First big treat to yourself?

Dazzling-Ad-7550 · 2025-09-24T20:31:56+00:00

A vasectomy

caseyjshu · 2025-09-20T23:21:21+00:00

I moved. Left that town and went back to my hometown where my family and real friends were. My child was in college so could visit him when they were able.

Upstairs-Pizza-1843 · 2025-09-20T23:03:38+00:00

I bought a Ducati Monster 696.

0neMinute · 2025-09-20T14:54:52+00:00

Went to Colombia, panama and then bought myself a new car. My ex was heavily manipulative, anytime i wanted to buy something expensive she would cry and say we needed other stuff ( i had to bring her on 10k vacations every year, she bought a new car every other year , she picked Everything or would threaten divorce for 5 years)

liquid-icee · 2025-09-20T13:26:24+00:00

I was extremely lucky, only married a few years, no kids so my ex just took half our meager savings, no fights, about money at least. Financially I’m in a much better position than I was while married. I’ve traveled a lot around the country (Florida,the American Southwest, the Adirondacks etc.) but I always do so on the cheap. Just me and my bro it’s nice.

When it comes to moving on, it was good closure for myself. I used to take my ex places a lot, was in the middle of planning a surprise vacation to somewhere she really wanted to go when she dropped the bomb on me but now I can do much more traveling single and I imagine the majority of her life now consists of sitting with her AP on the couch smoking weed and watching Netflix.

Paddle_Pedal_Puddle · 2025-09-20T12:01:00+00:00

Bought a new house that is perfect for me, my kids and our dog. I like it much more than the house I shared with my ex. Got new furniture, helped my kids decorate their new rooms, and slowly turning it into a home. It’s a sanctuary I look forward to coming home to, instead of a place of chaos I dreaded.

hhh888hhhh · 2025-09-20T11:50:35+00:00

I’m in deep debt and my credit score is feeling the pain. Won’t be able to dig myself out until at least one year after this..

dubdad22683 · 2025-09-20T11:10:25+00:00

New pussy with no strings. No expectations. Just hours of hot sweaty exhausting sex. It had been a full year and a half.

I think I painted the ceiling. The whole place look like a Jackson Pollock painting

Tonberry38 · 2025-09-20T08:00:53+00:00

My home, seriously.

Moved out of state to be near my sister and shortly after arriving i bought a 1450 sq ft home for 249k in the state of Texas.

Courtesy of California inflation i sold my home for 3x what i bought it for.

Major-Pudding-9115 · 2025-09-20T05:55:09+00:00

I think i will buy a watch to remind me that time is precious.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2025-09-20T05:45:11+00:00

I dropped like $20k on Xmas and my bday last year. Got a 98” TCL miniLED, 77” LG G3, and then a 55 G4 for my bedroom , brand new couch (it’s nice), got all new lights, a new q990D sound system, and I’m forgetting a few things, my bday is December 28, no kids

Techdude_Advanced · 2025-09-20T05:40:54+00:00

Went for a massage and had pancakes with my kids. Gaming is fun again.

My friends were crucial in my recovery.

I also bought a new car. Love it.

Fabulous-Raisin3283 · 2025-09-20T04:38:00+00:00

Took like $30k in savings I had saved for potential future kids (nursery room, college, random first couple years expenses) before her emotional affair and blew it all on a down payment on a Cayman GTS 4.0. No guilt or regrets. Its the first time I treated myself first in about a decade and met a lot of new friends driving the mountains and having an absolute blast working on it and going to start tracking it soon. Heck, I can even sell it for a profit right now. Got a roommate and he's basically covering the monthly payment. More money i've ever seen from the roomie than from my ex lol. Im only 33 so dont feel like a loser with a roommate or anything, and don't need him or anything and own my home. The house was feeling large and lonely after losing the ex and my dog within the same month earlier this year, so he's keeping me good company with human interaction here and there on the rare chance I actually catch him in the common areas. I'm still slowly healing, and certainly have up and down weeks, but getting better over all with time I think. Its been since April since we split and my pup passed away. Also hookers and blow first couple months right after, but I got that phase out of my system fairly quickly. That was a slippery slope and felt like shit

alexmixer · 2025-09-20T03:55:58+00:00

Escort

notconvinced780 · 2025-09-20T03:49:41+00:00

A hilarious, smart, fun, adventurous, gorgeous girlfriend I laugh and have fun with all the time!

IAPiratesFan · 2025-09-20T02:27:46+00:00

I bought a shower curtain with a bear riding a shark shooting a machine gun. My ex never would have allowed it in our spare basement bathroom.

warwww · 2025-09-20T02:21:29+00:00

Got a new suv for me and the kids to trot around in. 😎

gaelorian · 2025-09-20T02:18:22+00:00

A fit friend with benefits that never had kids.

Drinks and dinner add up, but worth it.

iplay4Him · 2025-09-20T02:01:10+00:00

I'm half a milly in debt. Luckily I like ramen.

DeedIndeed · 2025-09-20T01:48:39+00:00

I always wanted a drum set. 15 years of marriage and 44 years old, got my first drum set even though I felt guilty spending that money rather than for my kids (whom I have primary custody). Ultimately hoping they want to bang on it too. Felt great putting it together and seeing it in my bedroom.

tyyyy110 · 2025-09-20T00:40:31+00:00

An apartment, another car, and a few casual hookups! 🔥

KitchenBomber · 2025-09-20T00:28:52+00:00

I bought a really nice mattress and threw away the one I used to share with her.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-09-20T00:03:40+00:00

Took the bullshit out of ny dining room and put a ping pong table in there. Now me and the kids play ping pong in the house and it's amazing. Also bought some neon light signs for that room.

Title	First big treat to yourself?
Author	Own_Limit7408
Upvotes	8
Comments	43
Date	September 19, 2025 11:57 PM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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