Somewhat lengthy-post alert! The video is about 15 minutes long but I do recommend watching it because it's explained better than I've done in this post and provides more context.

For context, the guy in the video, Alexander Grace, speaks about relationship dynamics and drives between men and women on YouTube, and provides male-centered advice by focusing his lens on women.

I'm going to give a brief synopsis/paraphrasing of his talking points in this particular video because I think it is good enough for a discussion.

Note: The points are linked together, so the second point follows the first point, and so-on. Also, this post/video also assumes that you're a high-quality man that is already desirable in the eyes of a lot of women. If you lack options, you'll probably be less successful and implementing or relating to anything mentioned within the video, so let's get to it:

Lesson #1: Men and women think differently.

Lesson #2: Women interpret behavior differently than you intend.

"Some men want to do the 'honorable thing' and solely pursue a woman to show that he's focused on her and capable of committing to one person, but women will interpret this as bad because it places expectations/pressure on them as well as eliminates other options that women would be drawn to because of preselection."

Lesson #3: Women don't want your exclusive focus.

Lesson #4: Men who give exclusivity then expect exclusivity.

Lesson #5: Expectations breed resentment.

"Men become disappointed or resentful when women aren't exclusively seeing them despite making a personal decision to only pursue that one woman and it eventually leads to developing a toxic mindset due to the entitlement that someone might have where they feel that they've already sacrificed something to prove themselves despite not having that sacrifice reciprocated." I imagine that this applies to women as well.

Lesson #6: Men push for commitment too early.

"A man will ask a woman out far beyond when it's appropriate to do so. Much before the woman has even established any interest in him and possibly even a reason to speak to him."

Lesson #7: Men should never be the first to ask for/speak about commitment.

"I understand from a masculine point of view why men like to have this conversation. It's comfortable knowing with certainty that you're making the effort to progress a relationship further to a point that you want it to be at, and while you might thing 'this is something honorable that I'm doing because I'm being upfront about how I feel,' but women won't perceive it that way."

Lesson #8: Asking for commitment can be manipulative.

"Asking for commitment is often done too early by attempting to force someone's hand and can be used as a means of locking down the woman before that commitment has been achieved organically."

Lesson #9: Authentic attraction takes time to develop.

Duh.

Lesson #10: If a woman likes you, she will push for commitment.

This is where some might say "bUt It'S tHe MaN's JoB tO Do thAt."

He says: "There's a certain period of time where if she doesn't bring that up, you've got your answer. Women, if they like a man, they're going to be really, really keen on locking him down and so you don't need to force the issue. There's going to be exceptions to this but you can take it as a general rule. If you have to be the one to ask for commitment, she's not as interested as you are."

Lesson #11: Focusing only on her is pressure, not a favor.

See: Lesson #2.

Lesson #12: Women like men who have options.

See: "Preselection."

Lesson #13: Having options is not applicable to relationships.

"It's not healthy to keep options inside of a relationship and it's actually immature behavior. There's a concept called 'dread game' where people use options to manipulate/put pressure on a partner to stay with them. In a long-term relationship, you can give up these games. That's the point of a long-term relationship."

Lesson #14: Dating and relationships have different rules.

"In the beginning of the dating phase, you do have to play the game(s) by signaling that you're a high-value male and she needs to lock you down."

Lesson #15: Having options makes you less needy.

See: "Abundance mentality."

Lesson #16: Having options helps you avoid low-quality women.

"The scarcity mentality/lack of options is what leads to men pursuing relationships with low-quality women, and helps avoid the sunk-cost fallacy of investing more into a bad relationship with a low-quality woman hoping that things change."

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So what do you think he got right/wrong? Anything you would change/amend?

Discuss.