For straight women who date bisexual men.

VisceralSardonic · 2025-07-15T02:41:34+00:00

So I’m a bi woman, which I know might skew the data for some people, but I see absolutely no reason to care if a guy is bi.

If someone is going to cheat, they’re going to find an excuse for it. That’s a character flaw, not a sexuality thing. We don’t accuse dudes who are into both redheads and blondes of not being able to “choose one and not have regrets” if they’re married to a blonde. I wouldn’t put it past some of the narratives on this subreddit, actually, but I’m not interested in someone with that worldview anyway. Either you think cheating is an acceptable solution to a problem in your relationship or you don’t, and there’s zero data to correlate a higher likelihood of infidelity with bisexuality.

Bi is an either/or kind of thing, not a “gotta catchem all” thing.

Beyond that, there’s, what? The ick factor? Am I worried that my man is going to have been contaminated by Man? Damn.

I’m sure people will come on here talking about ‘type’, but it’s not like you can tell someone is bi from a distance. Most people just either think bi dudes are icky or think bi dudes have less self control. Yes I’m oversimplifying a bit, but not much. Bi people aren’t fundamentally different from straight people or gay people in any way other than in who might happen to get them off, so I really consider it to be a useless argument.

Inevitable-Nail-3101 · 2025-07-15T22:08:51+00:00

Oddly enough you asked straight women this question and yet most of the respondents are bisexual women.

Werevulvi · 2025-07-15T09:05:24+00:00

I used to think I was bisexual, I was bi-curious for some 15 years but then when I finally got the chance to be with another woman, my feelings about it were lukewarm at best, eventually put off by it. I also used to be transgender, but when I finally recovered from my past trauma those feelings went away and I regretted having tried to become a man. So I figured I must just have been a confused straight woman all along.

But during that time I learned a lot about bisexuality and met a lot of bisexual people I connected with. Most of them were men, some of whom I dated. It was also pretty much only bisexuals who wanted me because of that whole trans thing back then.

This experience made me basically grow trust and kinship with bisexual men. Like I could relate to them in some way, and appreciate their dual attraction for what it is. And that's still there now that I'm a regular straight woman again. One thing I like about bisexual men is that they more often seem to be more comfortable in their masculinity, less threatened by gender non-conformity, and they often seem to be more careful about protection during sex and getting tested regularly. Especially the one's who have had sex with other men.

Not all bisexual men of course, but the ones I've known have been like that. And I think that's gotta be at least partially because they live with that stigma and thus try harder to be more trustworthy. Not that I think they should have to do that, but I kinda wish more straight men had that mindset too.

At this point I dunno if I have any preference for straight vs bi men. I don't really care which a guy is, as long as he's a good guy. So I haven't stopped dating bi men, I don't see why I would.

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-07-15T02:24:50+00:00

Bi myself, but I prefer bi men, for both dating and friendship. Bi men know way more than straight men what it feels like to be harassed by a man, so they tend to be a lot more respectful and careful about harassing me.

Superb-Foundations · 2025-07-15T03:13:40+00:00

I am bi and I prefer bi men. I feel bi men are usually not so, "alpha podcast bro" bull shit. 🤷 I also think men are hot... but so are women.... but so are men and women... so yeah. For me its all about openness. I've been shamed for being bi so I know how it feels. Sex is just fun, have it in anyways you want with consenting adults.

NavIsShit · 2025-07-15T10:56:11+00:00

I date like fruity men and they tend to just have a passive non offensive way of communicating, more physically affectionate, less rigid about their masculinity. Just overall more fun guys tbh, like they're not outed bi but all my friends have said the fruit cake meter with them was off the charts. You could say those dudes were toxically masculine but I constantly fall for either bi guys or just very fluid guys not afraid to hold my bags, hug other men etc

Xeltar · 2025-07-15T03:39:05+00:00

I think it's more about the fear that one day they'll find out the guy is actually gay. And then being disgusted or insecure about them sleeping with other guys and wondering how they compare. Honestly it seems like a pretty offensive view to hold to me but I've known otherwise progressive people really have a hurdle with this.

I've only been with straight men but I consider the idea of two attractive guys going at each other to be pretty appealing so don't really understand the prejudice.

Morgoth_Worshipper · 2025-07-15T06:23:30+00:00

I would prefer a bi man over a straight man so we can both just gush over our favourite male characters together.

Flightlessbirbz · 2025-07-15T17:13:56+00:00

I’m not straight, but I’m bi married to a bi man. It never felt like a big deal to me, although my own orientation might play a role in that. I liked his direct, early approach in telling me, since that allowed me to just say “me too” without wondering when the right time was. I don’t have any significant orientation preference, but being with another bi person is in some ways easier since you just don’t have to worry about the misconceptions or negative stereotypes. He also seems to be overall more secure in his masculinity, and we feel comfortable checking hot people out together instead of having to pretend not to notice their existence, ya know.

The truth is that yes, bi men do have more opportunities to cheat, because let’s be real… men tend to be kinda “slutty” compared to women. But what’s also true is that loyalty is a choice, and cheaters will find a way to cheat even if it takes a little more effort.

Fun_Breakfast697 · 2025-07-15T18:24:25+00:00

I'm straight and have always been more attracted to bisexual men. Idk why.

Avast_Lion · 2025-07-15T13:54:37+00:00

I didn’t have to overcome anything! Imo people on this sub talk about the “stigma” against bi men among straight women like it’s this entirely new and different phenomenon, but we already have a word for it. It’s called homophobia. If you think, as many straight men and women do, that having sex with other men makes a man somehow tainted, unmasculine, overly libidinous and promiscuous, and carrying STIs, that’s what that is—whether or not you are in a position to date said men.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2025-07-15T02:47:21+00:00

I'm bi, I've dated bi guys. Never been something I thought about too much.

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SouthernGrass3 · 2025-07-15T20:26:31+00:00

In a long term relationship with a straight guy now, but I never had any issue with dating someone bi. I don’t think it was a preference, just never a problem.

Title	For straight women who date bisexual men.
Author	USSTexasBB_35
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Comments	44
Date	July 15, 2025 1:29 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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