Women never get over the best sex they've ever had

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Gravel_Roads · 2024-05-04T17:59:30+00:00

From my experience as a bisexual man who’s fucked around a lot, most people just live in the present. Very few people eat a cake and go “aww, the cake I had 20 years ago in Germany was better, this may as well be trash, I’ll never be able to enjoy cake again :(.”

When someone is having sex, what they’re thinking of mostly is the sex they’re currently having. Generally, if there was something a previous lover did that I or my partner really liked, it just became something you suggest/request with future partners.

Women don’t like… live in some deep life-long trauma where they can’t enjoy sex anymore because checks notes… they enjoyed sex in the past?

Wtf even is “the best sex”? When I’m sleeping, the best sex involves a lot of lazy groping and making out in each other’s arms. When I’m manic and boisterous, there’s gonna be silly hats wrestling. If I’m feeling romantic, it’s going to involve a lot of intense eye contact and whispering sweet nothings.

Most people don’t go through life only looking for THE ONE TIME sex feels “good”. Different things feel good at different times. You, too, can be the best man a woman has been with, if you actually make it fun and sexy instead of trying to reproduce the exact same experience over and over.

Demasii · 2024-05-04T18:21:23+00:00

Best sex ever is just a round about way of men trying to convince themselves that they take up more mental space in women than they really do.

januaryphilosopher · 2024-05-04T17:59:37+00:00

Yes and no. Generally, the best relationship you've ever had creates the best sex.

Obtainable20 · 2024-05-04T17:53:03+00:00

I mean, does anyone ever get over that? I still remember my best sex. But, there's a reason we're not together right now. I was part of her rebellious phase since her parents didn't want her to be with me and wanted her to marry someone specific.

I don't miss her nor do I miss that sex. I wouldn't compare her to anyone else I'm with in the future.

RubyDiscus · 2024-05-04T17:51:25+00:00

This is weird.

I think women just care about the person based on how they treated them and how they were there for them and how they get along.

Not for the sex. The sex is a bonding activity, not the relationship itself.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2024-05-04T18:38:08+00:00

this is scarcity mentality. all amazing sex is the same, you can moon over an amazing sexual encounter for a week and then have another next friday and forget about the first one. i mean i dont know how the women you all describe are, the ones who have amazing sex then marry someone who sucks, or something, but otherwise no--its the best sex you ever had til the next "best sex you ever had"

spanglesandbambi · 2024-05-04T18:03:40+00:00

Oh, look, an attempt to make women look less intelligent than men on Purplepilldebate. I've never seen a million and one posts here suggesting the same thing.

Also, have you tried posting in the ihavesex subreddit, and this post stinks of unwashed penis.

MyLastBestChance · 2024-05-04T17:56:20+00:00

You guys just can’t wrap your pointy little heads around the idea that women’s sexuality is not the same as men’s.

Exes are exes for a reason. Most women don’t pine away for past lovers or make direct comparisons like that. Generally, if the relationship is good, the man you currently love is genuinely thought of as the best sex ever.

Here’s the thing, women don’t typically have great sex with people we don’t like, respect, enjoy outside the bedroom. Things that you guys obsess about like Chad status, size, 6 packs etc. aren’t determinative at all in whether it’s great sex.

What is?

Can we emotionally trust you enough to really let go and enjoy ourselves and you?

Can we trust that we can be physically safe and that you will respect our boundaries?

Do we feel loved? Appreciated? Respected?

Do we feel like you actually care about our pleasure and comfort?

ExternalBarracuda292 · 2024-05-04T18:06:54+00:00

I think this applies to everyone, both men and women. I can certainly remember a number of sexual encounters which were of extremely high quality, some of which aren't with my current partner.

However, the good thing is that quality sex isn't wholly or even predominantly based on physical attributes. Communication, technique, familiarity, and trust are also all major factors to how good the sex is. So I wouldn't worry too much if you're not immediately the best lay your partner has ever had, if the relationship is healthy the sex should generally get better and better over time until at least a number of their best sexual experiences involve you.

superlurkage · 2024-05-04T18:44:47+00:00

You must be young

Cethlinnstooth · 2024-05-04T18:56:21+00:00

Pfffft. You're gonna age eventually. Every woman who had been with one man long enough knows he's not as good as he was but there are younger men who are as good as he was. Basically memories of your past self will eventually cuck your current self.

Whenever I read a post here like yours I am reminded how the men who understand women the least are always the ones who think they understand them the best.

KayRay1994 · 2024-05-04T17:57:18+00:00

How do I best put this… the best sex anyone’s ever had will be on their minds for a long time, possibly even forever.

I’m a firm believer in the fact that you don’t have to be your partner’s best sex to have a long fulfilling relationship. Long as you’re sexually compatible and have fun and the relationship is overall great, who cares?

At this point it’s all about ego imo. Let’s put it this way, to have a good relationship, you have to be compatible in multiple dimensions, and the key term here is “compatible” - ie. one compatible person might be more compatible sexually but less compatible in other aspects.

For example, i’ll throw in person A and B - you/your girl/wherever and person A are extremely sexually compatible, but the relationship ends up failing due to a bunch of other incompatibilities. Now you meet person an, the sex is good, ya’ll are compatible but it isn’t insane or mind blowing BUT you’re much compare compatible in every other aspect outside of sex. Person B will make for a much better relationship and still a good sex life.

tbh long as the sex is fun and enjoyable and you have a sex life you’d both consider active (that’s prior to kids, ofc) - anything beyond that is insecurity and ego.

Solondthewookiee · 2024-05-04T18:56:49+00:00

Can I get a list of criteria that determines the best sex ever?

full_brick_package · 2024-05-04T18:16:51+00:00

You know what? You're right. This is why every man really needs to communicate and take their time with women in bed. Make sure to go the extra mile, it's like being a contractor, not only your reputation is on the line here but all of ours.

They're over here choosing the bear and a vibrator because men are just after their own nut too often.

Btw as for the women in this discussion, a lot of them just need to communicate better. Don't giggle and say it's sensitive, they gotta take that new guy to class about what you do and don't like if he's one of the rare few that actually cares to satisfy.

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PMmeareasontolive · 2024-05-04T18:32:02+00:00

I've had a few lovers. They've all be very different in terms of things they liked and were good at (or, things we did well together). I would say some were better at some things, but none were better at everything. But even then, I never pine for the one that was the best at something unless I've been alone for months on end. Never when I'm with someone, because presumably we work together on some level and have found our own thing.

I imagine women are probably similarly flexible, but I could be wrong. come to think of it, I feel I did more of the adapting to what they were comfortable with and liked rather than vise versa.

arsenalfc4life1500 · 2024-05-04T18:50:58+00:00

I wouldn't be worried since a lot of guys only watch porn according to a lot of women, if you're one of those guys who LISTENS to her, then already you're ahead of the competition lol

holyskillet · 2024-05-04T19:12:27+00:00

I mean she can compare you with the best she never had too. How is this post different from saying you are paranoid about not being the most desirable person to her. Bad news is you will not be the most desirable person to anybody for extended periods of time, good news is it's true about all of us, your girl included.

MongoBobalossus · 2024-05-04T18:26:40+00:00

Me and my partner are the best we’ve each ever had. Hence why we’re together.

SwaySh0t · 2024-05-04T18:56:25+00:00

There’s a kernel of truth to this. They say men think with their dicks but it’s women who are lead by their vaginas

Title	Women never get over the best sex they've ever had
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Date	May 4, 2024 5:46 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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