Why do some alphas choose the beta lifestyle

gusGus86_ · 2024-07-01T21:13:13+00:00

Because they want a family. And they don’t want a step dad raising their kids, would be my guess.

I don’t see how being “alpha” mean you can’t get married.

Taking on responsibility is alpha. Running away from it is not. Right?

Solondthewookiee · 2024-07-01T21:08:37+00:00

Because there's no such thing as alpha and beta. It's just pseudoscientific bullshit.

AlmostKindaGreat · 2024-07-01T22:23:16+00:00

It is obvious that some men have many, many options and most do not. You can use "alpha/beta" or "high/low value man" or whatever you want.

A man with many options can choose to marry and settle down. He can even remain a virgin until marriage if he wants. Why should he do something contrary to his own desires just to match what someone else thinks he should do? He's still a high value man and he has the options to do something else whenever he wants.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-07-01T20:56:22+00:00

Not everyone wants to sleep around. Some people really do want to date for LTR and then raise a family and a life together.

Because ngl: that’s really what it’s all about

qwertyuduyu321 · 2024-07-01T21:13:11+00:00

It’s a social class thing and not a matter of beta or alpha but I don’t expect you to digest that.

Steakman1 · 2024-07-01T23:12:22+00:00

Meaningless sex probably gets old once you’ve had enough of it.

-Kalos · 2024-07-01T22:39:52+00:00

I hate the use of alpha because it sounds pretentious as hell. But imo, many alphas do want a family, a legacy, and want something more meaningful than hookups. Now that I'm succesful, I want to share that happiness and success with someone and hookups just don't do it for me anymore

Involved_Currently · 2024-07-02T00:44:11+00:00

Because alphas and betas dont actually exist, just more and less successful men, with varying preferences, including for lifestyles.

Commercial-Formal272 · 2024-07-01T21:32:26+00:00

It's a question of being honestly desired. A "beta" feels/knows that the majority of the desire women feel towards them is conditional or for what they provide, and that they can be out bid at any time. There is now sense of security because they are negotiating from a position of weakness. So they wish they were honestly (primally/instinctively/sexually) desired by women and could negotiate from a position of strength.

Guys who are already desired, and are secure in the knowledge that they are desirable enough to not be at constant risk of being out bid, have the security to settle down and not fear that it will be a waste. They don't have to dream about what they could do if they were desirable, because they already are and where given the freedom to make a choice.

Opening_Tell9388 · 2024-07-01T21:45:32+00:00

Some men don’t live their lives for the approval of sad men on the internet. Some genuinely do the things that they enjoy. Being a father and a husband and fulfilling duties in their communities is fulfilling for a lot of men.

Being a middle aged YouTuber and paying brainless 20 something’s to be around you and or to have sex with you all while grifting to disenfranchised men on the internet isn’t every man’s cup of tea.

Green-Quantity1032 · 2024-07-02T00:50:01+00:00

Physical attractiveness has very little correlation with sexual partner count.

Probably most hot men sow their wild oats early and don’t care for the casual lifestyle late into adulthood.

Wattehfok · 2024-07-02T03:00:31+00:00

Insofar as “alpha” guys even exist (and I’m taking a broad interpretation meaning guys who command the respect of their peers and are natural leaders); they want actual deep connection as much as anyone.

Your “alpha-ness” has nothing to do with your need for attachment.

If anything being “alpha” requires the self-assuredness born of a stable and healthy upbringing. That lends itself to a secure attachment style. Guys who sleep around a lot tend to be avoidant.

Unable_Evidence_4028 · 2024-07-02T20:06:41+00:00

Simplicity and cost.

The truth is, dealing with 20 women around the clock is very draining to both energy, time and money, and always have to find a new one is also a pain, that is why the best is to keep plates, so you avoid having to need to find yet another woman every other week.

So they eventually get tired and retire with a woman who happened to be available at the time, it is not too different from AF/BB from women. Just that women tend to choose "the best of the best" men, men just take whatever they thought was "good enough" at the time and happened to be willing. that is why these women are not always the best they could get by any means, the guys just go "I am tired, I guess I will date/marry now" and start plans to date/marry the next woman that shows up willing.

obviousredflag · 2024-07-02T10:56:03+00:00

Sociosexuality.

Conflicting interests.

DietTyrone · 2024-07-02T13:12:59+00:00

However, some if the alpha males I know choose the married, family man lifestyle.

Is that before or after smashing several women?

But yet they chose the monogamous family man life.

Yeah, that's called wanting a family. Most guys don't want to smash and pass forever till the day they day. These guys likely got it out of their system before they ultimately tied the knot.

Why would they choose such a life if betas consider that second best and only choose it if you have to?

I think the misconception here is that being a Chad means you have to be a Player for your entire life and can never move on from that.

SecondEldenLord · 2024-07-01T23:21:25+00:00

Excuse me? So getting married is beta? Wtf? How is that beta? Alpha is a real man who takes care of his family and protects them, that is more alpha than a man fucking women left and right.

2024-07-01T20:51:49+00:00

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Cunning_Linguists_ · 2024-07-01T22:21:56+00:00

They have been tamed by society basically. It's not necessarily a bad thing, the nuclear family has been really successful, even though it's not the alpha male's ultimate imperative. But yea, obviously a man who has it all, like Leo, will behave in his own benefit (fucking new 25 year olds and replacing them every few years).

goo_wak_jai · 2024-07-01T23:21:31+00:00

I think you're confusing the Greater Beta from the natural Alpha's. The Greater Beta have most of the Alpha qualities that women find attractive and all of the qualities of a provider and protector that women wish that the natural Alpha's possess but don't precisely because they are Alpha's.

Natural Alpha's rarely choose the beta lifestyle. If they happen to have made that choice, it was either knowingly or unknowingly coerced into making that choice. For the former, they spread their seed with reckless abandon and got caught by one of the smarter one's and had to choose between the end of their foreseeable 'fruitful life' while simultaneously getting their ass handed to them day in and day out by the government or settling down and hoping that's the lesser of the two evils, which doesn't necessarily preclude the former scenario. For the latter, he was just that dumb and got caught. Plain and simple.

Title	Why do some alphas choose the beta lifestyle
Author	harmonica2
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Comments	67
Date	July 1, 2024 7:38 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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