I feel so broken

Substantial_Lemon250 · 2025-04-19T17:25:10+00:00

I'm there with you. One foot in front of the other. Find the peaceful moments and cherish them. You'll get through it.

Fiberguy81 · 2025-04-16T22:59:53+00:00

It will get better! It fucking sucks, but you will adjust and it won't feel like the world is crumbling away.

heatseaking_rock · 2025-04-16T20:11:35+00:00

Stay strong. You are not alone.

delta-wrapper0k · 2025-04-16T13:01:18+00:00

You are not alone. There are so many like you. You will prevail. I don’t know your situation but my advice to any men here is to focus on your kids, if you have them, and focus on yourself. The past is the past and will not come back. Hard, sad but true. You will prevail

ExaminationKlutzy194 · 2025-04-16T10:56:04+00:00

Hang in there brother.

regertsrus · 2025-04-16T10:30:26+00:00

How low can you go? I bet i went lower. The real question is when will you snap out? I also know when. That can be summer up in just one sentence

MiloGoesToPorridge · 2025-04-16T06:29:14+00:00

This is just your grief talking mate, knock it off with the self-flagellation. You'll have to walk through some horrible thoughts, feelings and emotions, but you WILL get back up again.

You're right about this place, it's a real tonic and a great source of comfort and inspiration. I'm more of a lurker, but it's nice to be able to chip in and give a few words to those that are struggling with it all as I navigate my own way around my own experience.

Evari · 2025-04-16T05:26:23+00:00

There's only one person I blame, and you're not her.

To echo all the other comments, take time, grieve. Soon little moments of positivity will start entering your life, gradually there will be more and more of them. Its a long path and its not always in a straight line but things do get better.

LearnGrowExist · 2025-04-16T05:07:10+00:00

Just here to add a voice of reason and kindness to the many others you’ve already seen/heard. You will be okay. Get comfortable being alone. Actually, get uncomfortable with it first. It sucks at times. But you need those alone moments to remember. How you have been treated. Maybe how you acted. The whole truth. Not just the part you like and not just the part she tells. Once you get there, you will start to learn a shit ton about yourself and the world around you. Absolutely connect with people and nature, but don’t forget to connect with yourself. You are the only one you’ll have some days. And when that hurts to the point of losing all hope, please know that we are here for you. Reach out. Nobody says that with sincerity who doesn’t actually mean it.

OtAcOn214 · 2025-04-16T02:59:26+00:00

I feel you brother. I truly do mate. You matter. Trust.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2025-04-16T00:53:29+00:00

You’re gonna be fine my friend! Most of us know what you’re going through. This is a blessing in disguise, remember that. Although it’s the end of what you thought your life would be like, it’s the beginning of something you’d never imagine and it can be unbelievable beyond words! But start small… keep coming here and reading…. Reddit and reading stories and commenting with all you guys really helped me more than anything else did! Good luck!

BENJIDOVER79 · 2025-04-16T00:25:49+00:00

You’re not broken, brother. You’re cracked open, and that’s where the light starts to get in. The fact that you can write this, feel this deeply, and still reach out means there’s still a part of you that wants to live, that wants to heal, even if it’s buried under pain right now. And you’re right, you are not alone. Not by a long shot.

There’s something sacred about shared suffering. It connects people in a way comfort never could. Keep climbing, even if it’s slow. Even if you’re crawling. Every man who’s been through it is here with you, and every step forward, no matter how small, is a win. You’re not at the end. You’re at the start of a new version of yourself. One that will be stronger, wiser, and still standing.

DevinB12 · 2025-04-15T23:53:52+00:00

Stay strong and keep us informed. This sub has been great for me!

Confident-Crawdad · 2025-04-15T23:30:53+00:00

It's been 13 months since she ghosted me. Only on the anniversary did I peel away the blinders and realize it doesn't matter who had more or who had less influence on the breakdown of our relationship.

What matters now is how she's treated me. I couldn't take her back now, knowing how easily she can lie, how casually she just vanished.

It's frightening to realize that for months I slept next to someone I'd have taken a bullet for while she absolutely wouldn't have done the same for me.

Content-Class1259 · 2025-04-15T23:15:12+00:00

We are not the broken ones! Broken is the ability to premeditate the destruction of others lives and families because in the “new age” she deserves to be happy no mater what the cost to others.

I wonder if they understand that if personal happiness was the key, we the men would have been out long ago!

And don’t stress, it won’t happen immediately, but bit by bit you will find more happiness in your life than during your marriage.

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2025-04-15T23:00:32+00:00

It doesn't seem like it now but in 3 years your life will be more amazing than ever.

Do NOT skip on the most important step to healing.....gym. Sign up to your local today. If you are over 35 get on trt.

IBlockAllWomen · 2025-04-15T22:21:40+00:00

I am some 2 weeks past discovery of her cheating. It's brutal. We have a special needs kid and a baby. On the 10th day I broke my hand on her APs (a guy I thought I knew) face and sent him to the ER. Leaving the house at the end of the month. Pray for me, I'm gonna need it to survive for 2 more weeks.

Rezae · 2025-04-15T22:15:34+00:00

This sub has been awesome. As cliche as it sounds and I’m sure you’ve read it repeatedly, just remember to work on yourself hard: diet, exercise, socialize, get some new clothes if you need to. Read. A lot. Self-help, relationships, history. Therapy helps. And while doing all this you will keep your mind busy and not overly dwell on all the what-ifs. Time heals.

JustSomeDude7287 · 2025-04-15T22:02:51+00:00

This made me tear up a bit. You’re not alone, glad you realize that, it helps knowing there’s those who came before and after.

Grief. Don’t try to cover the pain, you have to feel each and every emotion and let it through instead of compartmentalizing them.

Start therapy, write on here/journal helps to get the thoughts out, go to the gym it’s nature antidepressants, find things that make you happy - self discovery.

The next couple weeks will be the hardest, but I guarantee it will get better. One day you’ll leave the shadow of the pain behind. There will be up and down, just expect more highs than lows.

You don’t need to carry the weight of the world to prove your worth. You are valuable as yourself. Stop the negative thinking it will set you back. Negative thoughts will give negative outcome. It’s okay to accept your fault in the divorce but never take the full blame unless you did cause the divorce. While I was not the perfect husband, her cheating was her choice and caused the divorce. I used to say what if I did this or that, nope, it’s because she lacks character.

To a brighter day ahead!

Sam_N_Emmy · 2025-04-15T21:33:58+00:00

I definitely feel you. I wish I had this community 10 years ago. There’s a lot of good people here that have similar stories. Just remember to take it one day at a time. You’re going to get through this and end up better than before.

RudigerSimpson84 · 2025-04-15T21:04:44+00:00

You will absolutely get through this. You're experiencing a totally normal, bafflingly common reaction to the loss... it's brutal, but you can do it.

Find anything you can that moves your mind to something else. For me it was long phone calls with old friends and playing poker. You got this!

Indepedence-david · 2025-04-15T20:19:26+00:00

U will be ok. You just started the curve of recovery. You not alone a lot men here have gone through it and most will say it’s for the best

2025-04-15T20:18:46+00:00

Hey man, same thing started with me. Don't blame 100% yourself. It was a teamgame. Both of you were supposed to do this together. Unless you cheated on her, it will not be 100% on you. It csak be 50-50, 80-20, whatever. But it wasn't only you.

This was an important realization for me, that I can't hadle myself like a total piece of shit. There was soo much good inside me. Not so much now, but I work on it to get it back.

Lonely_Panda4322 · 2025-04-15T20:07:49+00:00

We all in this together brother….the only thing is never give up and don’t loose hope. We will be great again…more power to you brother!

NotYours25 · 2025-04-15T20:02:22+00:00

This sub likely saved my life. We’re here to support you. Welcome!!

Zestyclose-Thanks662 · 2025-04-15T20:01:23+00:00

I’m sorry that you are in tears my friend. You are correct we all are broken. That is a fear for everyone being alone. If you think about it we have been alone most of our lives. Then we find a person we want to spend a lot of time with and we forget who we were trying to please that person.

It will get better Think of how you were before meeting this person. You were just fine. You have relied on this person to validate everything about you including space and time.

Slowloris81 · 2025-04-15T19:54:13+00:00

You aren’t alone and you aren’t broken, despite what you may feel. This sub is here to listen and help.

Title	I feel so broken
Author	JNez123
Upvotes	54
Comments	32
Date	April 15, 2025 7:47 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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