Isn’t nightlife 95% women sticking to their groups?

Prestigious_Water336 · 2026-05-03T00:45:14+00:00

Nightclubs aren't good for pulling

Party bars are good for pulling women

justgetmesomeket · 2026-05-03T02:31:53+00:00

Depends on the nightclubs.

There is nightlife (especially in europe) where people and are all engaging with each other and some of them even have sex in the club or after that.

Mostly something like Techno, House and electronic music overall. These communities are really open and such things happen on the regular.

Where this doesn’t always happen so naturally are events, which are really commercial and are more about being seen (the ego) and not about experiencing one another.

Where you pop bottles and everybody is just not vibing, but just trying to show off. And women go there, because of superficial stuff like fame and money.

So, just to compare the difference in experience in nightlife. It, also really depends on location.

I talk from my own clubbing experience and my main job working in a nightclub in my hometown for 2 years already. M24

I get flirted with every time and a lot of other people too. Slept probably with 25+ women in the last 6 years. Lot of situationsships and my current relationship all met on some type of music event in different cities.

So for me it’s pretty common, but everybody’s clubbing experience is different.

But yes it definitely happens.

WhoppAhForYaSISTA · 2026-05-03T01:10:56+00:00

I mean. I was piss black out drunk at a night club in Nashville and still managed to end up at a chicks hotel. I don’t remember the walk there but I do remember the fun part 😄

stick_it_in_your_bum · 2026-05-03T02:01:31+00:00

You gotta pay attention. You can constantly see dudes pulling in clubs. At a minimum you’ll see 1+ pull on a night out. It’s nowhere near as rare as you make it out to be.

lordmoldybutt42 · 2026-05-03T02:26:20+00:00

Idk, I just go to dance by myself. Eventually groups will dance around me and look at me that’s when I invite them in or go to them

Melodicmat · 2026-05-03T08:30:52+00:00

yes. Althoiugh it wasn't always like that. When I first got into it, people were a lot more social and wanting to meet random people etc.

My wingman literally got told 'Sorry, I don't talk to randoms. Have a nice night' the other night haha.

RobbieAnalog · 2026-05-03T01:13:31+00:00

No. That's a cope.

BurnItDownSR · 2026-05-03T05:35:46+00:00

Its 95% of men being too chickenshit to do anything.

DistinctClass4042 · 2026-05-03T07:54:00+00:00

exactly this. this is the reason I stopped going out to nightclubs regularly long time ago.

Tiway22 · 2026-05-03T00:41:53+00:00

Are you regarded? Of course you can pull girls in nightlife, or even at coffee shops or on a bus.

ExaminationNo4391 · 2026-05-03T21:52:02+00:00

A lot of people hate clubs but there’s a lot of factors ruining your experiences. After mastering night game, I started working in a club. One of the top 5 in my city at that. Countless times I meet people who just stumbled in with no plan and just end up standing in the corner, afraid to talk to women. You gotta find the venue that right for you, the layout is everything. Sometimes you got a place that is lined with tables and booths, while all the peons are just in the middle feeling awkward as they are surrounded by all the ballers, and the women are being tempted. Yeah obviously don’t go to a venue like that. Maybe try the venue with 3 tables in the entire spot, but has more mingle space along and in front of the bar. Another example is place with a fee tables and sections but a big open dance floor, and bar space on 2 sides that is away from the sections. I think people also find difficulty because they either live in a small city so the clubs are just bad either way, or they live in a city like miami and going to places like “vendome” and then saying “I hate clubs”, or thinking all clubs are like that. Just find your spot, I think someone said “party bar” which is pretty much a bar/club. Those are where it’s at, extremely underrated. Thinking back on it, I’ve had my cleanest pulls at bar/clubs.

And to be real, like I said I work in a big club, I wouldn’t normally go to a club like mine cause it is the superficial type, however of course I work there so I can take advantage perks. All that aside, if you’re a short, not good looking, unhygienic, overall not attractive whether thats intentional or not, don’t bother coming to the club honestly. Go make some money, build your wealth, and when you have money to blow and want to take advantage of the superficial environment, go ahead.

haftzabaa · 2026-05-03T06:42:53+00:00

Yes nightlife is not this easy thing where you'll randomly go home with girls constantly with little skill or effort. People call it "getting lucky" for a reason.

But you can learn to get better at it and increase your chances of succeeding, it's just hard if you're not already a natural. Whether the barrier to entry is worth it for you specifically is a question only you can answer.

jackthehat6 · 2026-05-03T10:21:07+00:00

nightlife - girls tend to just go out and want to be with their friends and catch up and look pretty etc. They tend to stick to their groups as you say. But if you are her type, she'll give you an approach invitation. Without an approach invitation, you'll be wasting your time tbh with them girls

Aranea101 · 2026-05-03T00:54:48+00:00

Pretty much

Jack26918 · 2026-05-03T00:47:16+00:00

"If you see a couple kissing most of them already came together."

Are you talking about sex clubs? Asking for a friend after recommendations.

daydreamingtime · 2026-05-03T13:57:18+00:00

Don't go to nightclubs, go to raves or clubs tailored towards the rave experience

sidgat · 2026-05-03T17:44:26+00:00

Nightclub game is varied.

At the high end, buy a table and girls will swarm and actually annoy you with their clinginess and numbers.

However, from my experience...even with a table...most girls will use you. They dance, party and sometimes even kiss you or grind on you...but they'll likely ghost you the next day.

Nightclubs are generally bad for pulling.

If you do try pulling. Do it outside the club where you and build trust so she knows you're not a creep.

Talkinguitar · 2026-05-03T13:11:22+00:00

I see people hooking up in clubs all the time.
It also requires very little effort if you’ve done your work of being above average in looks, but even average guys get plenty if they’re persistent enough.
It might be a “touristy European city” thing though.

barlowaplesand · 2026-05-03T08:39:50+00:00

yes. I used to see people hookup in the olden days, but as you say, i never see it anymore. People who are making out came to the event together

Hot_Dragonfruit_1299 · 2026-05-04T05:44:10+00:00

90% pulls happen the next day.

abcsofattraction · 2026-05-06T09:14:48+00:00

The 95% number is mostly a perception problem. Closed groups look closed because most guys don't try or understand the code underpinning most nightlife. The ones who do approach with intent and skill see a different club than the guy standing on the wall.

Here's an infield video where I cold approached a 10 set of, I then pulled my students into to work the set with me, and two of my guys ended up hooking up with girls while the other girls watched on with approval and did not try to cockblock.

Infield Rampage pickup video: 10 set approach

When no one in the room knows how to crack a group, you get the stats you're describing. Different room when someone does.

Glass-Violinist-8352 · 2026-05-06T10:42:42+00:00

Most clubs where i live are sausage festivals lol

Shirley0312 · 2026-05-09T11:33:31+00:00

I love this

Xpesxizaza22 · 2026-05-03T10:29:32+00:00

anyone down for clubbing tonight in noida or delhi? hit me up.

vtribal · 2026-05-03T20:13:28+00:00

nightlife died like last year

it used to be so easy to get women 2/3 years ago. i was 20 pulliing 22/23 year olds every night

something just changed idk

Title	Isn’t nightlife 95% women sticking to their groups?
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Date	May 3, 2026 12:39 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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