Do women actually reject men for being too big down there?

CanaryHeart · 2025-05-17T19:24:31+00:00

I wouldn’t reject someone that I liked otherwise, but we’d definitely need to discuss how to have a mutually satisfactory sex life that doesn’t cause me pain—I’m not interested in just sucking it up and letting someone slam into my cervix regularly.

But honestly, I’d expect any sexual partner to be open and communicative about our sex life anyway, so its not like I’d only be having discussions about what works for both of us with a well endowed partner.

ashpr0ulx · 2025-05-17T17:43:23+00:00

yes. there’s no point in dating someone that i literally can’t have enjoyable sex with

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-05-17T20:50:51+00:00

If he insists on fucking me with it, yes

thelajestic · 2025-05-17T22:58:49+00:00

Well not an outright rejection but I tried to have sex with someone once and we just couldn't do it because he was too big, so ended up stopping and not trying again. That was girth not length though. I haven't rejected anyone on length. Haven't ever seen any ridiculous sizes but there's been a handful where we needed to go a lot slower and it was limiting on positions due to length, so didn't reject in the first instance but declined to go back for more as it just made it a lot less fun.

leosandlattes · 2025-05-17T17:41:45+00:00

One of my friends allegedly tried to have sex with a man with a big penis, it hurt too much, but she was still horny so she had him go down on her and then she sent him on his way 💀🤣

With my own bf I have stopped sex if it was too painful. Sometimes it is, just depends on where I am in the cycle.

Tylikcat · 2025-05-17T18:12:43+00:00

It depends on the women. Two of my girlfriends (both bi) would prefer men who were smaller than average because anything larger hurt. This isn't uncommon - a lot of women have issues with painful intercourse.

All else being equal, I enjoy men with larger cocks more. (But all else is never equal.) Which has more to do with how I'm built than anything else. My optimum might be "substantially larger than average" and not "hung like a horse", though I've enjoyed the latter, too. And there was one case where sex did hurt - but I think that was some combination of coming off of a dry spell, and a med reaction.* I don't think he was the biggest guy I've had sex with, though he might be tied for the title.

The most important thing about size is right size, which varies a lot. And if you don't have issues with painful intercourse, vaginas are notable stretchy (I have yet met a cock the size of a baby's head - but that's probably a good thing, as giving birth is painful as hell). On average, most women prefer a bit larger than average, though most of us enjoy girth more than length, for all that men make a giant fuss about length.

But there's a ton of variance there, and a lot of women who would prefer a little smaller, though this isn't something they tend to advertise.

* Some time later I took the same med again and noticed a similar reaction.
** Oh, yeah, length can also be pretty painful. I enjoy having my cervix pounded, a lot of women really don't.

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Aimeereddit123 · 2025-05-17T23:21:30+00:00

I have 🙋‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️. Just by him TELLING me his size. I didn’t even want to SEE it. He was a handsome attorney, too. I didn’t care.

Gilmoregirlin · 2025-05-17T19:41:07+00:00

I have and so have several of my friends, so the answer is yes.

Legitimate_Peach_21 · 2025-05-17T21:14:42+00:00

I have asked men to back off (not go as deep) or switch positions because it hurt.

Axis_Control · 2025-05-19T16:50:34+00:00

I mean he would have to be in top 3% for that so never happened to me

Latter_Cranberry9384 · 2025-05-20T01:21:49+00:00

I dumped a man for it. After that I have turned men down for being too big. At this point I’ll ask for pictures beforehand to make sure it’ll be something I can handle. I actively have a friend I remind regularly that I prefer to maintain my structural integrity and won’t sleep with him.

SandBrilliant2675 · 2025-05-21T16:09:38+00:00

If you’re genuinely asking, vaginal canals, like penises, come in different sizes (width and depth) and a large penis can be uncomfortable for some women.

Adequate arousal and foreplay can help lessen this discomfort, as the vagina and clitoris engorge with blood and widen with arousal.

attendquoi · 2025-05-17T18:03:24+00:00

I'm a bit of a size queen, so it's unlikely that a guy would actually be too big. But if he is, then yeah. PIV is my favorite, so if that's not enjoyable then all bets are off.

Nellylocheadbean · 2025-05-17T20:01:47+00:00

Anything abnormal I would reject. Abnormally big and Abnormally small

Title	Do women actually reject men for being too big down there?
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Date	May 17, 2025 7:11 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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