It’s stupid to expect/demand that women turn you into “hookup material” with advice. You already had the knowledge of what it took to be that guy and apply yourself from an early age, if that’s who you wanted to be.

It was in all the movies, tv, music, and video games. Men that you knew in your personal lives told you what it was, be it fathers, siblings, cousins, and/or friends. All you had to do was simply observe the world around you.

You knew that being attractive mattered. That dressing nice and having some sense of fashion would help.

You knew that life wasn’t cheap and would require financial stability to be able to maintain for yourself and to indulge in personal pleasures.

You knew that women liked status. Whether it be a blue collar guy, construction, commercial fisherman, etc. or white collar guy, finance, tech, etc. you knew that achieving some sort of status to match your personal accolades would avail you to a plethora of options.

You also knew that you needed some type of charm to your personality. Even if you wanted to be quiet and mysterious for whatever reasons, there were ways to make yourself appealing that way. Funny guys made their jokes work and flirty guys made their game work.

You had all the tools at your fingertips to be successful in causal sex. A lot of you just didn’t apply yourselves. Now you’re stuck relying on advice from women who you think are lying about what they like and failing strategies.