How to pass the exclusivity shit test

Invincibleirshad · 2026-02-02T20:07:50+00:00

The issue lies with you feeling guilty. There's nothing wrong with not being exclusive. I don't get asked this, but if I was in you position, I'd be like, I'm only exclusive if I fall in love with you, and it takes me a while to fall..../ my love language is quality time etc. It's a reliable excuse in my books

Certain_Process_7657 · 2026-02-02T22:50:05+00:00

I've had the convo a couple times after a few weeks of casual dating/fucking. Just say something like I'm keeping options open and not looking to get into something super serious right away.

Usually she's pretty saddened/upset since you pretty much told her she's not your first choice. Women aren't idiots. They know you wouldn't be giving her this line if you genuinely thought she was the best you could get or anywhere remotely close to "keeper potential".

In general, this is a surefire way of telling her she's not the one and to not get too invested. You've already put an expiration date on the relationship.

But definitely don't even bother opening this line of questioning before you've slept together. If a chick is bringing this shit up before you've even gotten her in bed at least a few times, just move on.

jjj2576 · 2026-02-02T20:54:37+00:00

Plates break.

Key-Proud · 2026-02-02T21:08:38+00:00

Your issue is you are being classified as boyfriend material.

Need to behave were u get classified as a fuck boy. - I hate the name "fuck boy" ... but i use it to best illustrate the behavior. - generally they dont even ask what the relationship is because they know, through ur behaviors, what the status is.

Only after the lays you can decide to be in a relationship.

BrockenSeason · 2026-02-03T06:06:02+00:00

Why are you posting other dates? I wouldn’t want to be with a guy posting several girls on their social media either. You can be honest when asked but keep it to yourself stop posting it.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-02T20:52:30+00:00

Typical loser behavior. Have rules and set those rules early on. Tell any one you are dating “just to set expectations, I’m not in the emotional headspace to have an exclusive relationship right now. Are you okay with this?”

Or you can phrase it in a different way. The fact that you are avoiding all of this means that you are scared shitless and by your damage control response it does appear that you are scared.

BrockenSeason · 2026-02-03T06:05:54+00:00

Why are you posting other dates? I wouldn’t want to be with a guy posting several girls on their social media either. You can be honest when asked but keep it to yourself stop posting it.

FurrowBeard · 2026-02-04T11:59:02+00:00

Using the term "shit test" unironically in this sub in 2026 is max cringe.

They're not "shit testing" you, they're expressing their relationship goals, something you should have talked about the day you met. Maybe you feel guilty because you're being wishywashy and dishonest. You're obviously incompatible with these women and shouldn't continue leading them on if you don't intend to turn anything into an LTR when that's what they want.

Grow up.

AttractionIntel · 2026-02-05T10:55:30+00:00

I'd say the way you're approaching this is pretty solid. You're keeping it real w them but also being empathetic to the girls.

Best part is that girls knowing you have options with other women is actually attractive to girls. It's called preselection.

They might not like it consciously, but subconsciously speaking, you're going to be on their radar for sure as "that one guy who can get a ton of women".

Plus you're being empathetic which shows you've got good EQ and are sensitive towards her feelings.

Good stuff.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-02-03T07:56:35+00:00

It's about reassurance that you genuinely like her. That's all the girl really wants to know when dating an r-selection man (except unconsciously beta-izing him). So you can say "Look, you are not just an option, you're a whole world to me. I really love spending time with you." Here you list all the things you love about her and all the things you love doing with her. Then you continue with "But I also value my freedom to meet people. I'm not someone who wants to settle down yet. So if you don't want to be with me as I am, just say so. We'll stop seeing each other because that would be most fair to the both of us. I like you as you are and expect the same from you. I'm not trying to change your uniqueness. After all, you're so awesome." List all the things you love about her again. Reassurance. Reassurance is key.

Then you let her have the ball. Sometimes a girl will break up with you, but then comeback to you a few days later. After all a woman would rather share a man than date a devoted loser.

NewShallot716 · 2026-02-04T10:53:28+00:00

If you’re getting a shit test, dude, it means you’re nailing it she’s interested. Now what do you do? Simple. Be as playful as possible, but never give a serious answer. All you’ve got to do is flip the switch.

For example:

Girl: “Yo, you’re short. 5'8" is short, to be honest.”

A nice guy: “You know, that’s average height. 5'8" is considered average.”
You failed here because you went into explanation mode and showed insecurity.

What you should say: “Yeah, but I think your belly size is a bigger concern.”
You ignored her comment and flipped the switch by teasing back.

Remember, always keep your guard up, man.

FlowingMagic · 2026-02-04T10:55:52+00:00

You're an idiot.

That's no shit test at all.

You want the line? Alright, I'll give you the line.

"Yeah, I'm not really looking for a relationship right the now, you're not really that important to me and I really wanna keep fucking other girls, so if you're okay with that and allow me to be free then you can stay and have some fun."

The "I just want to keep seeing you" In this context is a big fat lie that makes you a player, but not any kind of player, the bad kind they warn eachothers about, and you give them real reasons to be mad ar you for being deceptive about your practices.

By you stop fucking around with serious people that looks for love and stability, you can find like minded people that just wanna screw around and keep their "options" open... but thats really in the edge a thing to say.

Im talking non judgmentally here, what youre doing is fine, until you lie and deceive about it, then it makes you a pure asshole

So just say the line I told you or some version of it, and the girls thatll stay wont be mad at you, and the ones that leave well they were incompatible anyway with your goals. But yes, you cannot have the cake and the money of the cake. And thats why they are rightfully mad at you.

Yes technically speaking you can have the money and the cake, but that makes you an asshole. thats how it is. Plus what youre doing is grade 2 asshole cuz your pretending and trying to carve your behaviours and speeches. The asshole that owns it and say yeah i lied well hes actually an asshole, but less an asshole than you at least hes playing the asshole

HJGamer · 2026-02-04T16:53:22+00:00

It's not a shit test, you're boyfriend material in her eyes. You just need to be fun to be around and good in bed, don't try to impress her. Communicate to her that you're not looking for something exclusive.

I just ask her what she's looking for in dating, then when it's my turn I tell her I'm taking it easy, just trying to meet new people, but I like hanging out with her, some shit like that. Works 9/10 times, if she doesn't want that just respect it and find someone else, don't be an asshole to her.

A girl I met recently wrote in her profile she's looking for someone to spend the rest of her life with, after the second date I told her the above and she responded 'I guess a little fun can't hurt, the sex was good'.

Be clear with your intentions, don't exploit someone who insist on an LTR.

LimpRepeat5758 · 2026-02-13T11:46:27+00:00

you need to be upfront with women that you are seeing/dating other people. do not wait for them to ask, you've broken the trust in you by doing that. understand having options is exciting and u dont want to lose it - you will if they dont trust you. just be upfront and honest. dont wait for them to find out and feel hurt. they will look elsewhere.

Traditional-Air-6105 · 2026-02-02T20:27:39+00:00

Wow there isn't any genuine love nowadays. No wonder this sub Reddit exists, women are like object to you guys collecting them like pokemon

BumblebeeHuman5699 · 2026-02-02T20:02:20+00:00

What about

"Idgaf giiiiirl"

pie-mart · 2026-02-03T23:55:09+00:00

Idk, if it is stuff that hurts ylu, why do you expect others to be ok with it when you do it. You cannot expect a level of exclusivity you are unwilling to give

Low key sounds like you should explore your options and have casual sex, and be honest about wanting that, before you try and get into a relationship

ModeoneUk · 2026-02-04T21:35:18+00:00

Just having game, and more straight talking, and more 'alpha', but It has to be from the start.

You can't just become it, you have to be straight and strong with where your coming from and what you want from her.

Just look at it like this is what we're doing this is what I want, its my way or the high way.

If your first impressions wasn't strong, then you will have a shitntest coming your way.

You have to demonstrate strong behaviour from the start.

Human-Arachnid-2592 · 2026-02-03T03:19:43+00:00

Shit test are stupid. When a woman shit test you, she really don't like you like that. You want a woman that's going to make it easy for you and her.

lhfvii · 2026-02-02T20:07:13+00:00

You could do the usual approach girls have like "small d aura" or just shaming them for being insecure or just go full narc and DARVO. Or you could be honest and say "I'm exploring my options like everybody else does".

Title	How to pass the exclusivity shit test
Author	Dana_myte
Upvotes	117
Comments	68
Date	February 2, 2026 7:59 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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