from 1 to 10, how bad is it to cry in front of a woman?

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joebat219 · 2025-09-03T23:00:55+00:00

Depends on the dynamic but i don’t recommend it

HTML_Novice · 2025-09-03T23:29:38+00:00

I’ve done this because she was living at my apt and I wanted her to leave, so I cried in front of her intentionally to make her lose attraction so I didn’t have to kick her out and cause a fight.

Background_Daikon_20 · 2025-09-03T22:49:01+00:00

Depends where you are in your relationship. Personally I think if your in pretty deep then crying occasionally is ok as long as it’s not in a self pitying way. But depends on the relationship, I know some guys that cry all the time and the girl doesn’t mind.

Stormfather_x · 2025-09-04T00:43:10+00:00

My wife has seen my cry quite a few times. I cry at movies or even from hearing a good song. I’ve cried about serious things too but I think she understands that she’s the one I can show that side to, or at least I hope that’s how she feels. Reading these comments makes me wonder though. We’ve been married 13 years.

RodneyMcIroncock · 2025-09-03T23:14:37+00:00

Older millennial with lots of dating experience here. Every woman who has seen me cry has left me, including my wife. Save it for your therapist. Seriously.

SnooBunnies9918 · 2025-09-03T23:20:02+00:00

Don't. Ever.

Simp4Aurelius · 2025-09-04T00:31:16+00:00

There can’t be a rule to this.

Why are you crying? How early are you crying around her? Are you crying around her often? Are you sobbing or maintaining composure while shedding a few tears?

Do any of yall think that a woman who sees their now-husband shed a couple tears of joy and disbelief on their wedding day would be turned off by that?

Or if you cried in the car after maintaining your composure after your father’s funeral?

Or if a husband was/is an infantryman with night terrors and lost brothers at war?

I’d say 60-70% of the time a guy cries in front of their partner, it’s off putting. Mostly because there are a ton of emotionally unstable men and stupid reasons to cry. But that’s because they’re crying over something immature or the woman in question is immature, not because of the act of crying itself.

If your long term partner can’t comfort you and maintain respect and attraction for you if you have a legitimate and serious reason to cry, they’re not worth being with imo.

Fidel__CashFl0w · 2025-09-03T23:34:29+00:00

Depends on the dynamic honestly. Opening up and being vulnerable she probably won’t mind Begging for her to come back to you or crying because yall broke up? Probably a 10 or more. Every girl I’ve talked to has said they got the ick when a guy has cried begging for them. They hold on to it forever in a negative way

PriorSandwich · 2025-09-03T22:55:08+00:00

Don't.

Damian-7530 · 2025-09-03T22:51:13+00:00

Just don't do it

yazzooClay · 2025-09-03T23:00:02+00:00

9 or 10

Dry-Atmosphere3169 · 2025-09-04T00:12:13+00:00

Funny reading the comments. The hottest girls I’ve been with saw me cry on multiple occasions. They liked it. But it was more of a “oh shit that’s intense and he’s emotionally aware and able to feel his feelings” it wasn’t that I was crying out of weakness.

I wouldn’t want to date someone that would ditch me if I cried. So if my father dies I can’t cry? Seems like a weird relationship.

harmonic- · 2025-09-04T02:01:53+00:00

You should never express any emotion to women. I made the mistake of smiling in front of my girl and she fucked my best friend the next day. Never again

Rhino3750ss · 2025-09-03T23:58:01+00:00

Know that showing emotion is, in reality; a strength, but different categories of people perceive it different.

It's not a bad thing to cry in front of a woman and be vulnerable because it's a form of strength to have the balls to disregard societal conditioning to let it out....as long as the woman, in this case; is your mother or grandma.

A woman you want to hook up with or start a relationship with won't see crying as a strength, just another way to justify disqualifying you. In the past I would say it was a 2 on the "bad scale" because women had a limited pool of options, but now that they aren't restricted to their locality and social circle I say it's an 11.

Better_Reference3502 · 2025-09-03T23:08:27+00:00

Kickass_Wizard · 2025-09-03T23:19:25+00:00

I wrote a long message and redacted. Only cry if you truly trust her, and it should be RARE. Be prepared for her not to like you after. It's a gamble and some women, for whatever reason, don't want their rock, their mountain, their man to express that side to them. You can still express yourself without getting to that level. Just my perspective.

bwoytremor · 2025-09-03T23:32:25+00:00

Avoid it

bannedcanceled · 2025-09-03T23:29:56+00:00

Max 10

Life-Income2986 · 2025-09-03T23:52:23+00:00

Depends. If crying is a human reaction to the stimulus that caused it, it's 100% fine. If your mother tells you she won't make you tendies and you have a sobbing meltdown and punch a hole in the wall, you will never see your girlfriend again.

Kronuk · 2025-09-03T23:22:59+00:00

Never do it

the_1st_inductionist · 2025-09-03T23:38:00+00:00

It depends on her relationship to you, why you’re crying, what sort of woman she is and what sort of man you are.

everythingsmedium · 2025-09-04T02:14:55+00:00

It depends on the reason. I think there are many valid reasons for anyone to cry, even men. Obviously if you’re overly dramatic about it or are crying all the time over tiny things, that would turn anybody off. It’s normal and everybody does it. I’m thankful that he feels comfortable enough to cry around me

iTsYoBoiGlory · 2025-09-04T02:24:26+00:00

Man I would give anything to cry, I haven’t cried in years.

CrvCrx27 · 2025-09-03T23:48:52+00:00

Woman you just met? 10/10 bad.

Woman you’re been with a few years? Still bad, but it will determine whether she’s worth wasting any more time on.

Ketchup571 · 2025-09-03T23:29:35+00:00

Like what others have said it depends on the context. If a pet or family member dies you’re likely fine to cry. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or depressed or something like that, don’t do it.

Natural-Wrongdoer-85 · 2025-09-04T00:34:36+00:00

we cant cry in front of a women now? What if our loved one had recently passed and we are venting..

OmenDamien · 2025-09-04T00:25:53+00:00

Don’t do that. It’s not bad if she’s your sister, but… you know, you wouldn’t sleep with her anyway.

GreenNukE · 2025-09-04T00:50:55+00:00

At least 11.

dasanman69 · 2025-09-04T02:19:12+00:00

10, if it is the worst

n_Lakech · 2025-09-04T02:20:37+00:00

tghost474 · 2025-09-04T02:28:21+00:00

10/10 if 10 is the worst. It WILL be used against you one day.

snowcroc · 2025-09-04T02:41:55+00:00

Very very bad.

They will tell you it’s not , but it always ends badly

DopeAFjknotreally · 2025-09-04T02:46:38+00:00

It completely depends on why you’re crying.

If you find out your mom died? 1 - it would be a bad thing if you didn’t cry in front of her. If you cry because you know her deeply and you’re unpacking some deep-rooted trauma? Probably also 1. It’s connective.

Crying after sex because you’re trauma dumping on her? 10. Crying because you can’t handle the stress of your day? 10. Crying because she says something that hurts your feelings? Probably an 8-10 unless it truly hit something deep (ie: she didn’t realize she triggered some fucked up ptsd related to a war or something)

EmptyDisk212 · 2025-09-04T02:47:22+00:00

purposehunter98 · 2025-09-04T02:54:27+00:00

If you cry in almost all situations 1/10

But if you cry once in a decade just because you want her and you have never cried for anything else 100/10

AeliosZero · 2025-09-04T03:09:04+00:00

Depends on the girl Depends how far into relationship/how close you are Depends on context

Deffective_Paragon · 2025-09-04T03:27:43+00:00

It depends, do you feel attracted to women that cuss, spit and act violent?

Due_Possession7887 · 2025-09-04T03:36:37+00:00

If someone dies it’s ok. Otherwise yeah…. Don’t do it.

spacemangoes · 2025-09-04T03:46:31+00:00

It’s a break up trick. Use it if you ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ fails.

PrinceDestin · 2025-09-04T04:07:35+00:00

I’ve done it in front of my ex girlfriend a few times….

I don’t recommend but the first one or two times we were both crying

emck405 · 2025-09-04T04:54:21+00:00

I wouldn't risk it. I'm in my 30s and while I don't think crying in general with people seeing is that big of a deal, I think crying in front of ANY woman you know is a bad idea. Is crying in front of your mom gonna make her love you any extra? I think not

GreenMario2 · 2025-09-04T04:59:39+00:00

10 .. if you're aiming straight for the friendzone.

SkotchKrispie · 2025-09-04T05:07:26+00:00

I didn’t cry for 25 years, including the entirety of my childhood. I then ended up being recorded crying for the first time and having it played out in front of hundreds of women. It’s been truly fucking awful. I wouldn’t do it. I’d cry in private if I ever did it again. Maybe with your wife you could cry, but I wouldn’t do it before then. Regardless of whether the women are attracted to me after hearing me cry, I’m not comfortable with them and I’m really not comfortable with them. Awful feeling.

thembitches326 · 2025-09-04T05:26:10+00:00

I would not do it at all. 1, you really should reserve those moments for when there's unlimited amount of trust between you and her, as doing this in front of someone who you don't trust can risk you being emotionally abused and manipulated by a potentially manipulative woman. 2, As previously mentioned by other comments, it's not very attractive to women.

mufasis · 2025-09-04T05:29:29+00:00

peaches_onions · 2025-09-04T07:02:44+00:00

Theres nothing inherently wrong about crying in front of, well, anyone! Hope this helps 😅

oc974 · 2025-09-04T07:04:19+00:00

Context is what makes or breaks this. Women love vulnerable men in a way that shows honesty and empathy. At the same time, women hate whiny ass bitchy men who cry out of angst. Also, timing and location is a big thing.

Crying about losing a friend, feeling melancholic about a plight/cause or a genuine struggle in a private place? Cool. This man is real, genuine and authentic.

Now, crying because Sydney Sweeney won't run to have a threesome with him or because his favorite movie was a turkey and bawling in a public place? I'll let you decide.

fingin_pvp · 2025-09-04T07:06:26+00:00

I did out of validity and it actually made us feel closer, though I’ve been honest and upfront about everything from the get go.

SWIM270 · 2025-09-04T02:06:45+00:00

Its either 1 or 10. You didn’t define the ends of the spectrum.

Thierr · 2025-09-04T05:14:39+00:00

Depends on the type of woman.

Is it a healthy and self aware woman? She will actually be more attracted to you, because they look for men that are emotionally vulnerable

Is she a trauma ridden woman with daddy issues? She'll run for the hills

Also damn it hurts seeing how many people say don't show any emotion. That's really not healthy guys. We're humans, just like women, we have the same emotions. Repressing it will lead to bad stuff.

TobididiT · 2025-09-03T22:45:46+00:00

In front of and To, are different. In front of id say 0, who cares.

She broke up with you and you’re crying to her? 11

somethinlikeshieva · 2025-09-04T01:16:22+00:00

Context please

Title	from 1 to 10, how bad is it to cry in front of a woman?
Author	Born_Muscle_8096
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Comments	107
Date	September 3, 2025 10:43 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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