to transition into(and how to satisfy her properly during) sex.

GOOD LUCK, HOMIE.

Edit:

Don't feel bad, homie...lots of us(myself included) didn't get a whiff of cxxchie until after high school. Your time will come. Note to self, make this shxt into a thread later.

UnderlyingSerenity · 2021-08-30T14:16:07+00:00

There's nothing to feel bad about your virginity. It shouldn't be rushed. Because you might end up with the wrong person first thing in the morning. And you can never undo it. So, think and decide carefully. There's so much thing to do, we're in the same age. I wish I could do more some stuff and discover some new hobbies than being invested more into sex, though I am active with my boyfriend. But if you really wanted to do sex, be with the right person to do it. Good luck. 🤍

2021-08-30T14:18:46+00:00

I’m also 21m virgin so you’re not alone

Mr_Crowley__ · 2021-08-30T14:21:36+00:00

Nothing is wrong with you. Take care of yourself, go to the gym, buy nice clothes (no need to go for expensive ones) have some sense of style, and be fun to be around and it will happen sooner or later. Don't over think it, there's plenty of time to get laid. Go for it! Good luck!

shidurbaba · 2021-08-30T14:56:04+00:00

I lost my virginity at the age of 27 after landing at my first real job. Between the ages of 20 to 25 I was focused on myself, my ambitions and my career.

Maximums0098 · 2021-08-30T15:12:31+00:00

I'm 28 and still a virgin, dude, being a virgin, at over 20, is nothing to be ashamed of. I know it feels weird, but it's not the end of world. The right girl will come, don't worry.

DBoogiewithAJacket · 2021-08-30T15:20:52+00:00

Yo bro nothing is wrong with you I'm a virgin too at the same age and I don't feel ashamed at all things like that honestly shouldn't be important to anyone

ProperDefinition6668 · 2021-08-30T15:55:36+00:00

Bro I am at the exact place as you with the same age, when you find a good advice tag me in or share with me too

2021-08-30T18:05:24+00:00

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uwu-bye-bye · 2021-08-30T18:50:08+00:00

Bruh, there is nothing wrong with you. The only thing wrong is that you’re letting society dictate when you lose your V-card. I was 21F and my current beau was 25/26 when he lost his. Stop comparing yourself to statistics and just focus on you and your life and how you’re living it.

This is what’s wrong with the world, all these standards and expectations. Live your damn life at your own pace. If you have any sense of direction and focus and goals, you’ll eventually have a healthy sex life.

DakiAge · 2021-08-30T19:24:44+00:00

Who cares what the others around you do.

You are you so you are different than them.

Getting laid isn't something that changes one's life.

If that bothers you so much, then you can always hire an escort.

agpc · 2021-08-30T19:40:44+00:00

Stop worrying about getting laid and you will get laid

Kiernla · 2021-08-30T20:02:45+00:00

I (now 40F) had my first PiV sex at 21, and my partner was also new to it at 23.

The time we spent learning ourselves and each other before that was well spent, and I'm glad I didn't reach that level with previous romantic partners.

I'm glad you're choosing to see a therapist. Shame around sex, whether we think we're having too much or too little compared to those around us, is such a joy-killer.

Bd7 · 2021-08-30T20:25:31+00:00

Many things can be worse. It can always get worse!!! I've been to prison.

100% failure rate if you never tried, though.

sk07ch · 2021-08-30T20:36:30+00:00

And you will feel like a looser after you're not a virgin.

... since you make yourself feel like a looser. Pretty obvious.

Stop doing that.

Max_Zero323 · 2021-08-30T21:03:19+00:00

I mean… have you talked with girls about it? Between my friends and I I’d take a guy with no experience over a dude that’s just banging anything with a pulse

ninjaboy79 · 2021-08-30T21:08:01+00:00

I was a virgin till I was 27. It's nothing to be ashamed of men usually hit their stride when they're in their mid-30s then women chase after them all of the women that wouldn't give them the time of day before.

361mj · 2021-08-30T21:15:13+00:00

Advice: You’d still feel like a loser if you weren’t👍🏾

2021-08-30T22:34:15+00:00

I just hit 26 dude, I ain’t even touch a girl yet. Chill out bro. You’re fine bro. Figure out your life.

Small-Button-2308 · 2021-08-30T23:18:04+00:00

Are you a Christian ?

TrendyLepomis · 2021-08-30T23:44:28+00:00

by any chance are you talking to a 19 year old girl

Training_Passenger79 · 2021-08-30T23:54:52+00:00

My friend is a 24 year old virgin. Nothing wrong with him - he’s just shy and prefers reading a lot. He doesn’t really know how to act around women yet but he’s learning.

Seeing as how sexual pleasure doesn’t rank high in a woman’s list of priorities when she’s picking guys out, I think it’s unlikely most women care that you’re a virgin. If it bothers you, just don’t tell them. If they ask, tell them you take a moral stance against kiss and tell.

Women will respect that. If the relationship evolved you could tell them the truth one day.

rickyroyal37 · 2021-08-31T00:14:29+00:00

Comparing yourself to others instead of loving and valuing your own journey leads to suffering. Hugh Hefner lost his virginity at 22 😉

not-allow-ed · 2021-08-31T00:50:58+00:00

get a hooker.

quantumactual · 2021-08-31T02:23:15+00:00

Wow bro your self-esteem is near zero. Like really? (Your username).

If you think you’re a loser, you think any woman would want that?

As a 21 year old who’s had 11 ‘bodies’, including a current girlfriend, I can tell you that you need to stop giving a f. And I know it’s hard, I’ve been in your shoes.

I actually lost my virginity at 17, and at that age I thought I would be a virgin for the rest of my life. It’s just something most young guys go through until they make it happen. Don’t beat yourself up.

That being said, you do have some work to do if you hope to get laid. Stop sweating it so much. Women love men who are outgoing, aren’t going to idealize them, and certainly aren’t going to sweat sex.

If you just be yourself, without a care what anyone else thinks, your going to have much better odds of finding a woman who’s into you.

But you’ve got to get rid of this self-loathing, needy behavior, it is the biggest turn off in the world to women. It makes them uncomfortable.

Maybe try to find a female friend first whom you can try to make laugh. Figure out how to make her comfortable. It will help you get comfortable talking to other women.

Or, alternatively, look for guy friends who are successful with women, and notice what they do to achieve it. Most likely, they are outgoing, just looking to have a good time, and aren’t desperate to have sex to the point of making women uncomfortable.

Good luck.

cbrown818 · 2021-08-31T02:28:07+00:00

24 here too! Didn’t even really kiss a girl until that age. Now I have slept with plenty of women. I know it feels like a huge deal, because I felt the exact same, but there are a lot more people in your situation than you can imagine.

What helped me? I needed confidence obviously and putting myself out for opportunities. I lifted weights, tried to dress better, and did things for myself. It definitely sounds like you are on the right track with a therapist! Any questions feel free to message me!

Edit:lost it at 24. Am 29 now, who has had around ~12 partners.

2021-08-31T02:32:00+00:00

It’s all good, we all approach life at our own pace. Just keep trying.

topshattaB · 2021-08-31T04:20:06+00:00

Nah bro u good just lift weights

2021-08-31T05:24:54+00:00

It’s not rare at all at your age. You’re drumming it up way more than it really is.

Ima virgin by religious belief; I’m 35. I lived in my own in a college town for 7 years and there were plenty of opportunities. I’m not held down by my status.

The amount of times I’ve seen dudes post that they saw a prostitute to “fix” their virgin problem only to feel like “wtf was I thinking? Did I expect to change?”

It’s all in your head.

A virgin loser is someone that is trying to get laid and simply fails; that’s incel defined. That’s a loser. The image that creates is almost 100% accurate if you’ve ever met someone like that in real life. I met maybe one person that was like that.

You’re made an arbitrary standard on yourself and have defined that you cannot feel happy about yourself until you’re not a virgin.

This is as insane as delegating a rule over yourself that unless you shove 10 almonds up your ass, do a moon walk and say HEE HEE or SHA-MON, you’re not allowed to be happy.

Come on bro

DarkSun18 · 2021-08-31T06:21:09+00:00

Its not too late and it isn’t rare. I was 22 went I got my first boyfriend and like 24 when I lost my virginity.

survivalmaster1 · 2021-08-30T14:54:03+00:00

bruh you do realise billions of people from different cultures don't even get laid nor have the concept of it? are you implying 70% of the world are losers and its over for them lol? life isn't all about sex buddy lmao

Mshalopd1 · 2021-08-30T17:21:20+00:00

I know a ton of people who were virgins past 21. Some of them are VERY attractive people (men AND women) too. I had sex for the first time at 16. I beat most of my friends to the punch. I'm 29 now. I still have a TON of fear and anxiety with women, and most of those friends have had way more sex and relationships than I have. Being a virgin at 21 is pretty normal and is NOT a sign that something is wrong with you. Stop thinking like that. It's pointless. And just NOT true. You are creating this bullshit artificial reality where you suck and everyone else is great. It's just not true dude. Relax.

You're fucking 21. You have plenty of time. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Work on improving yourself as a person, take small steps daily to be better. Talk to girls without an agenda. If you vibe with them, you can try to escalate but let go of all the pressure and expectations and just be there with the person. Be curious. Be honest about your anxiety and inexperience when the time feels right. Some girls will be cool about it some won't. That is also fine. Your friends are also 21 and are fucking idiots and have NO clue what they're talking about with women. Most of us don't. It doesn't matter. There are women who care, women who don't care, you HAVE to stop letting what other people say dictate what you think about yourself.

You are catastrophizing a situation that is totally normal and common. The more you relax and accept yourself as you are, the sooner you will lose your virginity lol. Take some deep breaths and chill. Life is hard. It's ok to not be perfect. Go practice meditation. Go to yoga. Get this book: https://www.amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X

I promise you I know exactly what you feel like. Even though I lost my virginity early, I STILL struggle with intimacy and sex, and am only now starting to come to terms with it at 29. I only started really addressing it at 28. You can start now. You are lucky to only be 21. Look on the bright side of life dude. Read the fucking book I linked.

Polybyran · 2021-08-30T16:59:03+00:00

Sex isn’t everything. There’s more to life than getting laid.

Appropriate_Ad3327 · 2021-08-30T14:25:54+00:00

How tall are you?

Ancient_Board2322 · 2021-08-30T14:22:41+00:00

Same, think I’ll lose it to an escort/hooker

2021-08-30T23:27:41+00:00

First your not a loser, I was a virgin until 21 too. Second, if tou feel that you are weird close to girls and things like that, see if you watch a lot of porn and masturbate. It might sound weird and out of the blue but if you do some research you'll see that it isn't. You'll have your time we don't know when but it will happen. Best of luck

Hmmkey · 2021-08-30T14:38:08+00:00

No worries dude, so many people are virgins around that age and like someone else said most people have no clue what to do sex wise and satisfy a woman and just talk a big game.

JetPillar · 2021-08-30T15:06:40+00:00

If you’re looking for casual sex, it’s going to be harder because you’re inexperienced so it’s going to be one boring not really fulfilling night for the girl that’s cool with it.

Imagine it like needing to have a prostate exam. Would you go to the doctor with years of experience and a proven track record or the brand new doctor who might not even be able to find your butt hole. You wouldn’t despise the young doctor because you understand he’s learning and everyone learns, but if all you’re looking for is a quick in and out where everyone benefits, you go to the experienced one. Girls looking for good sex are probably not going to waste their time training you. They don’t despise you. They just don’t want to have sex with you

-OrionC · 2021-08-30T17:50:03+00:00

Don´t even trip doggg you got this

leafhog · 2021-08-30T18:05:26+00:00

21 isn’t old to be a virgin. It isn’t a race.

indoorimp · 2021-08-30T20:06:11+00:00

Your manliness aint determined based off your body count.

Observenlearn111 · 2021-08-30T20:47:04+00:00

Pfff!!!! 23M Virgin laughing at this.

tristian_lay · 2021-08-30T20:56:23+00:00

Listen..if the lack of sex is the cause of your depression I will tell you that if you have sex you’ll find that it’s not that big of a deal and there won’t be this epiphany moment and you’ll feel empty if that’s all you look forward to

Legitimate-Lies · 2021-08-30T21:40:05+00:00

I wouldn’t worry. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 20 and I’ve had over 40 women since then

SavageMakaveli · 2021-08-30T23:20:31+00:00

In 2016, I met my ex who was a 21 year old virgin. we ended up together for 4 years. I thought it was more rare for a female to be a virgin at that age than a male. So don't lose your confidence. I had kinda regretted my past regarding some of the other females I had been with. It's quality not quantity bro. A female that's worth something is not gonna care, and actually might like that fact that u don't have a long list of hoes. Some females do like players and guys who are experienced though. U just gotta keep an open mind. Read up on manifesting and law of attraction. That will help you bring the things into life that u want. Just be careful and responsible.

2021-08-31T00:11:50+00:00

Being a virgin doesn't mean something is wrong with you, quite the opposite.

ThugBoi · 2021-08-31T00:20:51+00:00

Nah man, nothing wrong with you. I am also a virgin at 21 (22 in December) and the reason for that is because I do not want to have sex with strangers and all that. All I want is to find a partner that I will have out my life. I think that if I find a woman that genuine loves me, but also is more experienced than me in the bed, would not be an issue for her because she can teach me when we do it together and that would probably be really fun for her.

It all depends on what you want. However from what I have heard is that sex with someone you do not love kinda sucks compared to if both partners actually love each other.

Erick112119 · 2021-08-31T01:28:35+00:00

YouTube Corey Wayne. That should set you on the right trajectory. Much luck bro. Trust me someone out there is a 50 year old virgin and has no hope of changing that. You my man are in your prime. Sit back, learn all you can about seduction and enjoy the ride. Above all Elise be honest with people and with yourself.

quantumactual · 2021-08-31T02:15:09+00:00

Being a virgin at 21 really isn’t rare at all.

What you should do is listen to some of the comments, especially the eliminating the ‘need for sex’, because it makes you desperate, which makes women run from you.

Be calm, cool, and collective about it.

I’ve had sex with 11 partners, currently 21, and I have girlfriend now. Biggest advice I can give you is to put yourself out there, make yourself a bit uncomfortable.

What helped a lot was having friends who knew each other and knew girls.

Now that I don’t really have as many friends, I’d have to do mostly cold approaches which is fine.

I have pretty high success when I don’t care what the results are and am just my goofy self. Don’t be afraid of women. Learn how to talk to them and be comfortable around them, maybe try to get a female friend and spend some time with her. Figure out how to make her laugh etc, it’ll go a long way with other women.

BravePigster · 2021-08-31T03:16:37+00:00

Just saying, you’d be better off losing it to someone who matters, don’t go out and lose it to a whore just cause it feels like it’s bad you haven’t lost it. If anything, it just ruins the experience and you might regret it. But then again, it depends on what type of a person you are.

Zero36 · 2021-08-31T03:31:12+00:00

I lost my virginity at 21… and losing your virginity is over rated. Don’t give power to the pushy. Make your own path and the pushy will come

Rionic · 2021-08-31T04:03:16+00:00

I’m 22 and still a virgin and I feel fine so you should too.

Silent_assassins3 · 2021-08-31T05:28:29+00:00

I’m 20 and a Virgin. I’m doing just fine

InsideWay6141 · 2021-08-31T06:04:24+00:00

You have no idea how blessed you actually are. You also don’t know the trouble that can associate with relationships. You also don’t know if the woman you choose will stop being affectionate or mentally present after getting married. You need to focus on your purpose in life and when the time comes, the right one will appear. A woman is not the key to your happiness. If you try to approach life that way, your setting yourself up for disappointment because people change, are less affectionate, sex can easily dwindle into nothing and non existent. Your not a loser so stop calling your self that. You were not born into the world for the sole purpose of chasing a woman. Nor putting them on a pedestal. Focus on your purpose and get your life set up first, then be open. You have such an advantage right now and I’m not sure that you are aware of it yet. I’m married, I feel like my Wife is a friend and not really a lover anymore. She’s involved in her phone in isolation and doesn’t like being in the hear and now. I feel alone. Did you understand me? I’m married and I’m alone. I don’t have a woman that is affectionate or engaging. She is abusive verbally and physically. I’m 10 years older than you. Perspective. Don’t think with your emotion. If sex drive is pushing this kinda thinking, contain it. Learn to ignore it. Heck, don’t even masturbate because I for one, can tell you that abstaining has incredible benefits in so many ways. It feels like freedom. When you can walk past a 10/10 woman and it doesn’t phase you and you just keep walking. That is power. Not to mention the crazy amount of energy, drive and focus that sexual energy produces if abstaining from sex and masturbation. Come to find out, even Steve Jobs understood this, and use this as a tool. You were not born to put women on a pedestal and to chase them. Man up, put women aside and focus on your purpose. There is nothing more sexy as attractive to a woman than a man that is focused on his purpose in life. It’s a magnet. Plus, it’s better to wait anyway while the women of your age group live life a little more and mature. Being so new to adulting can have its drawbacks when trying to get serious so young in life. So stop with the looser talk. Your acting like a looser right now but you are not a looser. Pick yourself up and focus. 😎

StreetBand · 2021-08-31T06:08:06+00:00

Get an escort and lose it today! Highly suggested.

bquin33 · 2021-08-31T06:36:01+00:00

I feel the same as you my guy. I'm 21M and I'm also a virgin. I feel weird cause I've only had 1 girlfriend ever (2 year relo, broke up just over 2 years ago) and I haven't moved on in any way yet. Idk just feels wrong to move on. Haven't found anyone that's made me feel the same way she did and I don't want my first time to be a one night stand type of thing which in today's day and age is kinda what everyone else wants. But also I'm really happy with where my life is atm. I've got 2 jobs (one great, one not so great), i got a great hobby (Gridiron) and some good friends who love and support me so just find some great friends, none of those fake friends that only like you when you do something for them. Find a hobby, find something that makes you happy and follow that shit. Do whatever you can do that makes you happy and don't stress about being a virgin. Just cause other people have already had sex doesn't mean you won't. You'll find someone sooner or later and then you'll just be like everyone else. You're not weird, you're a king

GSP19121990 · 2021-08-31T10:36:18+00:00

Leave Porn, Masturbation, Social Media.... Hit the Gym with Healthy Protein Diet...........

TigerForcesAreGoats · 2021-08-31T16:01:00+00:00

Honestly you need to not care as much as you do and put yourself into more social situations with girls. I went from a body count of 2 to low 20s simply by going to college and joining a social fraternity. That’s not the only way to be in more social situations but u get my point. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there my man. I don’t think once, the amount of people I’ve been with has come up unless I’m dating someone.

Ok_Ad_9780 · 2022-07-02T11:05:14+00:00

At 16 ?!?! Wtf is wrong with this generation

Title	I (21M) feel like a loser because I'm still a virgin.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	130
Comments	133
Date	August 30, 2021 12:11 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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