Are you attracted to most redpill men?

CostAccomplished709 · 2025-03-14T14:52:56+00:00

I have learned that most of them actually hate women deep down. Sad but true.

leosandlattes · 2025-03-13T02:16:59+00:00

No, I am not attracted to the men that frequent TRP. They have completely different goals from RPW and that's fine, but they can keep it far away from me. Marriage is inherently a beta activity (in the way red pill means beta, as in traits/activities that increase comfort and relationship security), and a lot of those men are against marriage on principle.

My boyfriend thinks red pill and its associated grifters are silly and useless. But then, one can argue that men who were successful navigating women have very little reason to seek out pill spaces. And he is even what would be considered a Greater Beta, probably a 5 or something on the dominance scale.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2025-03-13T11:07:00+00:00

TRP and RPW have different goals. RPW are usually better off, not dating red pill men less those guys are focused on monogamy, or fully formed in their journey.

Bear in mind that most guys over at TRP are broken in some way. I don’t mean that as an insult, but typically guys show up there after a horrific breakup or divorce. They just found out that there’s a “second set of books” and they have to adjust to the new reality, tear themselves down and build themselves back up again.

Deep down, most guys, including most RPM, simply want a girlfriend who is nice to them. That is in short supply these days.

In general, I think we should extend some grace towards each other.

Hot_Blacksmith_3404 · 2025-03-13T02:15:35+00:00

I probably wouldn’t want a man who even knows what the word “redpill” means lol. I definitely don’t want someone who regularly consumes redpill content.

ddouchecanoe · 2025-03-14T16:45:56+00:00

No. I am attracted to traditional men and can appreciate a little bit of crossover, but I generally find men who identify with redpill to the extent that they make it known to be over the top, controlling and hypocritical. They don’t tend to accept nuisance and seem more likely to have cluster b personality disorders.

My husband understands and can appreciate a lot of the ideas behind redpill, but he is also capable of seeing what is bullshit and what isn’t and isn’t so rigid in his beliefs.

goldensurrender · 2025-03-13T07:59:38+00:00

No because their ideology is essentially "I am a victim" at its core

AnonTheGreat01 · 2025-03-13T13:39:39+00:00

First off, understand that 95+% of men who find TRP are men who have been destroyed in a LTR or are sexually very unsuccessful/unsatisfied/bitter in one way or another.

Those few who, through hard work over a vast amount of time, manage to become attractive and successful with women, will 9/10 times not be willing to commit to 1 woman because of the hard work they have put in , but also because they understand and are very familiar with the potential downsides associated not only with marriage, but with having a single woman having absolute control over his 'sex supply' in general.

An attractive, successful RP guy is a perfect match for a RWP on the one condition that he wants to get married and have a family. That's probably less than 1% of all the men in TRP.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-03-13T13:34:51+00:00

I've said it before on this sub, but a "redpill" man is not necessarily a high value one. In my opinion, you're better off focusing on a man's qualities and his actions and avoiding anyone who is so wrapped up in an online ideology that they've made it their personality. Most of these "redpill" content creators are grifters preying on insecure young men. Nothing about that is attractive.

SunRose42 · 2025-03-14T00:51:01+00:00

Honestly men who buy into redpill as an ideology are typically just not that impressive. Men’s RP content offers a black and white, reductive view of women. This is a simplistic picture of the world which oversimplifies gender and gender relations. The men this appeals to are men who are frustrated with women in some way and can’t deal with their frustration with anything that looks like nuance.

deeznutzasaurus · 2025-03-13T05:33:00+00:00

I don’t think I’d want them to be super into the actual red pill forums or anything, but if they have those beliefs, that’s fine, because they align with most of my own. I’d take the negatives with a traditional guy versus the positives of a wimpy lib. No offense?

HostRoyal9401 · 2025-03-13T05:29:47+00:00

If he has a decent personalty, isn’t delusional (doesn’t go for women out of his league, then wonder why nobody wants him), then yes, I’m totally fine with them.

Sweatpant-Diva · 2025-03-13T03:36:08+00:00

No 🥰

Scared-Tea-8911 · 2025-03-13T12:14:59+00:00

“Redpill” isn’t a philosophy or a religion. It’s a set of sociobiological principles on how men and women relate to each other, and can be used positively and negatively.

For men: - Positive usage: being a strong leader, making your SO feel secure by providing, having a healthy sexual desire for your partner, being physically healthy - Negative usage: manipulating women, only using women for sex, general hatred/distain toward women, fatalistic and victim attitude if they don’t think they are “chad-enough” etc

For women: - Positive usage: being a good partner/wife who makes your man happy, finding and securing a committed relationship, being feminine, being physically healthy - Negative usage: using men financially, manipulating men with sex, leading men on, etc.

Both sides can be used positively or negatively. A person who has negative goals at their core will use tools to achieve negative things, and a person with positive goals will use tools for positive things.

It can be risky to be with red pill men, because they have a powerful toolkit which can be used either to build women up, or tear them down/manipulate them. All the pickup artistry can trick even the most confident/smart woman. But truth be told, same thing from men’s side looking at us! We have the “secret sauce” to vet high-quality men and secure commitment with them… and if they don’t want to be in a committed relationship, they know we will be way more difficult to string along. 🤷🏻‍♀️

ArkNemesis00 · 2025-03-14T18:09:36+00:00

I'm not attracted to most men period. I have good genetics and am hypergamous.

There are several red pill beliefs a man could have and qualities he could possess that would hypothetically cause me to feel attracted. Every now and then I find a TRP account whose judgement I respect.

That being said, my husband is not into redpill and I think we're better off for it. He prefers stoicism.

Jewelry_lover · 2025-03-13T13:54:36+00:00

Nope

mistressusa · 2025-03-13T04:21:40+00:00

birkinsmuse · 2025-03-13T02:07:49+00:00

not the online ones lol but most of the "redpill" guys i have met in person have been actually great people just with a lot more traditional mindset

steelymaid · 2025-03-13T04:47:48+00:00

No, they have short guy energy.

serene_brutality · 2025-03-13T03:55:31+00:00

Not directly related, but RPW is pretty good, because it’s closer to what redpill was about a decade ago. Men (for the most part) then were only about the truth, good or bad, beneficial or not. Now there are a lot of men there just to air their grievances with women. RPW being women can cut through a lot of the BS the unfair hate while still willing to face the truth.

Werevulvi · 2025-03-17T18:08:54+00:00

Quite a lot of them have seemed kinda repugnant to me, tbh, based mostly on their behaviour ie lashing out their dating frustrations on women basically no matter what the woman says. But some RP men seem like they are nice (ie kind, compassionate, decent) people whom I could be attracted to if I got to know them or at least saw their faces. But in conversations online it has mostly been purple pill men who've caught my attention positively.

That all said, I've kinda always been in favor of men's rights, critical of feminism, more or less centrist, etc, and with that I definitely feel more compatible with men who are also generally on the more conservative-ish, red pill-ish side of the spectrum. Like in my experience they're generally erhm... less likely to call me a bigot of some type. Not that that's how low my bar is for dating compatibility, just saying since I have trouble even getting the most basic form of respect from blue pill men, obviously I see no point in keep giving them a chance. So when I say I generally prefer red and purple pill men, just being on the redder side of things isn't enough. He has to be additionally a good person, value what women can bring to the table, etc.

Although I'm not really into the extremist types of red pill men, who seem to be driven only or strongly by some kinda unresolved personal trauma. Fyi while I do have compassion for anyone having experienced any kinda trauma, having that as the only or strong motivator for ideology usually ends kinda badly, in my personal opinion. And I mean I kinda see that both in feminist women and in red pill men. Not all of either, of course.

Also fyi, most red pill men I've heard from or interacted with I've not seen how they look. Although a few of the men I've met irl, either as friends or as hookups (back in my messy past I'm not proud of) were or had some strong indications of being red pill, and it kinda was what made us feel connected. At least it was a strong factor to that. Probably because most men who have these kinda views, will never meet a woman who agrees with them. At least I assume that.

LateralThinker13 · 2025-03-13T13:17:55+00:00

You can't compare the two groups. Here's why:

Most RPW come to RP because they have had few or unfulfilling relationships, want to take ownership of the problem, and then seek to improve themselves in pleasing and supportive ways to land a better class of man or to salvage a relationship with one.

Most RP men come to RP because they have been spurned/rejected/hurt by women and are angry that BP society's teachings have misled them. They seek to learn techniques to get past BP untruths and women's lies (to themselves and everybody else) so that they can get laid.

Consider what TRP is: the unvarnished truth about biology and psychology that motivates the human species. Nothing more, nothing less. It's what each gender DOES with it that makes them so different, because men and women have such different places, goals, and purposes in life. Of course most men and women have little in common when seen through an RP lens.

That's not to say that all RP men are alpha-wannabe pickup artists. But most of the RP men you'll find on reddit... are not going to be of the marrying type, if you follow me.

HalfwaydonewithEarth · 2025-03-13T04:48:48+00:00

Toxic people are toxic...

Go for the nerdy simps and you are the one being red pill.

They pine for you.

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kitterkatty · 2025-03-14T19:54:23+00:00

I like the Mike Heck type (from the show The Middle). So, kind of. Blunt, matter of fact, down to earth, could live off the land, practical. Doesn’t say much but just gets things done. But also kind and patient. Doesn’t over complicate things. Doesn’t try to run anyone else’s life. Doesn’t get into debates about most things. Live and let live. Although he did put up with crap being broken and bad financial decisions. I personally wouldn’t live like that.

Most_Entertainment73 · 2025-04-08T20:05:02+00:00

My father became a red pill dude in the last year and my parent’s relationship has never been worse. It’s one thing for him to completely switch religions. But now his whole ideology on women has changed. He can’t apply it to her because my mom has a job and now she could be able to divorce him. FOR ME PERSONALLY: Stay away from with that blah blah blah

SnowOnCinders · 2025-03-13T20:17:53+00:00

If you mean men who zealously consume red pill content online in the PUA sphere, no. My husband is black pill in some things and red pill in many, but only because he is realistic and, for lack of a better word, based about traditional gender roles and how the world works in general. Not because he follows some podcast that tells him how to pick up women easily or preaches the self-destructive AWALT philosophy.

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