If you were a woman, what kind of men would you be attracted to?

Environmental_Day558 · 2025-11-26T05:29:17+00:00

If I was woke up tomorrow as a woman I'd have the same brain and same preferences I have now, but I'm going to answer as if I'd be straight and looking for a man.

Personality wise charming, generous, assertive, and sense of humor. Looks wise like a Michael B Jordan type but not necessarily the super PED'd version from creed. Just taller me, good physical shape (muscular physics preferred), nice face and smile. Doesn't have to be rich but doing well enough to not have to struggle financially.

On a side note if I woke up a looksmatch woman I know I'd be fine as hell and could probably pull whoever I wanted (in reason) tbh. So I can understand why women are much more picky than men.

unloveablemanlet · 2025-11-26T07:54:34+00:00

Someone who is taller than me but not too tall like he wouldn't be able to hurt me or overwhelm me by his body. He should be good looking but not like just the top 10% of something and virgin like we should be each other first everything.

Lastly we must each be from same social background.

samuelazers · 2025-11-26T01:39:17+00:00

A guy that has good control on his anger, stleast 6" penis, doesn't stink, brush, tries to be intelligent, doesn't goon, makes enough money to afford expenses and saving some . Doesn't have annoying voice, don't make immature jokes. Doesn't have sketchy friends

Atleast my height

That's just the bare minimum really but feels gay

Lift_and_Lurk · 2025-11-26T15:28:42+00:00

Someone just like me apparently. When me and my wife first met her friends joked with her “of course you like him, he’s like the guy version of you in his friends group!”

Barely-moral · 2025-11-26T09:55:14+00:00

I would ignore attraction. I want a lifestyle. I am looking for a man willing to provide it and unlikely to leave. Attraction is not a trait I can focus on. I would have limited time at my peak value. I need to find men, vet them, pick one and be sure I can provide exactly what he wants so he is willing to give me what I want.

Attraction is irrelevant. There are more important things in life.

cuddly--suar · 2025-11-26T01:55:17+00:00

I can't imagine being with a guy. I would likely be a lesbian. I always liked the feminine aesthetic and stuff

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wtknight · 2025-11-26T01:27:42+00:00

Probably someone just like me.

torytho · 2025-11-26T07:13:02+00:00

I already am attracted to smart, funny, nice guys.

Substantial_Video560 · 2025-11-26T10:30:32+00:00

I wouldn't bother to be honest unless I wanted sex.

EugeneCezanne · 2025-11-26T20:53:18+00:00

More or less the same things I look for in women now. Relatively fit-to-athletic build, pretty face, charisma, extroversion, intelligence, curiosity, wit, backbone, style, with a philosophical nature and a strong sense of "goodness." Beyond that, feel free to hit "randomize" on the character creator.

PrecisionHat · 2025-11-27T23:32:53+00:00

It's hard to answer that question. I feel like saying I'd be most attracted to the hottest men, but I'd still find many men attractive. But I'm kind of approaching it as a man; like, as a guy, I find some women really attractive, like very hot. Others I find less attractive, but I still find them attractive. I get the sense that's not how it works for women and I have trouble putting myself in that position. Like, you said you don't find most men attractive. But, I do find most women attractive. It's hard to imagine what it's like the other way.

TheOneWhoThinketh · 2025-11-26T03:53:51+00:00

I think the answer is pretty straightforward that a man should be the version of himself that he would most be attracted to if he were a woman, but also this is a hypothetical that is kind of impossible to expand on further than that (unless you are bisexual).

Personality wise, it would be the same kind of men that inspire me now: confident, masculine and secure, who have a sense of humor and a curiosity about the world and other humans, and who value all their relationships.

minorcold · 2025-11-26T17:33:41+00:00

probably someone similar to me, who wouldn't mind hugging for hours and doing cute couple things together

eluusive · 2025-11-26T03:38:16+00:00

I would find a very intelligent man, who's a bit reserved, with some clear intrinsic motivation, that gets overlooked by other women. Someone around 5'8", and maybe a bit scrawny. That way, I know he's "good enough" and likely to be all mine.

Then I'd start investing in improving the other characteristics I'd like to have by encouraging him and praising him a lot. I'd start making sure he eats healthy food, and going to the gym. And, I'd help him find better jobs and get promoted by making friends with people at his work and networking.

I'd sit back and count the money he brings in, and start investing it wisely.

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2025-11-26T01:30:56+00:00

Lol. I could be a fat, unattractive woman, with no money at all, and probably pull a fat nerdy multi millionaire at least. I wish I could test it out to bet money on it

In terms of if I were my actual match, I guess I would pick myself. Most people kinda suck, and I’d be unlikely to find a quick equal in the general population. “Childfree atheist” is where my standards start, not end

Grow_peace_in_Bedlam · 2025-11-26T19:18:52+00:00

I don't know exactly what kind of men I'd be attracted to.

However, I'm pretty confident I would care LESS about looks as a woman than as a man.

The reason for that is that I've gotten with a few women who were perfectly pleasant-looking and didn't at all provoke my disgust reflex but who nevertheless could not consistently get me hard, which got in the way of sexual compatibility; nevertheless, they could get me to release precum, which I assume would mean that female me would have been wet enough to comfortably take a dick and get more aroused and engorged as the penetration and stimulation of the fornices continued.

Sometimes, I even wished I could have been born female so that I wouldn't have had to reject personally compatible mates over not being able to sexually get in the mood with them immediately.

Fortunately, my wife easily gets me very aroused.

-Kalos · 2025-11-26T22:45:46+00:00

Men like me fym, I'm a catch. Respectfully

Scary-Mouse4817 · 2025-11-27T02:19:07+00:00

Like many woman, I would primarily care about how good he is at sex and how nice his penis is and how he uses it.

My personal experience is men don't have similar features that women can be attracted to.

Women are attracted to large penises, and height, that is similar.

Popeoath · 2025-11-27T05:58:41+00:00

There's just straight up no way to know that. Male and female attraction basically works completely differently.

Even if you compare gay men to straight women the dynamics don't align, gay men are banging eachother tons across the spectrum, so clearly they're seeing desirable traits in the average baseline man that just don't appeal the same way to straight women.

SexCrispies · 2025-11-28T15:19:39+00:00

What remains of "me" in this looksmatched woman? Are traits mirrowed as the same percentile in a distribution, or as the same value? Women work differently than men when it comes to what triggers lust. I do not know any women with my trait profile, because it's a rare masculine profile. Do I can tell you what kind of women I am into and which are into me or me like me. But it's impossible to imagine "me as a woman", because that likely doesn't exist and I have no idea what they would be into.

But other than that, I am attractive, physically and otherwise, to women who are looksmatched or lower. Do I guess that I as woman would also go for a looksmatched man, even if that would likely not be me, with my trait profile.

Erdenaxela1997 · 2025-11-26T04:00:18+00:00

None.

My wife is bisexual, so wisdom teeth wouldn't be a problem for me.

Title	If you were a woman, what kind of men would you be attracted to?
Author	Obvious_Smoke3633
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Date	November 25, 2025 10:47 AM UTC (7 months ago)
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