I could use some help in accepting my perpetual state of singleness.

I (33F) have been single for 7 years, and have had very few dates that interest me enough to go on a second date. Because of how RARE it is for me to be attracted to a guy, I find myself falling for a man/fantasizing pretty early on when I feel like we click. (I know this is 100% the opposite of what FDS preaches – I’m trying to improve!)

I recently went on a date with a man whom I felt a strong connection with, and he asked me on a second date only for him to cancel the day before, attempt to reschedule, and then never respond back to my acceptance of the rescheduled day… I haven’t heard from him in over a week since he texted to reschedule. In the past, I would have reached out to find out why he didn’t respond/if everything was okay. This time around, I’m taking it as a message that he wasn’t as interested in me as I am in him. I’m really disappointed, but I won’t chase him.

I deleted Hinge because I’m finding it makes me feel more and more hopeless with every mismatch. I’m trying to get past the feelings of loneliness where I crave having a loving boyfriend to cuddle with! I have a weighted blanket, but it’s not the same. My friends are all pretty strict with social distancing right now/ have busy family lives that don't leave much time for me. Human connection during COVID has been hard to come by for me.

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Please hit me with your best reasons to LOVE being single!

So far, I have:

- My house stays clean and organized the way I like it.

- A man’s bad day won’t impact my mood.

- No possibility of feeling “let down” by lack of romantic gestures/ thoughtfulness from a man who I’m in a relationship with.

- I don’t have to compromise about where/when I eat meals.

- I don’t have to worry about a man’s wandering eye.

- I have extra time for my hobbies/passions.

- No worrying about someone else’s financial choices.

- I don’t have to worry about dressing up and looking good on a regular basis (comfortable clothing most days!)