I, F21, have never had a man wanting to commit to me. I’ve been dating since I turned 18 and tried everything from dating apps to clubs.

I have stopped going clubbing 8 months ago since i started noticing that it’s pointless but every single time I have been to the club, I get approached multiple times. Even now, at work do I have men (that i’m attracted to) approaching me and asking me for my socials.

So in regards of SMV, i’m not lacking at all. I don’t dress promiscuous either yet it’s going well.

But somehow it’s ALWAYS (no single exception and i’ve had plenty of talking stages by now) the same pattern; they ask for my socials ➡️ they text me ➡️ they initiate the first date at a public setting ➡️ they always cover the expenses for the dates ➡️ they text me regularly with quick responses and ask me out on a second date.

That’s literally always how it goes and by date three (most of the time it doesn’t even get to that point), they get cold, distant, don’t ask me out on a further date and ghost.

Now to add to the title; whenever i’m getting to know a guy that i find physically attractive, I never show my true personality. I consider myself as a weird person so what i always do is never initiate a conversation, never talk about myself (unless they ask me because i’m instantly wired to think that they wouldn’t care about my hobbies or personal life anyway) and i just sit there all smiley hoping that they’ll continuously lead the conversation. I don’t even ask them about their life because in all honesty, I don’t even care. I just want to be in a relationship with a guy that i’m attracted to.

As I’ve already described the fake persona i’m putting on to seem normal, feminine and get a man to like me, that fake personality is boring. So could that be the reason men ALWAYS lose interest in me? And if that isn’t the reason, what am i doing wrong?

Edit: Forgot to mention how I look as that is a big criteria. Almost every single woman overrates herself due to constant positive feedback from other women but I even get told randomly on the street that i’m beautiful. My most received compliments are that i look like a doll/deer. On a brutal blackpilled looks scale, I’d put myself at 6/10, meaning above average (no, 7/10 isn’t average). I know that i’m not punching up either because Chads have NEVER approached me. The guys that do are looksmatched to me and men above average in looks are attractive to me.