Not giving a fuck - The story of a young man's awakening.

RocketPUA · 2011-10-23T20:23:14+00:00

Honestly, I've been having the same revelations slowly in my life.

I read this and that all over seddit, blueprint, magic bullets w/e but sometime I just go full DGAF mode and then the night only gets better from there.

I think we're on the right path here.

miles_v · 2011-10-23T21:01:51+00:00

Awesome write-up!

I think there's gotta be more to it, though. Not giving a fuck and not caring whether you attract anyone can't be enough. I've done that for years. I truly, deeply do not care what I look like, what I dress like, whether anyone thinks I'm attractive, whether I get dates or not etc. (note: I'm only just now getting into the game).

In years of doing this, of not giving a single fuck, it has not gained me the attention of even one lady.

Maybe it has to be the other way around. Maybe not giving a fuck only works once you've learned and practiced social skills and seduction skills. But if you start out by not giving a fuck, nothing will happen. At least that's my experience.

I'm not writing this to criticize the OP. I'd just love to hear your take on this.

(EDIT: just to clarify, the problem isn't that I'm hideous or that I dressed like a slob or anything. I'd say I'm average looking and I've always been in good shape.)

Arro · 2011-10-23T21:26:58+00:00

I think the challenge for me comes after the brunette. You didn't give a fuck, and it lead to attracting a cute girl. But now, because something went well, I'd be in my head again, and not not giving a fuck.

It's like if someone said to you "don't think about an elephant." What would you think about? An elephant!

choc_is_back · 2011-10-23T22:18:05+00:00

I've said it a bazillian times here and elsewhere and I'll say it again until it becomes a common theme (or not, whatever). The one magic keyword for pickup is:

WHATEVER

Say it to yourself whenever you wonder about talking to somebody, when somebody is not responding your text, when you are re-reading a message over and over before finding the courage to send it, when wondering whether now is a good time to kiss her. The answer is not yes, no or maybe.

WHATEVER

TonyDAbsolute · 2011-10-23T20:14:10+00:00

There you go buddy. Struttin around like Bruce Willis not giving a fuck has obvious advantages. Nice job.

porphyry3 · 2011-10-23T21:08:41+00:00

Independence from outcome. here you go.

2011-10-23T22:39:06+00:00

He pivoted his head and directed his gaze towards her. She held it, and after a moment gave a flirty smile. This puzzled our young hero, but he wasn't going to be distracted or slowed. He had some mother fucking chicken to buy. His flip flops smacked the tile with a defying cadence, his arms swung freely at his sides.

Your field report is full of awesome. Made me feel like I was right there inside your head. Write a book and I will buy ten of them to give them to my miserable AFC friends.

cowtheplow · 2011-10-23T21:39:36+00:00

If you havent already, look into writing professionally. Awesome style, I want more.

itsokaytryagain212 · 2011-10-23T20:44:57+00:00

Swell job sir! I love reading posts like these.

ARealSocialRetard · 2011-10-23T23:03:19+00:00

My new totem animal shall be: the honey badger.

2nd_class_citizen · 2011-10-24T01:09:09+00:00

Cool story bro. (I mean that seriously)

fortheloveofwhat · 2011-10-23T21:56:49+00:00

You're a good writer for starters. This is a solid example for what confidence should convey.

Although, if I could make one suggestion:

He scrutinized the boyfriend. What a fucking douche. What a tool. He looked at her.

You shouldn't criticize the competition to feel better about yourself, that's the opposite of not giving a fuck.

Thoughts_You_Loathe · 2011-10-23T22:01:47+00:00

But...I don't give a fuck. And I have no friends.

rebeccabrixton · 2011-10-23T21:33:28+00:00

this works as a woman too as long as you're nice when you are approached. it also helps as a woman as you're more approachable, not all snooty looking with perfect hair, just jeans and a top (and six layers of clothes as i am in london).

IHaveScrollLockOn · 2011-10-23T21:54:22+00:00

Whether it's a good lesson or not, this was very well written. Thanks.

InspirationalQuoter · 2011-10-23T22:58:45+00:00

He had some mother fucking chicken to buy.

This is some excellent and slyly hilarious writing my friend. It kills me that when I try to pick up I fail but as soon as I fail to give a shit things start working.

SpaceToaster · 2011-10-24T00:47:55+00:00

I sure hope he ended up having a nice chicken dinner.

lakerswiz · 2011-10-24T01:52:48+00:00

I recently went to Vegas and the whole time I just kept telling myself, "I'll never see any of these people again, I'm going to go all out." I had a WONDERFUL time. I danced with hotter girls than I ever had before. I danced with a ton of girls. I hung out with two of them on different nights. I ended up getting cock blocked by their friends on both nights, but I still felt pretty damn good about myself.

I don't have nearly as many opportunities to meet women back at home, but I've got a bit more pep in my step and certainly some more confidence for myself.

What really helped was when I'd try to dance with a girl and she'd reject the proposition, but then a much, much hotter girl next to her YELLED at me to come over and dance with her.

Feels good man.

osufan765 · 2011-10-24T07:16:56+00:00

Viral marketing for the Dodge Charger. Well played.

2011-10-24T12:26:30+00:00

Wait... you WERE the titular young man? Nice twist, M Night Shyamalan!

shivalry · 2011-10-24T18:08:32+00:00

"Not giving a fuck. The best thing that ever happened to me."

Amen.

2011-10-24T03:35:50+00:00

I stopped giving a fuck years ago. It works well but honestly, I truly just don't give a fuck.

arkhimedes · 2011-10-24T00:49:26+00:00

I love the "almost zen-like" summary at the end.

WolfInTheField · 2011-10-24T01:06:41+00:00

I must read this once a day for... probably 3 years. Thanks.

shenanigins · 2011-10-24T04:32:32+00:00

So I read this while listening to lose your self by eminem, pandora. Twas epic.

tooon · 2011-10-24T04:51:20+00:00

Fantastic writeup. I've run into similar situations but never attributed it to this in the same way as your have. I just thought they were lucky days. Days that I feel genuinely happy and carefree and it shows to the real world it seems that all the women I interact with are flirty and friendly. The reasoning behind it always seemed to escape me. As I read this, I understood instantly.

Thanks for posting this and helping me realize how much this all works together.

hosmos · 2011-10-24T07:18:15+00:00

is that ok if i use it in my blog?

Balloons_lol · 2011-10-24T07:24:22+00:00

It's impossible to give a fuck. To not give a fuck is to give a fuck about not giving a fuck.

Just BE.

sillymallard · 2011-10-24T07:30:22+00:00

Do you write for Cliff's list?

gogusto · 2011-10-24T14:24:35+00:00

Great story. So true.

2011-10-23T20:48:25+00:00

Charmander sums it up: http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lrz7kkX8JI1qakrgi.jpg

TheoreticalFunk · 2011-10-24T03:20:04+00:00

Nice post.

Smuck? Like you make jellies and jams? You're a smucker?

Perhaps you meant schmuck?

ARealSocialRetard · 2011-10-24T05:21:47+00:00

I've never understood this way of thinking. If I didn't give a fuck about women I'd simply go about my business without ever talking to them.

2011-10-24T19:33:08+00:00

My friend told me a story about how some blonde girl from a local radioshack was hitting on him, and during the context of this conversation, he informed me that he thought that he himself looked like crap. Reading the beginning of the grocery store made me realize this.

darthnad3r · 2011-10-23T21:33:27+00:00

This reads like fan-fiction. If it works for you, good on ya, but putting effort into writing about how much you don't give a fuck seems a tad backwards.

maine14 · 2011-10-24T03:59:15+00:00

I think the simple fact that anyone wrote this or is reading this is giving too much of a fuck already, no offense. Sure it's a good idea to know what women are into and are attracted to, but the second you start thinking about it enough to be reading a reddit on seduction almost certainly shows that you are overthinking it and possibly coming off as desperate. No offense, really, fully, honestly. I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to better yourself. But in the end, the first thing you need to do is stop focusing so much on 'getting the number' or whatever. It's only hurting in the long run. Have fun, enjoy yourself, do the things that you want to do with your day/week/life, and hopefully you'll find yourself meeting a few girls who can enjoy those times with you. Beyond that, forget it.

tk001 · 2011-10-24T16:17:03+00:00

TLDR?

Title	Not giving a fuck - The story of a young man's awakening.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	427
Comments	83
Date	October 23, 2011 7:53 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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