Sex isn't the goal. Attraction is the goal, and sex is the reward.

obster12 · 2013-02-25T00:01:12+00:00

sex is a reward, for her.

assuming you're good at sex, though.

Bad_Boyl2 · 2013-02-25T00:56:19+00:00

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phantom2052 · 2013-02-25T03:00:46+00:00

Even after reading this subreddit, I still terrible at gaining a girls attention. But I really agree with this posters statement.

_groundcontrol · 2013-02-25T00:08:33+00:00

I dont want to fool myself into believing i dont want the sex just to make it better when i get rejected. No, i dont support this.

2013-02-25T15:16:40+00:00

To me the relationship is the goal.

Keep in mind that there are many types of relationships, from the ones who last only a few hours (ONS) to longer in time: from FWB, to .. who knows.

Personally I like people, that's why i go out of my way to talk to virtually everyone I meet http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ufzvf/planting_1000_seeds_a_bit_long_i_know/ . Of course some are either completely uninteresting or uninterested. Some of the people I meet and talk to are female, some of these females I am attracted to, some of the females that I am attracted to are attracted back to me, and often, in those cases magic happens.

Sure sex is good, but I am also interested in interesting women, someone I can share some of the interests that I have, some of the activities that I like to do, and get to know someone with interests and activities new to me that intrigue me.

Sure sex is good, but sex with someone who holds my interests besides sex, and on a cerebral level, it's a lot better.

I am not saying that it's easy, quite the opposite, I am saying that it's worth it.

2nd_class_citizen · 2013-02-25T04:40:31+00:00

Really? I'm pretty sure most of us got into this game for the sex.

alextetris · 2013-02-25T02:16:21+00:00

Am I on the wrong sub reddit I want to find a meaningful relationship before I lose my virginity not that I think it's that big of a deal I just think it'd be better with someone I love. I don't just want to fuck random women. So is this the right place for that?

libertas · 2013-02-25T07:34:50+00:00

This could be useful for learning but is not a good end goal. You don't want to be thinking about how to attract, you want to be attractive; attracting girls is something that best manifests itself from being a fun, teasing kind of guy, not something you machinate.

Might seem like splitting hairs, but your transformation isn't complete until it happens at an identity level.

2013-02-25T07:21:33+00:00

I may have become warped over the years - or it may be a sign of self esteem issues - but I actually enjoy the feeling of being adored by women more than I enjoy sex.

poopanus · 2013-02-25T03:31:21+00:00

I would go as far as to say that attraction isn't even the goal, but expression and action. Just like you shouldn't be attached to sex as the outcome, you should not be attached to her opinion of you.

limeshathrow88 · 2013-02-25T08:59:24+00:00

It's sweet tips like this that make this reddit better.

2013-02-25T15:01:21+00:00

I think I see what you're getting at, but the way you phrase it makes it seems like if there isn't sex, there isn't attraction. What I think you're trying to say is that instead of focusing on the goal, you should focus on getting there, which is a cool and zen thing to say, and doesn't have that slight undercurrent of entitlement.

rvhack · 2013-02-25T15:06:03+00:00

Wouldn't fuck someone I wouldn't date and I wouldn't date someone I wouldn't fuck.

2013-02-24T22:53:04+00:00

Excellent! We should keep this phrase as a mantra.

TheCuriousDude · 2013-02-25T00:04:05+00:00

3 sentences is all I need to get over 40 upvotes in an hour?

Navae26 · 2013-02-24T22:32:20+00:00

here here

TheCuriousDude · 2013-02-25T00:05:14+00:00

But I understand that women like sex. Is this not true? Aren't guys just doing women a favor by being available to them?

insomnia125 · 2013-02-25T01:21:38+00:00

Lasting healthy relationships are the goal. Sex is just icing on the cake.

Allogenes · 2013-02-25T00:08:06+00:00

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Nfestid · 2013-02-25T01:09:42+00:00

The "reward" and "the goal" are synonyms for almost everyone.

onemessageyo · 2013-02-25T02:55:09+00:00

The truth is that the reason people get into seduction, game, whatever you want to call it, is because people want to get what they want, easily. We all want to be pros at getting what we want, from sex, women, and reputation to great meals, financial freedom, and laughter.

isthisforeal · 2013-02-25T03:38:42+00:00

the most under appreciated game by seddit is the sex game. That actually keeps her locked in and makes long term game a possibility.

rztzz · 2013-02-25T03:52:54+00:00

In my experience they are related.

After I've slept with her...she's even more into me. Not saying I'm amazing in bed, it just works that way.

miojo · 2013-02-25T04:21:05+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree. Pretty much my motto.

Iceinthewater · 2013-02-25T06:20:26+00:00

nah. way off. lol @ attraction=goal.

MisterScalawag · 2013-02-25T06:58:02+00:00

I am not entirely sure why I am subbed to this. I am not attractive and never had sex.

Idontlikekarmawhores · 2013-02-25T09:29:35+00:00

How do i make her attracted? that is the question!

brizzlebrazzle2287 · 2013-02-25T16:40:52+00:00

I'm sorry but I couldn't disagree more. If attraction was the goal, why isn't the subreddit called r/attraction? We are trying to seduce i.e fuck women. If you're not trying to fuck anyone, why does it matter if they're attracted to you? It is entirely pointless to try to be attractive if you don't want to get laid. Why even bother? If you don't care if anyone finds you attractive, then quit bathing and shaving. You're just one of those guys that gets just as much of a thrill knowing women want to fuck you, compared to actually fucking them. That's sensible. Original post, to me, makes no sense.

tabasco-sauce · 2013-02-25T18:03:23+00:00

Be true to yourself and if a women loves this... so be it.

Don't play games.

ysef95 · 2013-02-25T18:13:02+00:00

yeah i sort of agree with the sentiment obviously you should have it if you want to but dont hold yourself back from interqactions because "i dont really want to get laid today"

Kanaro · 2013-02-26T10:26:26+00:00

I do not like sex with anyone. I like getting her so far to give her number to me (attraction), but I usually back off. I've had an open relationship and never met anyone that I would really liked to have dated. Attraction and maybe k-closing fills me right now.

Fuck me, right?

Title	Sex isn't the goal. Attraction is the goal, and sex is the reward.
Author	DysthymicEconomist
Upvotes	638
Comments	152
Date	February 24, 2013 10:16 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/195kdi/sex_isnt_the_goal_attraction_is_the_goal_and_sex/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/sex-isnt-the-goal-attraction-is-the-goal-and-sex.1347930 https://theredarchive.com/post/1347930

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